Traumaramadingdong

Like, what? Just out here longing all the goddamn time. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan talk about longing through the lens of IFS, Enneagram, Mary C. Lamia's research, and of course, Michael Jackson, Bruce Springsteen, and ABBA (traumaabbadingdong). They're joined by Jonathan's twin, Dove, who opens up about their experience with longing from a non-binary perspective. 

Nothing like a little betrayal to keep your attachment fears goin' strong! In this episode, Remy and Jonathan dive into the different ways betrayal can look - (romantic! familial! societal! and - ooh lala - self-betrayal!). They're joined by psychotherapist Sam McIntyre - whose lab coat look was v kewt, FYI - to look at all the ways we heal and get back to trusting.

Why. Are. People. Out. There. Gaslighting. Cut. That. Shit. Out. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan unpack the mind-bending, manipulative world of gaslighting: what it looks like, how we know it's happening, how it affects us, and how we heal. They're joined by Manhattan Wellness Center therapist Jennifer Teplin, who leads us through some v helpful tips and tricks for getting TF out of toxic situations with gaslighters. 

Fathers, fuckbois, something else that starts with F. This week, Remy and Jonathan march boldly into the world of emotional unavailability to get to the bottom of this bummer issue. What's up with not having our emotional needs met by our parents? What's up with anxious attachment style folks being all about avoidant attachment style folks? WHAT'S UP WITH FUCKBOIS?? They're joined by marriage and family therapist Julia Willinger, and she's a smart fuckin' babe and a sweet sweet Cancer. So.

WE ARE NEVER WRONG. Except when we are and nosediving into a shame spiral. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan talk about all the ways we can be wrong, why being right is so important to us, and the nuanced world of feeling justified. PLUS, they play Three Wrongs and a Right and it's pretty dang funny. 

If you haven't secretly smoldered over someone else's life, looks, love, annoyingly wild success - have you even lived, henny? In this episode, Remy and Jonathan talk about the various ways jealousy and envy have taken a poo on their lives, go deep on jealousy's relationship to shame, and look at the ways we heal that secret resentment. 

TW: This episode discusses sexual assault, and may be triggering to some listeners. Please check in with yourself before diving into this one!

Art by @frizzkidart

This week on the pod, Remy and Jonathan talk to wealth coach Morgan Blackman about money trauma (WOOF). This episode's got everything from shoplifting avocados, to being abandoned by preacher dads, to meditating your way into that cash flow.

Remember when pandemics were just that thing they made psychological thrillers about? In this episode, Remy and Jonathan are joined by licensed psychotherapist Amy Whelan for a pandemic deep dive, from extrovert anxiety, to the disproportionate effects on people of color, to side-eying all those Tinder dudes who swear they're social distancing.

Romantic rejection: It's the goddamn worst. In this episode, Remy and Jonathan unpack moments of unrequited love, all the ways it can look, and what helps get us through.