Victoria's Thoughts

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today's episode discusses the inherent differences between the patriarchal purity culture versus stepping into your sacred womanhood. thank you girls so much for listening to my podcast and continually supporting!

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WATCH MY NEW YOUTUBE VIDEO: https://youtu.be/miu41AQsTt0

Watch my Celibacy Youtube Video -where I discuss my 2 years of celibacy in depth: https://youtu.be/yu2O-SD9Gqg

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thank you girls so much for listening to my podcast and continually supporting! if you love this episode, drop me a review on apple podcasts !

you can also tweet at me any other celibacy questions you want answered in this new series <3 @victoriadevall <3 

Podcasts mentioned in this episode:

Why We Eroticize Our Wounds: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorias-thoughts/id1578299105?i=1000546654776

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thank you girls so much for listening to my podcast and continually supporting! if you love this episode, drop me a review on apple podcasts !

this episode is back by popular demand <3 once deleted, now re-uploaded...

hope you girls enjoy!

WATCH MY YT VIDEO: the cutest, most genuine, sweet November Vlog YouTube video link:https://youtu.be/miu41AQsTt0

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leave me a review on apple podcasts !! <3

WATCH MY NEW YOUTUBE VIDEO: https://youtu.be/miu41AQsTt0

Watch my Celibacy Youtube Video -where I discuss my 2 years of celibacy in depth: https://youtu.be/yu2O-SD9Gqg

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thank you girls so much for listening to my podcast and continually supporting! if you love this episode, drop me a review on apple podcasts !

you can also tweet at me any other celibacy questions you want answered in this new series <3 @victoriadevall <3

Podcasts mentioned in this episode:

Preventing Pregnancy Naturally: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorias-thoughts/id1578299105?i=1000583532703

Healing Your Womb after Sexual Trauma: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorias-thoughts/id1578299105?i=1000557784654

this episode is so special to me. it is about how i healed my relationship with my mom. our sisterhood is so special, so rare, so genuine. i think I may do a part 2 just on how special and unique our relationship is. i feel almost a little protective with letting this episode out, but i hope you girls enjoy.

*disclaimer: do not use my relationship with my mother to gaslight yourself out of your own unique boundaries and/or relationship with your own mother. sometimes healing your mother wound looks like ending the relationship you have with your mother. my mother and i happen to be able to heal our wounds together, for many others that may not be possible and/or may not be what is best for you. i personally am “no contact” with my father- sometimes we can heal together, and sometimes we need to separate. both are unique sides of healing that are yours to claim. xoxoxo*

watch my most recent YouTube video: https://youtu.be/miu41AQsTt0

podcasts mentioned in episode:

Stop Trying to Save People: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorias-thoughts/id1578299105?i=1000530527735

Stop Trying to Save People Part 2: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorias-thoughts/id1578299105?i=1000547345421

WATCH MY NEW YOUTUBE VIDEO: https://youtu.be/miu41AQsTt0

Watch my Celibacy Youtube Video -where I discuss my 2 years of celibacy in depth: https://youtu.be/yu2O-SD9Gqg

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thank you girls so much for listening to our first Celibacy Talks podcast <3 tweet at me any other topics you want covered <3

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Podcasts mentioned in the episode:

• eroticized wounds podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorias-thoughts/id1578299105?i=1000546654776
• why you should stop watching porn: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorias-thoughts/id1578299105?i=1000552306686
• connecting with your womb after trauma: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorias-thoughts/id1578299105?i=1000557784654

when you are on your embodiment journey doing the deep inner work, it is best to not even focus on "where all the good men are." set your intention to be with one one day or to connect with them, and then release it and let Life handle it. focus instead on your own joy, your own embodiment, your own pleasure. if you are too busy focusing on where your man is or where all the amazing men are, you will lose sight of your embodiment and empowerment, which is the most important thing.

the most important advice i can give you is just to be you fully, enjoy your life fully as a single woman, find out what you like and enjoy and what fulfills you, and just be fully on YOUR path. from that space of fulfillment and clarity and purpose, you are magnetic to a man who is also on a similar path, and he will find you. but don't even focus on that. just focus on being in your purpose, your pleasure, and on your path.

another important aspect of this is that when you start to no longer resonate with dusty men or patriarchal men, the most important thing you can do is reject those types of men. that allows you to no longer "see them" on a day to day basis. misogynistic or not fully embodied men would hit on me all of the time or want to be friends with me during my celibacy, and I would just reject reject reject. this clears space for wonderful men to step in, and it also tells Life I'm not longer willing to settle.

my video on 2 years of celibacy: https://youtu.be/yu2O-SD9Gqg

coaching with me: https://www.victoriadevall.com/book-coaching

men to follow that help you see that good men exist:

1. @byermeas
2. @lorinkrenn
3. @dominickq
4. @mantalks
5. @matt_cama
6. @john_wineland
7. @holistic.life.navigation
8. recently i connected with @eliburen, he is amazing!
9. there's so many others, I'll leave it at this list!!

the cutest, most genuine, sweet November Vlog YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/miu41AQsTt0

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TW: discussing SA from: 5 minutes in to 12 minutes

My Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/victoriadevall/

a lot of times healing - especially healing within the context of dating men- can be made to be easy or simple, and for women who have been in the trenches of disempowerment like myself (lol), we know that these simple things are not that simple, and our progress may look messy- as it should! this episode is discussing how our healing journey with dating or in general may look messy and un-aesthetic, and that is completely okay.

love you girls so much!

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My IG Post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CkiwDP0I3ie/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

Healing Sexual Shame Podcast Episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/victorias-thoughts/id1578299105?i=1000553801993

Lydia's IG Post I Read & Was Inspired By: https://www.instagram.com/p/Ck9KEzbKCxJ/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=