In the Season 3 finale of Unsaid, we close our deep dive into infertility with an honest, validating, and trauma-informed conversation about the grief that lives beneath the surface of trying to conceive—grief that often goes unseen, unnamed, and unsupported.
I’m joined by Katie Kirkenmeier, LPC, PMH-C, ATR ,a grief expert, licensed professional counselor, registered art therapist, and certified perinatal mental health specialist. Katie brings extensive expertise in infertility-related trauma, pregnancy loss, and the emotional complexities of IVF, offering insight that helps women feel understood, grounded, and never alone.
Together, we explore:
• the grief of trying to get pregnant
• the grief of staying pregnant
• partner grief and relational strain
• grief shaped by earlier trauma or sexual violence
• the emotional toll of “white-knuckling” through infertility
• why infertility increases the risk of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders
• how grief truly works, and why no one should be rushed through it
This episode honors the full spectrum of loss, loss of expectations, loss of identity, loss of control, and the loss that happens long before IVF even begins. Katie offers trauma-informed, evidence-based guidance for healing, coping, and reclaiming hope.
This finale empowers women to know:
You have a voice.
You have options.
You have support.
And you do not have to walk this journey alone.
About Katie Kirkenmeier, LPC, PMH-C, ATR
Katie is a grief expert, licensed professional counselor, perinatal mental health–certified specialist, and registered art therapist. She specializes in infertility trauma, pregnancy loss, birth trauma prevention, and the intersection of trauma and reproductive mental health.
Connect with Katie:
• Instagram: @katiektherapy
• TikTok: @KatieKTherapy
• Website: www.katiekirkenmeiertherapy.com
• Email: [email protected]