Maria Tolstykh is an intimacy and embodiment coach for women. From trauma, numbness, and disconnection, she has created a life full of aliveness, radical self-connection, and pleasure.

Maria is an incredibly powerful force of nature, as you will witness when you listen to this episode. I’m so lucky to call her a friend and coaching colleague.

Witness her, love her, hire her, and experience your own transformation through her.

Maria says, “When you reconnect to your body and the sexual energy within you, you come back to your natural state of being turned on and excited about life. You begin to experience the joy, freedom, and connection that comes from falling in love with your life. You begin to live through pleasure.”

This episode is just….SUCH a gift.

We talked about:

-the pain and pleasure of female orgasms

-how to know when your body says “yes” vs “no”

-Transmuting pain

-the importance of being witnessed and held in safe containers with other women

-how to connect to your own pleasure and why it’s so radically important

...And so much more

Learn more about Maria and the work she does here: https://pleasuretemple.net/

And here:

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Ya know why your affirmations aren’t working? Because your unconscious mind has different wants than your conscious one does. Let’s talk about how to hack the system and merge your unconscious mind with your conscious mind to actually get what you want.

“The greatest damage done by neglect, trauma or emotional loss is not  the immediate pain they inflict but the long-term distortions they  induce in the way a developing child will continue to interpret the  world and her situation in it. All too often these ill-conditioned implicit beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies in our lives. We  create meanings from our unconscious interpretation of early events, and  then we forge our present experiences from the meaning we’ve created.  Unwittingly, we write the story of our future from narratives based on  the past...Mindful awareness can bring into consciousness those hidden, past-based perspectives so that they no longer frame our  worldview. Choice begins the moment you dis-identify from the mind and  its conditioned patterns, the moment you become present…Until you reach  that point, you are unconscious.

…In present awareness we are liberated  from the past.”   

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https://www.lifenursenell.com/

https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching

A Heart Based Breathing Practice.

So often, we think we need to completely overhaul our lives to get relief. Sometimes - we do. But usually, it's a matter of repeating tiny consistent actions that bring us out of overwhelm daily. 

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Work with me! I'm a trauma informed life coach for women.

I have *ONE* offer currently:

3-months of coaching (12 sessions and voice message support in between).

Book a free 60-min consult here: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching

Check out my webby here: https://www.lifenursenell.com/

This may be the most important episode you hear all day/week/month/year/life. This is the thing that changed my life in the most profound ways: processing emotion. Un-shaming emotions. Embracing our sensitive natures. 

We all die a million deaths within our life before our actual physical death. We have to let go of so much through life. 

How painful letting go can be. How intense it can feel.  

I think about how we let go of things big and small. Whether it be other people, past versions of ourselves, dreams, etc. 

Sometimes we don't even name the grief of letting go because we don't realize that's the feeling. Or we think we're overreacting so we suppress our emotions.

The results of unacknowledged grief are disconnection to yourself. And the result of disconnection to ourselves is not knowing how we feel, who we are, what we want, or how to feel better. 

Our brain says, "don't know what I feel but I feel weird and so I'm going to numb out. I'm going to like eat a bunch of snacks to try to fill the void or play video games for 6 hours. I'm just going to distract myself until this goes away." 

I'm here to tell you: YOU MAKE SENSE. How you feel and who you are make sense based on how you've been conditioned. We're conditioned to believe sensitivity is a problem, emotions are problems. So we numb out and NEVER PROCESS/DIGEST and DISSOLVE the emotions. They stick around, causing all kinds of chaos and illness. 

And all we had to do was feel our feelings and not judge ourselves for them. Know that nothing is wrong with us for feeling what we do when we feel something. 

"Processing emotions" is like, the most boring fucking sentence ever, but when we go deeper, it could not be more important. It could not be more fundamental and crucial to your sustainable well being - to your happiness - to your joy - to your feelings of relief and freedom -- like holy shit. 

I want to bring to light that YOU make sense. Your feelings make sense.  

I profoundly care about you reconnecting to yourself, and discovering who you are in a way that is NOT through the lens of shame, but a lens of such unconditional love and compassion.  

My website: https://www.lifenursenell.com/

IG: @nurse_nell

"CONCEAL DON'T FEEL DON'T LET THEM KNOOOOOOOOOW" - Elsa from Frozen

There is more to manifestation than thinking about what you want and then getting it...or staring at a vision board for 5 minutes everyday for a month and getting the things on the board.

This video is entitled “can I hold this reality?” In other words: Is my nervous system on board with this reality or am I going to reject it subconsciously?

Let's explore manifestation together. 

IG: @nurse_nell

Website: www.lifenursenell.com

I’m THRILLED to bring this magical conversation into the world. It was medicine for my soul so I know it will be so healing for others too. 

I'm so grateful for Lopa – she is such a powerful force and a vibrant spirit in the healing community. She is the true embodiment of a healer and leader. She walks her talk on the deepest planes and empowers other women to do the same.

Lopa describes herself as a multidimensional healer and hypnotherapist. Her wisdom, finely tuned intuition, and transformative ability to hold space can be felt in our conversation.

I hope you deeply feel the love, acknowledgment, and permission infused into this discourse.

We go deep into what it means to be a true healer. We talk about the different layers of reality and the importance of acknowledging the complexities of the human experience – including layers of conditioning, ancestral trauma, and the unseen realms. We bring to light being un-gas-light-able through relentlessly trusting inner wisdom, disrupting mainstream narratives, and shedding layers of conditioning and dissolving shame around emotions to create space to heal.

We talk about collective nervous system numbing and how we remember who we are – and how unlocking each person’s unique healing capabilities is key.

I feel so incredibly lucky to live at a time when we are dissolving old programs that don’t support the complexities, magic, nuances, subtleties, and mysteries of healing and human-being-ness, and so grateful to connect with women like Lopa!!!

To find out more about Lopa and the incredible work she does, go to:

https://www.purandhrihypnotherapy.com/

Instagram: @awaken.purandhri

Enjoy <3

Why do I even go live/make videos/record podcasts/put myself out there in these ways??...and how can you if this seems like your jam but you'd rather die?

Hiding is safe. Showing up and being yourself is scary af. This is how I navigate it all. 

Website: www.lifenursenell.com 

IG: nurse_nell 

You are not broken and nothing is wrong with you. Recognizing, understanding, and embodying your inherent value has massive repercussions in a society that is built on convincing you that you are not enough. When you are made to feel inadequate, you are more likely to overspend $ - and not only does most of that sh*t not make a difference, but it ends up in a landfill.

When we perceive something is wrong and that it is our fault, our brains can tend to default to something being wrong with us rather than structures/institutions being wrong. There is not even close to enough space for people to have brains that veer from what we deem societally acceptable (aka neurodivergent), and often those brains are highly intelligent, creative, brilliant, capable…and just need the right ENVIRONMENT to thrive. Let's talk about value.