Untempered

When did protecting your friends become more important than calling them out?

In light of recent disturbing headlines, I sit down with Dr. Shefali to ask: what has gone wrong in the way we raise boys? Why do some men stay silent when their friends cross a line? And how does belonging to the group become more important than another person’s safety?

We explore where it begins: the emotions boys are taught to hide, the behaviour adults excuse, and the messages about masculinity, power and consent that follow them into adulthood.

We also discuss raising daughters who trust their instincts, speak up and hold their boundaries, and why raising conscious children requires us to examine ourselves first.

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Find Dr. Shefali:

• Website
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• Parenting & You podcast
• Courses and workshops
• The Conscious Circle community
• Conscious Parenting and Life Coaching Institute

Read Raising Conscious Sons and Raising Conscious Daughters:
https://www.drshefali.com/raisingconscious-daughters-sons/

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Could your ADHD actually be unhealed trauma? Psychologist Dr. Jacob Ambrose breaks down the dangerous overlap between ADHD and CPTSD — and why getting the wrong diagnosis could make everything worse.

⏱️ Chapters:0:00 — ADHD Misconceptions & Why It's Not an Attention Deficit3:54 — ADHD, Trauma & Firm Correction in Childhood7:28 — The Misdiagnosis Crisis: 15M Adults, 7M Kids Diagnosed9:55 — Why ADHD Medication Made Her PTSD Worse12:08 — ADHD & Dating: Limerence, Chemistry & Impulsivity18:50 — CPTSD vs. ADHD: How They Fall in Love Differently21:41 — Attachment Styles Explained (Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganized)38:00 — How Insecure Attachment Physically Reshapes Your Body40:59 — Jumping Out of Planes: The Healing Journey47:32 — Can You Actually Become Securely Attached?49:51 — What Happens in Therapy: Session 1 Breakdown53:41 — Where to Find Dr. Jacob Ambrose

Dr. Jacob Ambrose is a psychologist specializing in ADHD, complex trauma, and attachment. He also co-hosts the podcast "Two Dudes Talking Therapy" with Vinny, available on Patreon.

Whether you're neurodivergent, healing from trauma, or just trying to understand why your relationships keep following the same pattern — this one goes deep.

🌐Find Dr Jacob here: Coach with him from anywhere in the world: 💫www.restore-psychology.com/adhd-relationship-coaching💫Instagram : @dr.jacob.ambrose 💫Patreon: www.patreon.com/c/2dudestalkintherapy

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In Part 2 of our conversation with Mo Gawdat, former Chief Business Officer at Google X, bestselling author of Solve for Happy and Scary Smart, and entrepreneur, I ask him the hard question: Why are we so unlucky in love?Dating apps don't seem to want you to find love. They want you to keep swiping. We break down the dopamine trap of modern dating, then introduce Emma: an AI that spends hours getting to know you, matches you on 450+ hidden parameters — attachment styles, love languages, chemistry — and even acts as your AI wing woman. Not a dating app. A relationship app built to find you true love and fight the loneliness epidemic.This is probably one of my favorite conversations that I've ever had, and I'm so excited for you to listen to it. Don't forget to subscribe to this channel to see more! Mo Gawdat will be back! TIMESTAMPS0:00 The Power of Slowing Down0:44 My Journey into Monkhood2:19 The Magic Words for Dating4:24 The Vision Behind Emma6:53 How Emma Gets to Know You11:58 Unmasking Manipulated Narratives25:01 Why Good Men Lose Out🔗 Try Emma: app.emma.love🔗 Join the waitlist: emma.love-🌐Check out Untempered on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH#Podcast #SelfHelp #MentalHealth #Dating #Relationship #Psychology #PersonalGrowth #Motivation #InnerPeace #Wellness

In this raw, honest conversation, I sit down with relationship coach Lewis Huckstep to unpack why even the most successful, driven people struggle most in their relationships covering vulnerability, triggers, self-sabotage, attachment styles, neurodivergence in relationships, and why so much therapy treats symptoms instead of root causes. If you've got it together everywhere except your relationships, this one's for you.

0:00 Introduction: why overachievers struggle in relationships0:19 Why relationships are the closest mirrors to your unhealed parts2:06 Why vulnerability is harder in relationships than in business2:49 What healthy vulnerability actually looks like5:07 Past hurt creates future fear5:43 The ARRI framework for working through triggers10:06 Can people perform vulnerability?15:34 Self-sabotage vs. self-protection16:38 The 3-part framework for a healthy relationship18:50 Discerning triggers from true misalignment23:57 Signs someone needs deeper shadow work30:42 Neurodivergence, excuses, and real struggles in relationships40:04 Handling shutdown phases without feeling abandoned48:31 Attachment styles and how long healing really takes49:09 Why most therapy treats symptoms, not root causes53:31 Closing thoughts

Message from the host: Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. -#RelationshipAdvice #Vulnerability #ShadowWork #AttachmentStyles #SelfSabotage #Healing #PersonalGrowth #Neurodivergent #MentalHealth #RelationshipCoach #TraumaHealing #Podcast

In this episode, Richard Grannon returns for a third time to explore the people surrounding narcissists — the enablers, the golden children, the black sheep, and everyone caught in the narcissist's orbit. We dive deep into the differences between grandiose and covert narcissism, how each type operates in the real world, and the devastating impact covert narcissistic parenting has on children. From manufactured moral outrage and emotional incest to the long-term effects on adult relationships, this conversation covers the full spectrum of narcissistic abuse dynamics. We also discuss whether social media is manufacturing more narcissists, the loneliness epidemic, and practical dating advice for spotting manipulation before it's too late.Do me a favour and click the subscribe button so you don't miss this season's line up of amazing guests like Richard!

-Find Richard here : https://www.richardgrannon.com

0:00 - Intro & Subscribe0:24 - Welcome Back Richard (Third Time)0:42 - The Cast Around the Narcissist1:39 - Grandiose vs. Covert Narcissism5:20 - Schrödinger's Narcissist7:26 - Covert Narcissism & Domestic Violence8:07 - Narcissistic Parents: Covert vs. Grandiose9:11 - Emotional Incest & Parentification10:41 - Neuroticism & the Covert Narcissist15:25 - Manufactured Moral Outrage17:29 - The Highs: Charm & Love Bombing19:20 - How Covert Narcissist Parents Affect Adult Relationships20:24 - Why Richard Hates How Attachment Styles Are Used24:10 - The Golden Child vs. The Black Sheep29:37 - Psychopath vs. Narcissist Parents32:33 - Dating Advice: Red Flags & Boundaries37:40 - Is Social Media Creating More Narcissists?45:49 - Loneliness, Technology & the Human Condition

Relationship coach, men's work expert, and emotional maturity advocate Max Trombly joins me for one of the most honest conversations about modern dating, avoidant attachment, and why men check out of relationships.If you've ever over-invested in a relationship, attracted emotionally unavailable men, or wondered why a defensive man keeps showing up in your life, this episode is for you.

Max has spent years coaching men and women on healthy relationships, emotional intelligence, and masculine development. In this episode, he opens up about his own first marriage, his healing journey, and what he teaches men about repair, vulnerability, and commitment.

We cover:

Why over-giving attracts avoidants and how to break the pattern

The #1 green flag to look for before entering a relationship.

Why therapy fails most men — and what actually works.

#RelationshipAdvice #EmotionalMaturity #MensWork #HealthyRelationships #ModernDating #AttachmentStyles #MensMentalHealth #Vulnerability #Defensiveness #HealingJourney #SelfAwareness #PersonalDevelopment #Untamed #UntamedPodcast #PodcastForWomen

In this deeply personal conversation, bestselling author and former Google X Chief Business Officer Mo Gawdat sits down to talk about happiness as a practiced skill, the stories we tell ourselves about our childhoods, and why suffering is often a choice rather than something life imposes on us.We dig into:🌟Why happiness (and fitness) is a muscle you have to keep training, not a switch you flip🌟Reframing painful childhood memories through the "vantage point" lens🌟The difference between pain/challenges and self-created suffering🌟The "Eraser Experiment" — why we wouldn't actually erase our worst moments🌟What love really is, and why it's separate from partnership, passion, romance, companionship, friendship, tenderness, and support (the "PPRFCTS")🌟Why slow-burn relationships beat instant chemistry🌟The dating app supply-and-demand problem — and how Emma, an AI-powered relationship app, is trying to fix it by matching people on depth instead of photos🌟A candid, wide-ranging talk about rewriting your inner narrative, redefining love, and reimagining how people find real connection.🔗 Try Emma: app.emma.love🔗 Join the waitlist: emma.love-Hi, I’m Naila Nazer. I started the Untempered Podcast because I wanted a space where we can talk openly about mental health, healing from trauma, life after toxic relationships, and the messy, beautiful process of self growth. 🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH-TIMESTAMPS0:00 Introduction2:02 Happiness as a Skill4:19 Childhood Conditioning & the Inner Voice9:42 Reframing Your Story27:18 Suffering vs. Pain31:14 The Eraser Experiment34:54 Understanding Love39:46 The PPRFCTS of Relationships47:46 Romance, Slow Burn & Dating-#Podcast #SelfHelp #MentalHealth #Dating #Relationship #Psychology #PersonalGrowth #Motivation #InnerPeace #Wellness

What does real healing actually look like and why do so many people repeat the same relationship patterns even after doing the work?In this raw and unfiltered conversation, Sara Al Madani joins me for a deep dive into healing, hitting rock bottom, and breaking free from toxic relationship dynamics that keep us stuck. We talk honestly about love, power, self authority, and the distorted narratives around men, women, and modern relationships.We also unpack how reality TV culture has normalised chaos, trauma bonding, and emotional dysfunction and why so many people mistake intensity for love.This episode is for anyone who has ever felt trapped in unhealthy relationships, confused about their role in love, or ready to stop repeating cycles and consciously create a healthier future.If you are calling in true love in 2026, this conversation will challenge you, ground you, and change the way you see relationships forever.In this episode, we explore:• Why toxic relationships feel familiar and addictive• What hitting rock bottom really teaches you• The truth about healing that no one talks about• Men and women, polarity, and modern confusion• How reality TV has distorted our view of love• Manifesting aligned, conscious love in 2026

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They didn't choose you by accident. And you didn't attract them by coincidence. There's a reason narcissists, manipulators, and abusers keep showing up in your life—and it has everything to do with you.

In this eye-opening conversation with Richard Grannon, we're diving into the uncomfortable truth that most people avoid: why you became a target, what patterns you're unconsciously running, and how to finally become resistant to toxic relationships.

This isn't about blaming yourself. It's about empowering yourself. Because once you understand what made you vulnerable, you can close the door for good.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why self-awareness, not narcissist education, is the key to breaking the cycle
• The psychological wounds that make you a "narcissist magnet"
• How trauma bonding keeps you stuck in toxic patterns
• What it really takes to become immune to manipulative relationships
• The inner work that most abuse survivors skip—and why it matters most

If you've spent countless hours trying to understand them, it's time to start understanding you. This conversation will challenge you, but it will also set you free.

Richard Grannon is one of the leading voices in trauma psychology and narcissistic abuse recovery. His no-nonsense approach cuts through the victim mentality and gets straight to what actually heals.

Watch until the end. This one hits different.

Are you stuck in a cycle of attracting the same type of partner over and over?? In this powerful conversation with Caroline Middelsdorf, we dive deep into the hidden trauma patterns that keep us repeating destructive relationship dynamics. Discover why we're drawn to people who aren't good for us, what shadow work really means, and the practical steps you can take to finally break free from these patterns. If you've ever wondered "why does this keep happening to me?"This episode will change how you see yourself and your relationships.-🌐Check me out on:Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3YLNk40Podcast: https://apple.co/42PU02aIheart: https://ihr.fm/42x0jcdAmazon Music:https://amzn.to/4jVToiH