In this episode, we are going to look at how denial keeps a system in place.

I am going to talk about White Fragility and how we can hide behind the "good person", the "non-racist", the "one who has no problems" and YET we are in total denial.

Without rupturing denial we don't create the conditions to learn, grow, and organize in healthy ways.

I am gonna talk about how denial serves to keep us in a system that offers us an advantage. We may not be conscious of this, but we want to locate it.

Also, denial is a big pacifier that numbs us and doesn't ask anything from us.

It is time for US people to puncture denial. Let's wake up to the problem of our life and greet reality.

Yes, it is messy, uncomfortable, and often shame-based but freedom is much sweeter,

Let's open our eyes, minds, and hearts and align with dignity, grace, and equality for all.

I will be reading the preface of my book and part of the introduction.

I have been helping people untangle disorganized systems for over 20 years to create systematic transformation versus incremental self-willed change.

I

Let's talk about Southern Racism.

In this episode, I am share my Southern shame and the struggles of racism I had to confront within my family.

It is difficult for me to re-listen to this episode. I was in the middle of a shame spiral, messy, and still not clear to my own White Fragility.

On the other level, awakening is a process.

As we continue to advocate for systematic reform my shame becomes more dissolve.

Healing depending on all of us to look at our part in a system. To own it, to puncture denial, and reorganize within a higher state of consciousness.

Let's get uncomfortable and look are our own voiceless enabling.

Let's confront all the times we let racial slurs pass and said nothing, did NOTHING.

Let's come together behind the silence of shame and rattle awakening.

Let's form new voices that match our humanity's hearts to hear the cries of injustice.

Let's support Black Lives Matter until systematic reforms are integrated to support equality for all.

It is time to form voices that interrupt the old systems. It is time to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

In this episode, we are diving into coupleship shame and what to do about it.

Many times we stay stuck in the shame, not sure how to mobilize into a harmonious union again.

Things need to get addressed, issues need to be voiced in a healthy way, and space needed to help to discover each other again.

This episode is not only for the ladies, so gentlemen come to this space to gather some ideas of what you can do to move forward.

I must say, coaching couples is by far the most difficult space I hold for people. Triggering money issues and disastrous sexual trauma are difficult terrains to navigate.

However, it is possible to recover and thrive.

We have to become willing to put down our swords and pick up our hearts. We must be willing to meet somewhere new in order to discover each other again.

Sometimes it starts with a foot rub, a hand holding, a gesture of maybe. Whatever it is, lets start!

In this episode, I am going to teach you how to UNTANGLE a trigger.

Whether it is flight anxiety, asking for a raise, asserting your needs, WHATEVER!

We need to get out of the Shark Waters of emotional triggers.

We need to find new land to support our life more optimally.

Grab a piece of paper and pen to work the 3 Steps as a Triangle Formation.

Many people need the 3 Untangle Steps to be broken apart to better engage.

This Triangle Exercise has helped many! Stay with me, this is worth your time!

How do we unlock ourselves from shutting down or freezing?

Many of us, struggle to stay connected. We trained ourselves early in life to shut down or freeze to survive overwhelming sensations.

But that doesn't mean we need to build a life around a shut-down state!

We can learn skills to emerge out of a freeze and reclaim our lives.

It all starts with the body.

Join me as I walk you through my process to unwind from a freeze.

Let's talk about Mother's Day and the need for mothering.

Why do we become unavailable for mothering?

What is the difference between fixing ourselves and healthy mothering?

How do we cultivate healthy internal mothering to crawl us into new experiences?

Imagination is the ability to engage with present reality and form a mental image of something that is not perceived through the five senses.

Our imagination can hijack us in unhelpful ways or we can learn skills to master resourceful imagination.

Everyone possesses a certain degree of imagination ability.

Imagination makes it possible to experience a whole world inside the mind. It gives the ability to look at any situation from a different point of view and to mentally explore the past and the future.

We need to create space in our lives to develop our imagination.

In this episode, we will explore our relationship to medicine.

What is your medicine?

Some of us try to find medicine in booze, pills, donuts, or shopping. This medicine is trying to buffer isolation, pain, confusion, disconnection.

Often, we try to control or dominate these behaviors because part of us is terrified to let them go.

Instead of managing the wars of self-hate and disconnection, we want to create space to explore our unconscious relationship with our medicine or with letting it go.

As we connect our unseen life with our seen experience, we access internal medicine to heal, thrive, and grow.

Here, we reunite with a deeper part of ourselves, a deeper part of life, a deeper belonging with life.

Our response to a crisis or a difficult challenge is EVERYTHING. When we are stuck in unconscious reactive patterns, we miss gathering the In-Between Space needed to transform. Instead of fighting with reality, we need to organize it differently. We need to stabilize our unconscious threats to access a more-in-depth organizing intelligence. As we do, we create the conditions to thrive, no matter our external circumstances.

Purposeful freedom requires responsibility and commitment. It requires we work differently to access clarity, energy, vision. When we are stuck in the weeds of surviving everyday stresses we become out of flow with life.

How we arrive to our committed vision is unique to each one of us. In this episode, I am exploring this conversation from a spiritual and religious lens. It is Passover. I want to draw forward elements of this holiday to engage in the conversation of how people unwind the bondage of slavery to access purposeful freedom.