Sermon preached on 1 Timothy 3:1-7 by Rev. W. Reid Hankins during the Morning Worship Service at Trinity Presbyterian Church (OPC) on 11/13/2016 in Novato, CA.
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Rev. W. Reid Hankins, M.Div.
1 Timothy 3:1-7
11/13/16
“Husband of One Wife”
If you have been here a while, you probably notice that my sermon style has changed slightly as we’ve been going through 1 Timothy. Given that it is a small book and the nature of it, I’ve been intentionally slowing down and often taking very small portions of it to preach on. When you do that, it tends to make the sermons more of a topical sermon than an expository one. But there are times to do that, even though I don’t typically do that. Well, I mention that because we are going to be getting more of this over the next few weeks. We are in that passage of Scripture that talks about the requirements for elders. As we start now to dig into the specific qualifications for elders, the messages will especially seem a bit more topical. But I believe it will be helpful for us to slow down on this occasion to consider each of these various qualifications.
So, in today’s message we will be honing in on verse 2 and its requirement that elders be the husband of one wife, literally a one-woman man. This is listed second here and obviously has a place of prominence in the list. This makes sense of course. Matters of sexuality have always been a hot issue in the church and its leadership. That is certainly still the case today. The church needs godly leadership in the areas of marriage and sexuality.
As we meditate on this requirement today, we’ll approach this in three points. First, we’ll consider what this requirement does not mean to be a husband of one wife. Second, we’ll consider what this does mean to be a husband of one wife. Third, we’ll see this applied in regards to sexual immorality in the church, in both the past and the present.
So then, first, let’s consider what this doesn’t mean. I’ll mention two things. First this doesn’t mean that you must be married to be an elder. Believe it or not, some have argued for this. Similarly, when they see the requirement in verse 4 to have their children in submission, the same people tend to think that requires the elder to also have at least two children. Now, I can appreciate why they might want to infer that. But that is handling language in a bit of a wooden way. That becomes clear when you use Scripture to interpret Scripture. When you do that, you see that singleness is not a sin. You also see that singleness is not a hindrance to being in ministry, but is a help for ministry.
We see this, for example, in 1 Corinthians 7. Turn there with me. In verses 1 and 2, he begins by mentioning that singleness is a good thing, but in general people should be married because of the temptation to sexual immorality. Verse 5 drives this home by commanding the married couple to not deprive each other sexually, lest they fall prey to sexual immorality. But in verses 6 and 7 he clarifies his position on marriage. He speaks of how some like himself may have the gift of singleness. Verse 9 explains that this gift of singleness includes the ability to exercise self-control in terms of sexuality, specifically that they aren’t just burning the whole time with sexual desire. Then if you drop down to verses 32 and 33, you see there that he talks about why singleness is better. He says that if you are single, you can focus on the things of the Lord. Verse 35 explains that this means you can serve God without distraction. He says otherwise, if you are married, you’ll have to devote time and energy toward serving and pleasing your spouse.
Jesus said a similar thing in Matthew 19:12, that some might not marry for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He added, “He who is able to accept it, let him accept it.” In other words, Jesus acknowledges that not everyone has this gift of singleness, but if you can use it fo[...]