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Candy Marcum is back and in this episode we learn that she specializes in couples therapy and uses the Gottman method to assess.
John Gottman is a psychologist and typically psychologists are not talk therapists, they are researchers. He studied couples for 40 years and can tell with 96% accuracy
if a couple will make it or not by looking for the 4 horsemen in his method.
The 4 horsemen are as follows:
1. If a person is critical and always blaming
2. If a person is contentious, always thinking they are so much better than their partner.
3. If a person is defensive
4. If a person is stonewalling
When you see a couple and that is all that they are doing, they are not going to make it unless they go through counseling.
Candy teaches her clients to use the “I” word instead of the blaming “YOU” word…..
She teaches us so much about how to resolve conflicts in relationships. She emphasizes to always look for the good and not concentrate so much on the bad.
She helps couples find common ground in conflicts. She says that in every conflict there is a cry for something.
We talk about the different morals and values couples have in their relationships.She helps couples find compromise.
She talks about the heartbreaks and joys and successes of being a counselor.
Gabrielle then asks Candy’s advice about having so many people in her life that are alcoholics and addicts and how it has affected her. Candy says that when people are in their addiction nobody is more important
than the next fix.
She encourages Gabrielle to go to ALANON and Adult Children of Alcoholics meetings to try to find some peace about the situation.
We absolutely love Candy’s calm and nurturing way of counseling.
She tells us that she is very involved with the LGBTQ community and the human rights campaign. She chaired that organization for 4 years after being involved for over 10 years.
She informs us about the GLBT Chamber of Commerce. She serves on the foundation board of the GLBT Chamber.
Candy is a GLBT Counselor but she also has many straight clients.
She teaches us what the letters in LGBTQQI stand for and the meaning of them.
Then we talk about the importance of romance and date night in relationships. She teaches us that Finances and Sex are the top reasons for divorce.
She encourages everyone to read the Love Language books. Candy loves teaching others.
You can find her on www.candymarcum.com.

We start the show with Miss Candy explaining how she counsels couples, families and chemical dependent people that come to her private practice called “Stonewall Behavioral Health”.
She says that there is nothing more rewarding than touching someone’s life and making a difference.
We then learn about Candy’s upbringing in Springfield, Texas.
She tells us that she is a Lesbian and dealing with that issue has formed who she is. She believes that people should be who they are, as long as they don’t hurt other people.
We find out how her family reacted when she came out at age 17 in 1967 when it was not accepted and there was no word for it.
We learn that she has been with the same woman for the last 32 years and they got married on their 30th anniversary, and it still made Candy nervous.
Candy explains that the point of view of being a gay or lesbian used to be that it was a mental illness. Because of that Candy was inspired to become a professional therapist to learn about herself and help others.
Candy tells us about an international organization called www.PFLAG.org, which stands for Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays.
If anyone is dealing with this issue contact them and they are very helpful and you are accepted.
Candy shares the story when she first opened her private practice and at the same time helped a friend Howie Dare with his gay counseling center that was called Oak Lawn Counseling Center.
She shares the heartbreaking stories of young men in their late 20’s coming to see her and inviting the parents only for the men having to tell them that they are gay and dying of AIDS.
She says it was such a difficult time to counsel those young men who were dying, at the same time the people she officed with were dying, her friends were dying. Everyone was dying and she said it
felt like being in a war.
In 1996 the AIDS cocktail came out and saved a lot of lives. She tells us that there is something called PREP now that protects you before you have sex and you will not get the disease.
We discuss how even today the community of Homeless in the LGBTQ community is huge in 2019.
3 out of 10 teen suicides are because of LGBTQ issues. Candy says that things definitely have changed, but not enough where all are safe.
She thinks sometimes you have to go back to go forward.
We find out that Candy’s sisters always accepted her except one of the husbands, who had an issue, but nobody liked him anyway.
Everyone loves her wife Carol.
This concludes the first episode. Stay tuned for more with the amazing Candy Marcum.

Milani is back with the continuation of his traumatic life story. Having been in prison for 2 years and repeatedly being raped with no condoms, he was very worried about getting tested when he got out.
He tells us the results.
Besides being a stripper he is also on an app called “RENTMEN” which is a secure way to hire escorts.
We talk about people that are super judgmental, but have so many skeletons in their own closets and then he shares that lots of married men with children seek out guys like him.
He tells us that the gay community does not support the gay community in the strip club world. They all swoon over straight guys and pay them way more.
He says there is an infatuation with straight married men that strip in gay clubs and they worship the ground they walk on.
He says that lots of straight guys like to peer in the gay community to get the gay Dollars, only to go back to the straight community and their marriages like Aaron Carter and Nick Jonas for example.
We ask him if he ever fantasizes about having sex with a straight man and his answer is very interesting.
We ask him how many sexual partners he has had and the answer is astounding.
We ask him the craziest place he has ever had sex.
He then opens up about the most traumatic moment of his life that changed his whole path and where he went from being a super popular, cool Jock in High school, a boy scout of America being tossed into the dark world of prostitution.
His whole life was shattered. He went from having a great life with a promising future to a lonely life where everyone laughed at him and hated him.
The trauma of the majority of people tossing him aside and treating him like yesterday’s news devastated him to the core.
He got hooked up with a pimp that got him hooked on drugs so he could control him and profit off of him.
He was fed a lot of heroin for 4 years.
The only way to get away from it was when he went to prison and was thrown in a solitary confinement room, where he suffered from detox for 2 weeks with no help.
Because of all the trauma that he has been through nothing affects him anymore and he has a lot of abandonment issues.
He tells us that he was at a point where he didn’t care if he died. His pain was so great that he was hoping he would die from an overdose.
Today he suffers from seasonal depression and has nobody to rely on. He has no family.
We ask him if there was one thing he could change about his life what it would be and his answer is heartbreaking.
Milani has a huge heart and his soul is good and he tries to help people all the time to protect them to not go down the same road he did.
We end the show with a twerking lesson.
Gabrielle wants Milani to make goals and go to school to make an exit plan.

Milani tells us that his only job at this time is being a gay stripper. We find out that he grew up in white suburban America, where everyone was “judgy” and “bitchy”.
He found out that he was gay at age 16, but never had a chance to really process and decide to come out on his own, because of a dramatic event at his High School that exposed him to everyone without his consent.
He has not had a relationship with his parents or siblings in years and he feels bad that he has not put more effort into that.
He grew up in an abusive household and went straight into an abusive relationship. He was too young to realize all that was happening to him. The guy who he thought loved him manipulated him into being an escort and was a Pimp.
Milani then took the fall for everything when he got caught selling cocaine, after selling to an undercover cop 3 times.
He says that there was a point where he stopped being a victim but became a willing participant. He was living his best life.
He went to prison for 2 years. He tells us how much it sucks being in prison as a gay person. He shares that he got raped a lot until he found himself a Puerto Rican boyfriend who protected him.
We feel like Milani got dealt a really bad hand in life, because we see his kind and caring heart and we tell him how bad we feel for him. He matter of factually tells us that Life is what it is.
You have to listen to him tell us about refusing to accept the early release from prison, because he was so in love with his boyfriend, who betrayed him the second he left prison, only to go back to his wife and never talk to Milani again.
When he first came to Texas he landed in Roanoke with a guy he met on Craigslist and was hugely disappointed. But once he saw Dallas and started working at the gay strip clubs he fell in love with the City.
He shares the story of when he was a houseboy for a gay couple in Cedar Springs which is a gay neighborhood in Dallas.
You have to hear him talk about having sex with girls and what he thinks about that.
Milani has an entrepreneurial spirit and loves to learn from business people and is planning an exit strategy out of this dark whore world soon.
But for now he finds his Sugar Daddies in Strip Clubs and is a Sugar Daddy himself to young, handsome boys.
This is the end of the first episode with Milani – stay tuned for the next episode where we get even more details about his very interesting life.

We gone start this year off right!!!!On the first episode of 2019 we’re joined by Kevin Sword aka Solo, Owner of @ilyke2parti_dallas. We discuss his start as a Nightlife Curator and his outlook on branding. We also unpack the R.Kelly situation after the airing of the the documentary and his place in the culture at this point(56:35). This show is full of gems so pull up and walk with us.

The creators of the new Hit Series Pride Wives of Dallas are back for a second show and this time we talk all about Pride wives the series.
We learn that Tracy is a reality TV Show junkie and has always been particularly fond of all the Housewives shows.
She noticed that there were not a lot of same sex relationships in any of these shows. The only time she saw the LGBTQ community included was to make fun of them.
The LGBTQ community was never portrayed in a positive way.
This is how Pride Wives of Dallas was born and Tracy immediately had the idea copyrighted so it can eventually go national. We are all looking forward to seeing Pride Wives of Los Angeles, Miami, New York, Atlanta and so forth.
Pride Wives cast are all “REAL PEOPLE” and not the perfect Hollywood types. They want everyday people to be able to relate to the cast.
They talk about how much work went into creating the show, all the sleepless nights, researching, editing and figuring things out with zero experience.
Angela is a big believer in supporting your partner 100% if they are passionate about something.
Pride Wives of Dallas premieres with 8 30 minute episodes for its first season.
It will air 1 episode every Sunday and then it will be on the On Channel for binge watching forever.
All Cast Members know each other but there is no drama between the cast, only within their own families.
There are 4 couples cast members and 1 single, recently divorced cast member and they tell us that they are actively looking to add new cast members for the upcoming seasons.
THE CHESTERS:
Creator and Co Creator, they are looking to renew their vows and invite their families and see how that plays out, especially Angela’s family who were not as accepting being Southern Baptists.
THE CLARKS:
They are entertainers in the LGBTQ community and we will get to see their performance which is a drag show in reverse for women- big shake up with huge drama
THE SANTANA/REEDS:
They are dealing with infertility and recently had their 5th implant and we will see if the embryo sticks this time and it takes us to all that emotional journey.
THE JACKSONS:
They are a trans couple. Kimmie considers herself a Queer. She was a straight woman that was engaged to a preacher and is now part of the show married to a transgender female to male.
YAVADOO:
recently divorced, caught cheating, trying to find a new partner. There is also a surprise baby we will find out about.
We get to know all the cast members individual journeys, as well as the common journeys they are going through.
Tracy and Angela’s favorite show is the round table meeting that had everybody crying. There was not a dry eye in the house as they all share their stories about coming out.
It was very impactful.
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The creators of the new Hit Series Pride Wives stop by and we have the privilege to get to know
Tracy and Angela Chester.
Pride Wives of Dallas is a reality TV Series on the ON Channel Network that premiered in December 2018.
Tracy tells us about her upbringing in Santa Monica, California where she went to school with Charlie Sheen, Emilio Estevez, Holly Robinson Pete,
Robert Downey Jr, Rob and Chad Lowe, Lenny Kravitz, Dean Cain and many more.
Tracy was a program director and worked with homeless families for many years with the goal to house those families. She thought she would always be
in that industry because it was her passion but then she met Angela in Las Vegas and her whole life changed in an instant.
We learn all the details about how they met and how they made a long distance relationship work successfully until Tracy moved to Texas.
Tracy was very concerned how she would fit in to Southern Texas while being a free spirit from California.
Angela has owned a delivery company called “Deliveries on Demand” for 11 years.
Angela grew up in a Southern Baptist home and being gay was condemned. She loved to travel to see how other places treated gay people.
Angela and Tracy tell their stories when they came out being gay.
The difference in their stories is unbelievable.
The story about when and how they got married is beyond sweet.
Angela proposed to Tracy with a black diamond ring.
We talk about all the judgmental people in this world.
Tracy tells us about how she tried to live a straight life very young and that is how she has 2 children and today 3 grandchildren.
We learn all about how sweet their family dynamic is.
We end the show with Tracy telling us a funny story when she caught her son with a girl in his bedroom.
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Jason Bee is a Texas filmmaker known for his intense, yet vulnerable style. He is also an advocate for mental health awareness. He wrote, produced, directed, and starred in the pseudo-biographical film ‘Donovan,’
which revolves around the effects of bipolar disorder as a way of reaching others in their own journeys to spread the messages that you’re never alone and it’s okay to ask for help.
We go behind the scenes and learn many interesting details.
The movie is about a recently divorced advertising director who is trying to be a good father to his son, while being tormented by his own bipolar disorder.
The movie deals with the aftermath after the bipolar diagnosis.
Jason tells us that the bipolar rears its ugly head everywhere and also in his 2 marriages and he says that is why he is no longer married.
Jason explains that the mania with all its craziness can become dangerous because it feels so good not to care. We talk about how important it is to open the blinds in the morning and let the light in.
In the movie we see that Donovan looks at this medications but doesn’t take them, which is a big problem with bipolar people, because they do not think they need them, which starts a whole new set of problems.
The movie shows Donovan drinking a lot of alcohol and Jason tells us that is a form of self medication for many bipolar people.
We talk about lithium which Jason hated taking because it made him feel paralyzed and gave him tremors.
Jason tells us that he sees a psychiatrist and a therapist which has been helping him tremendously.
We talk about being and staying positive.
Jason tells us that if he didn’t have his kids he would take his own life.
He tells his story to help others understand bipolar disorder.
We talk about the big engagement party in the movie and then he explains the scene where he was in the garage on the floor all because he was in a mania state.
We talk about the scene with his psychiatrist and losing a major business account and going missing for an entire week and having little memory of it after.
This disease destroys relationships.
Jason shares how incredibly intense it was to write this movie.
He describes how he created the amazing butterfly poster to describe bipolar disorder “LIFE IS BEAUTIFUL – LIFE IS DISDAINFUL”!!!

We welcome Jason Bee who released a movie called Donovan, which is about a recently divorced father and the struggles of bipolar disease.
Jason stars in the movie as himself about himself.
He tells us that when he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in the 90’s he didn’t take it seriously and used it as an excuse to do stupid things, sex, drugs and alcohol to name a few.
In 2007 he had a massive psychotic breakdown and it was in that moment that he was either going to kill himself or be a father to his son. He chose the latter.
We go back to his chaotic childhood and learn that his Dad left the family when Jason was 3 years old which left him with severe abandonment issues.
He wrote, produced, directed and acted in the movie and even wrote some of the songs. Both his sons also act in the movie.
It took 7 years from start to finish before releasing the movie.
The movie has received many amazing awards.
He tells us that his wife of 11 years recently left him and blindsided him. This combined with the movie not taking off faster than he anticipated threw him into a severe depression that he is
working his way out of with the help of a therapist.
Jason’s 2 children are the reason that keep him from doing the unimaginable.
Jason wants to thank Johnny Marr for his tremendous help featuring “New Town Velocity” in the movie Donovan. You can get this single and countless others at johnny-marr.com.
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After our first episode of trying to create ASMR eating noises with fruits and vegetables we are trying to give it a try with snacks. Starting with Popsicles,
frozen dark Chocolate, Takis, Cheese Puffs, Kettle Chips, Tostito Chips and Waffle Cones and much more.
This is really another YouTube worthy show because the antics of the girls is hilarious as usual.
Ashley decides to put an interesting sexual spin on creating ASMR sounds with a waffle cone.
We are having a hard time taking this ASMR concept serious.