Valiant Growth: Earn Self-Esteem, Build Amazing Relationships and Achieve Freedom through Radical Personal Development

In today's podcast I review Job Free by Jake Desyllas, present the four ways of quitting the rat race, while providing ample resources for further exploration along the way.

The four ways are:

• Extreme Saving
• Unjobbing
• Lifestyle Businesses
• Startups

Which ones could be yours?

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In this podcast I discuss the false promises of self-development and growth inherent in traditional careers, touted by HR departments and society at large.

Ideas discussed:

• Technical skills don't necessarily equate to growth, and rarely translate to personal life skills
• Most time in most jobs is not spent in "stretching", growth-inducing situations, rather already built skills are mined
• The lifelong impact of an early building of self-knowledge and psychological health
• You might not want to build "people skills" - learning to adapt to difficult people vs. learning to find/earn better people
• The traps of a high income, when preceding frugality and self-healing skills
• The often overlooked risks of being an employee, especially a highly specialized one
• A traditional career might still be the right choice

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Typical, mainstream approaches to being supportive don't work, and are often counterproductive. So what can you do?

In this podcast I talk about what is mistakenly identified as being supportive, why it's not so, what are the principles behind proper support, and what are some practical approaches one can take.

Principles discussed:

• Should be reciprocal - adult relationships are trade-based.
• Should be given and asked for only in close relationship.
• Valid support and advice can only be given with a strong understanding of the other person's aims and history.
• One can only offer advice on things that they've already achieved, or at least seriously worked towards.
• Unsolicited advice is to be avoided at all cost.
• The ultimate choice is theirs - you shouldn't be on a quest to change or save someone.

Practical tips:

• Choose very carefully whom to support.
• Be curious. "Tell me more!" is often the best default position.
• Respect boundaries.
• Consciously aim to have empathy - it is only semi-automatic.
• Ask advice only if solicited
• Help self-leadership by not giving answers, but by asking questions - non-leading questions.
• Be honest of your level of understanding - reflect your authority accurately.

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Do you ever tell yourself: "I should already know this!", or "How can I be so stupid?", or "What is wrong with me?" ?

In this podcast I talk about understanding and respecting the feeling of shame that learning can trigger, without becoming overwhelmed by it.

Ideas discussed in this episode:

• The concept of healthy shame
• Can you be vulnerable around your social circle?
• Everything is a skill
• "Therapy magic" - The incredible power of self-acceptance
• Is it grandiosity to think that we should know "basic" things?

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There are many situations when you have to decide between competing occupations or sources of income. If you find yourself being lured to many different ways of getting an income, if you are thinking of a career switch, or looking into becoming an entrepreneur and are not sure about your decision, or if you find that your decision has little staying power, this podcast if for you!

Ideas discussed in this episode:

• The role of parents, peer and society in misleading us when making career choices
• The need for courage and self-knowledge in finding the right path
• A (mathematical) framework for evaluating different jobs/income sources

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What is your purpose? What is your vision for yourself? What goals have you set for yourself? Why these goals and not others?

In this podcast I discuss about why purpose is important and how it affects procrastination, present a step-by-step approach to developing it (while encouraging you to craft your own approach) and provide resources for further exploration.

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It's not often that you find quality resources for free! In this podcast I review and present key ideas from The Way to Will Power by Henry Hazlitt, a free book from 1922 on productivity. I talk about: carefulness in picking goals, shallow goals, how to resist breaking resolutions,avoiding temptation, the value of habits, how to build habits, and why to plan.

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Dealing with procrastination can be a major challenge in certain phases of lives, and is often a tough nut to crack. In this podcast I summarize what I've learnt through my own experience on this subject: the value of habits, the power of self-acceptance, being a friend vs. a dictator towards yourself, embracing cyclical productivity, defining purpose.

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A review of the book The Millionaire Next Door by Dr. Thomas Stanley.

Some of the ideas discussed:

• Who is the average millionaire?
• How does he live?
• What does he work?
• How does he spend?
• The steady and conservative approach to wealth-building
• Being discrete about our net worth
• The most likely road to becoming a millionaire
• The importance of choosing the right partner
• The value of frugality an dcarefulness

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We're often subjected to unwanted media. We also like to consume content with only an eye towards entertainment. The good news, with the practice of mindfulness, we can extract a great deal of learning from almost any source!

Here are some things that you can learn from:

• Pop music
• Movies
• Fiction books
• News
• People overheard on the street
• Architecture

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