Why do people stay in relationships that hurt them? This mini-episode explains the powerful psychological concept of Trauma Bonding—a dynamic often mistaken for love, where cycles of abuse and affection create an intense, addictive attachment. We clearly define this pattern and compare it to other maladaptive relationship styles, including dependent and codependent attachment. Finally, we discuss what the goal should be: establishing a healthy, secure attachment and offer a brief look at what that safety and genuine intimacy truly look like.

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