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Living an inauthentic life is the quickest way to let sickness in.

Bexx and Noie sit down with their friend Brandon Burke, who shares his incredible transformation journey as a way to inspire others to live their most authentic lives. Brandon goes back to the beginning of his story to share how he started to recognize his unhappiness. After many years of difficult challenges, he decided to change his life and transform himself into someone new. Now, he shares his story to inspire others to do the same.

Brandon’s advice is not meant to be a one-size-fits-all approach. He shows that everyone is meant to live differently to find their most authentic selves. By sharing Brandon’s story, we hope you feel compelled to look at your life and change those things that do not bring you happiness. Transform yourself and live your life authentically.

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[Start] Welcoming Brandon Burke: Bexx and Noie introduce their guest, Brandon Burke, and he shares a bit about his background.
04:27 The Breaking Point: Brandon’s mental diagnosis that ultimately changed everything in his life.
10:46 The Cost of Inauthentic Living: How not living true to yourself can ultimately lead to physical and emotional ailments.
23:24 Life After Rock Bottom: How Brandon rebuilt himself and moved on from pain to create his authentic life.
37:08 Love Through Change: Why Brandon’s love and support from his wife was a big factor during his change journey.
01:04:27 Connect with Brandon: Different ways to connect with Brandon and the services that he provides for everyone on their transformation journey.

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Control isn’t always obvious. Sometimes it looks like being “easygoing,” saying “I’m fine,” or trying to keep everything running smoothly so nothing falls apart. 

Bexx and Noie get into the subtle, everyday ways control shows up—and why most of us don’t even realize we’re doing it. What starts as a conversation about anxiety, relationships, and personality patterns turns into something deeper: how fear is quietly running the show for most of us—and we've just been calling it personality.

They get into the difference between control and boundaries, the pressure to not be “too much,” and how control can show up in everything from relationships to religion to the way you communicate your needs. Noie shares personal stories about loss and survival—the moments that made letting go non-negotiable. And Bexx gets honest about how control hides inside even the people who think they've done the work. If you’ve ever felt like you need to hold everything together just to feel okay, this episode might hit closer than you expect.

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[Start] Control vs. Surrender—Why We Hold On So Tightly: Bexx and Noie get into what control actually looks like day to day—and how anxiety makes us grip tighter to things that were never ours to hold.
04:01 The Subtle Ways Control Shows Up: From saying “I’m fine” to overthinking texts, they break down the low-key habits that are actually rooted in control.
13:12 When You Don’t Have Control at All: Noie shares personal experiences of loss, illness, and the moments that made surrender the only option.
16:36 Fear vs. Love: What’s Actually Driving You: How fear fuels control—and what actually changes when love is the thing making your decisions instead.
41:39 Control vs. Boundaries: Where the line actually is, and how to protect your energy without trying to control other people.

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Your packing style is a personality test you didn’t know you were taking. Recording live from Spain, Bexx and Noie talk about the five packing personalities they’ve identified and land on something much deeper: how you pack is how you live. What starts as a conversation about carry-ons and outfit choices turns into a discussion about identity, control, freedom, and why some of us literally cannot leave the house without a backup outfit for the backup outfit.
They break down the types of packers—from the minimalist to the last-minute throw-it-in-a-bag girl—and what each one says about your mindset, habits, and what’s most important to you. They call themselves out too, sharing their own packing fails, the stuff they always pack and never use, and their packing personalities. Fair warning: you will hear yourself in at least one of these personalities.

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[Start] Spain, Packing, and First Impressions: Bexx and Noie set the scene in Spain and reflect on how their packing (and lack of it) shaped the start of the trip.
04:41 What Kind of Packer Are You?: Breaking down the five packing personalities and the habits, mindsets, and identities behind each one.
16:04 Packing = Personality: Turns out how you pack is basically a window to all of you.
22:54 “Just in Case” Energy: Embarrassing packing fails, items that never left the bag, and the stories we tell ourselves at 11 p.m. before our 6 a.m. flight.
30:04 The Real Struggle: How many shoes is too many and why are there so many toiletries?

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What happens when you mix kids, exhaustion, sand in places it should never be, and a completely unpredictable itinerary? Bexx and Noie take you inside the beautiful, chaotic reality of traveling with kids, and why, somehow, it’s still always worth it.

From cramming into rental cars after red-eye flights to navigating airports with medical equipment, meltdowns, and moments that feel completely unmanageable, they unpack the highs and lows of bringing children into your adventures. But beneath the chaos is something deeper: connection, resilience, and the kind of memories that shape both you and your kids long after the trip ends.

This episode gets especially personal as Noie shares stories about traveling with her children, including her son Darren, whose life—and final birthday trip to the ocean—left a lasting imprint on how she sees time, motherhood, and what really matters. Bexx reflects on raising seven kids across wildly different ages, and how travel has shaped their confidence, curiosity, and connection as a family.

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[Start] Is It Magic or Chaos?: Why traveling with kids is both overwhelming and unforgettable from the very start.
06:52 The Hard Stories That Matter Most: Noie shares the realities of traveling with children with medical needs—and the deeper meaning behind those experiences.
13:54 When Chaos Becomes the Memory: From Barbados car meltdowns to airport disasters, the moments that feel the worst often become the funniest—and most meaningful.
28:11 Is It Actually Worth It?: Why the answer is always yes, even when it’s hard, exhausting, and far from perfect.
35:19 What Travel Teaches Kids (and You): Confidence, adaptability, bonding, and why getting out of your routine changes everything.

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What actually happens after your life falls apart—or more accurately, falls out of alignment? Bexx and Noie break down the real, messy, and often misunderstood process of a “glow up.” Not the curated, aesthetic version you see online, but the raw transformation that happens after divorce, leaving a religion, or walking away from a life that no longer fits. They unpack the emotional rollercoaster of identity collapse, grief, rejection, and the disorienting freedom that follows when everything you thought defined you is suddenly gone.

From losing community and friendships to rebuilding self-trust and rediscovering personal identity, the conversation moves through each stage of transformation with honesty, humor, and depth. Bexx and Noie share their own experiences navigating heartbreak, judgment, and reinvention, while highlighting the phases most people don’t talk about, like the rebellion stage, the “dangerous” glow up, and the slow, internal work that leads to real peace. This episode is a reminder that growth isn’t linear, healing isn’t pretty, and the most powerful version of you is built in the moments when no one is watching.

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[Start] The Glow-Up After Everything Falls Apart: Why major life changes like divorce, breakups, and leaving religion often trigger deep transformations.
08:18 Identity Collapse: Losing Who You Thought You Were: The disorienting first phase of a glow up—losing your identity, your community, and your sense of certainty.
19:30 Grief, Rejection, and Losing People Along the Way: The emotional weight of losing friendships, community, and belonging, and why it hurts more than expected.
27:35 Figuring Out Who You Really Are: Exploration, experimentation, and the “wild” phase that helps you reclaim identity and personal freedom.
35:18 The Real Glow-Up: Choosing Yourself Fully: Settling into self-love, inner peace, and building a life that reflects who you actually are.

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Have you ever been around people who just suck the life out of you? Same. And we’re done with it.

Bexx and Noie talk about “energy suckers”, or people who drain you whenever you’re around them. These relationships aren’t honest or authentic and leave you feeling stuck, depleted, and anxious. If you’ve found yourself stuck around these types of people, then this episode is for you.

Bexx and Noie break down how to identify different types of energy suckers, and what you can do to take your energy back. Because no one deserves to feel constantly drained or anxious. Sometimes, all it takes is to stand up and say, “I don’t give a shit about this anymore.”

This episode will help you reclaim your energy, set boundaries where they are needed, and stop giving yourself to people who don’t show up for you. Protecting your peace is not selfish; it’s necessary.

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[Start] Introduction: Bexx and Noie talk about people who “suck the life out of you” and why they seem to be so common.
02:53 Types of Energy Suckers: A breakdown of common types of energy drainers and how to spot them.
10:13 Dangers to Empaths: How empaths and intelligent people tend to attract energy suckers.
14:30 Steps to Get Your Energy Back: Practical steps to help you take back your energy from toxic people.
23:36 Protecting Your Peace: How to recognize when boundaries are needed and how to set them.
36:45 Learn From Our Mistakes: Why learning from the past is so important to protect your future.

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What if the thing you’ve been taught to fear in yourself is actually the thing trying to protect you? Bexx and Noie dive into what happens when you keep swallowing your truth and suppressing your anger and rage until it starts living in your body.

From religion, relationships, and verbal abuse to people-pleasing, depression, and the pressure to stay “nice,” this conversation cracks open the difference between explosive rage and sacred rage. Bexx and Noie unpack why anger is not the enemy, why silence is not peace, and why getting it out might be the first real step toward healing.

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[Start] Rage Is Not the Opposite of Love: Bexx and Noie introduce the idea of sacred rage and why anger may be more protective than destructive.
02:10 Growing Up Without Permission to Feel: Noie shares how rage, conflict, and emotional expression were handled inside the FLDS world.
09:25 What Suppressed Anger Does to the Body: Bexx breaks down how unprocessed rage can show up as anxiety, depression, numbness, and chronic tension.
17:55 When Silence Becomes Survival: They talk about abuse, self-abandonment, and what happens when your body learns it is safer to stay quiet.
31:25 Rage, Boundaries, and Reclaiming Your Voice: Bexx and Noie explore how sacred rage can help women stop suppressing themselves and start coming back into their power.

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What does loneliness actually look like? It doesn’t always mean sitting alone in a quiet house. Sometimes it shows up in a crowded room, in a marriage, or even in the middle of a busy life filled with responsibilities. In this episode, Bexx and Noie unpack the surprising reality of modern loneliness and why so many people, especially women, feel deeply disconnected even while surrounded by others. Drawing on recent research and their own lived experiences, they explore how loneliness affects the brain, body, and our relationships.

The conversation moves from science to deeply personal territory as they share stories about motherhood, grief, relationships, and the hidden loneliness that can come from being the strong one everyone depends on. They also examine the role social media plays in creating distorted perceptions of connection and success, and why independence can sometimes block intimacy. Throughout the episode, Bexx and Noie return to one central truth: real connection requires vulnerability, risk, and the willingness to be seen. From small social experiments to simple rituals that rebuild connection, this episode offers practical ways to step back into meaningful relationships. 

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[Start] Loneliness Is More Dangerous Than We Think: Bexx and Noie discuss a new study that reveals the shocking physical effects of loneliness.
03:46 Feeling Alone in Relationships and Motherhood: Bexx and Noie share personal experiences of feeling alone even while surrounded by family, partners, and responsibilities.
14:07 Social Media and the Illusion of Connection: Why curated online lives can deepen feelings of loneliness and misunderstanding.
19:45 The Power of Real Friendships: What it means to truly feel seen by someone and why trusted friendships can break cycles of isolation.
24:04 Small Steps Toward Real Connection: Practical ways to reduce loneliness, including vulnerability, weekly connection rituals, and taking small social risks.

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What happens when two unfiltered women start asking each other the questions everyone else avoids?

In this episode, Bexx and Noie play a chaotic round of “Never Would I Ever”—and things get honest fast. From dating red flags and relationship mistakes to the things people swear they would never do… until they do them anyway.

The conversation gets surprisingly real as they unpack jealousy, intuition, ghosting, flirting, relationship power dynamics, and the moments when you realize you ignored your gut. Some of the answers are hilarious, some are a little unhinged, and a few might hit closer to home than expected.

Because the truth is, everyone has a list of things they swore they’d never do. Relationships just have a way of rewriting that list.

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[Start] Never Have I Ever: Bexx and Noie play a game of “Never Have I Ever,” where points are awarded based on how often they have done something.
03:09 Relationship Lessons: Personal stories about learning hard lessons from past relationships.
10:10 Red Flags and Modern Dating: Bexx and Noie discuss red flags and the harsh realities in modern dating.
21:24 Trusting Your Gut: Times when the girls ignored their intuition and later regretted it.
28:10 Reflections on the Past: A look back on things Bexx and Noie said they would never do, but have changed over time.

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Would you actually date yourself?

Bexx and Noie dive into the realities of modern-day dating and unpack the expectations people bring into relationships and the quiet hypocrisy that can show up when we demand qualities from a partner that we’re not always willing to embody ourselves. Loyalty, honesty, emotional maturity… everyone says they want these things. But are we showing up with them?

Through stories from their own dating experiences, Bexx and Noie talk about the patterns they’ve seen, the standards they’ve had to confront in themselves, and the difference between asking for more in a relationship versus becoming more.

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[Start] Would You Date Yourself?: Bexx and Noie ask a question that sparks a conversation about self-awareness and dating standards.
06:14 Relationship Expectations: Things that make people feel safe and cared for in a relationship.
18:24 Toxic Traits and Dating Fears: Reflections on past relationships and their influence on your behavior.
23:38 Keep or Cut: A game where Bexx and Noie debate common dating behaviors and decide which ones are dealbreakers.
44:16 Stay True to Yourself: How to stay true to who you are in a relationship without being toxic.

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