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In this episode, Diana and Joy explore assumptions, fears, and challenges in giving, receiving, and asking for support.  The concept of support is in the context of anti-trans legislation that has been passed or proposed in many states.  Joy and Diana articulate the impacts of proposed anti-trans legislation, even when not likely to be passed into law, and name the burden carried of navigating the news and risks our kids and families experience.  

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In episode 61, Joy and Diana talk about their experiences with how they approached family gatherings. They discuss everything from the tone of their presentation to setting boundaries. 

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In Episode 60, Diana and Joy reflect on the latest round of legislative bills being proposed in their state; one, named the “Help Not Harm Act,” is legislation similar to that which has been passed in 20 states.  Also proposed is regulation around transgender participation in sports.  Join to hear about Joy's reflection as Samantha continues to participate in competitive volleyball, undisclosed.  

This episode references a few resources we encourage you to check out:

• Powerful testimony by Representative Ryan Clancy: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8PqsFLWXKv4
• Skylar Bailar, transgender advocate and athlete: https://www.pinkmantaray.com/
• Chris Mosier, transgender advocate and athlete: https://www.thechrismosier.com/

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Diana and Joy explore the concept of "Gender reveals" and their history in deciding whether or not to find out (before birth) what their children would be assigned at birth. They explore what the possible assignment meant to them and Diana also shares context around the historical economics of "finding out" the assignment prior to birth.

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In Episode 58, Diana and Joy share stories and their family journeys of names, including how names were selected for their gender non-conforming  children (to better reflect their identities).  They also explore how emotion arises in relation to the meanings associated with names, including the challenge of disclosure and safety when a name feels misaligned with gender expression.

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Diana and Joy start this episode discussing Diana's pre-school year meeting with Dinah's teachers. They explore being asked questions as well as finding people to answer their own questions. Who is an expert? 

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In episode 56, Diana discusses how she is handling helping Dinah's classmates misgender him less. She discusses her theories of why this is happening two years after he started at the school where he has always identified as a boy. 

Diana and Joy discuss how people's words may reflect various perspectives and not always what we imagine. 

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In episode 55, Diana and Joy share guidance and perspective on how parents and guardians might consider engaging with schools to support Transgender and gender non-conforming youth (given the changing social and political landscape).  Topics explored include facility (bathroom & locker room) use, disclosure, and preferred name and pronoun usage.

 Several resources are referenced in this episode, including: 

• Recent federal legal ruling (Early August 2023 US federal appeals court upholds ruling for student access to bathrooms & locker rooms consistent w/ gender identity) https://thehill.com/homenews/state-watch/4136441-appeals-court-upholds-ruling-granting-indiana-transgender-students-access-to-restrooms/
• Schools in transition (standards of practice for supporting transgender and gender non-conforming students) https://www.hrc.org/resources/schools-in-transition-a-guide-for-supporting-transgender-students-in-k-12-s
• GLSEN 2021 National School Climate Survey report (including insights re: benefits of inclusivity) https://www.glsen.org/research/2021-national-school-climate-survey
• FERPA (health / medical information not to be shared unless it impacts education outcomes): https://studentprivacy.ed.gov/resources/parent-guide-family-educational-rights-and-privacy-act-ferpa

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Join Joy and Diana in episode 54 as they share their personal interpretations of individual's social media posts, likes and comments.  They explore specific examples of recent social media posts (by family and others) to gauge levels of support and openness to LGBTQ+ beliefs, and how this informs their choices and decisions to engage.  

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In Episode 53, Diana and Joy respond to listeners' questions and provide updates on Clark's after-high school journey, Samantha and Clark's newest gender-affirming care, Joy's move to a more affirming school district, and disclosure. 

This episode is not only an update but a great representation of many of the aspects of life that non-binary and transgender children and families navigate. Diana and Joy share it transparently. Some are ups, some are downs, and some are a bit of both. 

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