How you are - your very being - will trigger certain people. That does not mean you should shrink yourself, in the unattainable hope to avoid ever triggering someone else. Instead, when a trigger happens, you can use it as a doorway for connection.  Lean into the doorway, holding compassion for yourself and the other person. This is where the real magic happens. There are certain wounds each of us carries that were created in relationship with other people. Repairing these wounds fully,  requires healing in relationship with other people - coupled with experience, time, and space for a new pattern to emerge.

The tiniest things can have an enormous impact. When done in repetition, over time, and across masses. Tiny changes can shift the entire reality of what we see and experience. 

It’s through our sharing with each other, that our awareness and understanding expands. Each of us has an important perspective to share, but a singular perspective is rarely a complete picture. 

The point of life is not to survive. After all, none of us make it out of life alive. So the point isn’t survival. The point is to thrive. The point is to thrive in connection with others. Humans are social creatures. The point is to see and be seen. To help and be helped. In equal measure. We weren’t meant to live life alone. 

It’s easy to blame others for the situation we find ourselves in. But blaming others disempowers us. It gives up control. While taking accountability can be scary, and feel overwhelming, it’s also incredibly powerful. If you take accountability, you take control. This means you can change the situation. Here I share how I took accountability for the dissatisfaction I had with the depth of my relationships. I share how taking accountability changed my perspective and ultimately changed my relationships. 

Many people say they are looking for balance between work and life, but there are some people that deep down aren’t actually seeking balance. Their actions continue to perpetuate workaholic hours. Constantly working until bedtime and on the weekends, while their colleagues are living a balanced life. Here I share the 4 most common reasons people bury themselves in workaholism.

Pay attention to the energy you have toward experiences. The energy you feel toward an experience ends up becoming the energy you feel toward yourself while engaging in that experience. For example, if you feel resentful about going to a dinner party, you’ll resent yourself while you’re at the dinner party (and you’ll resent everyone else there too). Or, if you don’t value certain chores, you won’t value yourself while you’re doing those chores.  Since the energy transfer will stay with you, it’s important to choose intentionally what you engage with and what you decline.

Have you ever considered how each of us can simultaneously fear being “too much” and being “not enough” all at the same time? Crazy, right? When you decide how you show up based on an external reference point (i.e. other people), that reference point is a moving target. A moving target is a shaky foundation. What the world needs is for you to show up based on your internal reference point. Based on what is true to you. An honest and true expression of yourself. That is a solid foundation.

The law of attraction means that the things you spend your energy thinking about, end up materializing. It means what you think about creates your reality. What does this mean? Here I share how my belief that “I am not enough” actually cause me to show up as less than myself, thereby being less than myself. 

I share a passage from the book, The Nature Of Personal Reality: Specific, Practical Techniques for Solving Everyday Problems and Enriching The Life You Know (A Seth Book) by Jane Roberts. The passage shares how beliefs shape your reality, and the importance of not suppressing thoughts or feelings.