Under the Bodhi Tree

Sexuality. Love. Desire. These words carry so much cultural baggage. These ideas are riddled with "shoulds" "shouldn'ts", with "if i feel this, than it must mean that". What if we could live in a world where we opened up to our deeper truths. Where we gauged our sexual preferences on our bodies desire to share love, rather than our mind desire to fit into a certain box or a norm. This week, Elis and I are deep in conversation about the radical shifts that occur when we surrender into our deeper self, and let go of the shame and guilt around how and who we love. Elis shares the empowerment she steps into as she lives her truth and the inspiration she is for others to share theirs. This is a powerful love story that teaches us the true meaning of free love. Free from shame, free from the stories.

Thank you elis for your sharing and opening up. Its an honor and pleasure to witness your courage and vulnerability to this world!

If you have any questions for elis about her story you can email or instagram her at
[email protected]
or  @elis.jzer

Thank you all for listening
sending big love
Sam

Have you ever wondered why, in times of distress, you might feel trapped by your reactions? Its like when we get angry or scared, we lose control and our reactions take over. Steven Kessler, in his book "The Five Personality Patterns", has created a model, to help us start to understand and identify these "patterns" of reaction. Once we can start to understand and recognize which pattern, or strategy we've been using for most of our lives, we can start to bring awareness to the moments where it is most active. As these patterns remain in the shadows, or subconscious mind, they continue to have power over us. They continue to press the buttons and augment the way we see the world. As we uncover them, they lose this power, and we start to fully step into our accountability and our ability to choose our responses, instead of blindly reacting. In addition, Stephen says "understanding people on this level is like having x ray vision". It allows us to see beyond the surface and understand a deeper layer of how others may see the world, and can help us greatly in our ability to communicate with them. This is a profound model and incredibly comprehensive. Todays podcast will be just a little taster of the depth that the book goes into. It's fascinating and intriguing to read. I couldn't recommend it more.

Check out the book at: 
https://the5personalitypatterns.com/

check out my meditations at
http://insig.ht/samkahn

check out my website for other offerings at:
www.divedeepwithsam.com

for most of my life, I believed that i had a pretty solid grasp on what was going on here on earth. I had a grasp on the spiritual path and what my life was about. As i started asking a lot more questions though, my solid ideas and beliefs started to deteriorate and i began to realize that the foundation aspects of what i thought i knew were completely different than what i thought. This was a powerful realization, that i really i don't know what i think i know. In this place, I feel like life is really starting to begin. I wanted to share these ideas, and a new way to look at the world, before we label, before we judge and share some exercises that will help us rest in "what is" and stop fighting with life. Its a crazy talk, and theres some big ideas in there, don't worry if its hard to understand...its beyond our minds ability to comprehend. Today ill try to use the mind to explain something beyond the comprehension of the mind. Thats today's talk :) thanks for listening everyone!

this week i have been lucky enough to have a really fun chat with Sally Taylor. We go deep into the world of the principles of "the four agreements". These four agreements are essentially a guide to live life by and consists of four powerful principles. The principles are as such, be impeccable with your word, don't take anything personally, always do your best, don't make assumptions. We see in this episode how fundamental these four ideas are in everything that we do as we interact with the world. Sally and I explore and reminisce about our own life experiences and how the four agreements affect us on a very real level. Sally is hilarious and a blasat to have on the show and I'm excited to share this episode. For some good laughs, and some deep thoughts, this one's for you

thanks for listening!

check sally out on instagram at:
https://www.instagram.com/einganatcm/

check out her website or making a booking at:
www.einganatcm.com

check out the 4 agreements here:
https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319

check out my meditations at:
http://insig.ht/samkahn

check out my website at:
www.divedeepwithsam.com

For most of us, the society we live in, portrays the world as polarized. Something is good or bad, safe or dangerous. When we perceive the world as polarized, we perceive seperateness. I am this, you are that. The more seperate we feel, the more we fear. The more we fear, the more we need to protect ourselves, and on it goes. When we are in this mindset, this mindset of fear, and separation, the way we perceive the world, is augmented. We act based on projections and ideas that we have in our minds, and this can be a very costly way to live, creating discomfort, negativity and suffering for ourselves and those around us. Non violent communication is a practical, down to earth tool, to start reformating our minds, to look beyond the polarization. To see that below the surface, we are much more connected, than separate. With this structure, and the tools provided, we can learn to connect with others deeply and emphatically, regardless of how their behaving, we can learn to identify our needs and communicate them, and we are able to diffuse conflict like never before. We become the masters of our own domain, we take accountability for our emotions and our experience, and start to act with integrity from a place of deeper knowing. This style of communication is gold. I'm telling you, its gold. It will change the way you receive and perceive reality, and how you act in the world. I couldn't recommend it more. NVC is simple and straight forward, yet profound in its wisdom.

Thank you guys for listening and wishing you well on our solo, and collective journeys in this sacred time.


below is the free online, nvc training course:

https://nvctraining.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=859&Itemid=134

heres a link to marshal rosenberg's guide to nvc:
https://www.amazon.com/Nonviolent-Communication-Language-Life-Changing-Relationships-ebook/dp/B014OISVU4

needs list!
https://nvctraining.com/media/NVCA/learning-tools/needs-list.pdf

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www.divedeepwithsam.com

There are many ways to live life and to view the unfolding of reality. We often assume that our experience of reality is "the right way" or perhaps even the "only way". When we start to open our minds to other perspective, we begin to fully understand just how limited ours is. This week I have Rachel on, and we're exploring the world from a holistic viewpoint. Rachel speaks of the benefits and the magic that life can offer, when we put down our analytical mind and open the gifts of our creative brain. While nearly any task can be completed with either side of the brain leading the way, the experience and the methods are completely different. In the west, we worship intellectual knowledge and intelligence, so today, we figured we'd dedicate some time to the other intelligence available for us, and how it looks to experience life from these different view points. Rachel is an amazing example and inspiration for trust, deep listening and living in the moment. Lets take a look into how she got there, and what she gets to experience, that most of us don't!

Hey all!

In Buddhism, there is a strong foundation in the idea that suffering is all around us. Suffering (or discomfort/ unpleasantness) arises from desiring something to be different than how it currently is. Essentially, resisting the present moment. When we get attached to a certain idea, place, person or situation, and it doesn't play out how we want it, this is the seed of disappointment or unpleasantness according to Buddhist thought. While it sounds pretty bleak, there's actually an exciting part of the teaching. There's a way out of this suffering! There are practices we can explore, to allow us more ease and peacefulness in the face of disappointment and in the face of things "not working out". This week I have Luke Anderson on the show, sharing his journey through the practice of Qi Gong. Qi Gong is a practice that can help us align with the present moment and the energetic life force that resides both within us, and outside of us. Luke has a deep journey to share and has recently released a foundational online Qi gong course in the practice, and has offered a discount to anyone who uses the codes down below. With his deep well of wisdom, and his centered mind, Luke is a fantastic teacher and I couldn't recommend this course more.

 While you're at home, resting and playing. This is a fantastic opportunity to center back into your awareness and to truly align with nature and your energetic signature.

Thanks for listening and thank you Luke for your offerings and sharing!

you can find luke and his offerings here:
https://www.forestflow.com.au/

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for a preview of the course check out:
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In this time of external uncertainty, how do we come back to center, within ourselves. How can we use this time as a gift from the universe, to slow down, look inward and explore our inner landscape? This weeks episode is for us to open our perspective and taking advantage of this unique and crazy global experience. There is a holiday in Bali called Nyepi, where the entire population takes an entire day of silence, where they stay in their homes and close the airports. The day is march 25th this year, and as we sit in silence, the entire world sits with us in solidarity. Lets take the next two weeks for strong internal expansion so in a few weeks or months, we can meet the world with love, and strength.

Its time for us as a community to wake the fuck up, and step the fuck up. But before we act, we must rest, surrender and look inward.

such an exciting time!!

check out the becoming nobody trailer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IhyQNqkOgPk


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www.divedeepwithsam.com

In a time of globalization and the beautiful movement towards global connectedness, there's a chance that we as a society have missed the opportunity to connect to the local world around us. As we've been expanding, we've overshadowed the importance of staying connected to our roots. This week I have Lily on the show and we dive into the vast world of plants and vegetation that are right outside our homes. We explore the value of learning and developing relationships with this plant kingdom and the great benefits that come with expanding our awareness around the ecosystem that we were raised in. Lily has some epic advice and strategies to start taking steps to get to know this awesome planet that we were created from.

Thanks so much lily for your words and ideas





check her stuff out here!

https://www.facebook.com/pg/lilyoftheherbs/about/

https://www.lilyoftheherbs.com/

https://www.instagram.com/lilyoftheherbs/

When we start to look at the root motivations behind our behaviors, it starts to become clear that many (if not almost all) humans are looking for the same things. Whether it's connection to self, connection to the world, or connection to a bigger purpose, it seems that connection is an imperative factor to living an adaptive and peaceful life. This week Tim and I deeply converse about his path through addiction and how a lack of that "connection" can lead to external coping mechanisms that ultimately leave us in a feedback loop of feeling helpless and even more separate. Tim sheds some powerful wisdom and light at the end of the tunnel as he continues to move though the life long journey of self love, higher purpose and togetherness. Such an interesting conversation with some fantastic resources and tips to navigate our inner world, behind and before our addictive behaviors started to control us.

Thank you so much for sharing Tim, you're the man

check out dr. gabor mate and his approach to addiction and compassionate inquiry
https://drgabormate.com/

maps speaks to ibogaine as therapy in this article:
https://maps.org/research/ibogaine-therapy

more on ibogaine therapy
https://www.ibogainealliance.org/