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Why does horror keep putting the danger inside the house: the basement, the attic, the nursery, the baby monitor? Film scholar Dr. Dahlia Schweitzer, professor and chair of Film and Media Studies at the Fashion Institute of Technology (FIT) and author of Haunted Homes, joins Meghan DeFord for a spooky season conversation about what haunted house movies reveal about family, gender, race, money, and the American dream.

From Hereditary, The Babadook, Sinister, and The Conjuring to Get Out, Sinners, and Shirley Jackson's The Haunting of Hill House, Dahlia breaks down the tropes that show up again and again, and what they say about us.

In this episode:

• Why the home, the place we're supposed to feel safest, is where horror does its best work
• What goes in the basement vs. the attic (repressed trauma vs. preserved memories)
• The "Cassandra effect": why the mom always senses the evil first and the husband asks if she's taken her meds
• How the suburbs and the American dream keep families trapped in haunted houses they can't afford to leave
• Why haunted house movies spiked after the 2008 housing crash
• Race, representation, and why the genre is so white and heteronormative, plus Get Out, The Haunted Mansion, and Spiral
• How technology became the new way evil gets in, from Poltergeist and The Ring to Zoom horror like Host
• The 1997 cult film Office Killer and why it deserves a second look
• Why horror is cathartic, and why studying pop culture matters

Whether you love horror or watch it through your fingers (hi, it's me), you'll never look at a basement door the same way again.

Find Dr. Dahlia Schweitzer: thisisdahlia.com
Her books include Haunted Homes, Going Viral, L.A. Private Eyes, and Office Killer. She's also co-creating a Haunted Homes documentary; reach out through her site if you want to be interviewed.

If this one gave you chills (the good kind), follow the show on Spotify or subscribe on Apple Podcasts, leave a rating, and send it to the friend who still sleeps with the lights on.

Hosted by Meghan DeFord | megdeford.com | @megdeford

What’s haunting you, draining you, or getting scarier the longer you avoid it?

To kick off spooky season, Meghan is turning the haunted house into a life audit. We’re talking ghosts from the past that still get a vote, goals that might need a funeral instead of another plan, energy vampires with way too much access to you, and the things we avoid because we’re afraid of what we’ll find when we finally turn on the light.

Grab a notebook. We’re going room by room.

Insta | TikTok| YouTube: @megdeford

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What if the way we think about concussions, burnout, and even nervous system regulation is too simplistic?

Natasha Wilch is a physiotherapist, entrepreneur, and founder of Symphony Brain Performance, a nationally recognized brain health clinic, as well as the creator of Concussion Nerds, an international education community helping clinicians better understand and treat brain injury.

In this conversation, Natasha breaks down what a concussion actually is, why so much common advice about concussion recovery is outdated, and why treating symptoms without looking at the whole person can miss what’s really going on.

But this conversation goes far beyond concussion care.

We talk about what it actually means to have a regulated nervous system, why “calm” isn’t always the goal, how stress and trauma can show up in leadership, the difference between tools and deeper treatment, and why successful people can sometimes use work and overfunctioning as a coping mechanism.

We get into burnout, boundaries, protecting your capacity, and the calendar question that changed how Natasha thought about her time: How much of your life are you spending helping other people build their dreams instead of building your own?

If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re managing stress or simply getting better at functioning through it, this conversation is worth hearing.

Connect with Natasha:Instagram: @natasha.wilchConcussion Nerds: concussionnerds.comWebsite: natasha-wilch.comListen: The Concussion Nerds PodcastClinicians: the Concussion Nerds Fellowship (a 6-month online mentorship program) relaunches October 1.Connect with Meghan:Instagram/TikTok/YouTube: @megdefordmegdeford.com

How do you meditate when your brain won’t stop thinking?

This beginner-friendly introduction to meditation dispels common myths and offers a simple guided meditation for busy minds. Meghan explains what meditation actually is, why you don’t need to empty your mind, and how mindfulness can fit into everyday life (even if you only have two minutes)

The episode ends with a short guided practice featuring mindful breathing, a body scan, awareness of your surroundings, a new-moon intention-setting visualization, and loving-kindness meditation. Perfect for beginners, busy minds, or anyone looking for a simple way to feel more present and grounded.

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"You don't find your purpose. That's clickbait."

Suneet Bhatt, author of Making Sense of Purpose and creator of the Rutgers course Find and Evolve Your Purpose, is making the case for why purpose isn't a destination, it's a practice.

In this episode, we get into what it actually takes to build a life that feels as good on the inside as it looks on paper: the difference between authenticity and performance, why so many high-achieving women carry guilt they've never been taught to put down, and the exact three-part formula for feedback that lands instead of landing badly. Suneet also shares the moment his wife told him the truth he'd been avoiding for years and how that conversation changed everything.

This is a conversation about ambition, self-awareness, and what it really means to evolve instead of just change.

In this episode:

• Why "finding your purpose" is the wrong frame (and what to do instead)
• Authenticity vs. performance, and how to close the gap
• Guilt, shame, and self-forgiveness: what the research actually shows
• How to give feedback that people can actually hear
• Why purpose matters most when life takes a hard turn, not when everything's smooth

Connect with Suneet: makingsenseofpurpose.com

Instagram @suneetonpurpose

LinkedIn: Suneet Bhatt

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Is it imposter syndrome or are you just waiting for permission? In this solo episode, host Meghan DeFord breaks down the real difference between imposter syndrome and permission-seeking, why they get treated like the same thing, and why that mix-up keeps high-achieving women stuck.

Meghan opens with a tribute to Dolly Parton, who passed away on August 25th, and looks at how Dolly's life — leaving the Porter Wagoner Show, turning down Elvis Presley's request to record "I Will Always Love You," crossing from country into pop, film, and business — was really a lifelong practice of giving herself permission.

From there, Meghan dives into the research on imposter syndrome (technically the "impostor phenomenon"), starting with Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes' original 1978 study, a 2020 KPMG study of 750 executive women, and a 2024 meta-analysis of over 42,000 people from the Journal of Current Research in Behavioral Sciences. The data is clear: imposter feelings don't resolve with more achievements, more degrees, or more seniority, and the gender gap in imposter feelings hasn't closed in four decades.

But Meghan also pushes back on the "just believe in yourself" narrative, referencing the Harvard Business Review piece "Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome" to unpack how systemic factors — not just internal confidence — shape who feels like they belong in the room.

Then she gets practical: how to tell imposter syndrome apart from permission-seeking, why overworking is often a permission slip you're trying to earn through output, how to spot inherited goals you never actually chose, and a simple exercise to figure out exactly whose permission you've been waiting for and whether they actually have authority over your decision.

Whether you're still circling the decision or you already know exactly what you're building and just need a sharper partner to keep pace, that's what the free 30-minute strategy call is for. We'll get honest about what's actually stalling things and build a real plan, not just more reflection. Book at megdeford.com.

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Sources referenced: Clance & Imes (1978); KPMG 2020 study of executive women; Price, Holcomb & Payne (2024) meta-analysis, Journal of Current Research in Behavioral Sciences; Ruchika Tulshyan & Jodi-Ann Burey, "Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome" (Harvard Business Review)

⁠Dolly Parton's America ⁠(Jad Abumrad & Shima Oliaee)

Brooke Kaplan has run seven marathons and is training for her eighth in Berlin this September, while managing Type 1 diabetes on every single mile. For Brooke, that means constantly reading her body mid-run: is she spiking, dropping, fueling too early, too late, running too hot, too cold. Some runs end with her sitting on a curb for twenty minutes, waiting for a low blood sugar to pass before she can take another step.

In this conversation, Brooke, Director of HR Compliance at Worldwide Clinical Trials and a running coach with Team RunRun, talks about what it actually takes to keep showing up when the challenge isn't hypothetical. We get into her Boston qualifier at the Philadelphia Marathon, beating Diplo at his 5K, why she avoided racing for years after her first marathon, and what she tells her own athletes when a training run goes sideways.

We also talk about the discomfort women are taught to avoid, the difference between "I can't" and "I haven't yet," and why Brooke defines failure as data instead of a verdict. You start where you are, you build capacity, and the thing that once felt impossible becomes something you know how to do.

In this episode:

- Managing Type 1 diabetes mid-marathon, real-time blood sugar decisions

- Her Boston qualifier at the Philadelphia Marathon

- Why she quit racing after COVID, and what brought her back

- Coaching first-time marathoners through self-doubt

- Reframing failure: "first attempt in learning"

- Why women underestimate what they're capable of

- Starting small and building capacity for bigger goals

- Berlin Marathon prep and the six World Majors ahead

Connect with Brooke Kaplan on Instagram @Brooke_M_Kaplan, and find her for run coaching through Team RunRun, and on LinkedIn.

After 20 years in philanthropy, I learned that asking for what you want isn't just about the ask.

It’s about finding the right people, listening well, building real relationships, knowing the value you bring, being clear about why you’re there, and then actually saying what you want out loud.

In this solo episode, I’m sharing six lessons from two decades of asking people for money that apply far beyond fundraising, whether you’re asking for a promotion, an introduction, a client, support for an idea, or your next opportunity.

Because when you keep hinting, waiting to be noticed, or hoping someone connects the dots for you, you’re outsourcing your autonomy.

We’ll talk about how to make a clear ask without negotiating against yourself, what to do when someone objects, why a no can be useful information, and how strong relationships are built long before and long after the actual request.

Plus, I’ll leave you with one question to help you put this into practice immediately: What are you waiting for someone else to offer you that you could actually ask for?

Follow along at Instagram @megdeford, YouTube @megdeford, and visit www.megdeford.com

After nearly 40 years as one of New England's top employment attorneys, Charla Stevens knew exactly what burnout looked like from the inside because she lived it. In this episode, Charla joins the show to unpack what it really takes to build a healthier workplace, from why so many wellness programs miss the mark to what happens after an HR investigation closes.

We talk about:

• Why "leave your problems at home" was always bad advice — and what actually changes workplace culture
• The generational shift in how people talk about mental health, boundaries, and burnout at work
• Why employee assistance programs are so underused, and what leaders can do about it
• The double bind women still face between "not assertive enough" and "too much"
• How Charla knew it was time to leave a 40-year legal career at the top of her game
• What restorative work looks like after a workplace conflict or investigation

Charla now runs Charla Stevens Consulting, where she leads workplace investigations, leadership training, mediation, and HR strategy for organizations who want to do better by their people.

If you've ever wondered what it takes to have the hard conversation you've been avoiding, this one's for you.

Connect with Charla:
Website: charlastevensconsulting.com
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/charlastevens

Some obstacles are real; money, time, health, caregiving. Others only feel real. In this episode, I break down an exercise I use with my coaching clients to separate the two: write down every roadblock standing between you and your goal, then sort them into real and perceived.

Real roadblocks need real responses - more resources, more support, a longer timeline. Perceived roadblocks need something different: discernment. Is this a stop sign, or a speed bump?

I dig into why our brains are so good at building a case against the thing we actually want to do, what The Odyssey (yes, really) can teach us about self-sabotage, and how to tell whether you truly lack what you need or you just lack certainty.

Ready is not the absence of roadblocks. Ready is deciding you trust yourself to meet them.

Coaching & speaking: megdeford.comInstagram & TikTok: @megdeford