WARRIOR WEEK

Coach Sam Falsafi has a conversation with Warrior Week 37 graduate Chad Ulmer.

• Chad grew up in a small town in Iowa where he lived a pretty sheltered life. He joined the Marines to get out of that situation and served for four years. Once he left the Marines, he married rather quickly. Eight years later, he got divorced and eventually remarried. With every step, he was burying himself deeper and deeper into his pit.
• "I was in a very bad place and my marriage was falling apart. I felt dismissed and rejected on a daily basis with my wife. This all came to a head before our six year anniversary where I imploded and nearly ended everything in my life in just one hour. At this point, Garrett popped into my head, and that night I contacted Coach Sam."

QUESTION: What's coming up for you as you listen to Chad's story?

• Chad: It's one dimensional in the military: to kill or not to kill. You learn to listen and obey, you give 110%, and then they say "good luck" when you get out. You're in a pit, you're lost, and without a support system, you start drifting and can't get out.
• Coach Sam: You were trained and guided in a system to attack, kill, and kill your fucking emotions. The missing piece of the puzzle is the re-education of the transition back to civilian life, how to deal with your feelings, and how to lead your wife and children.

QUESTION: What has been your experience with transitioning out of the Military?

• Chad: I have never felt such a powerful shift than when I joined the Brotherhood. When I do the work, I feel the power, and I feel there is such capacity for possibility. The availability of success snowballs and is almost exhausting. How great would it be if Wake Up Warrior could be integrated into the military? Coach Sam: Warrior Week awakens you to new patterns and habits.When you live the Warriors Way, you belong to something. Most men want to belong. They want two things: praise and purpose. When we are praised and have a purpose, life becomes meaningful. You can have a purpose but if you're not praised for it, it dies.

QUESTION: What was your awakening at Warrior Week?

• After four years of hearing Sam say he was going to organize his closet, his wife decided to hire a personal organizer to do the job for him. All of his Warrior t-shirts, along with other t-shirts that held with special meaning for him, were taken out and given away. Needless to say, this did not go well with Sam. "Most of our modern men live in a chaotic world between work, business, family, and home. I spent five hours with my mind being hijacked in a state of panic for no fucking reason. I cursed my wife, our babysitter, and my son. I drove like a maniac cutting people off, projecting my anger into my driving. For what? Some gdamn fucking t-shirts."

QUESTION: How does Sam's experience resonate with you?

• Chad: The Warrior wristband is what keeps me safe and helps me remember my awakening at Warrior Week when I fall into a drift of guilt and shame from not doing the work and Stacking.
• Coach Sam: When you wear a symbol of Warrior, it's a reminder of the work you have done and a remembrance of how you awakened. When you begin to shift, it acts as an awakening.

QUESTION: What token do you wear that reminds you of an awakening or turning point in your life?

"You are not alone."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

""I came out of Warrior feeling young and excited, like I was just out of high school. Things that used to worry and panic me, I don't even think about anymore.""

--Chad Ulmer

Coach Sam Falsafi has a conversation with Warrior Week graduate and Kajabi co-founder, Travis Rosser.

• Travis is the co-founder of the multi-million dollar company, Kajabi. Back in 2012 when he was reviewing all the videos that were coming through the system, he stumbled upon Garrett J White. As is the experience of many, Travis couldn't pull himself away from Garrett's videos and found himself drawn to his message. "It was so appealing how raw he was and how he spoke such clarity and strength."
• Within a few months, Travis met Garrett at a Frank Kern event where they had a brief conversation and exchanged numbers. Within two months, Travis called Garrett and found himself in the middle of one of the most honest conversations he had ever had. "On that call, he predicted my divorce and made all sorts of bold statements. It was like he was asking me what if I could have more in my life? It scared the shit out of me."

QUESTION: Describe your first encounter with Garrett.

• Travis: Within six months, my marriage crashed and burned and I had made a shit ton of mistakes. It's now 2015. I'm feeling the need to go to Warrior Week and I actually go. Not only did I meet a lot of amazing men, some of whom are my best friends to this day, it was the beginning of me digging into a place I had ignored my whole life.
• Coach Sam: You've been part of the system that has helped us broadcast the message of Warrior. Without you and what you have created, we would not have been able to expand and grow, and deliver our message the way we've been able to. Even today, we use your tools and software to train our men. They watch the videos, they do their homework, and it's more than an online class, it's an experience.

QUESTION: What is one lesson you have learned from the mistakes you have made this past week?

• Coach Sam: Often as guys, we carry shame and guilt that we don't have to. If you are in a sexless marriage, or in a relationship that has no fuckin emotion, then what? You could start training and leading that person towards what you want. And if that doesn't happen, you separate. If you accept and tolerate it, it then becomes the new standard for your marriage.
• Travis: I stayed in my 15-year marriage longer than I should have. I grew up in a very Christian, religious home and thought I had to stay. I remember reverting back to the hopeless thoughts I had during my childhood: "This is my life, this is how it's always going to be, and there's nothing I can do about it." I stuttered from the age of 10 to 18 and was embarrassed to talk, so I rarely did.

QUESTION: What are you no longer going to tolerate in your life?

• Travis: My book is about digging inside yourself and finding the business inside of you. I talk about the four P's: Profession, Passion, Pain, and Problem. When people dig deep into these areas of their lives, they will uncover a nugget: a business, passion or purpose that's right in front of them.
• Coach Sam: There are people running businesses who are miserable because they don't know why they're doing what they're doing, other than having a comfortable life or earning money. There's a difference between that guy and the guy who knows every single day why he's doing what he's doing. In the case where the guy knows his purpose, he asks, "What can I do with the money to grow my purpose even bigger?"

QUESTION: As you dig deep into the four P's, what nugget is being revealed to you?

• Coach Sam asks the question, "Let's say our boys somehow find this podcast ten years from now. What message do we want to leave with them? Coach Sam: Continue inquiry in life. Ask questions because they end the confusion. The more you ask, the more you find out. Don't ever fucking stop questioning. Travis: Don't get married too early, make sure you follow your dreams, and don't give up no matter how many times you fail. Just keep going. You will be shocked at yourself and with your life ten years from now. Keep your joy, discover your own path, and listen to the Voice.

QUESTION: What messages do you have for your children?

"I was having a conversation with Jesse Ewell recently about the topic of joy. We asked ourselves when the last time was that we had actually experienced it. I realized I had experienced joy for five minutes that week. That's it? Are you kidding me? How can I make joy a process in my life vs an event that happens once in a while?"

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"I create Kajabi, Garrett creates Warrior. He uses Kajabi to get the message out, which eventually makes its way back to me and then liberates me. By creating my business, and by Garrett following his, we both liberated each other and gave each other this freedom."

--Travis Rosser

Join Coach Sam Falsafi and Micheal Widmore as they expose lies, remove masks, and tell the real, raw truth in this week's riveting episode of Parables from the Pit.

• Michael: May 16, 2017. I walked into our apartment and told my fiancé that I had rented another place and was moving out. She didn't fight me over the decision, but stayed calm and handed me an envelope she had been saving for my birthday, still three weeks away. She felt impressed to give it to me at that moment. Inside was a ticket to WarriorCon 1.
• I first met Garrett a couple of years earlier at a real estate event I was hosting. He was our first instructor where, over a six-hour period, we watched how he radically changed the lives of 24 realtors. Imagine American Idol - I was Ryan Seacrest and my fiance was one of the judges. The night of receiving the envelope, my fiancé looked at me and said, "I think Garrett can help us." I canceled my new lease that night.

QUESTION: What date has life-altering significance for you? Why?

• Michael: The story that ran my life for years was, "I'm a single father." I hung my hat on being a father to my son. I'm a hero. I raised my fucking son on my own. I'll show you pictures of me and my son at the park, at events, of us spending time together, but you won't see the Michael who's screaming and yelling, losing his temper, and being a fucking asshole. I won't show that shit.
• Coach Sam: How come no one talks about the shitty stuff they do as a dad? Go look at yourself in the mirror, review the past fifteen days, and write down the top 10 shittiest things you've done to your kids. Most people won't do this and will defend their actions. They'll say fuck you to this pattern interrupt to avoid the pain and misery of being alone inside of that game, protecting someone they're actually not.

QUESTION: Who are you? Are you living a double life?

• Michael: Alcohol was my Pit. Back in 2007 when we could make money in real estate with our eyes closed, a friend of mine would take took two shots of vodka with sprite, nothing more, nothing less. He told me it took the edge off. That became me for the next 10 years. Some days it was the whole bottle. Today (at the time of recording this podcast), I'm 95 days sober.
• Coach Sam: Before I quit drinking, I remember a decade of drinking based on a pattern and routine. On Friday's and Saturday's, I was drinking so I could socially go out - clubbing and the dance scene. If I wasn't drunk, I couldn't be the clown, the likable guy, or even see myself as a guy operating in that environment. I risked my life and my wife's life for fuckin ten years.

QUESTION: What has been your experience with alcohol?

• Michael: I'm a great example of the kind of guy that needs to come to Warrior Week. I'm the guy who lives the lie that everything is ok. There's not a glaring need like someone else who's cheating on their wife or has some drastic problem. In my life, on the surface, it all looked pretty good. When I gave myself permission to open myself up to look at my Pit, that's when I began to realize just how shitty things had become.
• Coach Sam: Men come to Warrior Week, some because they feel the pain of the lies they're facing or telling - maybe they're cheating or being cheated on; some are disconnected from God, their children, or from their bodies. The modern man lives inside the world of technology and social media, a world of fuckin pretenders. It says we're here to connect you, yet in this connection, there is a disconnection to the human side and a connection to fantasyland.

QUESTION: Where in your life are you more connected to fantasy and less to reality?

• Michael: Within two days of returning home from Warrior Week, we were on the verge of breaking up. She was ready to leave me after I had been doing the work for two months. I wrote her a three-page letter from my heart expressing my feelings to her. I don't consider myself to be a good communicator, so a letter allowed me to get everything out onto paper, giving her the chance to take it all in without me fucking it up.
• Coach Sam: If you feel like you're stuck in your communication with your wife, if every conversation turns into a fight about things that don't fucking matter and you're left with feelings of guilt and shame - if conversing with your wife seems to be impossible - consider writing her a letter. A letter allows you to express your flow and allows her to receive it without interruption.

QUESTION: When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone you love?

"Modern man is not a man of transition. That's why the modern man is fucked up. I like to compare transition to that of a dancer who transitions from one dance to another. Your wife and kids want someone who can transition and dance in between the chapters of life: Body, Being, Balance, and Business. Warrior is the game of transition."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"One of my favorite things Coach Sam has taught us is this: Love + Fun = Connection. You don't always have to take your kids somewhere for that to happen. It can be anything. You can draw a picture together or have an imaginary sword fight. They don't give a shit as long as you're present. That's the shit they're going to remember."

--Michael Widmer

Coach Sam Falsafi and Jason Smith have a conversation about the Voice in this week's episode of Parables from the Pit, where Jason shares his story and journey after receiving news that is both life-shattering and life-altering.

• Coach Sam: The Voice had been trying to get your attention: first with a whisper, then a knock on your door, then you got bruised and beat up with a baseball bat. But you still didn't listen, so it dropped a nuclear bomb on you that created a massive interruption in your life. Everything had to burn to ashes in order for the fucking Phoenix to be reborn.
• Jason: In my first marriage, I was in a pit that lasted for years. It was the kind of pit where you sedated and told yourself you were going to be happy, no matter what. One day, I came home and found a note on the counter from my wife saying that she had left me and the kids. The nuclear bomb had been dropped.

QUESTION: Think back to a time when the Voice came whispering and then knocking at your door. What was the result of not listening?

• Coach Sam: There's the nuclear bomb of divorce and separation, but that's not what happened to you. This was a nuclear bomb in the form of a suicide note from your wife that sucked the life out of you. As you and your young children experienced and dealt with the grief and pain, the pain was divided and shared between all of you.
• The kids healed faster than Jason did and were back to just being kids. Jason, though, processed his grief by traveling down a therapeutic path of "selfishness" for a period of time. "My routine was meeting and dating a lot of women, eating and sleeping very little, and doing a half-ass job at work." At the end of two years, the Voice spoke to him and said, "Quit pretending you're not hurt."

QUESTION: How have you coped with grief and pain in your life?

• Jason: A radical change took place after hearing the Voice that day at my office. There was a three month period of absolute deconstruction where everything had to go. It was absolutely essential for me to do that. I was cleaning house, but it was really my body and my heart that I was cleaning. At the end of the cleansing process, I met my wife.
• We both know it was the Voice brought us together. She hadn't dated for four years because she wanted to get her shit together after experiencing some bad relationships. One month before she met me, she heard the Voice say, "It's time. He's there."

QUESTION: What feelings are coming up for you as you listen to Jason's story?

• Coach Sam: People will hear the story of how you met your wife, and some will say it was a coincidence. Coincidence is the international thief of power. It is the most malicious, fucking word in any fucking vocabulary. It's a man-made story that says fuck you to the Voice.
• Jason: It's a habit of denial. We've sedated for so long that we see ourselves as pieces of shit, and so we deny the miracles because we don't feel we're fucking worthy. The miracles are free, yet we deny them. We insult the Voice by looking at it in the face and saying, "that was a coincidence."

QUESTION: What are the details of the last miracle you witnessed or experiened?

• Jason: I heard the Voice on the hill at Warrior Week 43, which put all the pieces together for me. The Voice said, "There's one more step: Forgiveness." Back home, my wife and children were feeling this energy and could tell that something was lifting. When I returned home, we each visited my dead wife's grave, which has, in turn, set us all free.
• Coach Sam: The Voice whispered through me, it knocked on the door through Jesse, down the hill the Voice beat you up with a baseball bat, then on top of the hill, another massive pattern interrupt happened in your life. This time, the nuclear bomb that was dropped brought life into you, instead of sucking it out of you.

QUESTION: When will you be willing to listen and respond to the whisper instead of waiting for the nuclear bomb?

"At the end of the day, the gift you got in those mountains was never yours to keep, it was yours to give away."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"My wife knows she can speak her truth louder now, because she has a king at home who is rising. There's more collision, but there's more trust."

--Jason Smith

Coach Sam Falsafi welcomes Russ Perry to the podcast where they have an in-depth and enlightening conversation about making and keeping commitments and building strong foundations; they explore the importance of being receptive to signals in one's life and share their experiences surrounding sobriety and marriage.

• At the young age of 22, Russ received a phone call that would ultimately change the course of his life. At the time, he would soon be graduating from college and was laying the foundation for his future, which included a commitment to work in Australia. Seven months prior, Russ had met a young woman at a college party, they had had a brief exchange, and had gone their separate ways with no connection or communication.
• While growing up, the topic of scarcity was prevalent in Russ's single-parent household. This fueled him to make a commitment to always provide for his family, and where the lack of money would never be an issue as it had always been for Russ. That commitment would be coming in to play a lot sooner than he had planned for or anticipated, as the phone call he received was informing him that he was soon to be a father.

QUESTION: What choices have you made that have ultimately altered your initial plans?

• When he first heard the news, Russ felt shocked and was frustrated with himself. But that readily turned into acceptance that this was his new path and life. Since he and the mother both shared custody, half the time Russ did fatherly things and the other half he was a 23-year-old partying bachelor creating the habits of a social drinking lifestyle.
• Russ was in the worst physical shape of his life at the time, and although he had an awesome job at Apple, every time he wanted to see his daughter he had to request a day off, which is what influenced him to start his own business. He had chosen to control his own path but instead ended up building his own prison, which nearly ruined him because of the mistakes made along the way.

QUESTION: What has been the catalyst for change in your life?

• About eighteen months after the birth of his daughter, Russ met the woman he would eventually marry. He brought his scarcity mindset into the marriage, which at the time, was based mostly on external things. That scarcity mindset and fear of "losing it all" drove him to justify his long working hours and the "I have to do this now so we can have a great life later" mentality.
• When his wife became pregnant, they weren't equipped for what that all entailed, and at the same time, his business was experiencing the typical ups and downs. Russ's coping mechanism was working longer hours, drinking more, and finding solace in the arms of another woman. The affair was exposed two months after the birth of their daughter who turned out to be the glue that held their crumbling life together.

QUESTION: Where in your life is Russ's life mirroring your own?

• Russ: We condition ourselves to block signals in order to be successful. Substance and alcohol mute these signals even further, blocking the gravity of our decisions. It was through that massive and altering pattern interrupt of exposure that the signal was finally able to get through to me.
• The primary reason for Russ's sobriety is that he is 100% committed to always being in tune with those signals. Sam: "People do shit because the signals are turned off, then tragedy happens, and because of that tragedy, they now they have super sensitive sensors."

QUESTION: Parable #5: Foundations

• Russ: My wife grew up in a family where you didn't talk about problems but instead internalized them. In my family, it was the opposite where we talked about everything. During the pregnancy, we distanced ourselves from each other, which ultimately created a wide gap between us.
• In the first conversation with our therapist, we were told, "You have no foundation as a couple at all, no traditions, you each live in your own silos." It's always in retrospect, but I'm glad I had the affair because our foundation now is impenetrable. Had this not happened early on it would have happened 20 -30 years down the road. When a skyscraper topples, it's irreparable; when a little shack crumbles, you can recover from that.

QUESTION: What is the foundation your marriage is built upon?

"If in marriage, you're not having an intimate relationship, those are signals. Explore them. If you are not having sex with your wife, it is a signal that there is something wrong; don't ignore those signals."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"I wasn't in a crisis at the time, but in an upward trajectory hungering for more, as if there was a voice inside of me asking, "Is there something else?" I later recognized it as the actual Voice speaking to me and guiding me to Warrior, to help level me up as a man and create more certainty in myself."

--Russ Perry

Coach Sam Falsafi welcomes Cullen Talley to the podcast in this week's episode of Parables from the Pit.

• Cullen: You put out so much energy faking it around people in business and in public that by the time you are around your family, you are exhausted, you let your guard down and it all comes out on them. Nothing's left in the container except leftover shit for your family.
• Coach Sam: I used to give myself permission to snap at my family. It was ok for me to be grumpy at home because that was the standard. But not at the airport, in business meetings, with clients, at the gym, or even at Starbucks. You learn to mask like a pro in public, then when you get home you remove that mask and put on the mask of a fuckin liar.

QUESTION: In what ways do you resonate with this conversation?

• Before Warrior, Coach Sam approached the future with the attitude of "I guess we'll see what happens." He was conditioned to put work above everything else, and although he had the foundation of love for his family, they came last in his priorities. He was constantly searching for significance inside the business world, rather than within himself.
• Cullen had chased significance for years. Once he reached the place in life that a few years earlier would have seemed so incredible to him, he looked at his life and knew he was fucked because, despite all of his achievements, he was still miserable.

QUESTION: Where do you place your family in your daily priorities?

• Coach Sam: When you hear of a guy that says it's easy for him to make millions of dollars but he finds it hard to connect with his wife and kids, it's not necessarily that he doesn't know how to do it, it's that he's paralyzed. The cognitive dialogue of the internal energy that has been running all day has left nothing for him, and often he numbs himself with alcohol, tv, or drugs just to find relief.
• Cullen: Many men are thinking "If I get to this point, I will turn, I will change." The problem with this is that when they "arrive," they find that their families are shattered because they have plugged themselves into a bullshit fantasy story that they chased and achieved, but lost everything in the process.

QUESTION: What important relationships do you find yourself sacrificing or putting on hold?

• Cullen: I have done many endurance events where there is a level of power and aggression associated with them, which power I had pushed down. On the mountain in Warrior Week, I recognized that I could call upon this power and then I stepped fully into it.
• Coach Sam: There is an audience listening to this that are looking for physical significance. But, deep down inside, they're looking to process the pain that they may or may not even be aware of. They're running all over the place trying to find a level of significance in these physical events.

QUESTION: Where are you searching for significance?

• Cullen: In preparation for my 15th Ironman, I wanted to see if it was it possible for me to create a result that allowed me to continue to invest in all the areas of my life and not have it get out of whack again like I had done every other time. I had created great results in other races, but I had neglected other things along the way.
• I showed up whole, divinely connected, grateful for my family and producing in my business. I showed up as a whole man not needing to prove anything to myself. I'm prouder of the man at this finish because I didn't sacrifice myself, my connection to god and my family, and my production.

QUESTION: How are you showing up in the four areas of your life? [Body, Being, Balance, Business]

"You will find excuses to justify your patterns and behaviors by washing the guilt with positivity."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"With my family I was showing up as the suit of a man - totally checked out, nothing left inside of me, the energy and intention fucking non existent."

--Cullen Talley

Coach Sam's guest in this week's episode of Parables from the Pit is Thomas Mifsud. They engage in a riveting conversation on the topics of children, relationships, and how one's life can drastically change once they start telling the fucking truth and listening to the Voice.

• Leading up to his first experience with Warrior, Thomas had been watching the Warrior videos for eighteen months. The messages of the videos resonated with him on a deep level, almost as if they were screaming out to him, and he felt compelled to pick up his phone and make the call.
• At WarriorX after his life was cracked open and exposed, he had the realization that he was living a false realty, a lie; that his life consisted of bullshit stories that he had made up. From the outside looking in, his life seemed awesome, like he had it all. But in all actuality, he was dying on the inside.

QUESTION: Where in your life are you living a lie and pretending all is well? How is that working for you?

• As a father, Thomas was experiencing a huge disconnect with his eldest daughter who, at the age of 14, was starting to pull away from him. She was surrounded by an army of people who were filling her head with stories about him, causing her to withdraw and put up walls.
• Thomas discovered a greater version of himself at Warrior X where he began to rewrite the operating system of his life. He decided to take a stand of no longer tolerating or accepting what had been taking place in his relationship with his daughter. At long last, his own voice became louder than the fucking noise and chaos that had been surrounding them.

QUESTION: Where in your life are you tolerating and accepting lies?

• In order for Thomas to become someone his daughter wanted to have in her life, he had to accept the truth that if his daughter didn't know him, how could he expect her to trust and confide in him or have a meaningful relationship with him?
• This led to a conversation with her where they connected from a place of truth and power. He shared stories of struggle, pain and joy; stories of alcoholism and drug use. This sharing of truth strengthened their bond, empowered his daughter, and created new levels of love and trust in their relationship.

QUESTION: What relationship would benefit from you sharing your stories of struggle and pain?

• The concept of a loving, connected relationship with a female was foreign to Thomas. He didn't have the time nor the energy for anything serious and was concerned about how a relationship would affect his three children.
• His experiences with Warrior opened Thomas up to feelings of true love, not the version the world teaches. He is currently engaged to the woman of his dreams and for the first time he knows what it's like to have a woman in his life whom he can truly love and trust.

QUESTION: What relationship in your life would benefit from a deeper connection of love and trust?

• Thomas: The first time I was able to connect with my inner Voice was on the mountain during WarriorX. Now, it's with me everyday. From the time I wake up until the time I go to sleep, the Voice is what guides my life. When I feel there is a download coming, it doesn't matter where I am, I'll pause, stop and listen.
• Coach Sam: For 25 years I had a story that robbed power from me and connection with God. I was told that if you are not physically clean you should not pray or connect with God because it's disrespectful. I woke up one day, changed that story, and now anytime I want to connect with God, I do. It doesn't matter where I am or what I'm doing. I no longer allow a story or a man to come between me and my conversations with God.

QUESTION: What stories were you taught as a child that have placed limitations on your connection and communication with God?

"There's a Voice in our heart that is able to override any fuckin logic. There's a Voice in our heart that gives us so much confidence, certainty and peace. There's a Voice in our heart that backs us with massive, unlimited power and courage."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"The Voice is so strong that I can overcome anything in my mind when I decide to listen to it.

--Thomas Mifsud

• Walking into the Warrior experience was like walking into pure fucking chaos. We're thrown in with 120 other guys not knowing up from down and suddenly find ourselves on a webinar with Coach Sam who is coming at us with fire and a fire hose all at the same time. I sat there thinking what the fuck is this? Who is this guy and what is he doing to me right now?
• Warrior Week was the biggest catalyst in my life for transformation that I have ever experienced. I'm a spiritual man and have been through many transformational experiences, but nothing like Warrior Week. It was there that I received clear messages and gifts from the Voice that altered the direction of my life and marriage.

QUESTION: Where have you experienced transformation in the face of chaos?

• Most of us are afraid to go to the darkness of the Pit, yet it was in the Pit where I began to see clearly. I saw my wife and I saw what I had done to her. Most of the time I was blind and I didn't realize what I had done or how damaging I had been.
• It was in the Pit that I saw the path I needed to take moving forward, how I needed to repair and heal the relationship with my wife with love, with care, with everything that I had. I needed to bring a high level of intensity, investment and commitment into our marriage every single day to create and build our life together.

QUESTION: What are you doing inside of your marriage to create and build a life together?

• In 2010 (before Warrior), Coach Sam's business travels took him to Saudi Arabia. He decided to create a spiritual journey for himself and made the pilgrimage to Mecca where he received personal revelations and downloads from God while in that divine place, which confirmed to him that he was in the right place with God.
• It was through his experiences, encounters and observations on that journey that he received these messages from God: 1- You don't have to wear anything special for me. 2-You are all equal, no one is better than anyone else. 3-Men will always judge and always lie. 4-Men can correct themselves and reposition their hearts and feelings, they can change and transform themselves.

QUESTION: What is a message from God that you have received in the past week?

• One of the things I created after Warrior Week was a family church. I realized I'm not really leading and guiding my family if I don't guide them spiritually. Most of what happened in my childhood that was damaging was all the indoctrination of taking divine things and providing all of the answers around them.
• I had to do a lot of undoing of all of that shit that got put in my head so I could start to hear the Voice in my heart again. So I determined that I was not going to indoctrinate my son but rather introduce him to the Bible and let him get his own revelations. The things that he is seeing and hearing from the Voice at 10 years old is amazing.

QUESTION: How are you taking advantage of the windows of time you have with your children to teach and guide them?

• Sam N: I am a fucking violent man. My violence needs to be brought to bear on the right things: killing my fucking stories, ridding myself of guilt and shame, ridding the fucking lies in my life, committing to myself and my family and fighting every fucking day for my marriage and children. If I cannot fight for myself and my family first with violence and commitment, who am I to bring anything to the world?
• Coach Sam: This is not a fight you are going to win if you don't bring the violent man inside of you to fight for what matters most. You stand by the truth, you stand by your family, you stand by your kids, you stand by God, and you stand by yourself. The minute you defend something, it's not the truth. The truth by itself doesn't require any fucking man to defend it.

QUESTION: What are you standing for in your life? How would we know that?

"The next time you knock on my door, know that God has been here. I know where my faith is. It doesn't belong in an organized religious group. My faith is between me and God and it's fucking solid. I don't need anyone to impose their beliefs on mine. Most of us put blinders on and follow one path. Where is your one on one connection with God."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"I cannot deny that God has come to me through a Muslim man who has directly impacted my life. I know how to identify when God has come to me and I will receive God through anyone who wants to give God to me. I will receive it and I will not deny the fruit of what that is, even if I don't understand it."

--Sam Neider

In this week's episode, Coach Sam Falsafi welcomes Warrior Week 37 graduate Mattie Leto, a chiropractor who specializes in adjusting animals. We discover Mattie's childhood pain and how suppressing that pain has caused him to doubt himself in many areas of his life despite the great success he has experienced.

• Mattie had already achieved much in his life, yet found himself falling into a rut of sedation time and time again. He wondered what it would take for that cycle to finally end. The story of his mother's suicide when he was 11 years haunted him for years and he feared he would end up just like her.
• In a moment when he felt he had to drastically change his life, Garrett's voice from a video Mattie had seen the previous year came into his head. That day an email also arrived from Garrett inviting him to watch a movie about Warrior Book. When the link didn't work, he emailed back and Garrett is the one who responded saying, "I don't know what your fucking problem is. It works for everyone else."

QUESTION: How do you sedate? What are you trying to avoid?

• As he entered the virtual training leading up to Warrior Week, Mattie was suddenly faced with raw conversation. He was witnessing men sharing feelings and things about themselves that most men want to fucking hide, which opened up a safe place for Mattie to share his stories and pain as well. He remembers one of the first things Coach Sam said: You want to live a powerful life? Stop fucking lying.
• Mattie's experience with the Warrior pre training had cracked him wide open exposing what was really going on inside of him, something his seven year immersion into the world of psychology hadn't been able to do. He wondered how Warrior had this uncanny ability to call men out of their hiding places. The truth is, it's because they have hidden in all of those gdman fucking hiding places themselves.

QUESTION: When is the last time you shared your pain and feelings with another human being?

• As we get older, we forget about all of that emotional charge we left back behind that door in our childhood and don't know what the fuck is behind it. The minute you open that door, there are waves and waves of emotional charges that come at you, then you have to find a fucking way to swim.
• For decades, Mattie hid and stuffed his feelings, only letting them out during physical competitions. It was as if he had banished a part of who he was. When he was in the pit on that first day of Warrior Week, he let that part of him out of the box and there was no putting him back inside.

QUESTION: What feelings have you been stuffing down most of your life?

• Mattie: I thought I knew who I was before Warrior Week, but now I know I didn't. For years I had built up this prison around my heart and on that last day, it was a fucking jail break. The walls fell down and something emerged that was more me than I have ever been.
• I had failed in every relationship with any woman I had ever been with, believing I would never find someone to share my life with. Today, I am an engaged man. I finally know what it means to be the man knows how to show up for himself and for a woman. My relationship with Lila is one of the heart, not the head.

QUESTION: What stories have you believed about yourself that have stopped you from experiencing life in the way you desire?

• Everyday when I come to the revelation of the Stack, I get to move from my head into my heart. When my heart tells me one thing and my head tells me another, I listen to my heart and do what it says. When I do this, my life grows and things happen in a way that are not logical. The mind says you don't have enough, and the heart says "you will always have more than enough, in one form or another.
• You've got to get in tune with your heart and that begins by unfucking your head and mind. There is the retraining of patterns and behaviors that must take place. At Warrior Week do this in a structured experiential environment where we retrain you to listen to your heart.

QUESTION: What have been the results from listening to your heart in the last few days?

"The guys who suddenly go out and shoot people are the guys who have shut down their feelings. You don't have to be afraid of the loud guy because what you see is what you get. You have to be fucking careful with the quiet guys because they're suppressing like crazy. There's a gorilla that lives inside of them with no permission to come out until all hell breaks loose.."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"The dark side of you can cause unbridled destruction upon those you love. So what the fuck do you do with this thing? Let me just sedate the fuck out of myself and be a nice, well behaved good man. You know how that ends? Not fucking well."

--Mattie

Welcome to the Warrior Week podcast with your host Coach Sam Falsafi. This week Sam welcomes guest Sebastian Huynh - the man who never belonged anywhere. They discuss his colorful and diverse background, explore racism, reveal the deep pain and isolation Sebastian has experienced in his life, delve into the world of drugs, prison, gangs and the Mexican mafia, share his unique spiritual journey and his jolting wake up call in the depths of the Pit at Warrior Week.

• Sebastian came to America with his German Catholic step father and began attending Catholic school as the only non white, non German student. Through the years he tested every religion as he sought for deeper meaning and purpose in life.
• He experienced Atheism for a season where he was angry at God: Fuck God. If there is a God, why didn't he give me a dad? Why did I have multiple step fathers? Why am I always a minority? While in prison, he found his home in Christianity.

QUESTION: What is the pain from Sebastian that resonates with you?

• Sebastian had always been a natural leader until he became a Christian. For many seasons he became the student: "I had too much shame, guilt and dirt. I hid out and didn't go to church because that's what white people did. Asians? We're supposed to go to a Buddhist temple."
• Coach Sam: There is a separation between cultures that we cannot deny. We might be raising our children in a multicultural environment, yet cultures tend to stay within their own circles and not allow 'outsiders' in. You might be welcomed on the surface as a friend, but it is a false welcome because you will never be fully accepted within that circle.

QUESTION: Where in your life have you experienced this false welcome - as a recipient or as a contributor?

• Sebastian: I was lonely. I was being groomed for manhood by the mafia whose story was: men are powerful and they don't cry. They were modeling drinking, drugs, sex and violence, so that is what I practiced. Violence became my signature, especially violence with knives. I went to prison because I stabbed three men.
• Coach Sam: If you are listening to this and you have a teenage son, and you're sensing that some shit is going on with a gang or organized crime, or who you feel is on the path of associating manhood with drugs, alcohol and sex - I would have you consider that you have not led him to a place where he can feel that he is being led towards being a man. You must lead your sons from a place of truth.

QUESTION: What are you hearing that is piercing your heart?

• The night Sebastian found God in prison was a turning point for him. He was facing 66 years to life when a miraculous turn of events started happening. One by one, life altering obstacles were being removed by this "bigger hand." At the time he thought he had just gotten lucky, but looking back from where he is today, he knows and recognizes it as the bigger hand of God.
• As the only white person in his Bible study groups, Sebastian was thirsting to know as much as he could about God. He was working three jobs and attending several bible study groups when the pastor asked him about attending Bible College. Sebastian had never heard about Bible College, and through a series of miraculous events, he received a full scholarship and eventually became a pastor.

QUESTION: Where in your life have you witnessed the miracles of "the bigger hand?"

• Coach Sam: You came into Warrior Week. It was a process but there is also a beautiful friendship that has grown between all of us. For the first time we have this circle of trust, a feeling of belonging.
• Sebastian: It's the most authentic version I have been searching for my whole life: the true acceptance of another man. I didn't have to sell drugs to you, I didn't have to hurt anybody for you, I didn't have to kiss your ass; it was because you said "you work on yourself, you lead yourself" while you were leading yourself. That was the first time I had brothers accepting me without me having to do shit for them.

QUESTION: Do you have a circle of trust? Who is in it?

"Out of all you experience in your life, the greatest pain comes from wearing a mask. Wearing a mask complete fucking isolates you where you feel alone. This is not a social aloneness. It's hell on fucking earth. It's the biggest pain for men in society today where they are living and operating alone in the space of wearing a gdamn mask and saying 'everything is fine."

-- Coach Sam Falsafi

"I'm not looking for another man to be my savior, I'm leading myself and taking 100% responsibility for the direction I am leading my family. I hunt every day for my purpose. Here's the truth: Once I lead myself, I can lead others.

--Sebastian Huynh