Torrid Souls

Truth be told, this episode was a challenge for us. It was a challenge to record and a challenge to edit. It's about disappointment. Admittedly, not a happy topic, and disappointment will happen. It's never easy. How do YOU handle it? Do you allow it to ruin your future expectations? Or is there another way out? In this episode Soul interviews Tori, as a way to discuss this uncomfortable topic. In our usual Torrid Souls raw, unscripted and candid way, we express our feelings after experiencing our first majorly disappointing escapade. As always, we talk our way through (the dark emotions that come up) and find the lesson that makes us even better together. Expect that disappointment will happen. Don't let it deject you. There are valuable lessons in it. It's not about the fail. It's about the getting back up and the continuing on. We chat about the importance of having a voice, speaking up when things aren't going as planned, assumptions and intimacy. And we talk about panties too! Yes we do!

Come discover your own torrid soul with us. We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions or comments. [email protected] 1-647-547-5512 Twitter and Instagram @TorridSouls

Mentioned in this episode: Lifestyle Dating Site Cafe Desire, That Couple Next Door podcast, The Wheel of Life Exercise and our Travel Page -- Join us May 3 to 13, 2019 at Temptation Cancun TorridSouls.com/Travel or to book for Temptation's 60% off sale going on right now, TorridSouls.com/Temptation See our Show Notes Page for links to all resources and music mentioned in this podcast. TorridSouls.com/10

What's next in the adventures of Tori and Soul? Another booty call attempt, that's what! In our last episode, we had our first-ever booty call and it was a success (albeit with someone we already know). Well, in this episode, since we have another (rare) completely free day to ourselves, and without any "repeat-worthy" play friends available, we go one step further. This time we put out a request on our local LS website (Cafe Desire). Listen in as we open the responses, and react to what we find when people, who are completely new to us, respond thinking they are perfect to hook-up with. Some responses make us laugh out loud. Hint: Just having a penis is NOT enough. Then, at the end of this episode, Tori loses all rationale and discretion when Soul "brings" a hottie into the car with them.

Come discover your own torrid soul with us. We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions or comments. [email protected] 1-647-547-5512 Twitter and Instagram @TorridSouls

Mentioned in this episode: Lifestyle Dating Sites SDC, SLS, Kasidie, Cafe Desire, Nerds Who Swing podcast.

See our Show Notes Page for links to all resources and music mentioned in this podcast. TorridSouls.com/9

More in-the-moment epiphanies and ah-ha moments. In this episode, it's, literally, the morning after our first-ever booty call! We are still in bed and the pillow talk gets cerebral. And once again, we get pleasantly surprised by what gems we discover about ourselves, our brains, our programming, the LGBT community and a whole bunch of other crazy profound shit. Yes, it's another "you-just-gotta-listen" kind of episode. Soul decides to try being a voyeur and then after playfully pinning their mighty playfriend down, she gets called "aggressive". Uh oh!... Or is it an Oh, yeah? Find out how it turns out! Just when we think we're all that, as a couple, we get to a whole new kind of leveling-up. Join us and discover your own torrid soul. We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions or comments. [email protected] 1-647-547-5512 Twitter and Instagram @TorridSouls

Penises. Penes. Palos. Mangueros. Pollas. Oh My! Up until this point in our journey into CNM (Consensual Non-Monogamy) we met penis-endowed playmates at clubs, resorts, parties or events. We made our decisions primarily, in the moment, based on the appeal of the combination of appearance and personality. If things worked out we may choose to keep in touch. If not, then it ended there. Some couples, however, do what we would consider mimics "dating". They prefer to get to know one another through online profiles like Cafe Desire, Kasidie, SDC, SLS, Indulge, Quiver. They go out on "dates" to see if they click. We decided to explore this way of meeting potential playmates, and in this episode, we consider whether this is worth trying. Listen in on our candid CarClip conversations as we work through the in-the-moment insecurities that came up around this new way of navigating our hobby. Was this swinging lifestyle becoming a necessary part of our relationship? You'll hear how we get to a place of feeling reassured that, for us, our relationship will always come first (be the main focus) and anything else is only what, and when, we decide will add spice to what we already have together. Tune in to find out how oil painting is the perfect analogy for explaining all of this. Come discover your own torrid soul with us. We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions or comments. [email protected] 1-647-547-5512 Twitter and Instagram @TorridSouls

HAPPY NEW YEAR! Join us as we recap our most favourite sexy times of 2018 and tell you all about the naughtiness that we'll be up to in 2019. In this episode we turn on the party lights, have a few drinks (and probably way too many alcohol-soaked cherries) and include some of our hottest pre Torrid Souls adventures. Come discover your own torrid soul with us. We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions or comments. [email protected] 1-647-547-5512 Twitter and Instagram @TorridSouls

Choosing to swing means that you have to get clear about what you want. Who are you? What kind of experience do you desire? What are you afraid of?

It's a sorting process once you've decided to open up to including others in your sexual life.

In this episode we untangle these questions and get some answers, as we talk about 3 separate lifestyle experiences we had this year. The first was at Oasis Aqualounge in Toronto. The 2nd, at Hedonism Resort in Jamaica, and the 3rd at Naughty in N'awlins. What we learned help us to realize just how empowering it can be to be clear about who we are choosing and how to get more of what we want.

Come discover your own torrid soul with us. We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions or comments. [email protected] 1-647-547-5512 Twitter and Instagram @TorridSouls

Naughty in N'awlins: if you haven't gone yet, you'll want to. This was our first time at NIN, the largest lifestyle convention, for couples, in the world! Over 1,000 couples, a full takeover of the French Quarter's biggest hotels, and the infamous Bourbon Street. It's definitely the MotherShip for lifestyle activities and a fantastic event for every couple - whether you're new, and only curious about being sexually adventurous, or you're very comfortable with swinging, NIN will teach you so much about yourselves and how to better navigate the lifestyle to suit your desires. You'll get access to seminars, private parties and bar takeovers. We had so much fun this year that we're going again in 2019. With so much going on, there is something for everyone and we'll share all that we encountered during this first time at NIN - the sexy bar takeovers, the informative workshops, meeting other podcasters. We even had our first 6-some! We'd love to hear from you! Send us your questions or comments. [email protected] 1-647-547-5512 Twitter and Instagram @TorridSouls

Just to recap about us, we recently got married, and during the many months of wedding prep we were so exhausted, and with not a lot of time to be sexy. We flippantly said, that once we could, we would go on a RAMPAGE! Well truer words have never been spoken. We arrived a week early for Naughty in N'awlins and had the, ummm, PLEASURE of sharing the French Quarter and the infamous Bourbon Street with the men of the Omega Psi Phi Fraternity. Who knew that our travels would have fortuitously rained down 25,000 beautiful, fun and educated men for us, for the week before NIN. Hallelujah! Send us your questions or comments. [email protected] 1-647-547-5512 Twitter and Instagram @TorridSouls