WARRIOR WEEK

Blake Bourque joins Coach Sam as they discuss the amazing set of circumstances that brought Blake to Warrior, which brought an energy of alpha yet honest men that have learned to not be saviors to others, but leaders instead. IN THIS WEEK'S EPISODE.... Parable #1: Pigs Don't Know They Stink

• The energy of Wake Up Warrior resonated with Blake and he was attracted to the fact that men were willing to be honest, no matter what. He had been living as a liar amongst liars for so long and was tired of stinking like a pig because pigs don't know they stink. His encounter was unlike anything he had ever experienced in all his years in Corporate America and he wondered, "Could this be home? Have I found my people?"
• Blake: The Holy Spirit was bringing me to a place where my whole body was being crushed. Everything in my personal and business life was gone - everything. So when Warrior found me via someone sending me a link to a video, six minutes into it when I saw Garrett on stage saying "stop fucking lying," I was all in.

QUESTION

What was your first encounter with Warrior like? What resonated with you? What reeled you in?

Parable #2: Look in Mirrors to Avoid the Tailspin of Sedation

• Blake: After my wife and I lost our twin girls in 2009, in the midst of my grief I felt I had found my Purpose - I was going to go out and save lives. I began sedating myself from the pain with drugs and work, and in the process built a multi-million dollar business, yet with that, I lost my relationship with my wife. When you numb yourself against pain, the counter to that is you're numbing yourself against joy.
• I looked at my wife every single day and didn't know she was mirroring me. That's what Warrior taught me - people mirror you. They mirror your energy, your grief, lies and pain. What happens is you see that mirror and you don't like that mirror and then you get mad at them for that mirror. I would be pissed at her and would verbally take things out on her. It was a very dark period.

QUESTION

What are you seeing about yourself in Blake's experience?

Parable #3: That's What I Did, Blake

• Blake: On the run up to Warrior Week while I was bonding with the men inside social media, I kept talking to my wife about it and she would say, "that's what I did, Blake. I did yoga, I did meditation, I did journaling and writing. Do you want me to show you my journals? Do you remember when you told me this was stupid? A waste of time? That you didn't want to do it?"
• "I'm going to let you do this. Not that I'm giving you permission to do something, because you can do whatever the hell you want. I'm gonna peel back my scars, I'm gonna rip open my wounds and I'm gonna let yours stick to me so we can heal together. But if you fuck this up, if you don't go all in and you leave me with open wounds again, it's over."

QUESTION

Are you really seeing your wife? Your children? Are you really listening to them?

Parable #4: Retrace, Face, Replace and Embrace

• In the darkness lies the truth. When we talk about the Pit, you have to go there and you have to look at an emotional charge that took place at one point in your life. What you were, what you are, what I was and what I am is a series of emotional charges that took place in us. Call them feelings, events - whatever the fuck took place at one time in our childhood or recently.
• These emotional charges are stored in the dark under the truth because they're the facts. In order for us to process them, we must first do the work and retrace them, then we're going to face them and most important of all, we are going to replace the story. This happened but the story that we fabricated that builds the truth around it needs to be rewritten and finally embraced.

QUESTION

When will you choose to process the emotional charges stored inside of you?

Parable #5: Warrior Week is a Test of Your Heart

• Sam: Warrior is not a physical event. We are not here to present that we are military guys or that we know how to break you down. We are here to look for what you have inside of your heart. Warrior Week is the test of your heart.
• Blake: Sedated men need to be woken up. If the Trainers don't scream at you, you won't wake up because there's something inside your fucking heart that you've put to sleep - and Sam Falsafi is going to fucking wake it up. Warrior didn't teach me how to be a badass with a boot on the back of someone's neck, Warrior taught me how to give time, how to feel and how to tell the fucking truth.

QUESTION

What will it take for you to open your heart?

Parables from the Pit:

"In this place, we will tell the truth as it happens. And the truth is very different from the facts. Between the facts and the truth there are a number of stories. Those stories are behavior justifications and assumptions fed by your ego, and in the midst of that lies the truth, which is the version that has always been there. We built this podcast so men can come here and share their pain, and through this sharing, the pain is divided one more time; but more importantly, it can pierce your heart and say: I know you. I know you mother fucker. You have the same pain."

--Coach Sam Falsafi

"I need to find people who have been through similar circumstances. They don't have to be exactly like me, but they need to be able to relate. I know there are people far worse than me and I want to be able to help them. It sounds strange, but it's the truth. I want to meet people who have the same pain in their souls. Maybe they can help me or I can help them. I think that whole sharing process may be good for me right now."

--Blake Bourque (This was penned in his journal while on a silent retreat in 2009, four months after the loss of his twin daughters.)

The Kosher Warrior, Dr Adam Splaver, joins Coach Sam in this week's episode to talk about the most incomprehensible experience a man will ever have to go through. The message of Warrior was completely against most of his cultural and spiritual beliefs, but Dr Splaver's leadership within the Orthodox Jewish community and as a cardiologist in the medical community was in actuality a merging of multiple beliefs to help him deal with the pain of his wife's illness.

Parable #1: What's Your Story?

• Dr. Adam Splaver's journey into Warrior began when his interest was piqued by the ads showing up in his Facebook feed. Although the experience of Warrior spoke to him, as a leader inside the Orthodox Jewish community and a highly respected Cardiologist in the medical community, he was nervous as to how these two traditional worlds might collide with the message of Warrior.
• The biggest issues he had were the stories he was telling himself. He wondered,"What the fuck am I doing as religious cardiologist going into a program very foreign to my community and background, where I'll be stepping into a boxing ring, climbing up a mountain and swimming in the ocean?" Unbeknownst to him at the time, Adam would eventually discover for himself that Warrior Week was not a physical event, but rather a powerful - and painful - spiritual journey.

QUESTION: Where in your life are the stories you are telling yourself preventing you from acting on a decision you feel deeply inspired to take action on?

Parable #2: Tap Into Your Natural Gifts

• In 2012, while at the top of his game personally and professionally, tragedy strikes out of nowhere for Adam's family when his wife, believed to be in top physical form, collapses and is unresponsive. With one look at her x-rays, he realizes there is a hell of a lot of blood where it does not belong, which sends him to the ground in a heap of emotions and uncontrollable screaming.
• Within six months of being told to prepare to lose Shanni, the love of his life, she begins improving and Adam believes the worst is behind them as he prepares to enter Warrior Week 28. While there, he realizes he has been playing too small in his life and afterward begins tapping into his natural gifts of teaching and speaking, appearing on TV, in periodicals and making appearances in various public venues.

QUESTION: Where in your life are you playing small?

Parable #3: Truth Is No Respecter of Persons

• Coach Sam: So you come to Warrior Week finding something that is actually giving you joy and is feeding your Certainty and Purpose. Life has been numb and it almost took a tragedy for you to wake the fuck up. All your life you have been living by the book and following the rules, yet you weren't finding happiness and joy doing that. As you started living your truth, you began colliding with an army of opinion within your professional and spiritual community.
• Adam: While at Warrior, I came to realize that the message of 'stop lying and start telling the fucking truth' was the only way worth living. I had an incident with a Rabbi in my community while I was president of the synagogue where I realized that the rabbinic staff was not living up to their role as a spiritual guide and leader. I confronted them about it, and needless to say, it was not well received. What I learned from this experience is that I have the key, I have access, I have the ability of making my own connection with God and I don't have to go through anyone else for that.

QUESTION: What adds to your joy, certainty and purpose? How do you experience and express that in your life?

Parable #4: All We Have Is Now

• Adam: The brain tumor returns with a vengeance in 2016, robbing Shanni of her short term memory. When we were originally presented with this entire situation, I was absolutely paralyzed thinking what the fuck am I going to do… until I surrendered. I surrendered to the idea that the only thing that I could control was now, so let's make this the most incredible now that we can.
• Coach Sam: Every piece of wisdom that you read says don't live in the fuckin past, live in the present, and the future doesn't exist. The truth is not in the past, the truth is in the now. Your wife doesn't remember the past, she has no power to live in the future, so she's forced to live in the now, and inside of this, you found beauty, love, intimacy, sexuality and power.

QUESTION: Inside of tragedy, what does it look like to surrender to the gifts?

Parable #5: It's A Matter Of Heart

• Coach Sam: Every single piece of emotion you have felt has been a gift from Shanni to you, gifts that you can use in your teaching as you heal men with the expression of their feelings. It's coming from a place of experience, and it's always been a part of who you are.
• Adam: At the end of the day, my understanding is that our souls are here for expansion - to get better, to get stronger, to get bigger than where we were before. And if that's the case, then for some reason that I will never understand, God determined that our souls needed to undergo prolonged, prolific loss in order to perfect ourselves. I think this journey that my wife took me on has been an eye opener, a heart opener; something I'm forever grateful for. And for that, I consider myself lucky, probably the luckiest man alive.

QUESTION: How many emotions do you allow yourself to feel and express?

Parable from the Pit:

"Shaani left this world for an unknown reason. You learned to surrender to what is. She left you many gifts, and each of those gifts come into play in your leadership. You would have never been the man sitting here today carrying so much power and respect if she had not been building your life with you. What the fuck are you going to do with the tremendous amount of gifts Shanni left for you?"

--Coach Sam Falsafi

"What happens when shit goes sideways? Are we prepared to deal with it? The bottom line is this: having the structure of the Warrior's Way empowered me to continue on and just keep moving forward in order to tackle - to embrace - this huge problem in my life. If we can fortify ourselves to become stronger, then all of this other stuff becomes easier to tackle. Despite your darkest hour, despite the pain that you have, you are not alone. If you can lean on those around you, lean on your brothers, and lean on those that really have your best interest at heart, then you can get through anything."

--Dr. Adam Splaver

From the outside looking in, Dr Michael Buffington looked like he a man that was living the perfect life. That is, until he discovered how much he was still lacking because he was not leading from within the home. Dr Buffington joins Coach Sam on this week's podcast to discuss the significance that no matter where we're at in life, we can always improve, and the most crucial place to focus that in is as a father and at home.

Parable #1: A Crack In the Armor

• Dr. Buffington: From all outward standards and appearances, I had always been a good guy doing good things throughout my life, falling into the mode of doing what I thought everyone wanted me to do. Within the first 5-10 minutes of Warrior Week 27, reality began to shift for me where the cracks in my armor were immediately exposed and a drastically different perspective was quick to end up on my doorstep.
• Coach Sam: If most of your life you are caught up with being a good man vs being good at being a good man, you are pretty much a well behaved fucking slave - not feeling immediate pain but experiencing boredom, lack of clarity, and not understanding the meaning of the Purpose of life.

QUESTION: What and who are the cracks in your armor exposing?

Parable #2: A Powerful Man Out of Fucking Power

• Coach Sam: You had been living the Warrior's Way for a year and had experienced growth in all areas of your life. Your son went to Warrior X10 where he had his own experiences. Deep down inside though, there were still issues in your life that were robbing power from you on a daily basis; there were unanswered questions from your experience with WW 27 that led you to come back and knock at the door of WW 39.
• Dr. Buffington: My son, Drake, had gotten into a situation where he was struggling with addiction. Although I served my patients well at work all day, when I came home I couldn't show up for my two other boys or for my wife, nor could I physically hold a conversation on the telephone with therapists and others because I was so wound up and distraught with what was going on with Drake. I just couldn't function.

QUESTION: What does taking ownership of leading your sons and daughters look like vs delegating that responsibility to others?

Parable #3: Put Your Oxygen Mask On First

• Coach Sam: Life and adversity show up at your fucking door and take your son into a dark place. Nothing you are doing to help him is working and you eventually find yourself in a place of deep, paralyzing pain and darkness. What was the pivoting point for you where you actually found the light inside of this fucking dark room?
• Dr. Buffington: It was a process. To help keep my sanity, I just continued doing the work and following the daily disciplines. If I didn't personally get myself in a position of power, my son had absolutely no shot. The pivoting part for me was when I saw the fear that it was going to cost him his life. I came to the realization that while everybody was doing their best to help, it had to start with me. Once I recognized that, I went to work and the whole conversation in our entire family began to shift.

QUESTION: What does putting your oxygen mask on first look like?

Parable #4: Reframing the Story Changes Everything

• Dr. Buffington: The truth today at this moment: Drake is doing as well now as he has ever done in his life. He's working at his job, he's been sober for the longest period of time ever since he was 14, he's getting healthier and he's doing the work. Our conversations are now founded in the verbiage and doctrine of Warrior, and doing the work together has totally changed our relationship.
• Dr. Buffington: Drake created a story around him questioning his path while halfway through his doctorate. "I'm 24, I don't have shit, I have nothing to show for my time, I am $160k in student loan debt, I'm just a fuck up." I would have piled on that in the past. Instead, I reframed his story: "You're 24 years old, you have invested $160k in your two bachelors degrees, and you're healthier today than you've ever been!"

QUESTION: Where in your life or relationships would a simple reframing of your story shift and change everything?

Parable #5: Be the Man

• Dr. Buffington: On the first night of WW 39, the Pit came alive and I felt the heaviness of the guilt and shame from an incident that had taken place 30 years ago, physically feeling the weight on my back as if an elephant were standing on it. Through a very long night, I found the path to release the pain. In the mountains the next day, the message I felt at a deep spiritual level was: I am enough. I am enough to show up to be the man that can find a way.
• Coach Sam: You have all the answers and you've gone to fucking war to get the answers. You are sitting here today with the power of clarity, purpose and truth. You're sitting here with all of this shit in your hands, and from this place you have become the Transformer, the Healer - the person who actually takes the truth and shares it.

QUESTION: Are you willing to go through the night to find power, clarity, purpose and truth?

Parable from the Pit:

"This is a painful show. It's all about the truth. There is no pretending in the truth. Among what you are hearing inside of this conversation, there is painful truth that resonates. What is your child struggling with? How much do you know about your child's pain? What do you see in your child? Forget the typical checklists, are you aware of the struggles of your child? If you are out of power and stuck in your own gdamn fucking struggles, the answer is fucking no. You are not some hero because you have gone through the checklist of being a dad. You are a great dad if you feel your child's pain. Allow yourself to live inside their pain."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"Here we are. The game is on. I can see the possibility of me as an older man with grandkids on my knee, and if they are boys, my sons will be leading them to pass this along to where they won't have to go into the depth of the Pit that I had to go."

--Dr. Michael Buffington

In this week's episode, Warrior Week 28 Graduate Andy Carter is joining Coach Sam to talk about possibilities beyond the Pit and making choices that can alter the destiny of your marriage and children.

Parable #1: Co-signing Bullshit

• Many people want to avoid collision and are reeled in by those that will tell them what they want to hear, who will co-sign on their comfort zone and on something that doesn't hurt. Warrior Week allows men to be exposed to their current reality of life, feel the pain, allowing that pain to give them the power, path, and possibility of becoming a better version of themselves in all areas of their life.
• Andy's path to Warrior Week began two years ago. He was a successful entrepreneur living a pack of lies inside a superficial bullshit land where no one had the guts to call him out on his shit. He was broken, lost and ready for change, having gone from being a problem solving Producer and Creator to a numbed out, drunken shell of the man he used to be.

QUESTION: What are you seeing about yourself in this? What painful reality are you glossing over in your life and are afraid to look at?

Parable #2: Surrendering To The Pit Yields Gifts

• Andy's experiences during Warrior Week brought fears and shit to the surface that had been buried deep inside of him for years. He didn't want the crap and drama that he had experienced with his dad to transfer to his beautiful little boys, and wondered how he was going to do that.
• Andy: I was in the ocean going out to the black darkness with all of these other men, each of us looking for that 'thing' that is so personal for us. I experienced how the Pit exposes the fuck out of you and surrendering to the process, revealing the miracle of killing my ego and being reborn with a new set of eyes.

QUESTION:What is buried deep inside of you that is holding you back from experiencing true peace and power in your life?

Parable #3: The Drift, The Pit and The Voice

• When Andy came to Warrior Week, he was seeking clarity inside of his marriage: Am I going to stay married or get divorced? Is this the right partner for me, for my life? Do I want to spend the next 40 years living with this woman? One full year later, after completely immersing himself in the Warrior's way, going all in and doing the fucking work, he and his wife found themselves in the throes of a nasty divorce.
• After Drifting for five days, drinking himself to numbness every night with his bottle of Jameson, waking up with the shakes and being in a very dark place, all he wanted was for the ugliness of what was going on around him to just go away. Andy received a little visit from The Voice: Have you ever really been all in with her?

QUESTION: Are you fucking all in with your wife?

Parable #4: Shatter the Fucking Cycle

• Andy arrived home from Warrior Week to face the surprise and pain of an empty house. He didn't want his kids to walk one hour in the shoes he had walked as a little boy experiencing the life of coming from a broken home and all that entails. It was time to break the fucking cycle.
• As a little boy, Coach Sam was a sponge for what was taking place between his parents and prayed night after night for them to be happy and not fight anymore. There was a pivoting point where his dad made a choice to veer off the path leading to divorce, turning around everything for them and breaking their family cycle.

QUESTION: Where in your life would making a different choice break the chains and cycles that have existed in your family for generations?

Parable #5: Fuck You/I Love You

• "I almost fucked it all off because of a story; I almost didn't give us a shot because I was scared." Today, Andy and his wife are unstoppable. His wife is a badass and fuels his desires to Create. They're business partners and together make a crazy amazing team as parents for their children, who now get to see their parents work through problems together, rather than sitting in-between the chaos and fog of separation.
• Sam: When we talk about Power and finding Power - dude, you went through fucking pain to find this power that you have here which I can feel. Above all, who you are today is a man who operates from a place of Truth. You're "the man" when you start telling the truth in any circumstance, where the fuck you's and the I love you's both need to come out.

QUESTION: What changes does this conversation inspire you to begin making?

Parable from the Pit:

"People go to therapists, doctors and psychologists spending all kinds of fucking money trying to drop the pain. The problem is, the pain does not get processed. There are solutions that are shared, paths that are put in front of them, and in many cases it helps, which is great. But the pain itself does not get processed. The pain needs to be processed. In order for the pain to be processed, there needs to be power found on the other side. No power, the pain remains, the pain is not processed. No balls to process the fucking pain = no power."

-Coach Sam Falsafi

"There are Gifts in the dark Pits of pain. Once you get those Gifts, right on the other side, is life changing and Power. You must physically go through the dark pain and face your shit. Then you must break, which gives you the ability to rebuild, creating more capacity inside of you for growth and expansion. If you don't physically go through that pain, you'll never get the Power. Someone can't tell you about it. With every atom of your body, you have to physically experience it.

-Andy Carter

Your host Sam Falsafi has Warrior Guest Kevin Voisin join him this week in speaking about the impact that one's word has on their loved ones. There's great power between men when they're willing to share the power of learning how to be spiritual, and that all comes through listening to the Voice within and then acting on it.

Parable #1: Broken and Unspoken

• Coach Sam: So many men feel that their freedom has been violated: the freedom to feel, be and live. Yes, we have the basic freedoms here in this country, but there are a lot of men that are not free in their heart. They ask themselves questions like: Why did I get married? Am I even real inside this relationship? Why does this seem like it's a program that I need to be part of? Life goes on for them and they pretend that one day things will be good for them.
• Kevin: When I first saw the videos for Warrior Week, I was trying to copy them for my business. But in order to copy them, I had to watch them. Three minutes into the video, I'm fucking crying and I'm connecting with something that's from my past. Everything that Garrett was talking about, described the pain and the trap that I was in.

QUESTION: Have you ever felt that your life is some sort of a program that you are living inside of?

Parable #2: Perfection is a Liar's Game

• Kevin: My response to an abusive mother was to keep trying to be good enough. If I excel at everything, then she'll have to accept me, she'll have to know I'm good enough. Between that and my strong religious background, I was pushed into this perfection game and I was fucking good at it. When you play the perfection game to win, you play to lie.
• Coach Sam: There is no perfection in your leadership at home.

QUESTION: Where in your life are you playing the Perfection Game? How is that working for you?

Parable #3: The Checklist

• Kevin: When I met my ex-wife, there was this new form of gravity around her. The next step was to get married and have kids. Suddenly, there was this list we were supposed to start living: I stopped living who I really was and became the list, fragmenting myself into little pieces of Kevin to check off all of the boxes. The actual me? I was fucking all alone.
• Coach Sam: You are brought up under certain religious instruction, which is beautiful - and inside of that, you get married. It's not your feelings that drive your life, it's a checklist: certain laws must be in place in order for your feeling to rise. And obviously, that's an impossibility because your feelings are going to go against this checklist.

QUESTION: What checklist is driving your life?

Parable #4: Cheating: A Family Affair

• Sam: I don't know how you operate when you cheat, what pain you can cause, or how it can impact your family because I haven't done it. When you have an agreement and there's a violation to that agreement, it's never going to be the same. Nobody wants to fuckin' feel violated, yet when you bring a lie into your home, everyone feels it.
• Kevin: I admit I took the coward's path when I cheated on my wife. Many guys who cheat on their wife also lose their relationship with their kids. With every unexplained emotion in the house, the kids will either think it's their fault or that it's their job to fix it.

QUESTION: What lies are you bringing into your home and putting on a silver platter for your kids as truth?

Parable #5: I Knew You Would Come

• When Kevin's ex wife moved herself and the kids nine hours away, it was in that moment he really became a father, realizing that what he had had right down the hall was now nine hours away - which distance he has been traveling every two weeks for the past nine years to see them. Love for his kids is what drives him to do whatever he needs to do in order to be with his kids and to always show up in their lives.
• Coach Sam to Kevin: That connection is healing your heart. That connection is Divine. It's not based off some check list or what you are 'supposed to do.' Inside your soul, inside of your identity, there is a man committed to love. Inside Warrior, there are men modeling your love because that is their truth. There are too many men who are carrying similar pain who are not speaking about it

QUESTION: What actions are you willing to back your commitments with?

Parable from the Pit:

"You will never put this Shuilt on me - it's this shame and guilt. You will not put that on me and you won't put it on Kevin. It's not that we are some fucking super heroes, it's because we have learned the skills of not navigating the invisible maze that goes nowhere and is feeding some other mother fucker's interest.

- Coach Sam

"In the words of Malcolm X, 'No man can give you freedom; if you're a man, you take it.' I'm not afraid to take it anymore. I will have my freedom. I will love my children, I will love my wife, and I will do it the way I want to and I make no apologies. I think the fundamental difference between me now and when things weren't right is, I don't give a fuck about the invisible rules that you put on me. If I put it on myself, great. If I don't? It's not mine and I won't own it."

- Kevin Voisin

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Every week, your host Sam Falsafi will be speaking about what it means to live the Warrior's Way, a belief system taught with Wake Up Warrior for married businessmen to live a life of having it all through what is know as the Core 4 within themselves: Body, Being (spirituality), Balance (family) and Business. Coach Sam Falsafi is a lead trainer within Wake Up Warrior and will be joined by co-host Garrett J White, the founder of Wake Up Warrior as well as guests from within Warrior that provide witnesses and case studies on what has occurred within their own lives.

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In today's podcast, your host Sam Falsafi and Warrior Guest Jesse Ewell discuss the Warrior's Blueprint for Leadership - how it all begins with becoming a Leader within one's own home. Jesse has learned how to do this along with Sam through listening to the Voice within, which some may know it as the Spirit, intuition, or that gut feeling.

Parable #1: You Will Fuck Up

• Jesse's path to Warrior began with some videos posted on Facebook by some of his fitness buddies. He found himself compelled to view the videos in secret, like someone watching porn. During the application process, Jesse waited over three hours to have a phone interview with Garrett, thinking that the waiting game was some sort of a Warrior test. A follow up phone call from Sam over two months later revealed they had fucked up.
• Jesse learned from his wife's counselor that she was on the verge of a nervous breakdown, stemming from her fear of communicating her feelings to Jesse. Sam, having fucked up with his wife during a recent fight, had a dream where she was receiving advice from another man and recognized this as a sign that he is not hearing his wife.

QUESTION: You have all of these checklists for being a good husband and father - but at the end of the day, are you really hearing your wife? Are you really hearing your kids? Are you hearing the Voice within and taking immediate action?

Parable #2: Beautiful Actions Must Follow Beautiful Words

• If, in your world, you are listening to beautiful words that aren't being backed up by actions, you are being fuckin' lied to. You can fall in love with the beauty of the words, only to miss out on the beauty of the actions, one day finding yourself fucked up the ass where you continue blaming others - because you choose to tune in to this particular sound wave and ignore the pain.
• We don't give ourselves permission to fail, so we wear this fucking mask. We come home, take off the mask and blow up on our loved ones. Why? Because we consider this a safe place to fail. Warrior Week was designed to interrupt these fucking patterns.

QUESTION: What beautiful actions are you taking today that are following your beautiful words?

Parable #3: The Truth Is Revealed Inside The Pit

• About an hour into Warrior Week, it hit Jesse that his reason for being there had nothing to do with his business (which he had lied about in the first pace), and everything to do with his wife and family. Inside the Pit, he felt his wife's pain, he felt his pain, and he also felt there was a way of working himself out of the Pit.
• Jesse returned home and started living the Warrior's Way at the highest level. Living the Warrior's Way in his household became non-negotiable and his family lived it through him, taking on the Warrior life and language. For seven months they experienced their own version of Warrior Week - massive growth, change, and pain.

QUESTION: In what areas of your life are you lying to yourself and to others, that if you started telling the truth, you would begin seeing your life turn around?

Parable #4: Be Willing To Sit In The Pain Of The Pit

• As we begin to march inside our own Pit for the first time, we are actually giving ourselves permission to be in this unknown dark place. We don't know how wide this place is, we don't know the depth of it, and we stop at the first place in the Pit. It hurts so much that we are paralyzed, unable to go further and explore the Pit.
• Courage and certainty were injected into Jesse between WW 16 and WW 21 because he had done the work, which gave him a different experience inside of the Pit in WW 21. He realized there was a depth he hadn't reached during his first Warrior Week and was able to see two versions of himself inside the Pit. The second time it was more about finding his Purpose inside of the Pit.

QUESTION: What are the gifts you have received by giving yourself permission to go inside your Pit?

Parable #5: Serve and Lead Your Family First

• Coach Sam: There is a Purpose in serving your family first. HAVE YOU DISCOVERED THAT? If you haven't, you have no business going all across the world and serving somebody else. SERVICE BEGINS AT HOME. Jumping over the Pain to go deeper to find your Purpose is nothing but a False Lift - you lift yourself up only to feel better, look better and be seen as better.
• So many men go throughout life never asking their wife and kids if they're a good husband or daddy. They're fearful of the answers and don't want to face the pain of the answers they know they will hear. Chances are, your family is afraid to tell you how they really feel.

QUESTION: Ask your wife tonight: Am I a good husband? Ask your kids tonight: Am I a good daddy? What does it actually mean to your wife to be a good husband? What does it mean to your kids to be a good daddy?

Parable from the Pit:

"Do you have the courage - do you have the fucking balls - to ask your wife and kids and truly hear their feedback? Ask every day, ask as much as you want. Ask and let them tell their truth. If it hurts, accept that and find the power on the other side of the pain by making some actionable changes."

- Coach Sam Falsafi

"If your wife and kids say nothing, then there's a fear inside of them to tell you the truth. Once you ask them this question, you have to shut the fuck up. You have to let them speak, and you just have to sit there and listen and take it. That is how you have to show up inside of this."

-Coach Jesse Ewell

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Every week, your host Sam Falsafi will be speaking about what it means to live the Warrior's Way, a belief system taught with Wake Up Warrior for married businessmen to live a life of having it all through what is know as the Core 4 within themselves: Body, Being (spirituality), Balance (family) and Business. Coach Sam Falsafi is a lead trainer within Wake Up Warrior and will be joined by co-host Garrett J White, the founder of Wake Up Warrior as well as guests from within Warrior that provide witnesses and case studies on what has occurred within their own lives.

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In this week's episode Warrior Guest Gus Van Dender joins Sam on the call talking about the importance of recognizing one's purpose in life. The best way to do that is through listening to the heart instead of the caution that the head is constantly saying to keep us safe. Growth within one's own purpose doesn't occur until we are willing to take the leap into following our heart instead.

Parable #1: When in the Deepest of Pits, Light Comes From Unexpected Sources

• Gus was deep in the pit - his business, marriage, spirit and health were completely broken. His estranged wife's 'chance' meeting with Garrett and a group of men writing in their journals on the beaches of Laguna created a curiosity on her part and, unbeknownst to Gus, would set the wheels in motion for his journey into the brotherhood of Warrior.
• While in the midst of his deepest pain and agony, a surge of hope arrives in a surprise text from his wife, with no other words written except a link to 'Wake Up Warrior.' This leads to a six hour marathon of videos where Gus feels his life is being displayed right before his very eyes in the form of Garrett J. White.

QUESTION: Think of when you have been in the deepest of pits and ask yourself: How did the Light arrive?

Parable #2: If the King Doesn't Rise, the Queen Will

• Gus had the false hope that he was ready for Warrior Week. His wife had taken over the role of leadership within the family because at the time, Gus was not in a place to lead his Kingdom. She wanted him to rise and be ready to receive the crown again, and also wisely knew there were steps he needed to take before making that investment into Warrior Week.
• In the conversation of Leadership: The King has the responsibility to lead the entire Kingdom. If you have delegated this important leadership role to your Queen, take a look at the patterns and routines in your life. The Queen didn't take the power from you, you handed it to her on a silver platter. If you are not operating as a King inside your Kingdom, and your Queen doesn't see the power in you as the King, she will rise and take over to protect the Kingdom.

QUESTION: When are you going to believe that you are the King?

Parable #3: Take Back the Kingdom

• Every fucking morning, Gus asks himself: Am I ready, willing, able and capable of doing what is required to sustain the Kingdom and remain as a King TODAY? He sustains his role by utilizing the tools within Warrior and doing the required work, which fuels him with energy and brings him to a place of power to take on that responsibility.
• At the end of the day, it all comes down to this: You matter. Taking time for yourself to grow and expand every single day, matters. Remaining in the Kingdom sans growth and expansion with his Queen, a man is a peasant pretending to be a King. The number one mission of the King is to expand the kingdom for himself, his Queen, and his people.

QUESTION: If you believe yourself to be a King, are you able and capable of building your Kingdom for the next 60 years with your Queen?

Parable #4: It's a Matter of Heart

• In his experiences with Warrior Week, Gus learned how to accept and love himself, and how to give himself permission to just be him. The piece of the puzzle that was missing was connection with his wife, which was rekindled on the beaches of Laguna where she first encountered Garrett and the brotherhood - which experience was fueled by Sam's counsel: Open up your fucking heart and stop living in your head. Operate by the simplest rule in the world: say what's in your heart.
• We have years' worth of downloaded blueprints in our subconscious mind of how others believe we should be living our life. The casting of judgement from others, coupled with the pressures of culture, society, and parents creates limitations in our mind. The one place that remains untouched? The heart.

QUESTION: What are some of the limitations you have been groomed to believe about yourself?

Parable #5: The Purpose Has a Purpose

• In Warrior Week 40, the Pit came alive for Gus as he began reliving the all encompassing pain, shame and guilt of not being there for his wife and daughter. During the 'Hand of God Evolution' exercise, Gus felt an energy unlike anything he had ever before experienced, and found himself screaming out to that power,"Help Me!" His relationship with that power - The Voice - shifted that day and led him on the journey of finding his Purpose, which Purpose is driving him today.
• When you connect with your Purpose, everything you decide to do impacts others. There is no one in the world that has your experiences and parables, nor has been on your exact path and journey that has led you to be where you are today. At the end of the day, Purpose is people, pain, problems, possibilities and the path. Be vulnerable, listen to The Voice, and then have the courage to act on the revelations it brings you.

QUESTION: Who in your life would benefit from having a conversation with you being vulnerable and speaking from your heart? When are you going to have that conversation?

Parable from the Pit: "When you understand and feel your purpose and it becomes clear, it opens the door for more passion, profit, and meaning in your life." Sam Falsafi

"Being the strong guy 24/7 was the image I was giving my wife, but when I opened up my heart and became vulnerable - which was really uncomfortable - everything shifted." Gus Van Dender

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Every week, your host Sam Falsafi will be speaking about what it means to live the Warrior's Way, a belief system taught with Wake Up Warrior for married businessmen to live a life of having it all through what is know as the Core 4 within themselves: Body, Being (spirituality), Balance (family) and Business. Coach Sam Falsafi is a lead trainer within Wake Up Warrior and will be joined by co-host Garrett J White, the founder of Wake Up Warrior as well as guests from within Warrior that provide witnesses and case studies on what has occurred within their own lives.

http://warriorweek.com

In This Week's Episode....

Your host Sam Falsafi has Warrior Guests Troy Hoffman on the call to discuss the intensity and focus of Warrior Week, becoming exposed to what it was that he truly wants in life.

Parable #1: All the Single Ladies...Here's a Single Man

• Warrior Guest Troy Hoffman shares the impact of his Pit on today's call with Sam Falsafi, first being exposed to multiple experiences of Warrior Week about building a life with someone, being single at the time and seeking more within his personal relationships.
• The exposure that occurred was that this lack of personal relationships was showing across the board that Troy wasn't dedicated to anything in his life, bringing a tougher commitment of holding himself to a higher standard.

QUESTION: What is the purpose behind considering change and transformation in your life, based off of where you're currently at and where you want to go? What are your current metrics within your Core 4 (Body, Being (Spirituality), Balance (Family), Business)?

Parable #2: Facing the Man in the Mirror

• When Troy first faced the realities within himself, the literal man in the mirror, he became exposed to getting a sense of clarity understanding where he's at in his life right now, still worried about the pain about being rejected.
• Until he was put into an environment that forced him to hold himself accountable, Troy realized how little clarity and truth he had in his own life, even though he could see it in others and not within himself until he was able to reconnect the child within and heal him.

QUESTION: What is your biggest pain in your life today?

Parable #3: The Wounds of Unfulfilled Children

• There's a process of the impact of others around us to have the courage to see the power within us as we learn to heal the wounds of an unfulfilled child within. This requires a deep level of trust as an elite alpha to allow humbleness to come in to feel the pain of the Pit.
• Troy's father passed away in October 2016, and the impact that this had on Troy brought almost a form of relief because of the physical pain his father was in, learning to step up and be the dad that he would want his dad to know how much he impacted others, not really feeling like his dad had an outlet to put himself first.

QUESTION: What do you think your father's biggest pain was/is? What is the one thing you would want him to heal from?

Parable #4: Facing OLD Pain

• Starting back up from the side, Sam shares his experience of being taken from a war torn country where his father had a successful business position to delivering pizza after escaping to Canada and safety for his children, showing a man that hustled for 28 years to take care of his family.
• Troy could relate to Sam's experience, and they see within their fathers the gift of growing up in poverty, producing a future of empathy to impact more lives to go further with a legacy that shows how to live and survive from that extreme level.

QUESTION: What gift of poverty from childhood (whether actual or figurative) has made you become the man that you are today? What is the greatest memory that you have of your father?

Parable #5: Transforming #1 Regrets with Pain

• The greatest regret that a person has is not connecting with loved ones on a deeper levels, and with dads, it's even harder to connect with one's own father, especially by connecting to their pain. When we're willing to go through the pain within their lives, it transforms the systematic sedation within men that has been passed on.
• Not being able to talk about our pain and carrying it with us, it becomes a generational curse that will be passed on to our children, until we are able to transfer that pain to power by understanding and speaking our truth.

QUESTION: What is ONE THING that you are aware is working in your life? How can that power transfer to other areas of your life?

Parable from the Pit:

"Facing yourself in the mirror helps you get a clear idea of where you are in all areas of your life, extracting power in your body, your spirituality, with your family and your business. Being able to witness the sacrifice that your father had, even when knowing that they had or still have pain, there's a conversation that can be had to choose to fucking lead."

--Sam Falsafi

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In This Week's Episode....

Your host Sam Falsafi has Warrior Guest Nick Long on the call to discuss how everything in his life as a married entrepreneur is affected by his ultimate purpose, which is what he refers to as his WHY, which is his family.

Parable #1: Not Finding Fruit in Rabbit Holes

• Today's Warrior Guest Nick Long shares how he was searching for more over two years ago, told that he needed to check out Wake Up Warrior, and after nearly 4 hours of rabbit holes and videos, he made the phone call with Sam, in which even the price of the ticket didn't dissuade him from doing what he knew he needed to do by attending Warrior Week.
• Everyone wants to invest in the business instead of within themselves first, and yet as a business owner, you're the tip of the spear and need to learn to be willing to take risks on yourselves.

QUESTION: Where have you had to give permission to yourself to spend money on your own personal development?

Parable #2: The Facts of the Truth

• The truth becomes our interpretations of the facts within our life, where Nick had a transformational process of attending two very different Warrior Weeks because he was two very different men each time, seeking radically different things each time; for Warrior Week 22, he was dealing with shame and unworthiness, which then led to truth and vulnerability wanting to bond with other men.
• Sam then shares an experience of having a phone call with another man that applied for an upcoming Warrior Week, in which through an exchange of conversations, the applicant wasn't sure what he wants after having his wife domineer within their relationship for the past 12 years due to destructive but comfortable patterns that kept showing up.

QUESTION: Where are you more comfortable remaining in pain instead of being willing to face the truth in your life?

Parable #3: Seeing Inside of the Aggressive Alpha Pit

• Even though Nick became more willing to be vulnerable to share insights from within his experience at Warrior Week 22, no longer hesitating to invest in himself, he had this recurring theme of unworthiness as a pattern in his life to then take him to Warrior Week 40 to open up further possibilities after going back to the Pit, never thinking he'd allow himself to break commitments and trust within himself again, and yet he did.
• He was so scared that he'd go back to old patterns and losing his family, he self-manifested fears as an aggressive alpha, going back to old patterns until he was willing to live by the Code and stop lying to himself, unblocking the truth that he had blocked for years.

QUESTION: Where do you see patterns of self-sabotage in your life?

Parable #4: Conversations About Purpose and Lost Keys

• Without purpose, nothing that we do will matter. Nick found this ripped open within his second experience at Warrior Week 40, that his purpose, his WHY, is leading his family.
• Sam likens this to an experience that he had looking for keys, he learned that he had to retrace his literal steps, pleading to God to help him, feeling His presence for the first time, finding the keys right under his foot, confirming to him that God is listening to him, which shifted everything that he believes to this day, feeling joy in that confirmation.

QUESTION: Where have you had to retrace steps in your life in order to find keys to unlock doors that have remained locked in your life?

Parable #5: Facing the Biggest Lie with the Glue of Truth

• As simple as it sounds, Nick found that the greatest gift he's been able to give himself to awaken the greatest power within himself is to tell the truth. When he chose to stop lying to himself that everything was OK, he found that it's not easy to strip away everything that he has, creating a massive shift in everything that he does now by seeing his family as his glue to keep him together.
• There are no blueprints for wounded children to become fulfilled fathers after they grow up until they are able to lead themselves. This occurs by listening to the Voice inside of yourself and confronting the biggest lie that you've been telling yourself, whatever it may be.

QUESTION: What is your biggest fear? What is holding you back from telling the truth within you?

Parable from the Pit:

"We're willing to invest in our business, but the number one asset as entrepreneurs is to invest in ourselves. We're the tip of the spear. I wasn't able to see the impact of what this means until I was willing to confront the life I've built and stripped all of it away, I had to go deep into that Pit within myself and anchor myself to my WHY, which is not losing my wife and children."

--Nick Long

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In This Week's Episode....

Your host Sam Falsafi has Warrior Guests on the call to discuss how important it is to stop fucking lying, and the first person to start with is ourselves.

Parable #1: Dark Periods of Fog and Stuck In the Same Motions

• After watching some Warrior marketing videos, Rusty Rahm wanted to learn more until he had a phone interview with Sam shortly after he contacted him, feeling darkness on the inside even though everything on the outside looked ideal, not knowing how to get out of the fog that he had within.
• This effected his son Christian into escaping from reality and choosing to be disconnected with sedations in order to escape the Pain, in which neither one of them knew where to find a solution.

QUESTION: Where do you have pain in your life that you don't have a solution for?

Parable #2: The Process of The Shift

• The Pain behind the Stories becomes part of the process of The Shift that is required within us all, and for Rusty, being the owner of so many businesses he wasn't really used to being called out and yelled at by another man, breaking the ice that he wasn't alone, beginning the process towards healing after declaring facts that have impacted his life for years.
• Rusty was initially supposed to join Warrior Week 35, but he knew he had to stay with his son when they began to open up with their emotions, sharing a message from Coach Sam to Christian, seeing it as an amazing gift that came about through discovering tools (see video below Parable #4).

QUESTION: Who do you have in your life that can hold you accountable?

Parable #3: A Long-Lasting Leader Listens to The Voice

• Even after the breakthrough that Rusty and Christian had while in the hospital, there was doubt within Rusty that the progress wasn't going to last, but he learned through the tools he gained before he even attended his own Warrior Week helped master ignoring the voices inside of his head that told him he couldn't change.
• Instead, he heard, "Here's your shot. Keep going." And he did. Rusty found a way to stop numbing the pain that he had for decades, creating a new frame to have his children follow him in leadership, even after having his own recovery with disk surgery in his neck for Warrior Week 36.

QUESTION: Who is affected by your leadership? Is is leadership that is serving them to become leaders as well? Why or Why Not?

Parable #4: The Pain Of Operating Alone Getting Replaced with a Daily Life Script

• All of the men that come into Warrior Week come into the program to deal with the feeling of mentally being alone, which comes about through listening to The Voice, which comes from within everyone's heart for a Higher Source, guiding us towards Gifts.
• The death of Rusty happened with his neck surgery, and the Warrior of Rusty became born, which spread itself over to Christian through Warrior X to keep getting better.

What can I do for myself today?

What can I do for my wife today?

What can I do for my children today?

What can I do for my business today?

Parable #5: Two Ways to Lead as a Father

• There are two ways that you can lead your children through example as a father: 1-Lead through Sedation, whether it's hidden or not, picked up energetically by your children, OR 2- Lead through Power, creating frames for your children for empowerment based off of what you've discovered within yourself. Within Warrior, we call that 2nd Leadership living the Warrior's Way.
• The Patterns that Christian saw within Rusty that led him to Warrior X 10.0 is still felt today: "Be the first in the game" and "Go all in." It was the hardest reality to face for Christian, but it changed his outlook in life that he didn't need to hide from himself anymore.

QUESTION: What kind of power are you projecting towards others?

Parable from the Pit: "There's this huge fog of avoidance that's taking place in society, and it begins in the home. This acceptance of avoidance through looking down at our phones instead of interacting with each other resides in our house with our closest relationships." --Sam Falsafi "I got the tools that I've been searching so long for right inside of me. It took going to some really dark places through Warrior Week, but when I learned to trust the Voice inside of me, it takes me to whole other level. I was on the verge of divorce in 2016, yet in 2017 going through the Warrior program, it was the best year of marriage that I've ever had. I trusted the process and realized that I was only operating at 30% across the board. Now, everyday I no longer hear a voice tearing me down but a Voice that asks, 'What are we going to do today?'" --Rusty Rahm

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