Join us in this episode where we discuss trauma anniversary dates. These are dates that stand out as significant to the trauma survivor as the date their world changed. It could be when they learned of an affair, or the death of a loved one. Either way, anticipating the anniversary dates gives the trauma survivor a unique ability to empower themselves to create a plan that will meet their need at the date approaches, thereby helping them cope with the trauma in a more healthy way.

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Join us in this episode where we break down mutual influence in relationships. We define what it is, explore it's complexities and how to increase influence on your partner, and we discuss the difference between influence and manipulation or control.

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Join us in this episode where we breakdown abandonment trauma and the way it plays out in your relationships. We discuss the root causes of abandonment trauma, it's signs and symptoms, and of course how to help heal. If you have ever felt like someone you love is constantly going to leave you, then you can't miss this episode!

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Join us in this episode where we explore the 3 best grounding techniques that I personally use with myself and my clients. We know that complex and attachment trauma causes the 'window of tolerance' to shrink, which makes it difficult for the person to manage their triggers and reregulate themselves. With these 3 techniques you can begin to expand your window and have a powerful tool to help you when you get dysregulated.

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Join us in this episode where we break down the most important things to work on when working on oneself. I often get couples who want to start with individual therapy in order to work on themselves first. I think there is a lot of wisdom in this, only if the individual words on the right things that will actually improve the relationship.

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Join us in this episode where we discuss the debilitating role that shame plays in our lives. Shame is the most destructive emotion we have and it is intimately tied to relational trauma. We dissect and explore the difference between shame and guilt, and discuss the 4 ways that shame gets tied to trauma. We also walk through many ways to begin healing from shame. A must listen to episode!

Join us in this episode were we discuss the importance of feelings. We talk about primary and secondary emotions and how to tell the difference between them. We also discuss the three reasons why feelings are important, not only in therapy, but in life. If you have ever wanted to know why therapist place such importance on feelings, then you need to listen to this episode.

Join us in this new episode where we discuss attachment injuries. What is an attachment injury? It is a special kind of wound that often emerges in an attached relationship when one partner fails to 'show up' or be there for the other partner in a critical moment of need. This leaves the injured partner saying, "never again." It shatters the assumptions about having a partner to rely on, and therefore, shifts the relationship from a source of comfort and soothing, to one of danger. A must listen to episode!

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Join us in this episode where we breakdown and discuss how to resolve conflict with an anxious attachment partner. We review with anxious attachment style, put it into context of the relationship and provide advice on how to best resolve conflict. A great compliments to Episode 62 on How To Resolve Conflict With An Avoidant Partner. Listen to both episodes with your partner for the greatest impact!

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Join us in this episode as well discuss the importance of playing as a couple. We outline different ways couples can play, such as sharing hobbies, creative outlets, or physical activities such as hiking or camping. We also discuss the benefits of relearning how to play as a couple. This episode hopes to inspire you to let go of your problems for a little while and create some shared play experiences that create a deeper bond and some joy in your relationship.