Try, Try Again with Katherine Velez

Why is it so hard to say goodbye and what do we miss when we don't? In this episode, we will examine the benefits of healthy detachment and the elements of how to have a meaningful goodbye.  Also, we will practice a healthy goodbye in that this, episode 50, will be the final episode of Try, Try Again with Katherine Velez. It is a goodbye so please don't avoid it. Episodes will continue to be available.  As always, you can continue to reach me at katherinekempvelez.com or I will see you in session.   

This episode looks at questions that sometimes arise around therapy such as how is your relationship with your therapist different from any other relationship you will have? What is psychotherapy and what is the ultimate goal? Is talking to yourself just as effective as talking to a therapist? The answers might surprise you.   

How we attach in our most intimate interpersonal relationships can drive addiction and misuse of substances and behaviors. This episode looks at one compilation couple and how the addiction is a symptom, a consequence and a maladaptive solution, to one's learned inability to sustain healthy and satisfying relationships, often with self and others. A learned inability is hopeful because that means it can also be unlearned.  

This is the first of several episodes addressing addiction in relationship to self and others. In order to understand addiction, we must first define it and that is today's episode. It is important to have an agreed upon definition and I encourage you to bring this to our time together. If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, please reach out to a therapist and perhaps share this episode and/or the resources it contains.

Getting older is often a source of fear and worry. Much of that is related to how we have seen others age and our fear of the unknown. In this episode we look at the benefits of aging, and there are many, as well as what we can do now to help improve ourselves as we continue this earthly journey. As always you can reach me at katherinekempvelez.com.

Relational betrayal is heartbreaking, violating, traumatic, and not uncommon. It can be devastating, but it can also be transformative. In this episode we look at the most important factors in deciding whether to stay in the relationship and the two most important questions that need to be answered. As always, you can reach me at katherinekempvelez.com. Please bring any feedback or questions into our sessions together.      

Today's episode continues to look at relationship and marriage, offering perspectives to help find the will to do the work, embrace the growth, go back to the beginning, and truly explore the meaning of giving yourselves to one another. As always, you can reach me at katherinekempvelez.com with any questions or insights.  

Do you find yourself arguing in your relationship, usually about small things? Does it feel like you are not connecting, not being heard, and moving farther apart? Today's episode features a communication technique to help you and your partner become more emotionally connected and, when practiced, reduce or even eliminate much arguing or bickering. Additionally, this episode might introduce you to a different way of thinking about how to make progress in your life and your relationships based on an Eastern philosophy.    

If you are married, considering marriage or are divorced, today’s episode might be of interest to you.  You have the ability to improve your relationship and, perhaps, even avoid divorce now or in the future.  Why do people marry and what is the single biggest risk factor to a healthy relationship?  As always, you can reach me at katherinekempvelez.com with any questions or if you need referrals.  

Seeing our way through the darkness and pain can feel overwhelming and impossible at times. Our mind often goes to questions like, "Why does it hurt so much?" and "Why do I have to be in such pain?" If you are suffering right now, today's episode is meant to hopefully shed a little light on the path of enduring and using the pain you might be feeling, finding comfort and release along the way. As always, if you need to reach me, you can at katherinekempvelez.com.