Try, Try Again with Katherine Velez

Are the opinions of others more important to you than your own? Do you struggle when others are uncomfortable? Do things need to be, or seem, perfect? This episode addresses some of the core steps to knowing and loving yourself, which, in turn, has a powerful impact of being able to set healthy boundaries and let go of needing others to approve.  

How often during an average week do you experience anger? Are you struggling in relationship because of anger and your difficulty in expressing your feelings? If you would like to examine why you're angry and how to control this important and sometimes dangerous and destructive emotion, this podcast might help.  As always let me know how you're feeling at katherinekempvelez.com.  

Let's start this year with more learning and better sleep. In this episode we look at some of the bad habits we might have picked up in 2020 and how to improve our sleep and our brain with science and an old-school, stress-reduction sleep remedy. This might surprise you.   

The holidays are not always a time of merriment and pleasure. For some it is a time of mourning and pain. At the very least, for many, it is stressful and filled with pressure. Do you sometimes feel empty after the busyness of the holiday season and why is that?  Are you seeking and searching for something that seems elusive? I hope today's message speaks to you and, if it does, please reach out. 

The expectations and need to accomplish things can overwhelm us, particularly this time of year and this particular year. It sometimes robs us of the joy and contentedness in our lives and our parenting. In this week's episode I have no answers, but I have questions for you. As you listen consider if any of these questions resonate with you and, if they do, perhaps it is an opportunity to look at changes that might ensure a greater quality of your life and your relationships.   

How are you really feeling these days? Are you feeling stuck, frustrated, maybe annoyed with yourself that you aren't handling things the way you think (or that voice in your head tells you) you SHOULD be handling them? Did you think you had things somewhat together and now, with another stay-at-home mandate, does it feel like everything is falling apart again? Today's episode acknowledges this communal feeling we are experiencing and how we can help ourselves and one another. If you haven't already, please refer to my earlier podcasts on managing during Covid and Self Care. 

Do you tell yourself that asking for what you need is selfish and that the needs of others are more important than yours? If so, where did you learn this? Asking for what you need and want is not only okay, it is healthy and necessary.  In this week's episode we talk about four steps to identifying and asking for what you need using self-exploration, strong boundaries, and good communication.   

Are you struggling to get a full night's sleep? Do you toss and turn at night or have trouble falling or staying asleep? Are you feeling fatigued during the day?  In this episode we explore the importance of sleep and things you can do to enhance your ability to fall and stay asleep as well as ways to shift your thinking and allow your unconscious brain to work during sleep. Try these techniques for two weeks and let me know your results at Katherinekempvelez.com. Sleep well.

Do you sometimes feel you’re having the same arguments with your partner or loved ones over and over? Do you often feel your words didn’t land as intended and resulted in miscommunication that dissolved into an argument or disagreement? In today’s episode I’ll share with you two little words with the power to change your communications and your relationships.  

Do you find yourself struggling with communication in your most important relationships? Were you doing just fine until Covid, politics, and then, at least in California, months of smoke seemed to stress your relationship and challenge your ability to listen with empathy and validation? You are not alone and maybe it's time to get back to communication basics. This episode features an amazing woman and skilled couples therapist, Yasmine Binghalib, discussing some of the communication skills needed to increase our relationship satisfaction and emotional connection.