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I am against sex-negativity 💯! “Is It Possible to Be ‘Sex Negative’?

A sex negative perspective stems from the belief that sex is inherently bad, dangerous, or shameful and should be limited to those who are heterosexual, married, or trying to have children. Individuals with a sex negative attitude fail to recognize the joy, connection, intimacy, and exploration that sex can bring, disregarding the fact that human beings are inherently sexual beings.

Suwinyattichaiporn says a lot of people are sex negative, but it’s usually not through any fault of their own. It’s likely these individuals have internalized oppressive societal and cultural messaging that sex should be shrouded in wrongness.

Feeling connected to your sexuality4 is part of well-being. If you feel your expression of sexual identity or sexual behavior is shameful, it can cause a cascade of emotional dysregulation, suppression, humiliation, anxiety, and overall poor mental health. This is a result of sex negativity.

Examples of sex negativity5 include, but are not limited to:

Feelings of shame and guilt around sexual thoughts, emotions, practices

Unhealthy relationship to sex, body image, and porn

Slut-shaming someone for having consensual, safe sex with one or multiple partners

Seeing masturbation or ethical porn as something dirty and sinful

Viewing heterosexuality as the only acceptable norm and the LGBTQA+ community as abnormal

Sharing derogatory slurs, remarks, and stereotypes about queer people (Seeing something feminine and saying, “That’s so gay”)

Advocation for the criminalization of sex workers and not seeing them as people, but as individuals beneath society Little to no tolerance for people to express their gender and sexual identities such as the way they dress or pronoun usage

Having a shaming and judgmental reaction to someone who was sexually assaulted (“They were asking for it” or “What did they expect going out that late in that outfit?”)”

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“Most people lack all of these necessary healthy elements of sex: Signs of a secure attachment style include:

ability to regulate your emotions

easily trusting others

effective communication skills

ability to seek emotional support

comfortable being alone

comfortable in close relationships

ability to self-reflect in partnerships

being easy to connect with

ability to manage conflict well

high self-esteem

ability to be emotionally available.”

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“An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy.[1] Although an intimate relationship is commonly a sexual relationship,[2] it may also be a non-sexual relationship involving family or friends.[2][3]

Emotional intimacy is an essential aspect of a healthy relationship (4] Feelings of liking or loving may prompt physical intimacy. However, emotional intimacy may or may not be present alongside physical intimacy depending on the relationship. Physical intimacy is characterized by romantic love, sexual activity, or other passionate attachment.[1] Relationships of this nature play a central role in the overall human experience.[5] People desire to belong and to love, desires that can be satisfied within an intimate relationship.[6] Such relationships allow a social network for people to form strong emotional attachments.[3][5]”

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“World peace is the concept of an ideal state of peace within and among all people and nations on Planet Earth. Different cultures, religions, philosophies, and organizations have varying concepts on how such a state would come about. Various religious and secular organizations have the stated aim of achieving world peace through addressing human rights, technology, education, engineering, medicine, or diplomacy used as an end to all forms of fighting. Since 1945, the United Nations and the five permanent members of its Security Council (China, France, Russia, the United Kingdom, and the United States) have operated under the aim to resolve conflicts without war. Nonetheless, nations have entered numerous military conflicts since then. Inner peace (or peace of mind) refers to a deliberate state of psychological or spiritual calm despite the potential presence of stressors. Being "at peace" is considered by many to be healthy (homeostasis) and the opposite of being stressed or anxious, and is considered to be a state where our mind performs at an optimal level, regardless of outcomes. Peace of mind is thus generally associated with bliss, happiness and contentment.

Peace of mind, serenity, and calmness are descriptions of a disposition free from the effects of stress. In some cultures, inner peace is considered a state of consciousness or enlightenment that may be cultivated by various forms of training, such as breathing exercises, prayer, meditation, tai chi or yoga, for example. Many spiritual practices refer to this peace as an experience of knowing oneself.

People have difficulties embracing their inner spirituality because everyday stressors get the best of them; finding peace and happiness in the little joys of life can seem difficult, and results do not seem all that gratifying. Achieving spirituality is a step-by-step process; there are ways through which one can become more spiritual every day.[1]

Inner peace can be described as "a low-arousal positive emotional state coupled with a sense of balance or stability."[2]

Tenzin Gyatso, the current and 14th Dalai Lama, emphasizes the importance of inner peace in the world:

The question of real, lasting world peace concerns human beings, so basic human feelings are also at its roots. Through inner peace, genuine world peace can be achieved. In this the importance of individual responsibility is quite clear; an atmosphere of peace must first be created within ourselves, then gradually expanded to include our families, our communities, and ultimately the whole planet.[3][4]”

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“1. You’re a good listener and communicator

Extroverts prefer to talk more, and introverts like to observe and listen. But ambiverts know when to speak up and when to listen.

An ambivert might open a meeting by giving a brief pep talk, then offer employees the chance to talk about their own challenges or concerns. 2. You have an ability to regulate behavior

Adjusting to fit the person or situation seems to come naturally to ambiverts.

Imagine you’re riding in an elevator with strangers. An extrovert might start making small talk, but an introvert might put in earbuds to avoid interaction. You might choose either option, depending on your fellow riders.

3. You feel comfortable in social settings, but also value your alone time

Ambiverts can feel like they’re in their element in a crowd or when enjoying a quiet evening at home.

Say a friend calls with a last-minute invite for an evening out. An extrovert will likely accept without hesitation, and an introvert is likely to decline in favor of staying in. The ambivert will probably consider the pros and cons of that particular outing. They could go either way. If a friend’s having an issue, an extrovert might try to offer a solution right away, and an introvert might be great at listening. An ambivert might listen and ask thoughtful questions to try and help.

5. You’re able to provide balance

In the case of group settings, ambiverts can provide a much-needed balance to the social dynamic.

An ambivert might be the one to help break an awkward silence, making others who are more introverted feel comfortable starting a conversation.”

4. Empathy comes naturally to you

Ambiverts are able to listen and show they understand where a person is coming from.

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“1. Sensual Sexual Personality Type

The sensual sexual personality type finds pleasure in focusing on the senses, such as touch, sight, and sound, during sex. They are driven by emotional and physical intimacy, and they value exploring the body’s sensations. Individuals with a sensual sexual personality type are generally romantic and affectionate, and they tend to value building a deep connection with their partner.

2. Adventurous Sexual Personality Type

The adventurous sexual personality type values exploring new and exciting sexual experiences. They are often open-minded and willing to try new things, and sex is an adventure for them. Individuals with an adventurous sexual personality type tend to be experimental and adventurous in bed, and they are often attracted to partners who feel the same way.”

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“Gender and sexual diversity (GSD), or simply sexual diversity, refers to all the diversities of sex characteristics, sexual orientations and gender identities, without the need to specify each of the identities, behaviors, or characteristics that form this plurality.[1][2][3][4] In the Western world, generally simple classifications are used to describe sexual orientation (heterosexuals, homosexuals and bisexuals), gender identity (transgender and cisgender), and related minorities (intersex), gathered under the acronyms LGBT or LGBTQIA+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, asexual, transgender/transsexual people, and sometimes intersex people); however, other cultures have other ways of understanding the sex and gender systems.[5][6][7] Over the last few decades, some sexology theories have emerged, such as Kinsey theory and queer theory, proposing that this classification is not enough to describe the sexual complexity in human beings and, even, in other animal species.[8]

For example, some people may feel an intermediate sexual orientation between heterosexual and bisexual (heteroflexible) or between homosexual and bisexual (homoflexible). It may vary over time, too (sexual fluidity), or include attraction not only towards women and men, but to all the spectrum of sexes and genders (pansexual).[9] In other words, within bisexuality there exists a huge diversity of typologies and preferences that vary from an exclusive heterosexuality to a complete homosexuality (Kinsey scale).[10]

Sexual diversity includes intersex people, those born with a variety of intermediate features between women and men.[11] It also includes transgender and transsexed people, genderfluid people, and so on.[12][9]

Lastly, sexual diversity also includes asexual people, who feel disinterest in sexual activity;[13][9] and all those who consider that their identity cannot be defined, such as queer people.

Socially, sexual diversity is claimed as the acceptance of being different but with equal rights, liberties, and opportunities within the Human Rights framework. In many countries, visibility of sexual diversity is vindicated during Pride Parades.[14]”

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“Two-Spirit Community

“Two-spirit” refers to a person who identifies as having both a masculine and a feminine spirit, and is used by some Indigenous people to describe their sexual, gender and/or spiritual identity. As an umbrella term it may encompass same-sex attraction and a wide variety of gender variance, including people who might be described in Western culture as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transsexual, transgender, gender queer, cross-dressers or who have multiple gender identities. Two-spirit can also include relationships that could be considered poly. The creation of the term “two-spirit” is attributed to Elder Myra Laramee, who proposed its use during the Third Annual Inter-tribal Native American, First Nations, Gay and Lesbian American Conference, held in Winnipeg in 1990. The term is a translation of the Anishinaabemowin term niizh manidoowag, two spirits.

Two-spirit people may also use terms from their Indigenous language to describe same-sex attraction or gender variance, such as winkt (Lakota) or nàdleehé (Dinéh). Some Indigenous languages do not have terms to describe sexual identities such as gay, lesbian, or bisexual. Many Indigenous languages are verb-focussed, and describe what people do rather than how they identify. For more information, please refer to the Canadian Encyclopedia.

In 2018, our team chose to change our name to Re:searching for LGBTQ2S+ health, in order to make two-spirit people a more visible part of our research. We hope to be able to work in partnership with Indigenous communities to use research as a tool to make visible and address the impacts of colonization on Indigenous LGBTQ2S+ people.”

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“I know the difference between mature Christians and Pharisees. One embodies inner beauty and the other embodies inner ugliness! I appreciate real believers and I avoid false believers.” -Antonio Myers “Violent crime is crime that involves an act of violent aggression against another person.[50] Common examples of violent crime include homicide, assault, sexual assault, and robbery.[51][52] Some violent crimes, such as assault, may be committed with the intention of causing harm. Other violent crimes, such as robbery, may use violence to further another goal. Violent crime is distinct from noncriminal types of violence, such as self-defense, use of force, and acts of war. Acts of violence are most often perceived as deviant when they are committed as an overreaction or a disproportionate response to provocation.[50]” I witnessed erotica, love triangles, and lust triangles from those who were criminals pretending to be Christians. There are plenty of houses of worship who embody the spirit of Jesus.

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“Christianity (/ˌkrɪstɪˈænɪti/) is an Abrahamic monotheistic religion based on the life and teachings of Jesus of Nazareth. It is the world's largest and most widespread religion with roughly 2.4 billion followers representing one-third of the global population.[1][2] Its adherents, known as Christians, are estimated to make up a majority of the population in 157 countries and territories,[3] and believe that Jesus is the Son of God, whose coming as the Messiah was prophesied in the Hebrew Bible (called the Old Testament in Christianity) and chronicled in the New Testament.[4] Christianity remains culturally diverse in its Western and Eastern branches, and doctrinally diverse concerning justification and the nature of salvation, ecclesiology, ordination, and Christology. The creeds of various Christian denominations generally hold in common Jesus as the Son of God—the Logos incarnated—who ministered, suffered, and died on a cross, but rose from the dead for the salvation of humankind; and referred to as the gospel, meaning the "good news". The four canonical gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke and John describe Jesus's life and teachings, with the Old Testament as the gospels' respected background.”

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