Beneath the surface behaviors of each Enneagram type lies a profound emotional pattern the passion that influences how we see the world and react to life's challenges. These patterns operate largely unconsciously, steering our reactions and perceptions in ways we rarely notice. But within each of us also exists a virtue which is our authentic essence that emerges when we're grounded, present, and aligned.

This conversation offers profound insights for anyone who's ever wondered: "Why do I keep reacting this way?" or "What does growth actually look like for my type?" The journey from passion to virtue isn't about becoming someone else it's about remembering who you've been all along, beneath the layers of adaptation and protection.

Your virtue is already there intact, it's whole and waiting to be remembered. The work isn't about developing new skills but peeling back what obscures your authentic self. This dance between passion and virtue isn't linear it's a constant flow of awareness, growth, and sometimes returning to old patterns. But with each cycle, we gain more freedom to choose our response rather than being driven by unconscious emotional patterns.

Ready to discover what might be driving your reactions and how to access your innate virtue? Listen now and take the first step toward becoming more truly yourself.

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Have you ever felt completely stuck in life, like you're trapped in a cycle with no way out? That overwhelming sense of stagnation where nothing seems to move forward despite your best efforts? You're not alone—and there's profound wisdom waiting in that uncomfortable space.

Feeling stuck is universally human, yet we rarely talk about it honestly. We live in a culture that celebrates constant motion, achievement, and productivity, making the experience of stagnation feel like personal failure. But what if being stuck isn't a problem to solve but a signal to heed? What if it's life's way of inviting you into necessary change?

This episode unpacks what being stuck really feels like—the confusion, frustration, fear, and self-doubt that often accompany it—while offering a compassionate framework for moving through it with intention. We explore why clarity doesn't come from doing more but from stepping back to reflect and recalibrate. You'll discover the essential ingredients for navigating stuck seasons: self-compassion, trusted support from others, small but meaningful actions, and perhaps most challenging of all, patience.

Whether you're experiencing professional stagnation, emotional blockage, or spiritual drought, this conversation offers practical tools like journaling, changing your environment, and taking tiny steps forward. Remember, being stuck is temporary—just one season in your journey. You are uniquely you and worthy of all the growth, progress, and possibilities that lie ahead, however slowly they might reveal themselves.

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What if the thing you thought was wrong with you was actually a pattern shared by millions? For Kristi Rider, discovering the Enneagram was like finally finding a mirror that reflected back not just her perfectionism, but the hidden anger underneath it all. 

From the moment she identified as a Type One, Kristi recognized the internal pressure cooker she'd been living in. As a mother of four children, she had mastered the art of keeping everything together - coordinating sports schedules, preparing perfect meals, and maintaining impossibly high standards. But beneath that competence churned a reservoir of anger and disappointment that eventually threatened her marriage and peace of mind.

In this vulnerable conversation, Kristi shares the physical sensation of what she calls "the squeeze" - that moment when her inner critic constricts her body and mind into rigid patterns of control. She describes going to bed angry almost every night, mentally cataloging everyone's failures before sleep. The perfectionism that once seemed like her greatest strength had become her prison.

Whether you identify as a One or simply recognize the exhausting drive for perfection in your own life, this conversation offers a roadmap toward greater freedom. As Kristi now experiences what she calls "yumminess" - moments of pure presence without judgment - we glimpse the possibility of transformation that begins, as our closing quote reminds us, not with perfection but with truth.

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Chuck and Linda Lesem share their 37-year marriage journey and how discovering the Enneagram transformed their relationship by giving them a language to understand each other's patterns. Their story reveals how complementary personality types can create both challenges and beautiful balance when partners learn to appreciate their fundamental differences.

• Chuck (Type One) and Linda (Type Two) met at a pizza parlor after a missed introduction
• They navigated early relationship differences without personality frameworks for their first 20 years together
• The Enneagram provided language to make conflicts "less personal" by understanding type patterns
• Their different instinctual subtypes (social One and self-preservation Two) explain many relationship dynamics
• Chuck brings structure, organization and stability while Linda brings relationship focus and "magic"
• Their contrasting parenting styles created beneficial balance for their daughters
• Doing Enneagram work together revealed new layers of vulnerability even after decades of marriage
• Understanding personality patterns helps couples realize people aren't "trying to annoy you" but genuinely see the world differently
• Both recommend couples learn the Enneagram early in relationships to navigate differences compassionately
• Finding growth together while honoring differences strengthens long-term relationships

Love is not about sameness, it's about understanding the beautiful and challenging ways we're different and choosing to grow together anyways.

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The Enneagram 9 pattern is often misunderstood as merely "easygoing" when in reality Nines have a complex inner world filled with untapped wisdom and power they struggle to access.

• 9s often have difficulty defining their own characteristics and may assume others think and feel the same way they do
• Self-preservation Nines can appear similar to 6s due to shared behavioral patterns
• Nines give others grace easily but struggle to extend the same compassion to themselves
• Being "easygoing" is both a strength and challenge – it can lead to being overlooked or taken advantage of
• Nines need extra time and space to form opinions, and can sense when others genuinely want to hear their thoughts
• A helpful practice for Nines is deliberately forming opinions in low-pressure situations (like shopping) to strengthen decision-making muscles
• The "nice person" stereotype prevents Nines from acknowledging their full humanity, including their capacity for causing hurt
• Nines often appear blank during conflict because they've disconnected from themselves, making it difficult to pinpoint issues
• Anger manifests differently in Nines – often as irritation or frustration rather than rage
• Right action happens when Nines feel clear internal knowing, as opposed to the foggy indecision of sloth
• Growth requires stepping into uncomfortable spaces and accepting that transformation isn't linear

Remember, there is no growth without some discomfort. The journey from awareness to acceptance to expansion takes courage, but leads to authentic connection with yourself and others.

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The journey of an Enneagram Two reveals a fascinating paradox – an extraordinary capacity to sense others' needs paired with a profound disconnection from one's own. This conversation with Molly Knutson-Keller takes us deep into the world of "The Helper," where we discover how mirror neurons create heightened empathy while simultaneously masking personal needs. Molly shares her winding path to discovering her true type, revealing how even Enneagram experts sometimes misidentify themselves before finding clarity through the subtypes. Her candid reflections on the Two's experience illuminate both the beautiful gifts and challenging patterns that shape her relationships. From creating dependency through helpfulness to struggling with unexpressed resentment, Molly articulates the Two's inner landscape with remarkable clarity. The conversation takes a vulnerable turn as Molly discusses rejection sensitivity and her personal journey toward authenticity. The transformative question "What do I want? What do I need?" becomes a powerful mantra for Twos seeking to reconnect with themselves. Through real-life examples, including a beautifully honest moment between the podcast host and Molly about a professional pause that triggered feelings of rejection, we witness how the Enneagram framework creates space for understanding and repair in relationships. As a life coach, Molly brings her Two energy into creating sacred, safe spaces for clients, demonstrating how the Helper's natural gifts can be channeled into meaningful work. Her brave exploration of new healing modalities, including psychedelic assisted therapy, showcases how Twos can expand their capacity for service while honoring ancient wisdom traditions. Whether you're a Two seeking to understand yourself better or someone who loves a Two in your life, this conversation offers invaluable insights into navigating relationships with greater authenticity, balancing giving with receiving, and finding true worth beyond helping others. Listen now to discover how coming home to yourself is not a destination but "a daily practice of listening inward."

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What if the key to saving your relationship isn't trying harder, but seeing deeper? Relationship psychologist Tracy Baker-Lawrence reveals how our unconscious patterns can either destroy or transform our closest connections.

After witnessing countless couples on the brink of divorce after decades together, Tracy developed the DNA method – a powerful framework that examines each couple's unique dynamics, neurobiology, and attention patterns. This approach helps partners understand what's really happening beneath surface behaviors that trigger conflict. As Tracy explains, "Two good hearts in the room, but they start to story... they misunderstand differences and then expect their partner to meet needs they can't even articulate."

The conversation explores how our developmental pathways (what many call Enneagram types) interact with attachment wounds to create predictable relationship challenges. Tracy shares a fascinating example of Four and Nine patterns during stress – how the Four's emotional expression triggers the Nine's withdrawal, which feels like rejection to the Four, creating a painful cycle neither can break without understanding these underlying patterns.

Most compelling is Tracy's collaboration with Dr. Dan Siegel on developing a scientific framework that integrates temperament, attachment, and personality. This groundbreaking work explains how our earliest adaptations for survival often become the very blocks preventing authentic connection in adulthood. For anyone who's felt chronically misunderstood or confused by their partner's reactions, this episode offers a profound map to greater compassion and clearer communication.

Listen now and gain insights that could transform how you see yourself, your partner, and the beautiful complexity of human connection. Your journey toward wholeness begins with understanding.

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Join me for a Life, Family, Business, and Podcast Branding Update!

I'm transitioning this podcast from "Your Enneagram Friend" to "Uniquely You: Enneagram and Real Life" to better reflect the blend of content I want to share with you. The new direction will expand beyond pure Enneagram teaching to include diverse topics and guest experts while maintaining the Enneagram insights you've come to expect. 

• First episode under the new name will feature Tracy, a Personality and Relationship Psychologist from Australia. Look for that soon! 

Connect with me at [email protected] or on Instagram @wendy_lifeandlove_coach for any topics you'd like to hear or just to reach out.

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In this episode Wendy and Molly dive into the head PDP's of the Enneagram, unpacking the complexities of the subtypes of five, six, and seven. We discuss how fear drives their behaviors and the significance of understanding these nuances for personal growth and deeper connections. 
- Overview of Enneagram subtypes and their importance 
- Self-preservation five: the need for privacy and control 
- Social five: the pursuit of knowledge over connection 
- Sexual five: deeper emotional connections and idealism 
- Sixes and their relationship with fear and security 
- Self-preservation six: creating safety through connections 
- Social six: seeking certainty through rules and guidelines 
- Sexual six: confronting fear with assertiveness 
- Exploration of sevens and their need for freedom and abundance 
- Self-preservation seven: strategic networking and opportunities 
- Social seven: sacrificing personal desires for the greater good 
- Sexual seven: escaping reality through imaginative thinking

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Explore the transformative power of the Enneagram with Milton Stewart (Type SP 7) as he shares his experiences, teachings, and insights. In this episode Milton and I talk about self-preservation Seven, techniques for managing energy, overcoming emotions, and the impact of continuous improvement on personal and organizational growth. 

• Milton's journey discovering the Enneagram 
• Managing high energy and finding balance 
• Confronting uncomfortable emotions 
• Importance of understanding subtypes in the Enneagram 
• Leveraging the Enneagram in corporate culture for inclusivity 
• Kaizen philosophy for continuous improvement 
• Nurturing community and connection 
• Upcoming retreats and professional opportunities 

Two ways to get connected with Milton! Instagram or his website. 

Make sure you follow him and be sure to check out his podcast Do It For The Gram: an Enneagram Podcast

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