The words we speak should reflect a heart transformed by God.

Grace and truth should drive us in our conversations, whether it be with our wives, our kids, our friends, people at church, people at work, people that don’t believe what we believe, and those who aren’t fans of Christianity at all. Grace and truth, in every conversation.

Our special guests this week are two of Southland’s elders, Rob Campbell and Rob Workman.

Join us as we dive into how to speak life with our words.

 

DISCUSSION GUIDE

What is something you learned from the guys as they talked about the ways other men have invested in them and how they’re investing in their marriages & their kids?

Scott mentions a number of times in the Bible where the words that are said have power. God speaks creation into existence. Jesus literally speaks life into Lazarus. Jesus speaks the words “Be still!” and a storm ceases. What do these passages say about the importance of words?

Read Matthew 12:36-37. What is Jesus saying about the impact our words have?

Has there been a moment when someone has spoken life into you?

Scott and the guys talked through 4 points of how we can be better at using our words to speak life. Below are some thoughts and questions to reflect on each of these points:

(1) Bring grace and truth into every conversation.

One of the best things we can do to gauge how we use our words is to ask someone close to us what they think of the language we use. Who can you ask this week? What do you imagine they would say?

(2) Using our words to talk to people about Jesus through telling your story.

Vulnerability and authenticity lead to curiosity. When we’re talking to people who don’t follow Jesus, two of the best ways to reflect the love of Jesus to them are to be vulnerable and authentic. Is it easy for you to do these two things? What can you do to be more vulnerable or more authentic in your relationships with people?

(3) Own it when you mess up.

Who do you need to have a conversation with to own a way that you’ve messed up? Is there someone at work? Your wife? One of your kids?

If you never apologize, you cannot expect other people to apologize to you. You need to own it and take the first step in order to set the culture.

(4) Express gratitude, appreciation, and encouragement.

Encouragement means to breathe courage into people. It is easy to forget what is true. Who is one person in your life you can encourage by telling them you are thankful for or proud of them? What can you tell your wife to remind her that you love her and want to serve her? What can you tell your kid to remind them that you are proud of them? What can you tell a friend to show them you’re thankful for them?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you?  What’s God asking you to do?  What does He want to give you?  What does He want you to lay down?

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