Way of the Heart Podcast

Jake and Brett are back to discuss the importance of real, unfiltered, and authentic conversations between men about matters of the heart. In this episode, they share why many men struggle to have meaningful conversations, the role of emotions in human connection, and how to train our thoughts and emotions to become more mindful. Whether you feel emotionally regulated or uncomfortable jumping into deep places of the heart, Jake and Brett have practical thoughts, tools, and examples to help you build more meaningful relationships in your life.

Key Points:

• The lack of authentic conversations between men can lead to a feeling of loneliness.
• Fear of vulnerability is a reason why men tend to avoid open and unfiltered conversations about life. 
• Mistakes are important for both growth and fulfillment.
• Marital love is one of the most powerful things in the world.
• We are meant to live in relationship with others.
• Emotions play an important role in being able to connect with others but we need to learn how to control them.
• Awareness is the first step in interior growth.

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Website: www.wayoftheheartpodcast.com

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Jake & Brett have some big announcements to share about the future of the podcast. They share about some exciting endeavors that have begun in their lives & reminisce about some of the best moments, guests & insights from the five years of Way of the Heart. Thank you for listening! If you would like to stay connected with us and stay up to date on these new projects, check out the links below.

References -Big Yellow Coffee-Brett’s Life Compass Website-Brett’s Website-Life Restoration Website

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Jake & Brett have worked together with organizations to help solve some of their issues & grow in some places that needed improvement. In this episode, they share these leadership & relational skills with us! Whether you are a leader at your job, your Church or in your home, this episode has tools to help you lead well. Jake & Brett will challenge you & give you the tips & shifts in mindset that you need to be successful in all that God has called you to.

Key Points

• Sharing key issues that most organizations have in common.

• Communication tends to be an issue, both from the leaders down & from the employees up the chain.

• Keeping in mind the gap between what is and what should be.

• Leaders need to have their ears to the ground so they can hear about small problems before they snowball into larger ones.

• How common leadership tips work in the home.

• The importance of building a culture and bringing people in that fit the culture.

• Defensiveness slows our growth.

• How these principles apply to our Church & Church leaders.

References -Big Yellow Coffee-Patrick Lencioni’s Website-”Good to Great” by John Collins-”The Leadership Challenge” -Brett’s Website-Restore the Glory Podcast-”Becoming a King” by Morgan Snyder-”Waking the Dead” by John Eldredge

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Website: www.wayoftheheartpodcast.com

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Jake & Brett just returned from their annual men’s retreat with beautiful reflections on what the Lord did. They discuss the power of praying together, falling back in love with Jesus & how interactions with Christ may not always be what we expect but are always loving.

Key Points

• Returned from the annual men’s retreat with reflections (and a lost voice)

• Brett got a rare opportunity to participate in a retreat without having to lead it or speak and it was freeing.

• The power of praying with other guys.

• We may fail, but love will never fail.

• Breaking out of a fun & falling back in love with Jesus…and your spouse!

• The woman at the well leaves her interaction with Jesus happy, even though He revealed her sin to her.

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Website: www.wayoftheheartpodcast.com

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Dr. Jordan Peterson has been in the news recently so Jake & Brett discuss the situation and what they appreciate about Dr. Peterson. They share the lessons they have learned from Jordan in regards to culture, faith, fathering & more. While Dr. Peterson isn’t perfect, our hosts share that he is still one of the best thought leaders we have in our modern day.

Key Points

• Jordan Peterson has been in the news because the regulatory body that governs counselors in Ontario is sanctioning him based on complaints they received. He is fighting against these sanctions

• This case is concerning for the right to free speech and restriction of non-government approved thoughts on topics like faith and morality.

• Jordan is a master of critiquing culture. He argues against arguments becoming simple dichotomies.

• Being radically in the middle is a rare but good place to be.

• The importance of staying calm in the midst of backlash.

• Jordan is a good example of fathering people who aren’t your children. Jake & Brett share examples

• Men need to be dangerous, but good.

Connect with Way of the Heart:

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Website: www.wayoftheheartpodcast.com

References -Big Yellow Coffee-Brett’s Blog on Frodo being reluctant hero that Jordan Peterson retweeted-Brett’s Blog on Jordan Peterson

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Brett shares a quote from the movie “Sully” that really struck him: “Can we get serious now?” He and Jake discuss that as a culture and as men, we need to start focusing on what really matters and not the frivolous matters that often keep our attention. This leads to tackling issues such as being too hard on ourselves, not challenging ourselves enough and learning from our mistakes. It’s a great conversation for any man who struggles with stress, self-doubt & complacency.

Key Points

• “Can we get serious now?” is a quote from the movie Sully about the miracle on the Hudson that caught Brett’s attention.

• As a culture and as men, we need to start focusing on what really matters and not the frivolous matters that often keep our attention.

• We need to factor in normal human error into our own failings and stop beating ourselves up. Taking on difficult endeavors is admirable and we need to adjust our expectations of ourselves accordingly.

• We need to apply some common sense combined with deeper thinking into hot button issues in our culture.

• If you’re not getting the results you want, look at the underlying excuses you’re making or where you may be turning your focus on to things that aren’t helping you get those results.

• If we haven’t learned from our mistakes, we are bound to repeat them in the future.

• We don’t need to become holy before we come to Jesus, we need to come to Jesus as we are so He can help us grow in holiness.

Connect with Way of the Heart:

Facebook: @wayoftheheartpodcast

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Website: www.wayoftheheartpodcast.com

References -Big Yellow Coffee

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Jake & Brett are together in person to discuss men & feelings. There is a common narrative that men don’t have emotions but that just simply isn’t the case. Our hosts discuss how this common misconception affects men in their everyday lives, including within the Church. Men’s mental health issues and lack of emotional regulation are rampant so today the guys discuss the importance of addressing men’s emotions in order to become better men.

Key Points

1. Suppression of emotions is common in men’s culture and even men’s ministry

2. Men’s mental health issues are a largely unaddressed problem

3. Being able to show our own weakness is actually strength

4. Men often suffer in silence or only their family see their struggles

5. Addressing the root cause of the pornography epidemic

6. Unregulated emotion is dangerous & needs to be addressed

7. The passions are not bad, but they just need to be ordered with reason

Connect with Way of the Heart:

Facebook: @wayoftheheartpodcast

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Website: www.wayoftheheartpodcast.com

References -Big Yellow Coffee-Brett’s Blog on Men & Emotions

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Jake & Brett are back from their summer break! They share the highlights of their summer & dive into a new season by discussing what happens when you let your masculinity grow. They talk about the importance of discipline in our spiritual, physical, family and work lives & share how to find environments and practices that challenge you to be a better man. 

Key Points

1. Jake & Brett share the highlights of their summer 

2. Jake’s surprising best place to pray

3. What happens when we have let key aspects of being a man go

4. What is the environment that challenges me to be a better man

5. Processing challenges to our masculinity through prayer

6. The importance of avoiding constant comparison

7. Self-awareness is the first step in a process of change

Connect with Way of the Heart:

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Jake and Brett are taking time off for summer vacation and want the listeners of the podcast to enjoy the break as well. They also remind us that you can take this time as an opportunity to catch up on all the episodes of the show that you may have missed. Have a blessed Summer. We will see you in the Fall! 

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In part 2 of our “Life Compass” series, Jake and Brett dive further into discussion about personal values, virtues & leaving a legacy. They talk about “eulogy virtues” and what they mean for how we conduct ourselves today. They also touch on charisms, perfectionism & regulating our emotions.

Key Points

1. Exploration of personal values & charisms 

2. Having eulogy virtues, not only resumé virtues

3. What kind of legacy do you want to leave for your family?

4. Integrating our virtues and values

5. “Perfection becomes the obstacle to progress” -Brett

6. Having emotions regulated by reason

7. JPII as a model for masculinity

References Build My Life Compass WebsiteDavid Brooks “Road to Character”

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