Most men don’t stay stuck because of a lack of willpower or discipline—they stay stuck because of an identity issue. In this episode, we dig deep into the role of identity and how nurturing the right identity changes everything. If your identity keeps pulling you back into the same habits, the same shame cycles, and the same version of yourself you’ve been trying to outgrow, this conversation will show you a new way forward.

Inside, you’ll discover why your sense of self is the foundation for lasting change—and how shifting your identity empowers you to show up more powerfully as a man, husband, and father.

But here’s the truth: what I share in this podcast is just a fraction of the training I give men inside the Unbound Community. That’s where you’ll get access to step-by-step courses, live coaching, and practical tools to break free from porn, strengthen your marriage, and lead your family with confidence.

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Urges don’t have to control you. In this episode, Michael breaks down the Lead the Urge framework—a simple, four-step process to help you take charge of your pornography urges instead of letting them run your life. Learn how to lead your urges with clarity and power, so you can step out of shame and into lasting freedom.

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Every man carries the blueprint of the Magician, the Lover, the Warrior, and the King. These aren’t just ideas — they are the primal forces that shape how you show up in life, love, and leadership.

But here’s the truth: when you lead from a wounded place, those same forces become your downfall. The Warrior becomes a tyrant. The Lover turns needy. The Magician manipulates. The King becomes corrupt.

This episode is about reclaiming your birthright as a man — to step into these archetypes at their highest level and command respect, power, and presence without apology.

⚡ In 90 days, you could be the man who leads his family with unshakable confidence, commands his own energy like a weapon, and lives with the clarity and focus of a King.

That’s what we build inside Unbound. This isn’t therapy. It’s not another self-help trick. It’s a brotherhood of men who refuse to stay stuck — and who choose to rise.

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For many men, sexuality has been framed through a lens of shame. Growing up in hyper-moralistic or religious cultures, we are sometimes taught to see sexual urges as something forbidden, dirty, or dangerous. The result? An internal war where every urge feels like proof that we’re broken, lustful, or “bad.”

But here’s the truth: when sexuality is met with shame, it fuels anxiety, intensifies urges, and leaves us stuck in cycles of secrecy and stress. The way out isn’t more repression or more willpower—it’s curiosity, normalization, and self-compassion.

In this episode of Unbound, I explore how shifting your perspective on sexuality can radically decrease the power of urges and help you stop being controlled by them. When we normalize our humanity, we gain freedom, clarity, and the ability to step into a healthier relationship with ourselves.

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Recovery isn’t about how you feel on your best days—it’s about what you do when motivation disappears. In this episode, I sit down with Ian Mai to explore how to stay strong and consistent in the middle of a dopamine slump, when it feels hardest to keep going.

About Ian:Ian Mai, ADHD-informed High Performance Coach, has worked with over 200 men, women, and couples over the last two years to help them get out of cycles of overwhelm relating to ADHD. With a personal history of unmanaged ADHD he overcame alcohol abuse, p*rn addiction, binge eating, and all sorts of dysregulation that nearly cost him his job and his marriage. He developed strategies that has helped him ignite his ADHD super powers to be porn and alcohol free, lost 60lbs of fat, and is celebrating almost 10 years of marriage and is more present than ever in his family and his work.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, unmotivated, or like your brain just won’t cooperate, this conversation will give you practical strategies to keep moving forward, regulate your dopamine, and show up powerfully—no matter what your energy or emotions are doing.

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Freedom starts with acceptance. In this episode, I share how learning to accept what we feel—rather than fight it—is the key to outgrowing pornography. Through a surprising moment with my son and a blow-up dragon, I unpack what real acceptance looks like and how it empowers us to lead our lives with strength.

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We live in a world that never stops handing us the next hit—
Not just through pornography, but through food, phones, games, streaming, and endless scrolling.

Our brains adapt to constant instant gratification… and over time, they crave bigger and bigger hits just to feel “normal.”
This makes overcoming porn so much harder—not because you’re weak, but because your reward system is hijacked.

In this episode, I break down why learning stillness and resetting your dopamine is essential for lasting freedom.
I’ll share my 7/21 Dopamine Reset Challenge—a simple, powerful way to retrain your brain so you can better navigate urges and stop being controlled by them.

If you can reset your reward system, you can take back your life.

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Words like “slip-up” or “relapse” might sound harmless…
But they subtly send the message that what just happened was outside your control.
That you’re a victim. That you’re powerless.

And as long as you see it that way—you’ll stay stuck.

In this episode, we talk about what it really means to take healthy accountability for your choices—without shame, self-loathing, or excuses.

This isn’t about beating yourself up.
It’s about owning your agency, taking your power back, and finally stepping into long-term healing.

Because freedom starts when we stop outsourcing responsibility—and start leading ourselves with integrity.

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Shame is the voice that tells you,
“You’ll never change.”
“You’re the only one struggling.”
“You’re not worthy of love.”

And for most men stuck in porn, shame isn’t just a side effect—it’s the fuel that keeps the cycle going.

In this episode, I share a pivotal moment from my time as a therapist—an encounter with a client that completely changed how I help people heal.
It shattered my old views of shame… and showed me what actually leads to freedom.

You’ll walk away from this episode with a clear path to begin healing the shame you’ve carried for far too long.

Because freedom isn’t found in fighting harder—it’s found in how you relate to the parts of you that are hurting.

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Most boys grow up without the emotional safety, connection, or affirmation they truly need.
And then—right in the middle of that emptiness—they get targeted by an industry that sells them a lie:
“This is what connection feels like.”

But it’s not.
It’s counterfeit intimacy. And it rewires the brain to run from real relationships and seek fake ones instead.

In this episode, I unpack how that happens—and why the only real path to healing is through rebuilding connection:
To your emotions.
To your story.
To your family.
To yourself.

This is how we rewire. This is how we recover.
We heal through connection.

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