Unpacking Love

Ayanda & I discuss ChatGPT's responses to our prompts: a love confession to a crush, a text to gently let down someone who has feelings for us, a maid of honor speech, a text to get an ex back after breaking up over jealousy, a love letter to a significant other, the perfect wingman, handling a crush on a professor, the most outrageous pickup line and advice to our younger single self.

What did you think about ChatGPT's responses? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.

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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen

Passi joins me in this 'Flags' episode! This one was a juicy one covering having a preference to date outside your race, opposite-sex best friends, on-and-off relationships, eating from each other's plates, being introduced to your significant other's opposite-sex friends by your first name with no title, faith, waiting for someone to exit a relationship, excessive phone usage, name tattoos & travel. We really had a blast recording this!

What do you think about these? Are they red, green or yellow flags for you? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/. 

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Music - 'Kyima' by Lanucess 

Ryan & T share their thoughts about the 'Girlfriend Allowance' in the first half of this episode & unpack the 'Boyfriend Allowance' in the second half. Find out what these guys think about the girlfriend allowance, if they've given one out before & if they would give one out in the future. Also find out if they've received a boyfriend allowance in the past and if they would accept one in the future. Some notable phrases from this episode were "power dynamics", "love", "provider", "independent woman", "ego" & "a blessing from God". We had a blast recording this!

Be sure to check out 'Girlfriend Allowance (Dollars & Pounds) - with Irene & Chiedza | 63' if you missed it.

Question: What do you think about the boyfriend allowance? Would you want it/would you give it? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/!

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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen

Michelle & Garabed let us in on their friend group's dating pact in this episode. Find out what the dating pact is, the rewards & punishments, why they came up with it, how it's been helpful, some fun stories that have come out of it and some of the creative ways in which they've met people in this dating world!

What are your thoughts about all this? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.

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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen

Joey and I talk about the friend zone - everything from personal stories of being in the friend zone to dealing with people who wanted to come out of the friend zone that we had put them in. Find out whether we were successful or not in this episode!

Family zone vs friend zone - is one worse than the other? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.

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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen

Steph, Nana & I talk about a dating questionnaire some girl sent to some guy as seen on TikTok (https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRsYR8JJ/). Find out if we would send out or answer people's questionnaires and the best part - what we think about each question that was in the questionnaire (full list below). 

What are your thoughts about all this? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.

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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen

* For your entertainment, here are all the questions:

Are you married? (Yes, No, Separated)

What are your dating goals? (Not sure/just vibing, Casual sex/dating, short-term relationship, long-term relationship, life partner/marriage)

Do you believe in marriage or is it just a piece of paper?

Highest level of education (Undergrad degree, Masters degree, Doctorate, Other)

How would you describe your financial/employment situation right now?

How would you describe your current living situation? (own place/living alone, living with roommate(s), living with family, other)

Do you have kids? (Yes, No)

Do you want kids? (Yes, No, Not sure)

If you had a child who was LGBTQ+ would you (love them and support their choices, love them but not support/condone their life choices, disown them, other)

Are you a person of faith (i.e. christian, muslim etc.) ? (yes, no, somewhat, other) 

Are you close with your family? (Yes, no, other)

Have you ever been to therapy? (I'm currently in therapy, I've been to therapy in the past, I haven't been to therapy but would go, I've never been to therapy. I don't feel I need it and don't see myself going, other)

What is your zodiac sign? (sign, moon and rising if you know it) Otherwise when is your birthday?

Can you swim? (Yes, No)

Does the toilet tissue roll go over or under? (over, under, doesn't matter)

Do you have a passport? (yes, no) - picture of a passport included 

My love language (giving) is (check all that apply): (acts of service, quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts)

My love language (receiving) is (check all that apply): (acts of service, quality time, physical touch, words of affirmation, gifts)

On a first date, who should pay? (the man, whoever asked the other person, both (split the bill/go dutch), other) 

What's you preferred method of communication? Check all that apply (texting, talking on the phone, Facetime, in-person)

What's wrong with this picture? Your answer [it's a woman and a man on a sidewalk with the woman closer to the road and the man closer to the wall)

Name one no-skips album or mixtape

Top 3 tv series/sitcoms of all time?

What artists are heavy in rotation on your playlists right now?

Are you allergic to seafood? (Yes, No, Not allergic. I just don't eat it)

Choose the sentences that use the correct homophone (check all that apply):

Your beautiful

I think you're gorgeous

I haven't been over there yet

Everyone's leaving there cars all over the place

They're coming over later

This questionnaire is doing to much

It's too hot in here

Their isn't much left

Belight joins me in the 'Flags' kickoff in this episode! This episode covered the lack of social media, location sharing, being introduced to your significant other's friends, dating stage campaigning, phone number sharing on dating profiles, older bachelors, person-of-interest's longest prior relationship being six months long & dating someone who is similar to you.

How do you see these? Are they red, green or yellow for you? Let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/. 

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Music - 'Kyima' by Lanucess 

In this episode, Kris shares her arranged marriage knowledge and experience. We unpacked everything from what an arranged marriage is, differences between modern day & olden day arranged marriage, the caste system, dowry, apps used to search for suitors, family involvement in the process and so much more. The cherry on top was Kris's arranged marriage story. An insightful episode to kick off Season 2 of the podcast!

What was your biggest takeaway from this episode? Feel free to let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.

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Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen 

TT 35: Their words, their actions & your gut are telling you something....Believe them! Thank you for listening & for supporting me on this journey! You are a real one and I appreciate you - Michelle 

Let's chat on IG @unpackinglove https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/!

Music - 'Ndiwe' by Masa Caroleen

Oye and I talk about what being in a relationship means to us and how that has changed over time. We also talk about how we've managed chopping breakfast in the past (shoutout to Burna Boy for giving us 'Last Last'!). So much to unpack in this episode - intentions, commitment, expectations, lists, healing, learning the lessons & more. We had a blast recording this! 

What does being in a relationship mean to you and how have you managed chopping breakfast in the past? Feel free to let me know @unpackinglove on IG https://instagram.com/unpackinglove/.

Thanks for listening!

Music - Ndiwe by Masa Caroleen