We're talking about pausing, which is the first law of self command and the importance of pause. This is the first portion of that conversation. This is the focus on why it is that we actually react instead of respond.

When we find ourselves facing a negative situation. How do we handle them?

Replacement is going to be the top move to win against negativity in your own mind.

Know who you are! ot who they say you are but who you choose to be! No one else gets to tell you that.

I'm upset. What can I do about it?

We have chosen to accept the negative as reality. And, you have every right to do so, but how is that helpful to you?