The world is full of so many incredible, unique, and beautiful cultures. Our ability to learn, connect and appreciate each one and their differences will help us to gain fresh perspectives on people and the world around us. 

Transformation Tip: “Strengths lie in differences, not in similarities.” - Stephen Covey 

Being culturally aware doesn’t mean we have to agree with everyone, but we need to be open and accepting of all people and our differences

Tips for cultural awareness 

• Think beyond race and ethnicity
  • Who are they on the inside?
  • Ask open-ended questions with respect in order to educate yourself
• Don't assume you know everything when coming into a culture 
  • Manners matter
• Take time to exchange stories 
• Remember every human being wants to be valued and seen 
  • Make honor and respect your culture 

Transformation Application: In the next weeks find someone from a different culture than you and ask them how they celebrate the holidays! 

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There is a big difference between listening and hearing. Learning how to be fully present in conversations will strengthen your connections and relationships. One of the best ways to show honor and respect to another person is to truly listen to what they are saying. In this episode, gain practical tools to help you become a better listener. 

Transformation Tip: “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply.” - Stephen Covey

There is a big difference between listening and hearing. 

Ways to focus on listening: 

• Put your phone away! 
• Be fully present 
• Let people finish their sentences before jumping in with your thoughts 
• Pay attention to the other person’s body language 
• Empathize 
• Give encouraging verbal cues
• Clarify and paraphrase what you’ve heard 
• Ask good questions

People become much more open to hearing what you have to say when they know that you have listened to what they have to say 

Transformation Application: PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY! Be fully present when listening to people. 

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In this special Transformation Talk episode, Pete talks with Craig Muster, an essential life coach, and business consultant, about how sharing unfiltered and honest stories can create deep and meaningful connections and relationships.

Transformation Tip: 'Where there is perfection there is no story to tell.' —  Ben Okri 

Learn to listen to other people's stories and pay attention to how you tell your own stories.

When we tell our stories with filters and perfectionism, we don't allow ourselves to be vulnerable and we keep ourselves from truly connecting with others.

When you try and "appear" a certain way, you cannot truly connect with people's hearts.

When you hear someone else's story it gives you permission to think differently about your own story.

Performance will never give you what connection can. Connection satisfies your soul.

Transformation Application: Have two courageous conversations this week. In a discussion, ask a question, and then simply listen (not just hear). Listen to the heart, not just the facts.


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Are you socially aware? A key element of emotional intelligence is social awareness. In this episode, learn practical tools to help you become a better listener, express empathy, and read body language in social settings.

Transformation Tip: “You can observe a lot by just watching.”

Tools of social awareness: 

• Good listening 
  • Truly understand the person you’re listening to 
  • Switch your attention to listening not just responding 
  • It doesn’t mean you have to agree with them 
• Listen with your eyes 
• Everyone has a backstory 
  • Everyone is dealing with struggles 
  • Don’t be so quick to judge the present without understanding the past 
  • FORM (exercise to get to know someone)
    • F - Family 
    • O - occupation 
    • R - recreation 
    • M - message 
  • Empathy 
• Body language 
  • Expresses more than words do 
  • Pay attention to body language 
  • Learn to read the room 

Transformation Application: In your conversations this week, work on eye contact and staying engaged with people. 

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In this episode, Steve shares a personal story of a difficult situation he recently walked through and how he applied the principles from the podcast on emotional management to bring out a better outcome. 

Transformation Tip: “Persistence and resilience only come from having been given a chance to work through difficult problems.” – Gever Tulley.

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Why do we often find it much easier to extend grace to our loved ones than to ourselves? Unfortunately, many of us condemn ourselves for failures, rather than exercising self-compassion. This episode will teach you practical ways to root out negative self-talk and find grace and compassion for yourself through your mistakes and imperfections.

Transformation Tip: “Talk to yourself like someone you love.” - Brene Brown

Self-compassion results in resilience - it keeps your mental state healthy when dealing with difficult situations

Three components of self-compassion:

• Be kind to yourself 
• Common humanity (everyone makes mistakes)
• Mindfulness 

Ways to show yourself compassion:

• Root out negative self-talk 
  • Awareness of negative thought patterns 
• When you get 20/20 hindsight - where does it take you?
  • Failure = “I just learned something”
• Everyone makes mistakes 
  • You are human!
  • Failure is where you learn (growth mindset)
• Mindfulness 
  • Embracing where you are
  • Excepting your experience just the way it is
  • Care for yourself in your present moment 

Transformation Application: Think about one negative narrative that often goes through your mind. Imagine what you normally tell yourself and then change that statement into a statement that has grace and compassion. Write it down and practice using the new statement.

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Everyone has had a  situation in their life when they have felt like a victim. Unfortunately, many of us allow those situations to affect our lives negatively by skewing the way we view people and the world around us. This episode will help take you from victim to victor by teaching you how to overcome self-pity and entitlement.

Transformation Tip:  “You can’t expect to be a “victor” if your living with a “victim” mentality.” - Billy Cox

A victim mentality causes us to view things with a negative lens that sabotages our reality

External locus of control vs. Internal locus of control 

• External locus of control - belief that one’s life is controlled by a force outside of oneself (fate, luck, mercy of other people)
• Internal locus of control - belief that each person is responsible for their own happiness and how they handle situations

Victim mentality = external locus of control 

You are responsible for how you handle your thoughts and emotions 

Own your emotions. Take responsibility for your feelings and how you react to them

How to recognize victim mentality 

• Self-pity 
• Entitlement 

How to move from victim to victor 

• Self-awareness 
• Refuse to think of yourself as a victim
• Own your emotions 
• Work on the way you think

Transformation application: Think of a time when you felt like a victim. Think about the mindset that came as a result of that event. Write it down and then ask yourself if those thoughts are helping you or undermining you. Rip it up and choose to let it go.

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The first 15 minutes of each day can make or break it. This episode teaches you practical ways to take back your morning by learning how to prioritize and live with intentionality. 

Transformation Tip: “The first hour of the morning is the rudder of the day.” - Henry Ward Beecher 

Your starting point is your finishing point

Try not to pick up your phone first thing in the morning 

Be intentional about the first 15 minutes of your day - control your life instead of letting it control you. 

Get yourself set first and THEN frame your day 

Transformation Application: Practice the breathing exercise mentioned in the episode. Make a list of what you are grateful for each morning this week.

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Can you think of a moment that you wish you could go back to and respond differently? Learning how to respond thoughtfully instead of reacting emotionally is key to developing your emotional intelligence. This episode gives you practical tools to better manage your emotions moving forward. 

Transformation Tip: “Feelings are like kids. You don't want them driving the car, but you don't want to stuff them in the trunk, either.” - Abby Stumbal 

How to manage your emotions: 

• Count to 10 - make a better word choice 
• Sleep on it - allow yourself to reset 
• Burn off the adrenaline - exercise
• Be quick to let it go - the longer you hold on the more it will affect you 
• Be humble - take ownership of the part you played in the situation. Humility always disarms conflict.
• Pay attention to your self-talk - avoid using words like always and never
• Get it out of your head - write it out or talk it out (with safe people)
• Ask someone to help you with performance coaching 
• Maintain good sleep hygiene - when you’re rested your ability to respond vs. react is much better. 

Transformation Application: Pick one of the tips we gave you and use it this week. The easiest one to try is counting to 10 - give it a shot! 

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Emotional awareness is something that many of us lack. Our ability to be aware of our emotions is imperative for learning how to manage them in a healthy way. In this episode, we provide practical tools to add more emotional awareness to your life. 

Transformation Tip: “If you are tuned out of your own emotions, you will be poor at reading them in other people.” - Daniel Goleman

Being in touch with your emotions does not mean you’re weak. 

How to become more emotionally aware: 

• Name it. Identifying your emotions has a powerful effect on your ability to manage them. 
• Don’t pass judgment. Your emotions are not good or bad - they are just emotions. 
• Notice how your emotions affect you physically. 
• Know who and what triggers you. What is being devalued that you value? Trauma from your past? 
• Be aware of your moods. Moods are transient. 

Transformation Application:  This week when you are experiencing a strong emotion, write it down, and describe how you feel physically. 

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