Too Old For This Sh*t

Trending diets are a huge topic with so many levels to them, so today does not cover everything BUT it will give you some ammo next time someone is trying to push into a way of life that you may not feel is right for you and also empower you a bit more as what to consider when picking certain lifestyles.

I back this up with:

// Some science and where the “gurus’ fail us.

// Give you some practical examples of how this looks like with real life examples.

And if you're worried it’ll be boring science, don’t worry, you're getting:

// Some ammo for those annoying friends trying to convince you to do the same diet as them.

// The words snootch and topless do come up in the episode and yes it’s relevant...

Music by Peter Walsingham

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Have you been told you’re insecure, crazy and jealous,and started to doubt your own reality and sanity? Did they insult you and follow it up with “it’s only a joke, you’re too sensitive!“? Well then you’ll want to listen to this.

Shannon Higgins, a Licensed Professional Counselor is herself a survivor to thriver of narcissistic abuse from her ex-husband, this took place well after she specialized in her field of abuse. This can truly happen to anyone.

*Content note: this episode discusses abusive relationships, discretion is advised, if you experience any unease from this, please contact a local mental health helpline or a Trauma Trained Therapist*

We go over:

// What is a narcissist? There’s a spectrum, including the healthy kind.

// What is gaslighting?

// I read your submission of real life gaslighting stories both at the beginning & at the end of the episode.

// You don’t have to have had a toxic childhood to be a target of gaslighting.

// Not all gaslighters are narcissists, they can simply be toxic people but not actual narcissists.

// Is gaslighting always intentional, even when parents do it?

// How & why people become gaslighters.

// How to deal with a gaslighting parent.

// Complex PTSD.

// Why we think it’s our fault when we’re being gaslighted.

// The signs that you’re being gaslighted.

// The Human Magnet & Trauma Bonding Syndromes.

// Why gaslighters thrive on targeting successful people.

// Abuse amnesia and cognitive dissonance.

// The importance of not throwing the label out ‘just because’ someone doesn’t cater to our every whim or just isn’t a very good communicator as it invalidates those who really go through such a destructive ordeal of being emotionally abused and vilifies those who simply lack a skill but aren’t malicious.

// The difference between pushing back because we are secure versus gaslighting.

// Why some find it harder to ask and express what they need which in turns enables a toxic relationship.

// What specialist therapies Shannon recommends if you suffered from an abusive relationship (be it intimate or from a parent).

// It doesn’t always look like a big deal (but it is!) & why the outside world does not understand your situation and often blame the victim to be the instigator.

For current therapies, you can look up a Trauma Trained Therapist that uses one or a combo of these therapies:

// Brain Spotting is phenomenal and has long term benefits.

// Sensorimotor Psychotherapy.

// Somatic Experiencing Therapy.

// EMDR.

// Brainspotting.

Shannon’s recommended resources:

// "Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships with Narcissists, Sociopaths and Other Toxic People" & "Whole Again" Jackson MacKenzie.

// “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft.

// "Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse" Shannon Thomas, LCSW.

// "The Empath's Survival Guide" Judith Orloff, M.D.

// "In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing with Manipulative People" George K. Simon, Ph.D.

// "Shadow Daughter: A Memoir of Estrangement" Harriet Brown (about a daughter with a mom who has a personality disorder).

// "Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm with Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists" Sandra Brown, M.A.

// "The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden, Emotional and Psychological Abuse" Debbie Mirza.

// "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" Pete Walker, M.A.

// choosecourage.org

Find Shannon at https://unlockingfortitude.com/ & on insta at shannonhigginslpc

Music by Peter Walsingham

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Jordan the founder of Listen, Lucy was badly bullied at school and on social media and subsequently battled with mental health. This got her to start Listen, Lucy to help others & share what she’d learned, but the unexpected was feeling part of a community of peers who went through the same, got her and who were now all coming out of isolation.

*Content note: this episode discusses anxiety and suicide prevention discretion is advised*

We cover:

// Comparison on social media.

// Tools to manage your mental health when you can’t afford a therapist.

// The difference between anxiety and panic disorders.

// How depression, anxiety and panic attacks feel very much like a physical diseases, even if it’s emotional/the mind at the source of it.

// What I mean by: Your emotions live in your body and how mental struggle can manifest in the body. Sore tummy or shoulders when stressed anyone? Well, so are panic attacks when you felt like your heart would beat out of your chest.

// I talk about my experience with depression.

// Empathy vs sympathy and how some people feed on your misery.

// Isolation.

// How besides the mark I find those glossy campaigns after a celeb suicide are and I give my version of what I feel would be a more relevant campaign.

// How we all have mental health.

// When to bring up your mental health issues when dating.

// How to prepare for motherhood when you have mental health issues.

// Jordan bumping into her bullies as an adult.

// I give a little shout out to Layla Martin, another inspirational woman and amazing testimony to the strength of human nature.

// I share what drives me to do the podcast and my health coaching.

// At the very end we find out why it’s called {Listen Lucy} and not {Listen Jordan}.

She’s already on my favorite list - I hope you love her just as much as I do!

Come find Jordan at www.ListenLucy.org & socials @listenlucy

Music by Peter Walsingham

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For mental health crisis helplines:

UK:

https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/ 

Europe:

https://www.mhe-sme.org/library/helplines/ 

USA: 

American Foundation of Suicide Prevention

Suicide and Depression Awareness for Student

NAMI Resources on Suicide Prevention

NAMI Resources on Suicide Risk

Plans don’t always turn out, it doesn’t mean you’re less successful. In the spirit of “Where are they now” Melanie, my 3rd ever guest, talks about how her life took a turn since we last spoke and how showing up with the truth is helpful to those around us, in an age of highly curated social media feeds!

As a recap, Melanie was adopted, a drug addict, teen-mom and twice divorced with major health issues due to her weight, she bounced back from it all and today she tells us how she learned to welcome the challenges and lessons 2019 brought on.

Her book is Lady of Fire is available on Amazon. You can find her at http://www.melaniefrome.com & social @melaniefrome

Music by Peter Walsingham

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When I asked in two FB groups: ”What are your thoughts on choosing to NOT have kids OR being on the fence?” I got 200 responses in under 30 minutes.

I don’t know if I did the topic justice but the aim was to demonstrate alongside my guest Clarissa that everyone has the right to find their joy regardless where it comes from; kids or no kids and that choosing to have kids or not are both natural and both need to be respected.

We cover:

// The different reasons people choose to not have kids.

// The reasons people don’t have kids such as infertility and why asking: “When are you going to have kids?” isn’t always welcomed.

// When it’s ok and when it’s not, to ask someone if they want kids or why they don’t want them.

// Not having kids does not mean we’re lacking or that something is wrong with us.

// How to deal with intrusive or inquisitive questions around your situation of not having kids.

// Why it’s even more pressure to have children when you’re married.

// I read some of the submissions I received from men and women around this topic.

// It’s ok for parents to mourn their life pre-kids, it doesn't make them bad or selfish parents.

This conversation could go on for hours, there are so many more things we could have covered but this was a start, I hope this episode is beneficial!

Find Clarisa on insta @ccr_sunshine & http://clarissastudio.com/

Music by Peter Walsingham

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Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai is a sex-positive pelvic health physical therapist, sex educator and counselor, and is on faculty for the University of Michigan in Ann Arbor, Sexual Health Certificate Program.

We cover:

// Why context is king/queen when it comes to sex.

// Painful orgams.

// Pelvic floor health.

// Pussy wisdom and how she always knows best.

// How when you feel blue, she feels blue and why vaginal dryness isn’t always about menopause.

// Is running bad for women?

// Where to start if you’re shy in bed.

// How to dirty talk, to guide your partner to your sweet spot.

// How to rediscover your pleasure when it changes over time aka pleasure mapping.

// Why your sex partner isn’t receptive to your needs.

// When porn gets in the way of you desiring your partner.

// How to get a man who’s in love with you and wants to care and protect you to still see you as someone with sexual needs aka how to get them to love you but still keep the passion alive.

Come find UC at https://youseelogic.com & social @youseelogic

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Cindy Gallop’s Ted Talk: ‘Make Love, Not Porn’ got more than 2 Million views. She is on a mission to make this world a better, more peaceful and sexually liberated world and end rape culture. A force to be reckoned with, we get her take on:

// Social sex, Porn Sex.

// How to ask for what you want in bed.

// Why communication is key.

// How Cindy sees that educating society and openly talk about aspiring to Gold standards to what constitutes good sexual values and behaviour will stop Me Too, sexual abuse and violence. This in turn empowers girls everywhere and creates a happier world for everyone, including men.

Find Cindy Gallop: https://makelovenotporn.tv & Twitter/FB @CindyGallop @MLNPTV Insta @socialsexrevolution

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