Unfeigned Christianity

Freedom isn’t about a flawless record. It’s about connection in the moment of pain. In Part 3, we get practical: unblending from Exile/Manager/Firefighter, using simple daily practices to calm your nervous system, and building secure attachment with God and safe people. Learn why willpower fails, how neuroplasticity helps, and how to turn relapse into relationship—so your automatic response becomes “I’m hurting → I connect.”

00:00 Introduction to Healing and Rewiring Desire
00:48 Understanding Internal Parts and Their Roles
02:20 Identifying the Root Causes of Pain
03:37 Neuroscience of Healing and Rewiring the Brain
05:18 Setbacks and the Journey to Wholeness
06:10 Community and Support in the Healing Process

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What if porn is an emergency strategy—a frantic part of you chasing relief? In Part 2, Asher unpacks Internal Family Systems (Exile, Manager, Firefighter) alongside Romans 7 and Galatians 5 to name the war you feel inside—and to show how Jesus meets every part with safety, truth, and love. You’ll learn a simple prayer for the moment the urge hits, hear a real-life trigger story (the peach tree), and get a free 7-day Porn Recovery Journal to practice this work all week.

00:00 Understanding the Roots of Pornography Use
01:52 The Internal Family Systems Model
05:01 The Divided Self and Spiritual Conflict
09:05 Integrating the Inner Parts with Christ
12:30 Healing Through Connection and Presence

Most men think their problem is lust. But what if it’s pain?

In this opening episode of Unfeigned Christianity, Asher talks about the hidden shame beneath pornography—the exhaustion, the self-protection, and the ache for connection we rarely admit.

You’ll hear:

Why porn is more about pain than pleasure

How our attachment wounds drive unwanted behavior

Why Jesus doesn’t shame us—He meets us

A simple practice called The “Where Are You?” Pause to begin healing

If you’re ready to move from willpower to wholeness, this episode is for you.

00:00 Confronting the Shame of Pornography
01:23 Understanding the Emotional Roots of Porn Use
03:37 The Path to Healing and Wholeness

Join me as we talk about the pain beneath the porn—and how the gospel meets us there.

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We’re not called to win an empire. We’re called to make disciples. In this episode, I respond to an email about Charlie Kirk, “common sense” politics, and whether America was founded on Christian values. We unpack Jeremiah 29:7 in context, ask what actually reduces harm (from abortion to gender transitions), and confront a hard truth: politics is downstream of culture. If laws can’t change hearts, then discipleship—slow, messy, neighbor-level discipleship—must lead the way. I also talk frankly about Trump, calling out evil on both sides, and why I don’t vote so I’m free to pastor people rather than defend a party. Agree or not, I’d love your feedback and stories from your community.

Chapters

00:00 Context to an Email I Received
08:56 Exploring American Culture and Christian Values
17:13 The Role of Political Ideologies in Christian Values
28:11 Evaluating Leadership and Moral Integrity in Politics
29:55 Engaging with Compassion and Conviction
35:54 Politics and Culture: The Interconnectedness
40:40 The Role of Christians in Cultural Impact
47:31 Discipleship Over Political Activism
52:35 The Call to Make Disciples

Many people wonder why I speak out about immigration. Some ask, “Why didn’t you speak up about abortion or LGBTQ+ issues?”

Chapters:

01:12 Personal Context and Cross-Cultural Experiences
04:02 Navigating the Abortion Debate and Christian Responses
08:49 Discipleship and Political Engagement
10:34 Legal vs. Illegal Immigration: A Personal Perspective
16:47 Understanding the Complexity of Immigration Issues
20:36 The Human Side of Immigration: Empathy and Understanding
26:00 Criminality and Immigration: Debunking Myths

Related blog post:
https://www.asherwitmer.com/americanism-immigration-and-a-low-view-of-the-gospel/

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As a dad of five, I've been thinking a lot about how to nurture strong mental health in my kids. In this video, I share three essential truths that children need to hear every day—truths that shape their identity, sense of belonging, and purpose. These insights come from my own journey, my studies in emotional health, and what I wish I had known earlier. If you're a parent or mentor, I hope this encourages you! Let’s raise emotionally healthy kids together.

Subscribe to join the journey in becoming Christians who are theologically anchored, emotionally healthy, and loving others well! #childmentalhealth #emotionalhealth

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Mental Health in Children
02:37 Three Essential Truths for Children
11:32 Fostering Identity and Contribution in Kids

Hello friends! It's been nearly a year since I published anything. Today, I share my personal journey through a mysterious health crisis and the challenges of seeking medical help for it. I reflect on the impact of this experience on my life, work, and relationships, which has helped me realize the importance of understanding and empathy in the face of chronic health issues. Then I look at the interplay between physical health, emotional stability, and God's grace during difficult times. Finally, I wanted to share the renewed vision God has given me for this work, focusing on being theologically anchored, emotionally healthy, able to love others well.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Update
02:59 Health Struggles and Mysterious Symptoms
05:51 The Impact of Illness on Daily Life
08:46 Seeking Medical Help and Testing
12:11 Navigating Uncertainty and Mental Health
15:00 The Role of Family and Community Support
17:54 Exploring Possible Diagnoses
20:52 The Neurologist's Insights and Diagnosis
24:13 Reflections on Recovery and Ongoing Challenges
40:23 Navigating Health Challenges and Spiritual Insights
45:09 The Impact of Physical Health on Mental Well-being
51:42 Understanding God's Grace in Suffering
56:24 Reflections on Blogging and Podcasting Journey
01:01:51 Reawakening Vision for Church Engagement

Hey friends,

I just wanted to pop in here and say "Thank you!" to all of you who've reached out and expressed that you're praying for me and my family with the health issues that have come up in the last couple of months. I'm grateful that I am feeling better. My energy is recovering and the last several weeks have been quite a bit better all around. Here's a bit of an update.

Please continue to pray for us as you think about it.