Universal Thread

Two friends have a really bad, semi-entertaining debate on Monogamy vs. Polyamory. Nobody wins and everybody wins. 

Keywords: sex drive, boredom, attachment theory, jealousy, possession, hygiene, ownership, RSP (responsible sex person), insecurity, conditioning, traditional, values, traps, boundaries, true colors, theory, romantic, toxic, mutual respect, honesty, fully seen, appetites, aligned, cheating, passion, evolved love, post-its, wheelchair, worldview, complexities

In this episode, I hang out with my dear friend Warren, a quantum healer, on his boat in Long Beach and we talk candidly about what we've observed about ourselves, people, relationships, society and life. show notes- 1:03 What is quantum healing? - 6:54 We create our reality... but it's complicated - 9:44 Veronica shares her own patterns and insights in relationship - 15:59 Why are men so closed in their hearts? - 21:27 Resurrecting "chivalry" - 28:16 Awakening through emptiness - 30:30 Authentic power vs. the void - 32:42 Transcending polarity - 38:19 Warren's powerful encounter with a homeless man - 41:37 The dangers of separation - 42:34 Moving toward real connection - 44:14 Who we really are - 48:26 Presence helps us see - 50:43 Veronica's wound/gift - 52:52 How do we come to know who we are? - 55:12 More than tendons and ligaments 

Veronica and Jeremy dive deeper into the topic of codependency, their experiences with it, and learning the art of unlearning while becoming more self-trusting. They talk about the stages of coming out of codependency and changing their stories, and also make room for the light and fluffy topics of inner demons, suicidality, and death. show notes - :15 RECAP: normalizing feelings for friends - 2:14 defining ‘codependency’ - 3:58 Veronica rattles off a list of codependent symptoms - 5:33 the unconscious nature of our behaviors and their effects on us - 6:39 getting out of the codependent pattern / the art of unlearning - 8:28 untangling from an information world - 10:41 the challenges of self-trust - 12:42 Veronica tries to get Jeremy to celebrate how far they’ve come - 16:26 changing our story as we grow - 18:01 there’s a time for blame + anger - 21:03 the importance of knowing self and needs - 22:55 exploring victimhood - 24:07 Jeremy shares his experience of a codependent relationship - 25:55 Veronica sees a soulmate in a “toxic” partner - 26:45 where our demons come from - 29:18 letting go of the old story - 30:03 consulting the inner child - 31:23 moving out of codependency / hitting rock bottom - 33:22 exploring suicidality - 36:02 insight through awareness + therapy - 37:10 Jeremy’s experience with therapy - 38:49 the limitations + gifts of therapy - 43:45 befriending your demons / what demons are - 45:49 a light discussion on death - 47:11 Veronica loses her cool at her upstairs neighbor - 48:07 embracing the unfolding of our lives - 49:31 Jeremy should be a therapist - 49:45 Veronica has another classic soapbox moment

In this episode, Veronica talks to her good friend and professional clown Jeremy about his feelings for her, their growing friendship, "emotional maturity" (we say this a lot), and codependency. show notes - :16 introducing Jeremy - 2:55 when Jeremy realized he was in love with Veronica - 5:22 how the truth bonds - 7:05 normalizing feelings for friends - 10:50 dealing with unreciprocated feelings - 12:41 love without ROI - 13:43 how expression alone can nourish - 14:10 moving from transactional to unconditional love - 17:00 exploring emotional stuntedness - 19:29 scratching the surface of codependency

In this episode, Veronica re-introduces herself, reflects on her last conversation with Kristen about relationships, and finds herself on a soapbox philosophizing about life and what she has learned so far (it's some really great stuff, she should get a podcast or a box of soap or something). show notes - :35 the early steps of Veronica's unusual path - 2:43 learning to be human - 4:34 questions of authenticity - 6:16 the rocky road of acting - 7:40 Veronica's star signs - 8:35 overcoming fear - 9:49 learning the art of letting go - 11:33 reflecting on relationships - 13:21 mental steps in evolution - 15:00 learning from a past relationship - 17:41 where clarity comes from - 18:53 Veronica's hope for this podcast

In this episode, Kristen and I break-up publicly and dive into the topics of love and relationships within the bigger context of living a spiritual existence (keeping it real light, you know?) :22 Breaking up with Kristen – 3:30 “Love is letting go” – 4:11 Our initial definitions of love / Coming from Asian-American families – 6:19 How our parents loved – 10:38 Old paradigms / We think pain proves our love – 11:33 Relationships are hard work? – 12:34 How our definitions of love changed – 16:56 “Healthy love” and what it takes – 20:58 There is no “right” way to love / Be wild! – 23:11 How any connection can shake us up – 25:34 What kind of love we want to experience – 28:02 Spiritual partnership / Will & Jada’s example – 29:36 Acceptance and love as an ever-changing energy – 31:05 Veronica returning to earth – 33:33 On cheating and “true love” – 35:00 What we still need to release – 38:58 Shedding the idea of perfect in order to love – 41:27 The risk of love / “But I’m still bruised” – 44:04 Trusting life and its higher purpose – 45:29 Veronica & Kristen gush over each other