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  • Sexual sensory integration

    When it comes to sex: "

    What is sensory integration?

    The term “sensory integration” refers to the processing, integration, and organisation of sensory information from the body and the environment.

    Simply put, this means how we experience, interpret and react to (or ignore) information coming from our senses. Sensory integration is important in all the things that we need to do on a daily basis, such as getting dressed, eating, moving around, socialising, learning and working.

    Sensory information is received from our senses, which include:

    • Sight (vision)


      • Hearing (auditory system)


        • Touch (tactile system)


          • Taste (gustatory system)


            • Smell (olfactory system)


              • Proprioception (senses of body awareness and position)


                • Vestibular (awareness of movement, balance, and coordination)


                  • Interoception (our internal sensory system that tells us what is happening inside our body, for example, hunger, needing the toilet, fatigue, emotions, etc)


                    • For most of us, the development of sensory integration occurs when we are young as part of our normal development and in the things we do such as rolling, crawling, walking and in play; for others, sensory integration is less well developed. 

                    Our understanding of sensory integration was initially developed in the late 60s and 70s by Dr A Jean Ayres, an occupational therapist and psychologist with an understanding of neuroscience, working in the USA. Ayres defined sensory integration as:

                    “The neurological process that organises sensation from one’s own body and from the environment and makes it possible to use the body effectively with the environment.” (1972)."

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                    23 min
                  • Overcoming sexual information overload, sexual information underload, and sexual information anxiety
                    There is healthy sexual media of all kinds that exists. “Media (communication), tools used to deliver information or data
                    Advertising media, various media, content, buying and placement for advertising
                    Broadcast media, communications delivered over mass electronic communication networks
                    Digital media, electronic media used to store, transmit, and receive digitized information
                    Electronic media, communications delivered via electronic or electromechanical energy
                    Hypermedia, media with hyperlinks
                    Interactive media, media that is interactive
                    Mass media, technologies that reach a large audience via mass communication
                    MEDIA Programme, a European Union initiative to support the European audiovisual sector
                    Multimedia, communications that incorporate multiple forms of information content and processing
                    New media, the combination of traditional media and computer and communications technology
                    News media, mass media focused on communicating news
                    Print media, communications delivered via paper or canvas
                    Published media, any media made available to the public
                    Recording medium, devices used to store information
                    Social media, media disseminated through social interactions. Media player (software), for playing audio and video
                    Storage media, in data storage devices.”
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                    38 min
                  • Some of my family arrangements
                    “A promise is a commitment by someone to do or not do something. As a noun promise means a declaration assuring that one will or will not do something. As a verb it means to commit oneself by a promise to do or give.[1] It can also mean a capacity for good, similar to a value that is to be realized in the near future.[2]
                    In the law of contract, an exchange of promises is usually held to be legally enforceable, according to the Latin maxim pacta sunt servanda.”
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                    41 min
                  • Sexual temper tantrums and sexual meltdowns
                    When it comes to sex, all must be avoided: “A tantrum, temper tantrum, lash out, meltdown, fit or hissy fit is an emotional outburst,[1][2][3] usually associated with those in emotional distress, that is typically characterized by stubbornness, crying, screaming, violence,[4] defiance,[5] angry ranting, a resistance to attempts at pacification, and, in some cases, hitting and other physically violent behavior. Physical control may be lost; the person may be unable to remain still; and even if the "goal" of the person is met, they may not be calmed.” Also, avoid sexual microinvalidations and sexual microassaults.
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                    47 min
                  • The 5 styles of sexual communication styles! Sexual communicators!
                    When it comes to sex: “How can you effectively work with an assertive communicator?
                    Give them the space to talk. They will let you know their ideas and their solutions, you just need to listen and give them the chance to communicate.
                    Ask them what they think, and do not dismiss them if they are critical. If they think you are wasting their time, they will not bother being helpful to you.
                    Expect them to ask for your thoughts as well. They want a conversation and are solution-oriented. Bring your own solutions and criticisms and expect there to be a respectful conversation.”
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                    1 hr 53 min
                  • Sexual sensory overload
                    In sex these things happen to some people. “Sensory overload and anxiety are mental health conditions that are deeply related to one another. When a person feels anxious or already overwhelmed, they may be more prone to experiencing sensory overload in certain situations. Likewise, experiencing sensory overload can make you feel a sense of anxiety. Sensory overload can be triggered by a wide variety of situations, sounds, or sights. Each person may be overwhelmed by something different. Some examples of situations that can trigger sensory overload include:
                    Loud noises or music
                    Crowded spaces
                    Emotionally intense people or groups
                    Drastic environmental changes (temperature, light, etc.)
                    Unexpected or unwanted physical contact (hugs, etc.)”
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                    23 min
                  • Rape culture in some, but not all mainstream porn companies
                    “The anti-rape movement is a sociopolitical movement which is part of the movement seeking to combat violence against and the abuse of women. The movement seeks to change community attitudes to violence against women, such as attitudes of entitlement to sex and victim blaming, as well as attitudes of women themselves such as self-blame for violence against them. It also seeks to promote changes to rape laws or laws of evidence which enable rapists from avoid penalties because, for example, victims are discouraged from reporting assaults against them, or because the rapist is entitled to some immunity or because a rapist (as a defendant) is capable in law of denigrating the victim. The movement has been successful in many jurisdictions, though many of these attitudes still persist in some jurisdictions, and despite changes to laws and significant increases in reporting of such assaults, in practice violence against women still persists at unacceptable high levels.” My values: Separation of Church & State: Public laws ought to be independent of any one particular faith to maximize religious freedoms for all.
                    Religious Freedom (Non-Discriminatory Right to Express Faith or Non-Faith): Individuals should be allowed to express and practice their beliefs and values, even if they are in disagreement with public policy, but religious freedom is not a right to discriminate.” I think faith-based establishment should pay taxes like secular establishments for fairness and equality purposes. I don’t think “In God We Trust” should be on secular people’s vehicles and human currency because not everyone is faith-based. I value human rights that much. In human history, Satan is considered be an actual and/or symbolic concept. That’s mind-boggling for me, but I do know that pure evil exists. I am for the SlutWalk movement, MeToo movement, Time’s Up movement, the secular movement, Reconciling Ministries Network, women licensing and ordination, and ChurchToo movement. I no longer purposefully and regularly listen to gangsta rap, G-funk, mafioso rap, dirty blues, and dirty rap ever on Saturday, June 8th, 2024 at 12:00 A.M. EST because those styles of hip hop and the blues do not talk about both the global society’s ills and human sexuality wholesomely.
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                    2 hr 23 min
                  • Sexual compassion fatigue
                    “Sexual activity can be classified in a number of ways. The practices may be preceded by or consist solely of foreplay.[2] Acts involving one person (autoeroticism) may include sexual fantasy or masturbation.[2] If two people are involved, they may engage in vaginal sex, anal sex, oral sex or manual sex.[2] Penetrative sex between two people may be described as sexual intercourse, but definitions vary. If there are more than two participants in a sex act, it may be referred to as group sex. Autoerotic sexual activity can involve use of dildos, vibrators, butt plugs, and other sex toys, though these devices can also be used with a partner.
                    Sexual activity can be classified into the gender and sexual orientation of the participants, as well as by the relationship of the participants. The relationships can be ones of marriage, intimate partners, casual sex partners or anonymous. Sexual activity can be regarded as conventional or as alternative, involving, for example, fetishism or BDSM activities.[3][4]
                    Fetishism can take many forms, including the desire for certain body parts (partialism) such as breasts, navels, or feet.[5] The object of desire can be shoes, boots, lingerie, clothing, leather or rubber items. Some non-conventional autoerotic practices can be dangerous. These include autoerotic asphyxiation and self-bondage.[6] The potential for injury or even death that exists while engaging in the partnered versions of these fetishes (choking and bondage, respectively) becomes drastically increased in the autoerotic case due to the isolation and lack of assistance in the event of a problem.[6]
                    Sexual activity that is consensual is sexual activity in which both or all participants agree to take part and are of the age that they can consent.[7] If sexual activity takes place under force or duress, it is considered rape or another form of sexual assault. In different cultures and countries, various sexual activities may be lawful or illegal in regards to the age, gender, marital status or other factors of the participants, or otherwise contrary to social norms or generally accepted sexual morals.[7]”
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                    1 hr 30 min
                  • Part 2 (final part) of sexual listening types
                    “Other Listening Types
                    Although usually less important or useful in interpersonal relationships there are other types of listening, these include:
                    Appreciative Listening
                    Appreciative listening is listening for enjoyment. A good example is listening to music, especially as a way to relax. (See our page: Music Therapy for more about using music as a relaxation therapy).
                    Rapport Listening
                    When trying to build rapport with others we can engage in a type of listening that encourages the other person to trust and like us. A salesman, for example, may make an effort to listen carefully to what you are saying as a way to promote trust and potentially make a sale. This type of listening is common in situations of negotiation. (See: Building Rapport and Negotiation Skills for more information).
                    Selective Listening
                    This is a more negative type of listening, it implies that the listener is somehow biased to what they are hearing. Bias can be based on preconceived ideas or emotionally difficult communications. Selective listening is a sign of failing communication – you cannot hope to understand if you have filtered out some of the message and may reinforce or strengthen your bias for future communications.”
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                    47 min
                  • Part 1 of Sexual listening types
                    “Comprehensive Listening
                    Comprehensive listening involves understanding the message or messages that are being communicated. Like discriminative listening, comprehensive listening is fundamental to all listening sub-types.
                    In order to be able use comprehensive listening and therefore gain understanding the listener first needs appropriate vocabulary and language skills. Using overly complicated language or technical jargon, therefore, can be a barrier to comprehensive listening. Comprehensive listening is further complicated by the fact that two different people listening to the same thing may understand the message in two different ways. This problem can be multiplied in a group setting, like a classroom or business meeting where numerous different meanings can be derived from what has been said.
                    Comprehensive listening is complimented by sub-messages from non-verbal communication, such as the tone of voice, gestures and other body language. These non-verbal signals can greatly aid communication and comprehension but can also confuse and potentially lead to misunderstanding. In many listening situations it is vital to seek clarification and use skills such as reflection aid comprehension. Informational Listening
                    Whenever you listen to learn something, you are engaged in informational listening. This is true in many day-to-day situations, in education and at work, when you listen to the news, watch a documentary, when a friend tells you a recipe or when you are talked-through a technical problem with a computer – there are many other examples of informational listening too.
                    Although all types of listening are ‘active’ – they require concentration and a conscious effort to understand. Informational listening is less active than many of the other types of listening. When we’re listening to learn or be instructed we are taking in new information and facts, we are not criticising or analysing. Informational listening, especially in formal settings like in work meetings or while in education, is often accompanied by note taking – a way of recording key information so that it can be reviewed later.”
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                    47 min

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