Transformative Simplicity

We are born with an intrinsic need for love and human connection. Our "attachment style” (or attachment patterns) determine how each of us reacts to our needs and how we go about getting them met. 

These internal systems form in early childhood using our experience with our parents and primary caregivers as the point of reference we use to form connections to others in adulthood. 

Our attachment style affects everything from our partner and friend selection to how well our relationships progress, and, how they end. 

Knowing our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities within interpersonal relationships. 

Attachment patterns also influence how we connect to the community, science and medicine, alternative healing modalities, education, politics, and faith. 

During this episode, we will explore 3 of the 4 attachment styles that exist, and whom we’re attracted to based on our attachment style. 

Topics covered in this episode:

-How our attachment style forms. 

-Behavior and personality traits that manifest with each attachment style.

-Whom we’re attracted to based on our attachment style. 

-The interplay between our attachment style and toxic relationships. 

-Unrequited love: When assigning a label to a relationship results in harmful behavior.

-Why we can exhibit traits of multiple attachment style based on specific interactions.  

Intimate relationships stimulate your attachment style and trigger either trust or fear based on your relationship experience with parents or primary caregivers in childhood.

People who feel independent when on their own, are taken aback when they become dependent once they’re dating or in a committed romantic partnership with someone.

If you’ve ever felt confronted by the experience of being single and independent and then the minute you date someone you convert into a needy, anxious, and clingy individual you hardly recognize, this is because this relationship is unconsciously stimulating your attachment style.     

No matter how much devotion, affection, love, and support a person offers someone with an anxious-preoccupied attachment style it will never feel like the love is enough.

A person with a dismissive-avoidant attachment style will feel compelled to reject and run from stable love and intimacy. They will accept companionship but crave control and isolation.  

A lot of the behavior traits expressed by people with an anxious-preoccupied and dismissive-avoidant attachment styles look like and feel like codependency.

Your attachment style can be transformed into a secure attachment style by addressing the things that disconnect you from your authentic essence—love. 

During this episode, I provide a variety of practical steps and reflection prompts that will help you shift out of maladaptive behavior patterns, re-connect you to your power, and kick start improving your relationship with self and others. 

We are born with an intrinsic need for love and human connection. Our "attachment style” (or attachment patterns) determine how each of us reacts to our needs and how we go about getting them met. 

These internal systems form in early childhood using our experience with our parents and primary caregivers as the point of reference we use to form connections to others in adulthood. 

Our attachment style affects everything from our partner and friend selection to how well our relationships progress, and, how they end. 

Knowing our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities within interpersonal relationships. 

Attachment patterns also influence how we connect to the community, science and medicine, alternative healing modalities, education, politics, and faith. 

During this episode, we will explore 3 of the 4 attachment styles that exist, and whom we’re attracted to based on our attachment style. 

Topics covered in this episode:

-How our attachment style forms. 

-Behavior and personality traits that manifest with each attachment style.

-Whom we’re attracted to based on our attachment style. 

-The interplay between our attachment style and toxic relationships. 

-Unrequited love: When assigning a label to a relationship results in harmful behavior.

-Why we can exhibit traits of multiple attachment style based on specific interactions.  

We are born with an intrinsic need for love and human connection. Our "attachment style” (or attachment patterns) determine how each of us reacts to our needs and how we go about getting them met. 

These internal systems form in early childhood using our experience with our parents and primary caregivers as the point of reference we use to form connections to others in adulthood. 

Our attachment style affects everything from our partner and friend selection to how well our relationships progress, and, how they end. 

Knowing our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities within interpersonal relationships. 

Attachment patterns also influence how we connect to the community, science and medicine, alternative healing modalities, education, politics, and faith. 

During this episode, we will explore 3 of the 4 attachment styles that exist, and whom we’re attracted to based on our attachment style. 

Topics covered in this episode:

-How our attachment style forms. 

-Behavior and personality traits that manifest with each attachment style.

-Whom we’re attracted to based on our attachment style. 

-The interplay between our attachment style and toxic relationships. 

-Unrequited love: When assigning a label to a relationship results in harmful behavior.

-Why we can exhibit traits of multiple attachment style based on specific interactions.  

We cannot change what we don’t understand, which is why I created this two-part series on shame. Shame is complex and often a misunderstood emotion. 

Shame sells us the narrative that there is something inherently wrong with who we are. It tells us we’re unlovable, and that we are deserving of the trauma and emotional pain in our lives— even if we aren’t responsible for the violations committed against us.  

Topics I covered in this episode: 

—Why evaluating the magnitude, depth, and impact of toxic shame is intricate.

—How to uncover and start releasing and healing from toxic shame. 

—The role our attachment style plays in either helping us release or keeping us cemented in shame. 

—Why We Hold on to Shame: The interplay between our inner child and adult in releasing shame.  

And more! 

This is Episode 1 of a Two-Part Series where I talk about shame. 

Shame is a complex and often misunderstood emotion that compels us to hide or deny the severity of how we feel. It distorts how we perceive and interpret circumstances and reality. 

Shame thrives on being undetected, therefore, evaluating the magnitude, depth, and impact of shame is intricate because sometimes the root is planted on an incident that is concrete, and other times, on accumulated incidents that are abstract.

 During this episode,

We look at healing through a mind-body monism lens where we treat the mental and physical as a single, holistic system, and focus on exploring aspects of neuroscience research, neuroplasticity, epigenetic mechanisms, gene expression, and quantum physics that help us develop a fuller picture of the role our mind and body play in either helping release shame from our system or keeping us cemented in it.

Topics I covered in this episode:

—The role understanding our own biology and epigenetic mechanisms play in healing shame.

—Why awareness and lifestyle changes help but don’t heal us. 

—How unexpressed emotion can lead to dangerous and toxic behavior.

—The manifestations of shame.

—The interplay between shame and addiction. 

We’ve each crafted our own definitions of love with the different fragments of information that what we’ve extracted from what we’ve learned and experienced until this moment.

During this episode, we explore love from an energetic standpoint; As a healing and transformational energy we tune into and embody to change our experience, be of service, and impact the world.