Has anyone ever said to you, "You just don't get it!"? You may have been listening but you failed to show that you understand what they are saying and what you think they might be feeling.  In this short video, I explain there are three steps to showing someone you understand. 

Here are the points I cover: 

1. Listen and empathize - Pay attention, focus and think about what the person is saying to you. As you do that, imagine how you would feel if that happened to you. Would you feel frustrated, angry, happy, sad?  

2. Repeat back to the person in your own words what you think they said and how they are feeling. This is why you have to pay attention. You need to verbalize what you heard and then what you think they are feeling. Don't worry about getting it absolutely correct, just do you best. Something is better than nothing. 

3. Ask - "Is that it?" or "Did I get it right?" You want the person speaking to expound or clarify what they are saying to you or you want them to let you know you got it. Either way, they will feel that you are trying to understand what they are trying to say to you. If they bring up something that isn't clear, it's also ok to ask questions, then repeat that back to them and ask again if that's it. 

This continues until you hear the person say yes, you got it. Now you know the person feels understood.  This will greatly improve the quality of your communication and the strength of your relationship.  I hope you enjoyed this and found it helpful. I'd love to read your comments. 

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 Would you like to know how to manage your finances without ruining your marriage? This recording will give you seven easy to follow steps so that you and your spouse can stop fighting about money, agree on your priorities and set up a system that will help you reach your financial goals.  

If you need help getting on the same page with your spouse, this video will help: https://youtu.be/AxDxDuSn91s or listen to this podcast episode: https://anchor.fm/turnituppodcast/episodes/How-to-resolve-conflict-without-losing-your-temper-e1hg90n

For more information about my marriage coaching ministry, please take a look at https://turnitup.coach.  

Also, to book a free discovery call with me so that I can help you have the lifelong marriage that you really want, use this link:  https://calendly.com/kellydupee 

You are also invited to join my free Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup 

To order a copy of my book click on https://turnitup.coach/book

Every marriage needs this. What do you think your marriage needs? Does it need better communication, more affection, more time with each other? While all of these are good things, let me suggest that  every marriage needs a lifeguard!   

Recently I signed up to do a triathlon which consisted of a 1100 yard swim in a lake, a 22 mile bike ride and a 6 mile run. On the day of the race, when I got in the water for the swim, something happened that changed my life. I learned a lesson that day that can be applied to your marriage.   This recording will help you have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Every marriage needs this and I hope you will be inspired and encouraged by it.   

For more information about my marriage coaching ministry, please take a look at www.turnitup.coach. 

Also, to book a free discovery call with me so that I can help you get the help you need, use this link:  https://calendly.com/kellydupee  

You are also invited to join my free Facebook group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup  

You can get my book at www.turnitup.coach/book

Would you like to have a lifelong marriage? I'm sure you are looking for love that lasts so that you can have a lifelong marriage. It starts with making a good choice of who to marry. Here's my story of dating and then trusting God to bring me his best for my wife.   

I hope this recording will inspire and help you. If it does, please comment, share, like, subscribe or review.  

If you'd like to know how to HAVE a lifelong marriage, get a copy of my book, Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Here's where you can get it: www.turnitup.coach/book  

Also, you're invited to join my free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup 

For more free marriage resources and to book a free call with me, go to my website: www.turnitup.coach

Would you like to have a lifelong marriage? I'm sure you are looking for love that lasts so that you can have a lifelong marriage. It starts with making a good choice of who to marry. Here's my story of dating and then trusting God to bring me his best for my wife.   

I hope this recording will inspire and help you. If it does, please comment, share, like, subscribe or review.  

If you'd like to know how to HAVE a lifelong marriage, get a copy of my book, Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want. Here's where you can get it: www.turnitup.coach/book  

Also, you're invited to join my free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/turnitupgroup 

For more free marriage resources and to book a free call with me, go to my website: www.turnitup.coach

Another very common mistake couples makes is using "You" instead of "I" statements. This short recording will show you how to change that and have productive and healthy conversations that will strengthen you marriage. I look forward to seeing your comments, reviews, likes and shares. Enjoy! For more free marriage resources, go to www.turnitup.coach

How to resolve conflict in your marriage without losing your temper. All marriages have conflicts and challenges. Do you know how to resolve those conflicts?   This recording will give you practical tools to resolve your conflicts without losing your temper and damaging your marriage. You will learn how to set the groundwork first with your husband or wife and then how to bring up an issue in a way that will be productive so that you can resolve conflicts and grow closer together.  

If you found this helpful, please subscribe, like, share, comment, or review.  Here's my number if you'd like some help: 626-804-1731  

You're invited to join my free Facebook group at https://turnitup.coach/facebookgroup

For more free marriage resources, go to www.turnitup.coach

Jesus is waiting for you to bring him into your marriage. This recording will give you five ways to do that. As you bring Jesus into your marriage, he will bless it and help you be the best husband or wife you can be. If you want to see a good marriage get better or to help a marriage that is struggling, invite Jesus to be in it and to heal and strengthen it. This recording will tell you how and give you a clear action plan to take.  If you have any questions or want some prayer, please call me at 626-804-1731.   If you found this helpful, please share, subscribe, comment, review or rate.   You're invited to join my free Facebook group at https://turnitup.coach/facebookgroup 

More free marriage resources are available at www.turnitup.coach

Do you feel like giving up on your marriage? Or if you know someone who feels like giving up and ending their marriage, please share this with them.   

If you feel like giving up, I understand that things are bad in your marriage and you just can't see how they could possibly get better. Before you walk away and get a divorce, ask yourself two questions: 

1. What does God want me to do? 

2. What miracle does God want to do in my marriage?  

What does god want you to do – He wants you to make your marriage work. 

Here’s how: 

1. Get help! Some things are not DIY 

2. Focus on changing yourself, not your spouse.  

3. Learn how and  change the things you can   

4. Accept the things you can’t change 

5. Act like you love them, even if you don’t feel like it  

Instead of giving up, trust God to bless you as you honor your marriage vow. Believe that God will do a miracle in your marriage as you get the help you need.   Please share this with someone you might know whose marriage is struggling and thinking that divorce is their only option.   

If you or someone you know have any questions or want some help, call me at 626-804-1731. If I don't answer, I promise I'll call you back!  

For more marriage resources, check out my website: www.turnitup.coach. 

You're invited to join my free Facebook group: https://turnitup.coach/facebookgroup

You can get a copy of my book at www.turnitup.coach/book

Is there something in your life or marriage that needs to change? Perhaps there is something that isn't working or could be better. This recording will give you the Four D's of change that will help you figure out where you want to go and how to get there. I learned this from my pastor, Dr. Jim Reeve, Senior Pastor of Faith Church in West Covina California.  

 If you found this helpful, please comment, share, like, rate or review.  

For more free resources on marriage and relationships, go to my website: www.turnitup.coach 

You are also invited to join my free Facebook group: Turn it Up! - a group about relationships and marriage. 

To get a copy of Turn it Up! - how to have the lifelong marriage that you really want, go to www.turnitup.coach/book