Unbinary Life

Most of us have all faced peer pressure at some or the other point in our lives. 

Peer pressure can be traumatic and it could lead to lower self-esteem for a lot of people, especially during school and college days.

In this episode of the Unbinary Life Podcast, we try to understand, why peer pressure exists, why people entertain peer pressure, and what you can do to stay away from it. 

But can peer pressure be healthy too??? 

In order to know, please listen to this short episode and hop you enjoy listening to it!

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Are you someone dealing with anger issues? 

Do you have that one friend, family member, or colleague who always shouts or yells at people and finds it hard to control their temperament? Then this episode is something that you should share with them. 

Anger has a detrimental impact on our lives yet we take it so lightly that oh, he or she is short-tempered. He or she always gets angry, let it be, ignore them.

Maybe that person needs help or some intervention of some sort to come out of it. 

When we say love binds relationships, on the other side, anger destroys relationships over a period of time. 

In this episode, Kundan and Ruchi open up about their anger issues. How Ruchi still struggles with it and wants to work upon it and Kundan shares one of his life experiences where he really lost it too bad and then how he started working upon himself to become calmer.

Without disclosing much, we'll let you listen to this! :)

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A growth mindset means that you believe your intelligence and talents can be developed over time.

A fixed mindset means that you believe intelligence is fixed—so if you’re not good at something, you might believe you’ll never be good at it.

HBR Says: 

Individuals who believe their talents can be developed (through hard work, good strategies, and input from others) have a growth mindset. They tend to achieve more than those with a more fixed mindset (those who believe their talents are innate gifts). This is because they worry less about looking smart and they put more energy into learning. When entire companies embrace a growth mindset, their employees report feeling far more empowered and committed; they also receive far greater organizational support for collaboration and innovation. 

It’s hard work, but individuals can gain a lot by deepening their understanding of growth-mindset concepts and the processes for putting them into practice. It gives them a richer sense of who they are, what they stand for, and how they want to move forward.

In recent times, “growth mindset” has become a buzzword for many, even working its way into their mission statements but very few people have the understanding of the mindset itself. Let’s explore with us through the podcast audio. 

Care is wonderful thing.

As always, "to care" usually there are two sides, the healthy and the unhealthy side of it. 

If there has been a low time in a person or self, extra care goes a long way, but if again there are multiple such instances of low times, be careful. Stepen Karpman calls it a drama triangle, where two points are that of a victim and the other as rescuer. It happens mostly in friendship, romantic relationships and on the process of getting marriages.

Country like India, our movies which is mostly based out of Love affair contributes a lot.

But there’s a difference between healthy caring and corrosive careaholism and Forbes team call it Careaholic! It works similar to influence of alcohol… I kind of agree to it.

Caring is good, infact very good till we know if we know to balance it right. We all humans are expected to take care of self or each other but we should not and big Not depend on other taking care of us or we taking care of others.

We are fascinating creatures! Aren't we?

We live in a world where most people find it hard to be their real selves and spend most of their time in the imaginary world or thinking about the ideal version of themselves.

And again, most of the time, the ideal, real, and imaginary versions of ourselves are significantly different from each other. That creates a huge mess in our minds.

Hasn't it happened with you that you have gone on a date with someone and you try to impress the other person and project yourself as an ideal version of yourself? 

But in reality, you may be far away from that projection of yourself. You behaved in a particular way anyway because you wanted to impress someone. The person is impressed and you start dating and then conflicts start arising. You cannot fake your ideal self on a day-to-day basis for a long time. Your real self starts showing up and the other person may or may not like that version of you. 

This is just one of the examples. We do the same in job interviews, marriage proposals, client meetings, and so on.

We fight to be who we are not! Or we present ourselves as someone we are not! And then we are unhappy!

In this episode, we build up from the basic on Concept of Self, our 2nd episode and try and understand:

Not sure if you can feel the energy of this episode while listening, this was our very first offline recording away from virtual video calls and we were excited to do it in-person. 

Hope you enjoy it as much as we did! Happy listening! :)

And if you haven't listened to Part 1 of Concept of self, you can listen to it here.

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We all have beliefs and feelings. And we have beliefs about ourselves, about the world around us. 

All this is because of our experiences. As a child, we encounter some events and it has an impact on us. That is how our beliefs are formed.

What is important is to understand that these beliefs are not permanent.

Many a time, we are living somebody else’s life. We are living somebody else’s version of our life. 

We have to remember that we are the author of our own story. We are not another person. There is only one version of us.

The biggest revelation for people is that – “Whatever you are thinking, are your thoughts. If they are your thoughts, then you have the power to change them.” It is that simple!

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And with that, we would like to say, that go and listen to this wonderful guest episode that we did with Kate Hoyle, a Hypnotherapist and a wonderful human being who likes to work with teenagers on mental health. You can find her on Instagram, check out the hyperlink on her name, and feel free to speak to her. 

We have been fortunate to speak to her and were awed by her giving nature.

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Is there anyone who hasn't had any expectations from others in life?

A lot of people have said in the past that the key to happiness is not to expect anything from anyone.

As human beings, we all have this tendency to expect from others. And when those expectations are unfulfilled, we feel upset, angry, disappointed, or are taken aback. 

But have you ever wondered, is it the expectancy that hurts or dependency on someone that hurts us more?

In this podcast, Kundan and Ruchi discuss this topic and tell us the use of two thermometers that we can use in life to help us overcome these situations.

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Has it ever happened with you that you encountered something unfortunate - maybe some news of a financial loss, failure in achieving a goal, job rejection, etc. and after that, your entire day went for a toss because knowingly or unknowingly you invited a lot of bad events yourself?

In this episode, Ruchi shares her experience of a recent event where unknowingly she messed up her day and indulged in an unhealthy argument with a friend because of an uncontrollable event that happened somewhere else.

We are sure you might have done something similar in your life too at some time. 

Towards the end of this episode, Ruchi shares how calming our mind can potentially help us to invite other bad events that are controllable from our side.

Hope you enjoy listening to it. If you like this episode, don't forget to share it with your friends or on social media. You can even write to us at - [email protected] or follow us on Instagram and on LinkedIn. You can even rate us on whichever podcast platform you are listening to. :)

Has it ever happened to you that are studying or working and suddenly you start feeling too anxious?

Or, you had a fight or a disagreement with a loved one, continuous back and forth of statements and then anxiety starts hitting you?

Sounds familiar?

In this episode if the Unbinary Life Podcast, we try to understand anxiety and how can we deal with it. 

Can we overcome it completely? NO, that's not possible! We would be lying if we say yes that we have a full-proof solution.

Being Unbinary people, you know that's the last thing that we will say. But yes, we can work towards dealing in those anxiety-filled situations positively. 

We were delighted to have Arnab Ghosh in this episode with us, who is an engineer and a content writing professional. We are so grateful to Arnab for being vulnerable to share his life experiences with us and how we all can benefit from those.

We'd be talking about:

We are sure that you will find glimpses of you in this podcast conversation and we hope that by the end of this podcast, you go away with some pointers that can help you overcome your anxiety.

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In order to please someone else, will you destroy your own peace of mind? Should you do so or where do you need to draw a line between your personal space and your equation with others? Who decides that? 

In this episode, we are trying to find:

How many times have you encountered situation wherein you are taking care of yourself and protecting yourself from a bad situation and then someone says, "hey you are being so selfish, you are not even thinking about me."?

The debate between self-care and being selfish is not new. 

In this episode, we again have a heartfelt conversation with Kanika Sarda, a young and smart lady who tries to balance her personal space with her friends, colleagues and family members.

The examples we discuss will make you feel relate to them. 

We hope that you enjoy this episode too, like you have enjoyed the others! :)

Happy listening! 

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