If you’ve ever listened to the podcast and wondered, “What on earth do they mean by ‘orphan mentality’ or ‘foxhole friends’?” then this episode is for you. Jake and Brett zoom out to explain some of the vernacular they use regularly on the show. Whether you’re a faithful listener or new to the Way of the Heart, this episode is full of a-ha moments as they provide context to terms like the foxhole, wounds, scripts, performance orientation, and orphan. 

 

Key Points

 

• The foxhole: in wartimes, a trench that you would dig yourself for safety
• Foxhole friendships are very rare, intimate and require deep trust. You don’t want to move too quickly into foxhole friendships.
• Jesus had foxhole friends
• Wounds: a popular term right now. Jake and Brett explain the difference between what they mean when they talk about wounds vs what the culture refers to
• The virtuous life is found between two extreme attitudes: “everything is wounds” and “stop navel gazing”
• Scripts: a collection of beliefs that create a story for us 
• Performance orientation: the belief that you are the sum of your weaknesses and failures, and your lovableness is linked to your performance
• Confidence in the Father leads to freedom
• Orphan: not a literal orphan, but an identity and a way of relating to life as if there is a scarcity of love
• Way of the Podcast will take a break in July and August

 

Discussion Questions

 

1. What stood out to you in this episode?
2. Which of the terms that Jake and Brett discuss are you least familiar with? What did you learn from their definition?
3. What terms would you add to the Way of the Heart jargon list?

 

Resources

• Anatomy of a Wound series from Restore the Glory Podcast
• 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey (book)

 

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