After leaving you with a cliffhanger in episode 195, this episode will give you all the incredible details how Toni's vagina ended up on Instagram.
Do not miss Toni's, Sivan's and Priscilla's recollection of the events that led up to it, from Toni's full body make over - her ex not being able to contain himself even though being with
the girl he cheated on her with.
The girlfriend kept posting Toni's vagina on Instagram out of revenge and even sent it to the the boyfriends mom. Toni thought about pressing charges against her but didn't because she is such a good hearted person, and it
actually helped her gain followers.
Then Toni, Priscilla and Bernie discuss the issues they have when sharing children with an ex and how difficult it can be.
Priscilla, Toni and Sivan talk about how they make it work without major issues in their business. Sivan is a tough bitch with a big heart that has been burnt by family and friends many times in her life. Sivan believes that "if you don't stand for
something you will fall for everything". And when she believes in something she doesn't want to sugar coat it, even though that gets her in trouble sometimes.
They are big believers that there is enough business for everyone and are supportive of everyone.
Sivan's highlight of every day is going to Toni's Insta stories because she has the most funny, inappropriate memes, that everyone wants to post but isn't brave enough to.

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PARTY WITH MISS POLLY:
Are guys annoyed if a girl hasn't gone to their apartment or house after a 4th or 5th date = having sex with them.
This is worth listening to - there is a lot of hilarious banter.

QUESTION OF THE DAY:
Should the person being proposed to have a say in their engagement ring?

Sivan Parienta joins us with her 2 assistants Priscilla and Toni and the conversation starts off with a bang.
Sivan, a cosmetic nurse that makes 5's into 10's is a hustler.
She has hired Priscilla and Toni as her assistants and together they are building their empire. They work together with one of the most sought after plastic surgeons in Dallas Fort Worth Dr Deuber and his wife Cary who own
Lemmon Avenue Plastic Surgery Center.
We learn about how Sivan met Priscilla and how Priscilla hated her at first but Sivan loved her hustle and work ethics. We find out how Priscilla became Sivan's in house assistant and right hand woman. Toni is behind the scenes who handles her finances and is her life coach.
Toni used to be Sivan's client and they became really close friends when Toni went through a really hard time with her finding out that the father of her baby had been cheating on her for months.
Sivan's work was exploding - an average cosmetic nurse sees maybe 8 patients a day but Sivan sees 25 per day.
Both Priscilla and Toni proudly talk about Sivan's generosity that includes her buying them boob jobs, nose jobs and cars.
Sivan proudly says that both Priscilla and Toni believe in the business so much they work many hours outside of business hours building the brand and they are truly like family.
At the same time they are trying to create a balance.
Sivan is the artist and loves having Priscilla and Toni to keep her life straight.
Sivan tells us about the one time she messed up a client by listening to what they wanted instead of her better judgement.
We talk about Sivan, Cruz and Marcella all being so artistic and how dangerous it can be that they do not enjoy the business side.
Priscilla and Toni talk about their boob jobs. When Bernie asks Toni if her ex ever came back after she had a full make over her answer is shocking.
We will leave you with the cliffhanger that her vagina ended up on Instagram. Flushed
Come back next Monday and listen to Episode 196 and hear all the details and drama about this situation.

Cruz is the star of this hour as he takes us along his incredible hair stylist journey. We have lots of fun co hosts, Marcella, Sivan, Priscilla, Sarah and Toni that are all holding their breath as Cruz tells his story.
Once the YouTube Video comes out this is a must watch.
Cruz joined us originally when he shared his story of the devastating loss of his wife Laura Avila in Episode 167. That show has been consistently Number 1 since its release. He says that is was very therapeutic to tell his story then
and still helps him today.
Cruz is an insanely talented hair stylist that is a true artist. He takes us through his journey step by step from the time he started hair school at Ogle and was obsessed and loved it from the first moment. It instantly became his passion.
He graduated in the top of his class.
His first job was at Salon Matrix, a super trendy salon in Dallas, Texas where the owners Joey Bennett and John Wilson gave him a chance. He gets very emotional when talking about this.
At Ogle he learned the French Method technique, then went to Vidal Sassoon to learn precision cutting, to Angel del Solar from Spain who was another mentor and taught him condense cutting. He learned all these techniques and put his own spin on it and made a name for himself.
Back in 2002 Cruz was known for doing all the funky colors that everyone is wanting today. He has always been way ahead of his time. He also learned how to do ethnic hair and all different textures that a lot of stylists do not get to learn.
He was at Matrix for 5 years when the lease was finished and they all went their separate ways.
At that time Cruz opened his own salon called Style Lab with his business partner Eddie G. Cruz was the artist - Bernie worked there - 8 stations - 7 guys, 1 girl, handsome straight and gay guys = Boy band hair salon. They had a DJ Booth, and a
bar with a lounge. It became a huge success but Cruz was not business savvy and had to close his doors. Everything fell apart and crumbled after 5 years.
Due to some crazy coincidences Style Lab was reborn this time with a boutique inside the same location. Once again his lack of business knowledge led to it closing yet again.
Cruz took pride in his craft and has always been a big believer in advanced education. He never stops learning.
Do not miss his detailed, incredible description how he created the Style Lab at the Mosaic apartment complex Pool Party era. These were his rock star days when he was wearing eyeliner.
He tells us about his cousin Natalie and how she has been his ride or die and followed him through thick and thin. After 3 years Cruz felt bored and took a huge once in a lifetime opportunity to train under someone amazing in
Los Angeles and left the Style Lab to a new business partner that sadly got hooked on drugs and everything fell apart very quickly and Style Lab had to close yet again.
Cruz moved back to try to save it but it was too late. At that time his cousin Natalie became friends with an ex football player who invested in the salon but devastated Cruz by telling him he was no longer needed and the salon would now
be owned by his cousin and the football player and would be renamed to Studio 1514, which is still a thriving salon today.
Cruz says that everything was dying on the inside. He had to accept that he built everything, but didn't build the business. He has worked at the salon, treating it as if it was his own and he loves mentoring stylists and creating soldiers and several have opened their own successful salons. He says he is super slammed at work and believes there is enough to go around for everybody.
His journey has had a lot of ups and downs and made him what he is today.
Very soon he has an exciting announcement to make and we are so looking forward to that day.
You can reach Cruz at Studio 1514 or contact him on instagram at https://www.instagram.com/cruz.coiffeur
PARTY WITH MISS POLLY:
You snooped on your partners computer - they are male in a heterosexual relationship and you find gay porn. Is it right to bring it up since you snooped?
This is a must listen - this talk turns to all kinds of interesting conversations - oh my goodness - do not miss it
QUESTION OF THE DAY:
You spent the night at a guys place and he has Make Up remover - nice touch or player?

We have an exciting hour with lots of fun co hosts, Marcella, Cruz, Sivan, Priscilla, Sarah and Toni and the star of the show Jordan Elizabeth.
Jordan is a former Dallas Mavericks Dancer and Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader. Jordan and Marcella have been friends since Kindergarten, went through elementary, middle and high school together.
They also danced on the Dallas Mavericks together. After that Jordan went on to become a Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader.
Sivan is everybody's injector and keeps us all looking young.
Jordan was born and raised in Dallas, has a 2 1/2 year old daughter and is a workaholic because she loves her job so much.
She is a personal shopper for men and women, men's custom clothing and has an online boutique.
She comes to your home and will go through your closet and she does alterations as well.
Her website to get more information of all her services is https://www.jestyles.com/
or her Instagram is https://www.instagram.com/j.e.styles/
Jordan loves helping people.
We talk about her blended family and her experience as a Mavs Dancer and Dallas Cowboys Cheerleader.
She says that after being a dancer you go through a period of trying to figure out who you are and realizing nobody cares about you anymore and nobody wants your autograph any longer.
We have a REALLY FUN discussion about the new "FANS ONLY" accounts with models modeling naked.
Jordan and Marcella discuss how it works between all the girls once you make the team as a professional dancer and all the pressures.
We talk about Jordan's short marriage with a man who swept her off her feet and did all the right things. Jordan says he wanted her to be a Highland Park housewife and she wasn't ready at that time of
her life at 23 years old. We ask how motherhood has changed her.
Party with Miss Polly:
Miss Polly sadly had a migraine during the time of this recording but we had fun with all the co hosts chiming in on this question
Is having sex in water/pool/beach/ shower dangerous?
Question of the Day:
Do you keep all the jewelry, designer purses, engagement rings that your ex got you?
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We get to meet the beautiful and amazing girlfriend of our Co Host Bernie - Stacey Vaughan Elfarr joins us and tells us that she grew up in a dysfunctional family where they found out that her Dad
had had an affair and had an entire other family with 3 kids with their former babysitter. She has 5 half siblings all together.
Her Mom moved them to New York after finding out those devastating news and Stacey felt like there were so many things out of control in her life the only thing she could control was her body.
She was severely bullied at her new high school and not accepted as the Florida cheerleader. She became a cardio bunny and severely anorexic because her beauty standard back then was that stick thin was it.
Stacey says that when you suffer from an eating disorder it never truly leaves you and you never truly recover. Even after conquering it you always struggle off and on. It was YOYO for her until she found
weight lifting when she was in college. While going through anorexia she became depressed and always prayed to God for help to get her out of it.
Weight lifting gave her a healthy slow progression and she realized she had to eat to gain muscle. Her whole perception changed on what was beautiful. She used to think that stick thin was beautiful but because
of her prayers she was rescued. Overnight she felt that athletic and muscular was more beautiful which saved her life.
Stacy did one competition and won and she was supposed to go on to the National Level but declined.
She was the most muscular after her divorce - Bernie says she got in "FUCK YOU" shape. She has 2 children with her ex husband and they have a great relationship today. Stacey says that she always healed herself
in the gym through life's ups and downs and that it is a great distraction and very therapeutic. Bernie says she is hard core in the gym and that most of the time he cannot keep up with her.
We learned what went wrong in her marriage and the biggest problem was that she lost a huge part of her identity moving to East Texas with no family and friends and haven given up her successful career. She says he is
and has always been a great guy but wanted her to stay home to be a housewife and stay at home Mom but that was not in her DNA.
She started an animal rescue business that became quite successful.
We learn that Bernie met Stacey at the Dallas Cowboys Fit Gym in Frisco Texas in the Dallas Cowboys Training Facility.
Stacey tells us about the body building show she competed in and also about all the criticism she started to receive from family and friends alike about her muscles and that she no longer looks feminine to them.
She was accused of taking steroids even though she would never think about doing that. She says that with all that bullying she could have easily relapsed into her anorexia but instead she decided not to listen to her haters.
Stacey is proud of her muscles and they have kept her healthy and strong and they make her feel good in her skin. She challenges anyone to not care about what others think because nobody knows your inner struggles and pain.
She almost died starving herself, muscles make her feel good and healthy.
Stacey also designs gyms and fitness centers for apartment complexes and she is also an accountability coach. She will put a program together specifically for you with workouts, nutrition and supplements. She customizes everything
to each individual and tailors it to each persons unique makeup.
We get into a heated discussion about the Super Bowl half time show with J LO and about aging in general. Marcella goes on a rant and Bernie jumps right on the soap box. They also talk about how unfair the criticism is about JLO and Shakira but
yet everyone is cheering on Lizzo in a thong.
You can reach Stacey at https://www.instagram.com/staceyelfarr/
PARTY WITH MISS POLLY SEGMENT:
Is it true that semen has 10 calories?
QUESTION OF THE DAY SEGMENT
Is it normal to wonder what else is out there even if you are happy in your relationship?

Sarah Qutub Elchantaf wanted to come on the show to share her courageous story about being in an abusive marriage with her military husband and having the courage to leave
even though she had a small child at the time.
She believes that at any given moment you have the power to say "This is not how my story is going to end".
She wants to help all people that find themselves in an abusive relationship and give them the knowledge and the power that they can leave.
She was only 20 years old when she got married and had her baby and tells us that her husband was very controlling very quickly due to his insecurities.
We learn about a lot of military guys that go into the military as a last resort because they have no other option in life and that gives them a guaranteed paycheck.
When they come back from war they usually do not have life skills to adapt and Sarah wishes there were changes made so they would be required to get counseling.
Her husband was deployed straight to Iraq.
Upon his return he became a raging alcoholic and suffered from severe PTSD and was mentally and verbally extremely abusive. He was very jealous and used the worst curse words repeatedly.
Sarah's Mom suffered from Multiple Sclerosis and Sarah took her in to take care of her very sick mother.
She admits that she stayed way too long in her marriage and encourages everyone to leave sooner otherwise your life is going to be miserable and it is terrible for children to witness.
When she decided to leave the fighting got worse and worse and he tried to strangle her and was punching holes in the walls. She had to call the police and he was arrested.
She admits that she also was very toxic at that time.
Originally he got charged with a felony but that was dropped and it makes her happy because she didn't want this to be on his record his entire life since she says there is always hope
that people can change for the better and he is her daughters Dad.
She left - signed a lease for a 1 bedroom apartment found a job that paid her $ 14.50 an hour.
She tells everyone to not be afraid to leave, find the courage to do it and YOU WILL FIGURE IT OUT!!
She cleaned her Dad's house for extra money and pushed herself very hard and excelled in her career and started making a lot of money and realized that she will never NEED a man again.
Determination and Discipline is what got her there.
Today she is happily married to a man she is madly in love with.
She tells us about helping her neighbor get away from her abusive husband with 3 children.
She believes that 2 happy homes are better than 1 unhappy home.
She also wants her daughter to love her Dad and that wasn't going to happen had she stayed.
Today her and her daughters step mom are best friends and talk on the phone daily. They are going to start their own podcast about co parenting. Stay tuned and follow Sarah on her social media for
updates.
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Party with Miss Polly :
Is it true that women who use vibrators make it difficult for themselves to climax without using a vibrator?
Question of The Day:
If you were cheated on in the past, is it a good idea to tell your new partner or keep it to yourself?

The beautiful Gail Hourani Bashara is back for part 2 of our more than interesting discussion about her best selling book "Plastic Surgery Confessions".
She self published the book and you can get it on Amazon.
We ask her how sex, drugs, alcohol and plastic surgery go together and she tells us about one example of a very prominent Dallas Plastic Surgeon who would be on "Whip Its" while
performing surgeries.
Then she shares that one of her close friends had surgery by a surgeon who had been at the country club drinking before her surgery and now she can no longer close her eyes.
Bernie then tells us that since he has been in the medical field for many years, it is not at all unusual for surgeons to be under the influence.
Gail reveals that some of the book is truth and some is fiction.
Then we learn about testicle lifts, ball ironing and scrotal beauty procedures.
Gail reveals that she has had 2 nose jobs.
We get very important advice that you must check if your surgeon is a member of the American Society of Plastic Surgery but even then you have to research them thoroughly.
We learn about Free Tequila Fridays at the radio station and we are hoping for Free Vodka Saturdays at our Podcast recordings.
Bizarre plastic surgery procedures are next and we talk about someone that had horns implanted into their forehead. Bernie tells us to look up https://www.instagram.com/the_black_alien_/
Gail tells us that she was engaged to one of Nick Nolte's best friends and she says she has never seen such an insane amount of substance abuse. She says Fame really messes with you. She says he
is extremely charming.
She tells us about a crazy situation at one of the company office parties where a co worker slid down a slide completely naked with her legs wide spread open. She immediately went to Alcoholics Anonymous and has never spoken to anyone
ever again.
Gail does book signings at the North Texas Drag Queen Bingo at the Shops of Legacy in Plano, Tx.
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PARTY WITH MISS POLLY:
Your Significant Other is masturbating while you are sleeping in the same bed or in the other room. Is that ok or not ok?
QUESTION OF THE DAY:
Do you believe that we are meant to meet certain people in certain moments in time in our life?

We are so proud to welcome the amazing Gail Hourani Bashara, author of the bestselling book Plastic Surgery Confessions.
She brought us a pink drink called "Orgy" combined with a syringe shot, that can be used to drink a shot or get botox injections ;) for her clever marketing material to advertise her book. She is doing book signings
around the metroplex where you can pick up this fun promo piece as well.
We learn about Gail's upbringing in a Christian Lebanese family where she was the miracle child. Her parents who hated each other created a toxic living environment that took a toll on her.
She got out of Oklahoma as soon as she could at age 18 and moved to Dallas, TX.
She says that there are many similarities to herself and her life to the main character named Gabrielle in the book, but some things are made up.
She was inspired to write the book because plastic surgeons are like rock stars that know all their patients secrets so she wanted to expose some of their secrets.
Gail believes that after age 33 we are all in this together and gravity is our ultimate enemy and it is non stop maintenance with aging.

She has been married over 30 years but thinks she is a bad wife to her absentminded professor husband and admits that they have considered divorce many times but always make it work in the end.
Gail tells us that the book was written from pain.

The discussion about the book starts lots of conversation with the panel about knee lifts, Botox, leg lengthening procedures, boob jobs, nose jobs, ear pinning surgeries, pit pudge etc.

Party with Miss Polly segment:
Do you ever find that you are just casually hold your boob?

Question of the Day segment:
Is it okay to respond to a text from an ex when you have a current partner? The text was just a general How are you?

Tonja Hartman shares the incredibly brave story about her son Cody's addiction, imprisonment, bipolar disease and how she deals with it one moment at a time.
Tonja has 2 sons and 1 daughter.
We learn all about how hard it has been to deal with her sons struggles as a Mom, how it affects her other children and her marriage. Mom's are only as happy as their unhappiest child.
We learn about Tonja's grandfather who was a southern Mafia guy that ran moonshine. Her grandmother had to escape Alabama to get away from him.
Tonja talks about the generational curses in families and how her grandfather, her uncle and her brother all have some of the same tendencies - 2 personalities, charming but also mean and violent. These are the first born tendencies
in their family. Her brother did horrible things, was in the drug scene, got arrested etc.
Tonja said that when her first born son came along they noticed that things were not right with his personality when he became a teenager. She knew that there was something spiritually not right and put him in counseling to help.
Her family and others were trying to talk her out of doing so, insisting he is just a normal teen. She was married to her 3rd husband at the time.
As her firstborn he struggled with confidence even though he was very naturally talented and bright, charming and needy and lying and staying up real late at the same time.
They moved to Decatur, Texas and that made him very angry and he moved in with his Dad. His Dad did not believe that he had a mental illness and there was always disagreement with his treatment. Tonja continued taking him to psychiatric care to test him. Bipolar is very hard to diagnose.
She talks about his escalating behavioral problems in his Senior Year of High School and drugs were involved. He was self medicating on top of what the psychiatrist was prescribing. He got arrested right before his
Senior Prom for drugs.
His manic behavior and drug use got a lot worse and together as a family they tried to help him and balancing tough love. Tonja herself has been in counseling and therapy to educate herself.
Her son was sent to prison for possession with intent to sell which is a federal charge.
She is advocating that people that age for that conviction should not be sent to hard core prisons but need different facilities. She says the mania can rip though a family like a rip tide and it is very difficult to deal with. Tonja says that he is
very manipulative during that time but at the same time is very sweet and what a hard balance that is for a Mom.The struggle is where is the healthy part of being an advocate and where to apply tough love and in the meantime having family members undermining you.
She says that her son has been incarcerated several times. She says prison guards will target and bully you and that they are very crooked and should be in prison themselves. We are teaching drug addicts to be criminal, then put them back in society and they are set up to fail.
Tonja shares her emotional day when she went to see her son for the first time in Ferguson prison. She went into the chapel and broke down balling her eyes out. It is so hard to see your child that way.
He eventually was released from prison.
While she was going through the breakdown of her 3rd marriage she found out that her son was arrested yet again. He had gotten a girl pregnant who was a drug addict herself. Her son is 30 years old and has a 5 year old son that Tonja does not get to see.
Every time her son gets out of prison he violates parole and goes back.
She says the family is divided but that the family needs to be united and get educated for a real chance to help her son.
Cody is extremely manipulative and the family makes Tonja out to be the bad guy even though she is the most educated and supportive and it hurts her like hell because it hurts their relationship.
She says that when he was in prison for 5 years he was remorseful for the first time.
After he got out of prison the last time he lived with his cousin and ultimately it all went downhill again and he is back in prison again at this moment.
He got arrested for shoplifting and violation of parole again.
Bernie asks Tonja how all this impacts her daughter Ari and her marriage. Tonja becomes very emotional and you can feel her raw pain as she describes the heartbreaking effects all this has on all of them.
She has found out that Cody had been doing heroin and meth and she says that he has made her out to be a monster and as hard as that has been for her she has had to separate herself because she cannot allow this in her daughter's or her life because he gets so mean and abusive.
She tells us of the last time she saw him when she told him that she will never stop loving him, praying for him, believing in him that he can do this but that she tried everything in her power and cannot go on like this anymore. She says that it was good bye for her but that she is here when he gets it right.
She is trusting her son to God.
Tonja talks about her other son Brandon and how she has worried about him for having had to deal with all of this. She is trying to give all her attention to him and her daughter Ari and give them all of her and stay healthy and at the same time still believing that Cody can figure it out.
We should always help the person in need but we need to be mindful that we don't go so far that we do the work they need to do.

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Party with Miss Polly Segment:
Is it every women's secret fantasy to make love in a romantic location?

Question of the Day Segment:
Is bad timing ever a reason not to break up with someone?

We welcome singer and actress, mother of 3, Miss Tonja Hartman who is an extra ordinary leader who has a passion for raising up people to make a difference in the entertainment industry to train up people
to know God's word. Primarily teens and young adults because there is so much confusion out there on their direction in life.
She tells us her life story and bravely talks about that she was sexually abused as a young girl by a male babysitter and by a family member and date raped by someone when she was a Senior in high school.
She talks about how abusers make you think and feel that you are terrible and that you caused it and they make you believe the lie.
We learn about her very specific encounter that changed her and she realized she had to live in God's word. Tonja talks about the sexual advances in the professional world and that she lost a job because she wouldn't
buy into the advances from a boss.
Tonja teaches us what the aftermath looks life after such devastating experiences. We are especially intrigued by Tonja's lesson about what God says about generational curses.
She teaches us how she tries to not hold on too tight to her beautiful teenage daughter Ari and that we should not shelter our children too much where we don't allow them to experience pain.
Tonja wants the little girl in her, the driven person to soar and shine how God created her to be and she loves the movie "Wonder woman". God has given her the drive to keep
going even through the toughest times and she wants to make a difference and help others soar.
Tonja gives us a great lesson on that the "me too" movement has gone too far and that people have forgotten common sense.
We learn about sex trafficking being a huge issue in the entertainment industry.
Tonja talks about some of the issues in some churches and how they fall short in helping struggling people particularly women going through a crisis. Tonja's passion is for people outside of the church.
She tells us about a shocking story where a pastor supported her 1st husband who had a porn addiction, wasn't responsible as a husband and father and wasted all their money gambling, while she worked 50 to 60 hour weeks.
The pastor actually asked her to submit herself to her husband even if that meant watching porn with him.
We learn about her divorce, she went through a new church and how she ended up marrying a womanizer who was verbally and emotionally abusive, making her believe she was crazy. Her Mom hired a private investigator and they found a
whole sack of porn that they brought to the pastor of this new church who got mad at her for even bringing it up.
She had to go through a second divorce.
Her and her boys had to go to counseling, they were so scarred from this experience. She says it has been a hell of a road but standing up to what is right and not being silent has been healing.
Her family doesn't really want her to tell her story, because we make the victims of abuse believe they shouldn't stand up for it and the people that get protected in the end are the abusers. She is a believer in iron sharpens iron.
We learn how she met her 3rd husband who she is in the middle of divorcing at this time.
She tells us about losing her precious Mom to brain cancer, moving to California, getting pregnant with her daughter.
While in California in less than a year she found out that her husband was having an affair which knocked the wind out of her. She didn't see it coming at all.
It is a gripping story you don't want to miss.
Tonja is a big believer in telling the truth at all times and that she told her cheating husband he had to admit to their teenage daughter that he was having an affair.
Gabrielle and Marcella are 100% on Tonja's side, however Bernie full heartedly disagrees and this starts a fun, passionate discussion between our guest and cast. Don't miss this battle of opinions.

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Party with Miss Polly segment:
The role of shame about our sexuality
Question of the Day segment
You went on a first date and everything is great except your date licks every single finger. Dealbreaker?