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The Twogether Podcast is also for those who are single. Figuring out who you are in diferent ways will help you make a better informed decision in who you should date and maybe one day marry. One key way to get a better understanding of who you are is by taking the DiSC Profile. God created us into unique individuals and by knowing your personality style, it can help you pursue the right relationship for you. If you are single and hope to be married, today’s podcast will help give you the tools in looking for that unique person God made for you. Resources mentioned in the Podcast include:

• DiSC Classic Profile (Paper version):https://www.discprofile.com/products/disc-classic

• DiSC Profile (free):https://discpersonalitytesting.com/free-disc-test/

• The Mystery of Marriage, Mike Mason: https://www.mikemasonbooks.com/

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If you would like to talk to a pastor or person on staff about your marriage, please reach out to [email protected]. We would also love to hear from you as well as any future topics you would like us to talk about.

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To find more about:

Dr. Kelly Bonewell - you can find him on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter

Samuel Jones - search for @wisdomcentercounseling on Instagram and Facebook

How well do you know your spouse? Have you ever considered how your two personalities mesh or create friction? In this episode, Dr. Kelly Bonewell and Samuel Jones discuss the DiSC personality assessment and what it could mean for your marriage. This episode goes over specifics in how you and your spouse can compliment your different and unique personalities.

DiSC Classic Profile (Paper version): https://www.discprofile.com/products/disc-classic

DiSC Profile (free): https://discpersonalitytesting.com/free-disc-test/

Gordon Allport: https://www.verywellmind.com/gordon-allport-biography-2795508

If you would like to talk to a pastor or person on staff about your marriage, please reach out to [email protected].

To find more about:

Dr. Kelly Bonewell - you can find him on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter

Samuel Jones - search for @wisdomcentercounseling on Instagram and Facebook

Families are composed in various different ways. In this episode we focus on stepfamilies, also known as blended families. Understanding that dating, coparenting, and blending one’s family is a journey, allows for the proper time to be taken to grow personally and familially.

Good Reads- The Smart Stepfamily (Ron Deal), The Smart Stepdad (Ron Deal), The Smart Stepmom ( Ron Deal & Laura Petherbridge ), The Smart Stepfamily Marriage (Ron Deal & David Olsen)

Remarriage at Ada: Email us at [email protected] or Go to our website: https://www.adabible.org/care/

To find more about:

Dr. Kelly, search for Kelly Bonewell on Instagram|Facebook|Twitter

Samuel, search for @wisdomcentercounseling on Instagram|Facebook

2020 brought challenges we were not prepared for as men. The season also showed the residency of men to grow as husbands, fathers, and leaders of their homes. In this episode, Samuel and Dr. Kelly interview Mario Franciscotty, Executive Director of Wellspring Counseling in Grand Rapids, Michigan. Listen up for several intimate and relatable details from their collective stories as they share therapeutic advice and lived experience. For more information on the resources mentioned see below:

Love Bank Analogy- https://www.marriagebuilders.com/the-love-bank.htm

Good Reads- Love and Respect (Emerson Eggerichs), Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts (Les and Leslie Parrot), Sacred Marriage (Gary Thomas), Boundaries (Henry Cloud), The Smart Stepfamily (Ron Deal)

Marriage Assessment- www.symbis.com

Marriage Mentors- please email [email protected] for more information

Scripture Guide

Ephesians 5:21-33; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7; 2 Corinthians 12:9-11

To find more about:

Mario Franciscotty, check out https://wellspring-counseling.org

Dr. Kelly, search for Kelly Bonewell on Instagram|Facebook|Twitter

Samuel, search for @wisdomcentercounseling on Instagram|Facebook

Couples are the lifeblood of Ada Bible Church. Their involvement, service, generosity, and support have helped this church thrive for its 30+ years of existence. As apart of marriages at Ada, we believe hearing from seasoned marriages can give experience, wisdom, and insight that may be needed in challenging times. In this episode we interview Jim and Jane Ryerson. They are attenders at the Cascade Campus and serve as marriage mentors and administrative support for our Care Department, respectively.

To find more about:

Jim Ryerson, check out https://salesoctane.com

Dr. Kelly, search for Kelly Bonewell on Instagram|Facebook|Twitter

Samuel, search for @wisdomcentercounseling on Instagram|Facebook

We all know communication is hard work. In this episode, Samuel and Dr. Kelly share how to enact active listening as well as practice skills that help couples survive high conflict situations. Mentioned in this podcast is the resource "Crucial Conversations" a book by Grenny, McMillan, and Switzler. Here is a note about this book:

When stakes are high, opinions vary, and emotions run strong, you have three choices: Avoid a crucial conversation and suffer the consequences; handle the conversation badly and suffer the consequences; or read Crucial Conversations and discover how to communicate best when it matters most. Crucial Conversations gives you the tools you need to step up to life's most difficult and important conversations, say what's on your mind, and achieve the positive resolutions you want. You'll learn how to:

• Prepare for high-impact situations with a six-minute mastery technique

• Make it safe to talk about almost anything

• Be persuasive, not abrasive

• Keep listening when others blow up or clam up

• Turn crucial conversations into the action and results you want

To find more about:

Dr. Kelly search for Kelly Bonewell on Instagram|Facebook|Twitter

Samuel search for @wisdomcentercounseling on Instagram|Facebook

Today Samuel and Kelly did a quick look at the essentials of a mentoring meeting. Those elements would include 1) Listening, 2) Information and biblical wisdom, 3) homework and accountability and 4) Prayer. During the podcast, we talked about an important book entitled The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce by Judith Wallerstein. This excerpt is from the publisher:

In this compelling, thought-provoking book, Judith Wallerstein explains that, while children do learn to cope with divorce, it in fact takes its greatest toll in adulthood, when the sons and daughters of divorced parents embark on romantic relationships of their own. Wallerstein sensitively illustrates how children of divorce often feel that their relationships are doomed, seek to avoid conflict, and fear commitment. Failure in their loving relationships often seems to them preordained, even when things are going smoothly. As Wallerstein checks in on the adults she first encountered as youngsters more than twenty-five years ago, she finds that their experiences mesh with those of the millions of other children of divorce, who will find themselves on every page.

You can find the link below. If you enjoy the podcast please rate and review it on Apple podcasts. This will help by making it more available to those who may want to listen.

https://www.amazon.com/Unexpected-Legacy-Divorce-Landmark-Study/dp/0786886161/ref=sr11?dchild=1&keywords=wallerstein+judith&qid=1607012292&sr=8-1

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This episode is a deep dive in discussing what the marriage mentorship ministry looks like at Ada Bible Church. Dr. Kelly shares one of his favorite marriage mentor experiences and their lasting impact. Additionally discussed are concepts like the Love Bank and the Five Love Languages.

For more Information on what we share, follow these links:

• Marriage Builders Website: https://www.marriagebuilders.com/a-summary-of-dr-harleys-basic-concepts.htm

• His Needs, Her Needs, William Harley: https://www.amazon.com/His-Needs-Her-Building-Marriage/dp/0800737717/ref_11?dchild-1&keytwords=william+harley&qid=1606921238&s=books&sr=1-1

• The Five Love Languages website: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/

In this very first episode, our hosts, Dr. Kelly Bonewell and Samuel Jones provide a glimpse into the world of their lives, marriages, and what to expect from the TwoGether podcast.