Unlock Your Confidence with Clare Walsh

This episode we are dealing with overwhelm. There is so much of it around at the moment and when we are feeling overwhelmed it can be difficult to see a way out. In this episode I will share six methods you can use to deal with overwhelm today.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- Why you should let go of some of the things on your to do lists

- The steps you can take during times when everything feels too much

- Why being kind to yourself can make a big difference

When we're feeling overwhelmed, it is important to remember that done is always better than perfect, because perfect does not exist. What we are looking to do is our best and best means the best we can do in our particular circumstances with the time, resources, skills and knowledge we have available to us.

Episodes mentioned:

- Episode 6: Letting Go of Perfectionism https://apple.co/3MXwiYl

- Episode 8: Saying No With Confidence and Without the Guilt https://apple.co/3LMG4wh

- Episode 32: The Dark Side of People Pleasing – How to Create Healthier Boundaries and Still Be a Caring Person! https://apple.co/39C3PZD

Email me at [email protected].

I want to share 4 books that have enriched my life and made me think about what it takes to be happy and content. Since there are lots of little gems on my blog to help you to grow confidence, clarity and courage in very concrete ways, I'll also point you to some of my own writing.

My Blogs:

- It's the little transformations that make a massive difference "It's not all about massive transformations, little transformations make a massive difference!"One of my clients said this and it really got me thinking. My client hit the nail on the head. It is those little transformations – the changes in your thinking, behaviour and understanding of yourself - that added together make a massive difference to life.https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/its-the-little-transformations-that-make-a-massive-difference

- Worrying about what other people think. There are lots of things that hold us back from doing what we really want to do but the one that comes up so often in coaching sessions is worrying about what other people think.

https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/worrying-about-what-other-people-think-1

- September - Lets's take action – it doesn't matter what time of year it is – in the words of one reader "it's like a free coaching session"! https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/september-lets-take-action

- Why do we procrastinate? Lots of people think that procrastination is a form of laziness but in fact when we keep putting off the thing we want or need to do it's rarely because we're lazy.https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/why-do-we-procrastinate

Books:

- The Comfort Book by Matt Haig https://amzn.to/3OwGBEl

- How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention by Rosie Green https://amzn.to/3MwKyXX

- The Joy of Simple Things by Hannah Jane Parkinson https://amzn.to/3MuXNrQ

- The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse by Charlie Mackesy https://amzn.to/3rN0Xzo

Thank you if you've listened to every episode of the 40 we've done so far. If you have book recommendations or ideas for future episode topics, feel free to drop me an email at [email protected].

This episode is all about letting go of the limiting beliefs we all carry around with us, and replacing them with empowering ones. We carry around beliefs like:

- I'm shy

- I never finish anything

- I'm not clever

- I'm boring

- I'm not creative

- I'm really bad at public speaking

- I'm no good in a crisis

And they disempower us. They hold us back.So today I share my own experience in changing a limiting belief I carried around as my truth for decades, and I also share the experience of one of my clients, taking you through the same method we both used to shift our thinking and beliefs and create real change in our lives.In this episode you will learn:

- how to recognise these beliefs

- how to question your "evidence" of their truth

- how to formulate an empowering alternative belief

- how to recognise that this is your truth and to start to believe and live it on a daily basis

Resources:

- Email me at [email protected]

This episode is all about the importance of forgiving yourself. The theme was prompted by a Guardian headline. It quoted the journalist John Simpson saying, "Like most men, I am amazingly good at forgiving myself." And that really got me thinking about myself and the women in my life. Are we amazingly good at forgiving ourselves? Are you? In This Episode You Will Learn:- What self-forgiveness is and its benefits

- Why we find it hard to forgive ourselves

- The limitations of self-forgiveness

- The four-step process to self-forgiveness

It's time women too can say we are good at self-forgiveness. And if you find this episode helpful, please rate and review the podcast and help other listeners find it!

Resources:

- Article The benefits of self-forgiveness https://scopeblog.stanford.edu/2019/08/02/the-benefits-of-self-forgiveness/#

- Article Taking the Steps to Forgive Yourself https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-forgive-yourself-4583819#

- Email me at: [email protected]

This is the second part of the episode about cultivating self-esteem.

In Part 1 we learnt:

- What self-esteem is

- The signs of low self-esteem

- How to tackle negative self-talk

- The importance of speaking about yourself positively

- The power of compliments and the importance of accepting themI hope that you've begun to put these things into practice.

This episode you will learn:- How to detach yourself from the criticism and praise of others and start measuring your self-worth by your opinion of yourself – and the measure of that is your best in your unique circumstances

- How to stop clinging to perfectionism and believe that you are enough

- How to accept that failure is a normal part of daily life even for successful, super-confident people

- The importance of stopping blaming yourself when things go wrong.

Previous episodes mentioned during this episode:

- Episode 22 – Dealing with Criticism and Praise! Detaching ourselves from what other people think. https://apple.co/3HTrHn2

- Episode 6 – Letting go of perfectionism https://apple.co/3MB3yFm

- Episode 14 – The power of believing "I am enough"! https://apple.co/3vP11Bz

- Episode 31 – Is it time to stop saying sorry? https://apple.co/3MwpEZN

Resources:

- The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance - What Women Should Know https://amzn.to/3w6hIsz, a book by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman

- Email me at: [email protected]

This episode we're tackling how to cultivate self-esteem. This is such a big topic that I've split it in two parts. But don't worry, you'll end this episode with concrete ways you can begin to grow your self-esteem now - you don't have to wait for Part 2 to get started!In this episode you will learn:

- What self-esteem is

- The signs of low self-esteem

- How to tackle negative self-talk

- The importance of speaking about yourself positively

- The power of compliments and the importance of accepting them

Previous episodes mentioned in today's episode:

- Episode 5 – What would happen if you were kind to yourself? Taming your inner critic. https://apple.co/3tZIIr1

- Episode 12 – How good are you at accepting compliments? https://apple.co/3vKi0oG

Emal me at: [email protected]

This episode we are exploring values. I'm a great believer that by living a life that is fully aligned with our values we can be happier and more confident. But, how many of us really stop and think about what our values are and which are most important to us?This episode will help you to answer those questions.

What You Will Learn:- What we mean when we talk about values- How to work out which values are most important to you- How to focus on the values most important to you to help you achieve the things important to you and have that happier life! Resources:

Email me at [email protected]

Instead of "fake it till you make it", I prefer "act the way you want to feel". That way I'm not pretending or faking anything, it's still the real me, not me pretending to be something I'm not, or trying to be like someone else. So how do we manage this?

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- When and how to soothe your inner critic

- How to practise getting into the state of feeling confident and relaxed

- What happens when you become capable of embodying how you feel

I hope that I've inspired you to act the way you want to feel. It makes a big difference and you have nothing to lose by trying.

Resources:

- Email address [email protected]

- Join my free facebook group here for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility

- Follow me for daily inspiration www.instagram.com/clarewalshcoaching

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Today I'm talking about what your envy can teach you. By envy, I don't mean the potentially destructive feelings of jealousy. I'm talking about the feelings of discontent that envy throws up.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- How extremely uncomfortable emotion of envy can show you what you want

- Why you should examine your feelings of envy whenever they arise

- Why you should take a little time to sit with the uncomfortable feeling

- The questions to ask to find out what your envy is trying to teach you

Once you have identified what's making you envious, make sure you start with small steps and take action. There's no point identifying what we want if we don't actually move into action.

Resources:

- Email address [email protected]

- Join my free facebook group here for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility

- Follow me for daily inspiration www.instagram.com/clarewalshcoaching

www.facebook.com/clarewalshcoaching

Do you tell yourself and others that you're a people pleaser?

I hear people equate being people pleaser to being a nice person, a decent friend, a kind person, a loving, caring human being. All of these are lovely things, but I would argue that you can be every one of those things without having to label yourself as a people pleaser.

What You Will Learn In This Episode:

- What's wrong with being a people pleaser?

- How to stop being a people pleaser

- How you could describe yourself instead of saying I'm a people pleaser

- Rethinking your values and setting your boundaries

- How to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable

You can have boundaries and say no to the things that you neither have the time or the energy for and still be caring. You can be authentically you without offending other people. Stop giving yourself the 'I'm a people pleaser' label and choose something more empowering. Remember that every time you say yes to something, you're saying no to something else.

Resources:

- Email address [email protected]

- Join my free Facebook group here for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility

- Follow me for daily inspiration www.instagram.com/clarewalshcoaching

www.facebook.com/clarewalshcoaching