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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

Mental Health: Know What To Do When It's Slipping Into Anxiety, Depression, and More - Episode 42

GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER'S TOPIC: Mental Illness Scares Us More Than A Broken Leg

Today, Dr. Shaler talks about the prevalence of mental health issues in our world, and why it is so essential to remove any stigma from it.

People feel sorry for you, and behave in understanding ways, when you have heart surgery and a twelve-week recovery. Why do people not recognize, and be compassionate, when someone has a twelve-week period of depression, or a day or two of extreme anxiety? It scares them!

The American Psychiatric Association at Psychiatry.org tells us:

"Mental illnesses are health conditions involving changes in thinking, emotion or behavior (or a combination of these). Mental illnesses are associated with distress and/or problems functioning in social, work or family activities.

Mental illness is common. In a given year:

• nearly one in five (19 percent) US adults experience some form of mental illness
• one in 24 (4.1 percent) has a serious mental illness
• one in 12 (8.5 percent) has a substance use disorder

Mental illness is treatable. The vast majority of individuals with mental illness continue to function in their daily lives."

So, let's get real. Mental illness happens to folks around us. Let's be compassionate. Let's not be afraid. Let's not tell them to "snap out of it." Let's help them get the help they need to recover.

GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network

Kristin's news network was born from her popular podcast downloaded in over 170 countries. It has been on air for four years and has over one million listens. She now produces additional podcasts for others in the field of behavioral health as well as organizations such as McLean Hospital in Boston, Springbrook Behavioral Health in Greenville, SC, and many others. Currently, Kristin's organization is producing over eighteen additional podcasts on the network, all dedicated to eradication of stigma around mental health and addiction disorders.

Kristin is also the CEO of EverythingEHR, a behavioral health consulting firm.

The stigma of mental illness is prevalent, and we need to shift that. Kristin had a Hijackal® home, and the too frequent first marriage to a Hijackal as a result. She knows what we talk about here on Emotional Savvy, and on my sister podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals.

Kristin is all too familiar with the challenges of mental health. I loved what she said about Hijackals:

"They use you as a waste receptacle for their unhealed wounds. Then, dump on you to get a vacation from their waste." Familiar? It was to me!

Kristin shares with us her refreshing look at why we don't recognize how we've been drained without knowing it and what we need to do to refill ourselves...in healthy ways.

Here's some interview highlights:

• How can early childhood sexual abuse set you up for having toxic people in your life as an adult
• How you can remove yourself from narcissistic relationships
• What steps you can take to move out of co-dependent relationships

CONNECT WITH KRISTIN WALKER:

Website: MentalHealthNewsRadio.com

Twitter: @mhnrnetwork

Instagram: @kristinsunanta

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Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

HELP! What About The Money When Thinking About Divorce - Episode 41

GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After Divorce

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

In this episode, Dr. Shaler introduces a new topic: prosperity. This is the first time she's addressed this.

As you know, Dr. Shaler has written many books, and one called "What You Pay Attention To Expands" offers the keys to understanding how powerful your mind is. Today, she talks about how you can purposefully and intentionally use it because, as she says, "Prosperity begins between your ears."

Prosperity is the state of thriving. Today's tips on how to draw prosperity to you--whether that is relationships, health, success, career, family, whatever kind of prosperity--can help you make shifts in your mindset that will make significant changes in your world.

GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After Divorce

Money? It's a big consideration when the topic of divorce comes up. In fact, it keeps people from actually divorcing, sometimes, for a long time! Each time they think of divorcing, they step back because of money issues. Does that sound familiar?

On the back of Michelle's book, Prosperity After Divorce, she wrote,

"Money is linked to our deepest identification with security, fulfillment, stability, and freedom." So, it's quite possible that before we even had a difficult relationship with a partner, we already had a difficult relationship with money. True?

Of course, money is a huge part of every divorce negotiation. And, it's best if you've been used to talking about money with your partner BEFORE YOU DIVORCE. But, if that has not been the case, you need the mindset, skills, and insights that Michelle is sharing in this episode.

Do you know what "compensatory spending" is?" You need to know that, and we discuss it during the episode.

Here's some interview highlights:

• How facing your money issues increase your self-confidence
• How to keep from feeling like you're free-falling financially
• Why you were always told that budgets are good ideas
• Insights into debt reduction planning, and saving...even if there is no rainy day in sight

HER FREE GIFT: Free chapter of Michelle's book, Prosperity After Divorce CLICK HERE

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE JACOBIK:

Website: MichelleJacobik.com

Twitter: @MichelleJacobik

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/michellejacobik

Facebook: Facebook.com/prosperityafterdivorce

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF SAFE: VERBALLY, PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY - Episode 40

GUEST: Susan Harrow, Creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Do people respect you? Or, do they take you for granted? Maybe, there are only one or two people who get your knickers in a twist in that way, and this needs straightening out right away.

Don't feel like a victim. There's no need. You can do something about it.

You might have "Boundary-itis!" Dr. Shaler talks about how you can empower yourself by clarifying, expressing, and maintaining your boundaries...and WHY that's essential to your well-being!

Sure, you know that setting boundaries is a good thing, but this information is SO compelling that you'll want to listen so you can put it in place right away!

GUEST: Susan Harrow, CEO of PRSecrets.com and creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls

Susan Harrow is a world renowned media coach and martial artist. She has a black belt in Aikido and is author of the best-selling book, Sell Yourself Without Selling Your Soul (HarperCollins). For the past 28 years she's run Harrow Communications, a media consultancy, where she's media trained thousands of people in verbal and non-verbal communications.

She’s created a course called True Shield: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls that teaches young women 12-24 how to protect themselves in 10 of life’s most difficult and dangerous situations that they’ll likely encounter — and stay safe. Her newest offering is a woman’s empowerment course that helps prevent sexual harassment in the workplace, in social situations and at school. Women can get free training in her Prevent Sexual Assault Vault + #NotMe Movement

In this empowering episode with Susan, we covered some new areas of keeping yourself safe. I asked Susan why she thinks we need to be empowered. Interesting answer.

Here's some interview highlights:

• Why you need to set boundaries that send a clear message and head off sexual harassment, sexual assault, tough challenges, unwanted flirtation or invasion of your space
• How you can set up situations properly to prevent arguing about your boundaries, rules, or standards
• Responding appropriately--and effectively--to intimidation
• How Susan found Akido a key to empowering herself and the girls she teaches
• Using language as self-defense to prevent an attack

And, she helps you understand how to create physical distance in threatening situations, too.

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CONNECT WITH SUSAN HARROW:

Website: PRSecrets.com

Twitter: @SoundBiteSiren

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/susanharrow

Facebook: Facebook.com/susanharrow

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

HOW TO LEAVE A HIJACKAL WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL SELF INTACT - Episode 38

GUEST: Lily Sanders, Author of Truth to Triumph: A Spiritual Guide to Finding Your Truth

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

You've likely not happy when you blurt something out, and think better of it later, right?

You want to have the presence of mind to be your best self, even in the face of irrationality, rudeness, and toxicity.

Today's show begins with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler sharing how to be able to respond, rather than react, even in difficult circumstances, with difficult, toxic people. You can bring your best self forward, even in those moments.Using these tips can significantly increase your self-confidence, too.

GUEST: Lily Sanders

Lily Sander's life experiences with domestic violence, co-parenting, and intense compassion have gifted her a purpose to write, influence and coach others. She specializes in transition and spiritual guidance. She teaches others how to stop seeing themselves as a victim, and instead, learn how to use these experiences to become an empowered expression of love and truth.

Being held captive by a relentlessly difficult, unpredictable partner is frightening. And, it gets worse when you have children! Today's guest, Lily Sanders, walked through this, and she shares her journey and the wisdom she gained from the experience. You may be in a similar situation, and her story can light your path to a safer future. A few things we discussed:

• How to get ready to face the truth of a long-term difficult relationship
• What is takes to recognize what's happening as abuse
• How "guarding your thoughts" applies to parenting
• Key things you can change in your life to experience inner peace

CONNECT WITH LILY SANDERS:

Website: LilySanders.live

Twitter: @LilySanders11

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/lilyproject1415

Facebook: Facebook.com/lilysanders.live

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

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The Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

HOW TO LIVE WITH FEW REGRETS AND MOVE TOWARDS SUCCESS

Highlights:

Dr. Shaler talks about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?"

Guest: Scott Kimbro, Author of SubmUrgency: How To Live & Die Without Regrets

Dr. Shaler offers her own tricks on how to stop wasting time on regrets

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Moving towards success is never a straightforward path...at least, not for most people. There are curves, sidelines, and setbacks. Sometimes, we're derailed. Sometimes, though, we derail ourselves. Dr. Shaler starts today's show off by talking about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?" It's a very important question to consider.

So easy to fool yourself. As long as you're busy, you're doing the right thing. Not actually true, right? You can get quite caught up in finding out if there really are 1000 staples in that little box while you're actively putting off finishing a project!

Do you know your high-value activities, and do them first? Your productivity--and your self-esteem--will rise when you stop mistaking activity for progress.

Today's guest, Scott Kimbro, is the author of SubmUrgency: How to Live and Die Without Regret . ​You define success for yourself. No matter what that is, you'll need to be able to trust yourself to make good decisions.

Scott and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about empowering yourself to confidently step up and live fully. Even if things are difficult--or have been--you can feel good about how you respond to life, and the results you create. It's possible to not recognize how urgent something really is. That's a good starting place.

In submUrgency, Scott defines three kinds of urgency in life:

" Obvious Urgency - A situation that demands immediate attention that usually has negative consequences if not addressed.

Limited/Optional Urgency - A situation that one can choose to embrace or ignore; however, if it is embraced and fulfilled with a high degree of urgency, it can have amazing results.

Hidden Urgency or SubmUrgency - A situation that is right in front of us but is not readily seen unless we are taught how to find it."

Scott Kimbro offered this wonderful quote from Pablo Picasso:

"Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone."

Wow! That's a wake-up call, isn't it? Whether that's a call to your mother, kissing your partner, or finishing your book, only you know what you want to do, and how you want to use your time. We discuss this more fully in today's show.

And, more about living without regrets from Dr. Shaler. There are a few things you can think through that will help you make decisions without regrets. She offers one big thing to think about that can help you feel good about your decisions, and reduce the likelihood of regretting your choices in life and relationships.

Learn more about the finer points of seeing and responding to these levels of urgency, and moving forward towards the life and relationships you want during today's show.

Click here for more About Scott Kimbro:

I am Scott Kimbro, a man who loves to teach. I am a Christian, husband, father, author, inspirational speaker and teacher. I, my wife, and our two daughters live in Spring Hill, Tennessee. My professional background includes accounting, banking, various managerial positions and entrepreneur of both traditional and network marketing companies.

In traditional business, I was the Chief Operating Officer of Kimbro Oil Company in Nashville, Tennessee. In the network marketing space my wife and I became Diamond Executives with a wellness company.

Click here for more About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent & ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She awakens listeners to recognize--and stop tolerating abuse from--the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author: 16 books. Host of The Relationship Help Show. She works with clients worldwide through video conferencing. You can schedule a free consultation at https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult

Dr. Shaler website: https://forRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube Channel: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

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If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Dr. Shaler opens the show with thoughts on things you might believe about yourself if you were raised by a Hijackal®

​Guest, Johanna Lynn, Clinical Hypnotherapist

All that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure. 

Dr. Shaler talks about a common issue: hoping someone will bring up a difficult situation so you don't have to.

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Raised by a Hijackal®? You Might Believe This Deep Down...and It's a Lie! 

Unless you've had a reason or taken the time to think deeply about the home your grew up in, you might not recognize that you had a relentlessly difficult, toxic parent. If you did, the things you learned before you even could walk are affecting everything, on auto-pilot. That Hijackal parent taught you who you were and what to expect from life, and that parent lied to you. Really! Listen in. 

When you recognize what you were raised in, and who you were raised by, you'll recognize the need for help to change a few things that can make your life and relationships so much more fulfilling.

Schedule a free consultation with Dr. Shaler: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult

Enjoy her videos on YouTube: httsp://youtube.com/forrelationshiphelp

GUEST: Johanna Lynn Part 1 Inherited Family Ties and Traits

Why are you comfortable being treated in ways that make you uncomfortable? Learn how your nervous system learned this, and may be settling for taking crumbs from the family table.

Families share operating systems, family patterns, family traits. Learn how your inner images of yourself and your family play out in your life now. Epigenetic patterns. 

GUEST Johanna Lynn Part 2 Inherited Family Ties and Traits

Did you have an emotionally unavailable parent? Did you have an absent parent? The loss that this created is part of your "emotional body."

Trust. Where did you learn to trust, or why not to trust? Your family! Listen as Johanna and Dr. Shaler share the impact of your family on your daily life today. 

It's easy to say to yourself, "Yes, I know. My family was tough, and I'm doing OK." You like are. The thing is, if you take the time to dive into some beliefs you have that you might not even be aware of, you can unleash the power within you to have the life, love, and success you want. Discover where you may have been shut down early on. This can limit you, and it's not necessary.

Johanna Lynn spoke of her process:

"The first thing I do is I want to take a little bit of family history from both sides so that we can make sense of what is pretty much dysfunctional of where it feels familiar, why it feels right or or common in the body to feel disrespected, to be spoken to poorly, whatever the the need and want kind of ratio that push pull between a couple can be that are immersed in high conflict, so a lot of times when we can get a little bit of family history, we can step beyond the story."

Learn more about Johann Lynn HERE

Are You Waiting For Someone Else To Go First?

Are you afraid to bring up issues, or talk about a conflict, a need, or your feelings? Many people hope their partners will bring up problems. That doesn't work well.

Dr. Shaler give you some insights into what's really going on when these are the dynamics of a relationship. More importantly, she helps you know how to approach a problem, and how to talk it through. Feel confident bringing up difficult things, and increase your chances of solving problems. Be assertive. Then, you won't be afraid of becoming aggressive.

Stay in touch. Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's TIPS FOR RELATIONSHIPS: https://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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The Relationship Help Show with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

HOW TO MANAGE UNCERTAINTY, AMBIGUITY & CHAOS IN RELATIONSHIPS

Toxic people thrive on--and, therefore create--uncertainty, ambiguity and chaos. That's how they gain power and control over people, conversations, and circumstances. Today's show will help you see where and how you are being controlled by uncertainty...even when you don't think it's possible.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you strategies for safely saying what you mean, at the time it needs to be said.

​Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty, offers a definition of uncertainty and why it can be a good thing. Who knew? Dr. Shaler asks him a whole lot of questions about this! For instance, can you be fully present and detached at the same time?

Q & A Today: My partner left me. Should I take my partner back?

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How To Learn To Say What You Mean - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

​You're often taught to bite your tongue, right? Somehow, speaking your truth is discouraged, almost as though what you have to say has no value and doesn't matter. Then, you get in the way of not speaking up when you are discounted, degraded, or verbally abused. That leads to emotional abuse. So, these insights can help you find your voice...and use it! 

GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty 

Hijackals®, those toxic people who are impossible to please and difficult to live with make it their life's work to keep you in uncertainty and second-guessing yourself. Dennis gives another view of uncertainty that is much more positive and appealing. He offers spiritual views for dealing with practical matters in a refreshing way. 

Dennis says that,

"The whole point of this book is that you'd have no control over the future. You have absolutely no control over your next breath in the present moment. So the the choice should be: how are you going to choose to experience this moment? Because it is a choice we have when we can understand that we can deal with fear differently than perhaps we have in the past. It doesn't mean fears going to go away, but it means we develop a new relationship with fear that allows us to be in charge of our experience in the moment."

Would you like to know how to know when to let go of wrongs, worries, fears, and pain? In this segment, we talk about four important pillars: choice, faith, curiosity, and action. All help you to create a life that moves in positive directions and towards manifesting the relationships and dreams you most want. 

Q&A: Should I Take My Partner Back Again? 

So many times, Hijackals® leave in a fit of righteousness to punish you. Hijackals must be right...always. You've likely noticed that. Then, they want to come back. They "love bomb" you: saying and doing all the right, loving things you've been longing to hear. Here's why you have to think clearly, remember well, and stand your ground. 

Much more for you on Dr. Shaler's website: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com

Enjoy Dr. Shaler's videos on YouTube: https://youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

Subscribe to her Tips for Relationships Newsletter: http://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Is the behavior you're upset about passive-aggressive? Dr. Shaler gives you tips for recognizing and managing passive-aggressive behaviors. They can be so frustrating and infuriating. Respond well to passive-aggressive behavior. If you don't, it will continue, and the relationship will stay stuck!

Guest: Dr. Ganz Ferrance talks about men and his book, The ME Factor: Your Systematic Guide to Getting What the Hell You Want.

#1 Introduction to Episode 35#2 What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior? 

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you recognize passive-aggressive traits. Her book, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How To Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game, is also a big help for you to know how to respond in healthier and more effective ways to the sneaky nature of passive-aggressive behavior. 

#3 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 1

Dr. Ganz wrote his book, The ME Factor, to focus on men--particularly men thirty to fifty years old--and why their stress often goes unnoticed, and why it's important for them to focus on reducing it as early as possible. Cultural conditioning has much to do with it, however, awareness can be the biggest factor. Learn what you need to do to reduce stress--physical, emotional, relationship, career stress, 

#4 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 2 

How do you strike a balance in life? How can men, in particular, find balance between taking care of themselves and their families and careers? What are the pitfalls? How do you avoid them? What do you need to be aware of to have the life you want?#5 How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

If you were raised by Hijackals® or were in relationship with one, you are going to be confused. And, the Hijackal is going to do his or her best to keep you confused, uncertain, and preferably, living in emotional chaos. The point: to keep you second-guessing yourself. Learn how to stop now. It can save your sanity!  

#6 Closing 

AFFIRMATION FOR THE WEEK 

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Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a Speaker, Author and Registered Psychologist.

For over twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.

Dr. Ganz presents his information in a straightforward, down-to- earth, no-nonsense way and does not present anything that he has not personally put his blood, sweat, and tears into. This approach has made him sought-after in media and as a public speaker. He has been interviewed on Good Morning Canada, and in Psychology Today, Ebony magazines as well as many other radio, TV shows and publications.

CONNECT WITH DR. GANZ FERRANCE

Website: DoctorGanz.com

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Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

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Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

HOW CAN I LEARN TO TRUST? Part 2

Today. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers further insights into learning to trust, and learning to trust AGAIN.

Trust is such an essential element in a healthy relationship. You may have had previous experiences with folks in your life where you sadly learned you could not trust them. This tends to color your new relationships. Dr. Shaler offers insights to help you gain a new perspective on building trust, a new way of thinking about it that can offer help and hope.

If you missed Part 1, listen to Episode 33.

DO HIJACKALS BECOME WONDERFUL WHEN THEY GET A NEW LOVE?

GUEST: Bree Bonchay, MSW, LCSW

Can a toxic partner really change? A Hijackal®?

What is up with the Hijackal leaving you after being verbally and emotionally abusive, and taking up with a new partner, all sweetness and light? Can a Hijackal really change? And, that quickly?

Does a new partner bring out the best in a narcissist? It often seems that way, doesn't it? And, then, you wonder,

"If s/he can be that happy, laughing and loving, with someone new, was it me? Was I inadequate?"

And, you know what, that's exactly what the Hijackal delights in you thinking. That's because--wait for it--everything was your fault, right?

Bree Bonchay and I take a loaded psychological phrase that is really helpful in understanding why this is all so confusing and we unpack it. You'll understand better why you have the misgivings, and why and how you can set them to rest now.

In Part 2 of the interview, interesting insights into attitude and agreeableness. You'll want to hear about this agreeableness, and it's not what you think.

Very helpful interview to understand why you have such mixed emotions when leaving a Hijackal, and then, when the Hijackal finds new "supply" and seems to be so different from the person you last knew. Listen in.

Why does it seem that the Hijackal® has become an amazing, wonderful person with the new love of their life. Is it real? Today's show will help you to see what's really going on. You need to know.

Bree Bonchay is licensed psychotherapist with almost two decades of experience working in the field of mental health and trauma recovery. She specializes in helping people recover from toxic relationships, and shares her insights about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and psychopathy in her blog FreeFromToxic. Her articles have been featured in major online magazines, she is the founder World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day, (WNAAD), which is celebrated every 1st of June, and she is on the Board of Directors for The Association for NPD/Psychopathy Educators & Survivor Treatment More About Bree Bonchay, LCSW, psychotherapist 

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the convenience of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals.  More About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

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Guest: Michael Wayne Regier, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist/Marriage Therapist

Dr. Michael Wayne Regier received his PhD from the California School of Professional psychology. Early in his career he was on the faculty in the department of psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins School of medicine. He did a post doctoral internship in couples group psychotherapy with Dr. Judy Coche in Philadelphia.

He is currently the founder and Director of The Center for Relational Excellence in Visalia where he works full time as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.

He and his wife Paula have written a book for couples called Emotional Connection: The Story and Science of Preventing Conflict and Creating Lifetime Love.

Dr. Regier works with couples in crisis and toxic relationships. Many couples have traumatic injuries due to relationship betrayals. Often couples come in on the verge of divorce looking for some way to escape their destructive cycle and rediscover the love that brought them together.

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler

YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

Free Passive-Aggressive Checklist

Free Relationship Checklist

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople 

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