Uniquely Brilliant Podcast

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Uniquely Brilliant Podcast episodes

April 04, 2016 Episode 023: The P4 Adventures: Proficiencies
Becky and Diana discuss the third part of P4, Proficiencies, and how your proficiencies works with your Personality, Preferences, and Passion, to give you power over the direction of your life.
• Proficiencies are also known as skill building.
• Your best skills are the ones you can sustain, enjoy and get satisfaction from.
• It is estimated nearly 50% of the jobs available when students begin college as freshmen will not be available when they graduate.
• That is why most of the time it is important to choose a skill based major, as opposed to one on a specific job track.
• With the average plumber at 58 years old, and a welder’s salary often at 6 figures, Trade Schools are ideal for hands on, entrepreneurial students.
• Shadow someone already doing what you would like to do to learn more about careers.
• Soft skills, like compassion, are just as important for many careers as traditional skills, and require continual honing to stay effective.
• Differing skill sets can often make two people equally effective at the same career.
• Conversation and personal detective work are helpful in uncovering your strongest proficiencies. This knowledge empowers you to make better choices and life decisions.
• There are more ways to learn something new or hone an existing skill than ever before. When you choose the right way for you, there isn’t a wrong way.
• It is estimated 43% of college graduates do not pick up another book after graduation. This gives the life-long learner a definite advantage in both career and life.
Stamp of Brilliance
Your strongest proficiencies can be determined by asking yourself, “Can I sustain it? Do I enjoy it? Does it give me satisfaction?”
24 min
April 04, 2016 Episode 022: The P4 Adventures: Preferences
Becky and Diana discuss the second part of P4, Preferences, and their importance in making choices about your educational and career choices and opportunities.
• P4 = Personality, Preferences, Proficiencies, & Passion. P to the 4th power!
• Diana created P4 because knowing these 4 things about yourself gives you power over the direction you take in life.
• The 2nd P is Preferences.
• Most people don’t take into account the importance preferences make on our life and career decisions.
• Preferences can change over time, based on our experiences.
• Deal Breakers; however, do not change. If wearing a tie makes you feel like you’re being strangled, you’re always going to hate wearing a tie. So don’t get a job where you have to wear a tie!
• To find out if your compromising on a Deal Breaker, listen to your inner voice.
• Skill-based majors and learning choices are the best way to enhance the skills you enjoy using. They also give you room to test and redirect your career path as you go.
• You can deepen your understanding of your preferences by asking yourself “Why are these preferences important?”
• Use your values as your GPS to keep you on the right course.
• If you find you need to adjust your course, remember that you’re adjusting it, not changing it.
• Preferences should never be based on other people’s expectations of you.
• You define your success, not other people or outside forces (like social media or peer pressure).
• When people tell you “You can’t” or “You should or shouldn’t,” their advice is based on their limited experience, including their own regrets and fears. Their advice really isn’t about you.
Stamp Of Brilliance - Be Aware Of Your Deal Breakers
24 min
March 21, 2016Episode 21: The P4 Adventure: Part 1 Personality
Becky and Diana discuss the importance of understanding your unique personality. They also talk about tools to help you develop a deeper understanding and new ways of describing yourself.
P4 = Personality, Preferences, Proficiencies, & Passion. P to the 4th power!
Diana created P4 because knowing these 4 things about yourself gives you power over the direction you take in life.
The first P is Personality.
You were born with your personality
Outside influences can stretch and alter your personality, but you feel it when it’s been stretched too far from who you truly are.
Assessments are great tools to help you understand your personality on a deeper level.
The DiSC assessment gives you a rich starting place for learning about your personality, temperament, and communication styles.
The 5 Love Languages assessment ( http://www.5lovelanguages.com ) gives you insight into what you need to feel appreciated. It also reveals how you show appreciation.
Understanding the 5 Love Languages helps you communicate better with friends, at home, and on the job.
The Fascination Advantage assessment describes how the world sees you.
The Fascination Advantage gives you more vivid words to describe yourself.
Understanding your personality is the starting place for growth.
Each assessment you take gives you a glimpse into another area of your personality.
Stamp of Brilliance - You were born with the perfect personality for you – learn how to embrace it.
24 min
March 14, 2016Episode 20: The Pot of Gold Adventure
Becky and Diana discuss the pitfalls and values of always looking for a new and better ways to do things.
Have you ever been caught up in someone else’s idea of “The Right Way” to do something?
Have you learned to trust your own “Right Way?”
Learning new things is valuable, as long as you can still hear and value your own voice.
The only way to be successful is to be your authentic self.
It takes courage to take what you learn and put your unique spin on it.
It is important to sift through all the information we’re exposed to daily and hang on to only the info that fuels your success.
You are your own Pot of Gold, how it manifests itself to you is determined by your season of life.
Never be afraid to make a wrong choice. It is just a lesson learned. You CAN change your mind.
When you embark on college or search for a new career, own your passions.
Find a major that lets you study what you are passionate about.
Identify and enhance the skills that let you match your passion to your work.
No one finds by following someone else’s dream – or- someone else’s path.
When people tell you, “You should,” remember they are biased by their own point-of-view and life experiences.
Always searching for a better way can keep you stuck.
You are here for a reason. Figure out your reason, and go after it your way

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You Are Your Own Pot of Gold
23 min
March 07, 2016Episode 019: The Name Game Adventure
Episode 019: The Name Game Adventure
Becky and Diana discuss the frustration of assigning a single name to the differences Uniquely Brilliant people experience because of the way their brains are wired.
It is hard to find a single name that accurately describes all the different versions of Uniquely Brilliant minds and abilities.
Diagnostic terms such as ADHD, ADD, Asperger’s, Autism, hyperactivity and even dyslexia are frequently used interchangeably. They are also misused.
Many people find themselves with the incorrect diagnosis of their brain differences.
Many diagnostic terms are defined as disorders, but could accurately, and more positively, be referred to as attributes.
The better you know yourself the more success you will have when you tell people what you need to be successful at school or at work.
So let us know, what words do you use to define your unique set of attributes?
What do you Google when you’re looking for help?
Do you use diagnostic terms like ADHD, ADD, Asperger’s, Autism, dyslexia?
Do you use more general terms like right-brained, left-brained, creative, neuro atypical?
Do you look up more specific issues such as short attention span, trouble focusing, anxiety, socially uncomfortable?
Help us come up with one word or phrase that encompasses it all.

Stamp of Brilliance
You Have to Name It to claim It.
23 min
February 29, 2016Episode 018: The Adventure of Taking a Leap
Becky and Diana discuss strategies to help you leap towards your dreams and goals.
Making a leap towards something new can be scary, but worth it.
Throughout history people have overcome all kinds of adversity and scorn and seen their dreams come to fruition. You can, too, if you grb your courage, look to your goal, and leap.

What kind of strategy do you need to make the leap?
Long Jump? There is a line you have to cross, maybe an obstacle in the way. Plan your steps. Keep moving forward. Set your sights on the end result.
Pole Vault? Could the support of someone or something, like a new skill, help you get to your goal with less resistance.
High Jump? Are you prepared to change directions if you need to? Learn to be flexible. Trust your skills. Stay committed.
Hurdles? Are multiple obstacles in your way? What ones can you just knock over? Pace yourself. Prepare for the next hurdle, then the next one, then the next one.…

Remember, the High Jump and Pole Vault have thick cushy mats to land on, the Long Jump has warm sand, and there is always a finish line for the Hurdles. As the saying goes, “Leap and the net will appear.”

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As you leap, keep your eyes forward.
26 min
February 22, 2016Episode 017: The Adventure of the Missing Piece
Episode 17: The Adventure of The Missing Piece
Becky and Diana discuss the importance of being able to describe what you want people to know about you and strategies for how to do it.
The Missing Piece is about the things you do differently that can set you apart from others because they just don’t understand.
You may need to make a conscious decision to share how they work best with their co-workers.
People can’t read your mind, so they don’t know if you’re being rude or not unless you tell them.
Who do you want to be at work or in social settings?
Practice your life story with someone you trust so they can help you tell it better.
It is your responsibility to help people understand how you work, so you can be most productive.
People don’t know what you need to succeed unless you tell them.
Assessments are a great tool to help you understand yourself better.
Assessments can give you the language to more accurately describe yourself to others.
Let the people you work with (or go to school with) know you want to participate and be part of the process.
Say YES to opportunities, and ask to be involved.
Be brave. Choosing to be your best self can be a challenge, so can explaining yourself. But the rewards you’ll receive from doing it is worth it.
Stamp of Brilliance
Have the courage to let people know what you can do.
23 min
February 15, 2016Episode 016: The Adventure of Attitude
Becky and Diana discuss how your attitude influences everything you do.
“Don’t get my personality and my attitude twisted, because my personality is ME and my attitude depends on YOU!” WRONG!!!!!
Your attitude is all about you, because you have no control over anyone else.
You create your attitude and your environment.
Your attitude does not have to be situational. You’ll always have bad days; it’s how you respond to them that reveals your true self.
It’s up to you to present things in a way that others can understand them.
Social awareness and social thinking are the keys to understanding how others perceive your attitude.
Sometimes there is a language barrier, people may not understand what you are saying. Societal stereotypes can also be a factor.
Don’t let being misunderstood give you a defensive attitude.
“A bad attitude is like a flat tire, if you don’t change it you’ll never go anywhere.”
“If you can’t change your fate, change your attitude.”
A great strategy to test your attitude is to pause a moment and check in. Is this the frame of mind I want to be in when handling this situation?
Attitudes can be contagious.
Your attitude is a choice.
To create the best possible attitude try the Power Stance before you tackle something, or create a power playlist of music that revs you up.
In negative situations we tend to breathe slower or even hold our breath.
“Find out who you are and do it on purpose.”
When you know who you are, you know how to be, and you be who you are.
Stamp of Brilliance
Keeping a positive attitude is up to you.
28 min
February 08, 2016Episode 015: The Adventure of Letting Go
Becky and Diana discuss the value in letting go of things that no longer serve you.
LET GO OF:
Ideas and Expectations
When you let go of ideas that no longer work for you, you make room for new ones to grow.
Diana recommends the book Essentialism, by Greg McKeown, as a great resource to identify what is most important to you, so you can be more comfortable letting things go.
Even when you know something isn’t working it you can find yourself comfortable in the craziness. This makes it hard to let go.
Other people’s expectations of us are often in our own minds
Communication is critical, remember to ask instead of assuming what others need from you.
“An expectation is a premeditated disappointment.”

That Internal Voice
Erase the tapes repeating in your thoughts that don’t support you and your goals and replace them with better ones.
Strategy: Writing down how you see a situation in a negative light, then rewrite the situation from a positive point of view. Feel free to destroy the negative one.
People and Places
People can be very hard to let go of because of the emotional connection.
Even people who influence you negatively can be hard to let go of because you have gotten used to the behavior and even negative attention is attention.
People come into our life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. Learn to identify their purpose.
Give yourself permission to let people go, it makes room in your life for new relationships.
Strategies for letting people go include being up front if you can, or let it run its course naturally, or lovingly detach from the person.
Listen to the voice that tells you it’s time to move on from a place, job, or organization.
The Past
You have permission to learn from the past and release it.
Focus on the lessons you’ve learned, not the experiences.
Releasing old experiences makes room for new ones.

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When you learn from those smelly little life lessons, they can serve as the foundation of future successes.
29 min
January 30, 2016Episode 014: The Adventure of Social Thinking
Becky Berry and Diana Bader discuss four areas of where social thinking makes a big impact: school, work, social gatherings, and online, and talk about you can make the best impression on people.
Social thinking involves paying attention to your environment and the people in the environment. It determines how you react to what is happening in your environment.
Be uniform across all the areas you are, or would like to be social (school, work, with other people, online).
Learn to evaluate the rules for the environment you are in at the moment.
When working within groups be aware of how you represent yourself.
Within groups, pay attention and learn to interpret the group dynamics by using your social thinking.
If you have questions about how to act in certain social situations, ask someone you trust, or look online.
Make a habit of thinking socially because you will be always be dealing with people.
Understand the give and take of conversations and meetings.
Validation allows people to feel heard.
How are you presenting yourself to others?
Work buddies are a valuable resource. Someone who can coach you or you can model your behavior on.
In an interview, remember it is as much about you finding the company that is the right fit as it is the company finding a right fit.
When attempting small talk, look around for clues to engage the person you want to talk to.
Let people know you see them, that they matter. Notice them.
Use your strengths in gatherings. Extroverts start a conversation, introverts find the most comfortable energy.
Are you frustrated in social situations? Have trouble containing your reactions? Find the most “chill’’ person in the room and mimic their behavior (in a good way).
If you are the most “chill” person, be aware of situations you can diffuse.
Your online presence increasingly gives people their first impression of you – for interviews, in social situations, in life in general.
People will Google you before they look at your resume or see you for an interview.
Always show the best version of you online.
Highlight your qualities based on the platform – Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram, SnapChat.
STAMP OF BRILLIANCE
Noticing. Constantly notice your environment and the people in it to experience the best social interactions.
33 min

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