Upbuilding The Self

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Upbuilding The Self episodes

August 24, 2022 The Freedom Fantasy
Do you feel like you need something different than your present circumstances in order to feel happy and free? Maybe you just need a different job, to get that promotion, to move to a bigger place, or to get more time doing what you really love? Maybe once you get that, you’ll be able to enjoy life. In this episode, Hari Prasada and Michael introduce us to the idea of the freedom fantasy, a concept coined by Michael in his article by the same name. They explore the way we all go about searching for happiness and what it actually means to be free.
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37 min
August 03, 2022 Humiliation Comes Before Humility
What is the difference between real humility and the projection of humility? Do you desire to be truly humble or do you desire what humility can give you? Michael and Rasanath break down the “The Paradox of Humility” and do a deep dive into what real humility looks like, what’s at stake if we don’t become humble, and the role that humiliation plays in helping us become humble.
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25 min
July 06, 2022 “There I Go Again”
The phrase “There I go again” is one of the most simple yet powerful framings that you can use to work on yourself and to help you become who you truly are. Michael, Hari Prasada, and Rasanath break down how they use this phrase by giving real-life examples and share how it can help you separate your real self from your ego. They discuss the paradox of acceptance, the reasons why we are never satisfied when we try to be someone that we are not, and how to balance being kind to ourselves without shirking responsibility.

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27 min
June 22, 2022 The Art of the Meta-Conversation
Have you struggled to make a conversation productive because there is some tension in the relationship or because you feel triggered? Do you really want to give someone feedback but feel blocked in giving it to them? Michael, Rasanath, and Vipin break down one of the most important tools that they use in their personal lives and in their coaching work with clients: the meta-conversation. They share personal and organizational examples of how to use this tool to unblock frustrating relationships, help build environments of trust, and give feedback when giving feedback feels hard. They give tips and ideas on how to incorporate this tool in our everyday lives.

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44 min
June 08, 2022 The Trap of Defining My Value By What I Produce
How do you define your self-worth? Why is it so naturally tied to what you produce? Using Sacinandana Swami’s provocative quote as a starting point, Vipin, Michael, and Rasanath share personal examples of how they fall into the trap of defining their value by what they produce. They discuss the true reason behind our longing for a sense of value, the trap/problem of defining our value by what we produce, the impact of doing that, and healthier alternatives to defining our value.
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41 min
May 25, 2022 The Ego vs. the Self
At Upbuild, we talk a lot about the difference between the ego and the self. But it can often feel like everything – our goals, motivations, achievements, aspirations, emotions, etc. – is part of the ego. So, what then is left? Vipin, Hari Prasada, and Rasanath disentangle the subtleties of the self and explain why the ego is the lens through which we experience our whole world. They unpack the connection between the ego and the truth, how we can use the ego to get rid of the ego, the paradox of progress, and what happens if we don’t “wake up” from the state of living as the ego.

Resources:
The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power: Gabor Maté at TEDxRio+20

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40 min
May 11, 2022 How to Have Difficult Conversations
Do you consider yourself someone who has difficult conversations with ease, or someone who fears them? What does it really mean to have a difficult conversation? What is the role of the heart and our emotions in having difficult conversations? Michael, Hari Prasada and Rasanath take inspiration from a CEO’s experience of needing to fire someone to look at how the ego prevents us from bringing our hearts to conversations, the difference between intentional and unconscious compartmentalization, and the risks (to ourselves and to others) of not bringing our hearts to conversations.

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Enneagram Library Live: Join our bi-weekly conversations and teachings on the Enneagram to help you see yourself, others, and the human condition more clearly. Thursdays at 6pm ET on Zoom.
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38 min
April 27, 2022 Our Motivations for Charitable Giving
Do you donate money to charity so that you feel less guilty about your life, to receive praise, or to get a tax benefit? Should you try to get really rich and then give your money away in order to do the most good? Rasanath and Michael discuss the motivations behind our charitable giving and how to differentiate between egoic and pure motivations. They address what they do when they receive requests to donate to causes that they don’t feel strongly about, the power of thinking about charity as a state of mind rather than a specific act, and a definition of charity which is much broader than giving financial aid to those in need.
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Enneagram Library Live: Join our bi-weekly conversations and teachings on the Enneagram to help you see yourself, others, and the human condition more clearly. Thursdays at 6pm ET on Zoom.
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31 min
April 13, 2022 Goldman Sachs Bonus Day and the Entitled Ego
Have you ever wondered what really happens on bonus day at an investment bank? In this episode, Hari Prasada interviews Michael about his article, Goldman Sachs Bonus Day and the Entitled Ego, and his intense experiences around receiving a bonus during his time at Goldman. They discuss the posturing that went into bonus day, the flimsiness of using compensation as a measure of self-worth, the suffering that comes from not feeling enough, and the key question, “Who would I be if I lost my money, job title, and status?” They conclude by offering concrete ways to go beyond the insecurities of the ego to become less reliant on extrinsic measures of self-worth and more in touch with our real selves
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Enneagram Library Live: Join our bi-weekly conversations and teachings on the Enneagram to help you see yourself, others, and the human condition more clearly. Thursdays at 6pm ET on Zoom.
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37 min
March 30, 2022 The Three Sources of Introversion
Hari Prasada, Michael, and Rasanath discuss the three sources of introversion and share the different gifts of and challenges faced by introverts depending on where the introversion comes from. When we discover the reasons for our introversion, we have greater access to self-understanding and self-empathy. It allows us to live with greater intentionality and to stretch our borders without disrespecting them. The team also debunks the often unconsciously held view that extroverts are better than introverts.
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Enneagram Library Live: Join our bi-weekly conversations and teachings on the Enneagram to help you see yourself, others, and the human condition more clearly. Thursdays at 6pm ET on Zoom.
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43 min

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Two former monks, a former startup founder/CEO, and a former equity derivatives trader dive into how to be our best selves, free from the ego. Our egos are the identities we create for ourselves and…