Welcome back, Thriver gang. In this episode of Triggered but Thriving, trauma therapist and Asentriarc founder Sarah Ferland Doherty dives deep into the most essential tool for healing: boundaries.
Whether you're a people-pleaser, emotionally burnt out, or constantly second-guessing yourself, this one is for you. Sarah explores how boundaries aren’t just something you set, they’re something you embody. And they are your birthright.
Together, we unpack the three foundational types of boundaries:
- Physical boundaries (space, safety, and consent)
- Emotional boundaries (filters, force fields, and family triggers)
- Body-based boundaries (your nervous system’s energy limits)
You’ll learn why boundaries are not about controlling others but about honouring yourself. Sarah breaks down how to recognize your needs, set and hold boundaries even when it’s uncomfortable, and start building tolerance for the big emotions that often follow: guilt, grief, fear, and self-doubt.
This episode includes:
Real-life boundary scripts you can use today
A vulnerable story about Sarah’s own “too much” moment
Insight on family dynamics, burnout, and people-pleasing
A reminder that healing is messy, but you’re doing it
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why is setting boundaries so hard for me?”, you’re about to find out and feel a lot less alone.
Timestamps:00:00 Welcome back, Thrivers01:40 Why boundaries matter in healing04:15 Boundaries 101: What they really are09:30 Physical boundaries and trauma triggers17:18 Emotional boundaries as your inner filter24:45 The body's boundaries and burnout32:55 What boundaries are not: Misuse and control36:00 Flexible vs. rigid boundaries42:00 Emotional boundaries as self-protection49:15 Communicating boundaries with “I” statements54:10 Handling disrespect or boundary pushback58:05 How to discover your needs and tune in1:02:40 Sarah’s personal story on losing herself1:10:10 Guilt, grief, and why boundaries feel hard1:14:05 Scripts to start practicing boundaries1:16:25 Final words: You are already thriving, and next episode
Next up: Episode 3 — The Self-Compassion Era
Because healing without kindness just doesn’t work.
Connect with Sarah at www.asentriarc.com
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