Toddler Purgatory

Why are kids so weird about washing hands and brushing teeth and taking baths?

How often do kids really need to bathe, anyway?

Is hygiene a battle worth fighting? Yes. Sometimes. In this episode we discuss the expert advice on how often kids need to get clean, plus our own tips for making it fun or interesting enough that our kids will go along with it.

Here are links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode:

Susan Stiffelman for HuffPost: My 5-Year-Old Won’t Wash His Hands!

What To Expect: Resisting Bathtime

Dr. Claire McCarthy for Harvard Health: Does your child need to bathe every day?

Colgate: How To Help a Child Who Won’t Brush Their Teeth

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Remember the other important relationship in your life? The person you decided to build a life with? Parent alongside, for better and for worse? 

After kids arrive and take over your lives, it can suddenly feel more like you’re angry co-workers at a 24/7 daycare. That part gets better with time. But experts say we need to nurture our marriages along with our children, so there’s an “us” left when the kids leave home. 

Reconnecting with our partners takes focus, and planning ahead, and getting intentional– but it’s also totally possible. In this episode Molly and Blaire talk about how it’s working for them– and interview two very special guests: their husbands! 

Here are links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode: 

Christina Caron for NY Times: How To Reconnect With Your Partner After Having Kids

Motherhood Sessions podcast

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Ever find yourself saying the same thing over and over to your kids? The answer isn’t to yell louder, as tempting as that can be. It might be more effective to consider the true capabilities of our kids at the stages they are at, and look at whether it might be our expectations that need a slight adjustment. Once you’ve done that? You’re a “gentle parent.”

Sarah Ockwell-Smith, parenting expert and author of The Gentle Parenting Book, sums up gentle parenting in three words: empathy, understanding, and respect. But gentle parenting isn’t pushover parenting. Discipline is still possible– it’s just focused on lessons to be learned more than on punishments. It’s about shutting off our autopilot as parents and beginning a practice of remembering that a child is a child.

In this episode we discuss

Here are links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode: 

Sarah Ockwell-Smith: Five Steps To Effective Discipline

Renee Plant for Very Well Family: What Is Gentle Parenting? 

Natalia Oliver for Guidepost Montessori: A Beginner’s Guide To Gentle Parenting

Vicky McKeever for CNBC: This ‘gentle parenting’ guru gives her tips for raising confident kids

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Athletic Greens supports your sleep quality, energy, immune system and more with just one scoop per day! Get a one-year supply of Vitamin D plus 5 free travel packs at athleticgreens.com/laughing.

Daily Harvest delivers delicious harvest bowls, flatbreads, smoothies, and more built on organic fruits and vegetables. Go to dailyharvest.com/laughing to get up to $40 off your first box!

Outschool's fun online classes help kids get excited about learning. To save $15 off your child's first class, go to outschool.com/toddler and use the code TODDLER.

Peloton has thousands of workouts on their app for every goal, day, and mood! We're fans of the yoga, meditation, and dance cardio, but there's truly something for everyone. Learn more: onepeloton.com.

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Kids today only spend half as much time playing outside as we did. It can be a hassle to get them bundled up and to the playground on a drizzly spring afternoon– or to clean half the floors in your house after a trip to your own snowy backyard. But there are many skills that kids gain both from self-directed and “purposeful play,” and experts say that's particularly true when that play happens outdoors.

Our guest Meghan Fitzgerald is the co-founder of Tinkergarten, which offers purposeful play opportunities for children and families that gets them away from screens and outdoors together in nature. Meghan tells us her favorite get-them-outside activities, and why even the coldest or rainiest days offer rewards that really are worth bundling everyone up. 

Here are links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode: 

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/11/04/parenting/kids-winter-play-outside.html

https://graziadaily.co.uk/life/parenting/viking-parenting-childhood-risk-fresh-air-mental-health/?fbclid=IwAR2sM-84dC7xYVEmyMLjKG7ijFQCm2QiIQOr1AZoPJpDTfFZm-mXVeRG2No

https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/6-reasons-children-need-to-play-outside-2018052213880

And our episode "Danger Babies": https://www.toddlerpurgatory.com/danger-babies-why-are-some-kids-such-risk-takers/

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Athletic Greens supports your sleep quality, energy, immune system and more with just one scoop per day! Get a one-year supply of Vitamin D plus 5 free travel packs at athleticgreens.com/laughing.

Daily Harvest delivers delicious harvest bowls, flatbreads, smoothies, and more built on organic fruits and vegetables. Go to dailyharvest.com/laughing to get up to $40 off your first box!

Outschool's fun online classes help kids get excited about learning. To save $15 off your child's first class, go to outschool.com/toddler and use the code TODDLER.

Peloton has thousands of workouts on their app for every goal, day, and mood! We're fans of the yoga, meditation, and dance cardio, but there's truly something for everyone. Learn more: onepeloton.com.

Snow Days taste like the pizza bites we remember eating as kids, but without the junk! Use promo code TODDLER to save $15 off your first order at www.snowdays.com/TODDLER.

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Finding our balance as working parents is a double challenge. It's not just about being a great parent while maintaining a job; it's about being great at that job while also being a parent.

In this episode, we discuss:

We also refer to statistics from this PDF: Bureau of Labor Statistics: Employment Characteristics of Families- 2020

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Athletic Greens supports your sleep quality, energy, immune system and more with just one scoop per day. Get a free one-year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase at athleticgreens.com/laughing.

Daily Harvest delivers delicious harvest bowls, flatbreads, smoothies, and more, all built on organic fruits + vegetables. Go to dailyharvest.com/laughing to get up to $40 off your first box!

Outschool's fun online classes help kids get excited about learning. To save $15 off your child's first class, go to outschool.com/toddler and use the code TODDLER.

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We're all muddling through right now, and while we are definitely Team Lowered Standards at this time, there's only so many viewings of Encanto a parent can withstand. Here are some easy, fun ways to change things up around the house and keep things fun. From cleanup races to "spooky baths," our listeners have some great ideas, and in this episode we discuss them all!

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Athletic Greens supports your sleep quality, energy, immune system and more with just one scoop per day. Get a free one-year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase at athleticgreens.com/laughing.

Daily Harvest delivers delicious harvest bowls, flatbreads, smoothies, and more, all built on organic fruits + vegetables. Go to dailyharvest.com/laughing to get up to $40 off your first box!

Outschool's fun online classes help kids get excited about learning. To save $15 off your child's first class, go to outschool.com/toddler and use the code TODDLER.

Once Upon a Farm fruit and vegetable blends are made with whole, organic, farm-fresh ingredients and packaged in grab-and-go pouches. Go to onceuponafarmorganics.com and use the code LAUGHING for 25% off your first order.

Peloton has thousands of workouts for every goal, day, and mood. Try the Peloton App free for 2 months! Go to onepeloton.com/app by January 31, 2022. Terms apply.

Snow Days taste like the pizza bites we remember eating as kids, but without the junk! Use promo code TODDLER to save $15 off your first order at www.snowdays.com/TODDLER.

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Sometimes little kids lack the ability to express their frustration, fear, and anger in words. That’s usually when they decide to whack the other 3-year-old with the toy dump truck, instead of pleasantly sharing. 

Experts say aggression often gets a little better once kids can express themselves verbally– although not always, if what goes on in our houses is any indication. 

In this episode we discuss how to handle our kids becoming aggressive when we’re there to witness it, when we’re *not* there to witness it (like at preschool), and what clear, consistent messaging we need to model to move things in a more peaceful direction. 

Here are links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode: 

Emily Fromm and Nicole Harris for Parents: How to Handle Aggressive Toddler Behavior

Emily Edlynn, Ph.D for Parents: My Child Won't Stop Hitting Other Children at Daycare

Laura Markham for Psychology Today: 10 Steps to Stop Your Child from Hitting Other Kids

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Temper tantrums are the way that young children express emotions they are not developmentally able to express in other ways. Does knowing that the kicking and screaming is completely developmentally appropriate make it any easier for parents to deal with? Sometimes. 

In this episode, we discuss the differences between tantrums and meltdowns, what the most common tantrum triggers are, and the most helpful ways for us to react when our little ones are going Full Ham Freakout. 

Here are links to some writing on the topic that we mention in this episode: 

Stanford Children’s Health: Temper Tantrums

Sarah and Larry Nannery for Psychology Today: What Is the Difference Between a Meltdown and a Tantrum?

Shaun Dreisbach for Parents: How to Deal with Toddler Temper Tantrums

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Athletic Greens supports your sleep quality, energy, immune system and more with just one scoop per day. Get a free one-year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase at athleticgreens.com/laughing.

Daily Harvest delivers delicious harvest bowls, flatbreads, smoothies, and more, all built on organic fruits + vegetables. Go to dailyharvest.com/laughing to get up to $40 off your first box!

Hey Honey is the first complete skin care line infused with Honey and Bee Propolis. Get 20% off your first order by going to heyhoney.com and using code FRESH at checkout.

Outschool's fun online classes help kids get excited about learning. To save $15 off your child's first class, go to outschool.com/toddler and use the code TODDLER.

Once Upon a Farm fruit and vegetable blends are made with whole, organic, farm-fresh ingredients and packaged in grab-and-go pouches. Go to onceuponafarmorganics.com and use the code LAUGHING for 25% off your first order.

Peloton has thousands of workouts for every goal, day, and mood. Try the Peloton App free for 2 months! Go to onepeloton.com/app by January 31, 2022. Terms apply.

Snow Days taste like the pizza bites we remember eating as kids, but without the junk! Use promo code TODDLER to save $15 off your first order at www.snowdays.com/TODDLER.

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“Making memories” with our kids is always a fraught proposition, but when they’re checking for the elf every morning and whipped into a general holiday frenzy, the tears and tantrums are often pretty close to the surface. 

Child specialist Merete Kropp says we can reset the “gimme gimmes” by teaching our kids that giving and receiving are reciprocal actions. By explain the gifts you’re giving to others, and the intentions behind them, kids can focus more on the joy of giving than their own expectations. At least sometimes. 

It’s always worth doing what we can to soften into the joys of karaoke Christmas carols and driving around looking at the lights. When we create memories with our children, the true gifts we are giving them are the tools to become who they are. There is so much fun and joy in the surrender of being just a little bit silly.

Here are links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode: 

Merete Kropp for Washington Post On Parenting: What children need even more than presents this holiday season

Samantha Parent Walravens for HuffPost: 8 Ways To Teach Your Kids An Attitude Of Gratitude This Holiday Season

@busytoddler on Instagram

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If you have more than one kid, you are pretty familiar with sibling rivalry. The constant squabbling can drive us nuts, but it’s important to remember that it’s less about whatever toy they’re fighting over at the moment than about birth order, family dynamics, and their competing desires for our attention.

We can’t stop the bickering forever, but there are ways to minimize conflict and maximize productive resolution. We discuss the best ways to set our kids up for success. 

Here are links to some writing on the topic that we discuss in this episode: 

Cleveland Clinic Health Essentials: 10 Tips For Dealing With Sibling Rivalry

Ask Dr. Sears: Sibling Rivalry: 20 Tips to Stop the Friction

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Betterhelp Start taking charge of your mental health– no matter where you live! Go to betterhelp.com/laughing to get 10% off your first month of counseling.

Once Upon a Farm fruit and vegetable blends are made with whole, organic, farm-fresh ingredients and packaged in grab-and-go pouches. Go to onceuponafarmorganics.com and use the code LAUGHING for 25% off your first order.

KiwiCo is the perfect kids' gift this holiday season– a fun, hands-on educational experience. Get 50% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the code LAUGHING at kiwico.com.

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