Life as a daughter-in-law living with in-laws can be a struggle for anyone, but for someone who’s neurodivergent, the struggle amplifies. Keeping up with family, making time to do the chores ‘properly’ and regularly, maintaining the home without any support… all of these come with extra difficulty and added emotional stress for a neurodivergent DIL.

Today’s episode goes into this interplay between culture and ADHD for women. I will cover reasons why women with ADHD can slip through the cracks, including the gender gap in diagnosis, the differences in symptoms, the coping strategy of masking and the cultural demands placed on women.

You’ll also be guided on how to go for an assessment if you feel you may have ADHD.

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Today’s episode is a dive into family dynamics through an illustration* (by illustration I mean a diagram >_< )

When two people get married, the families expand, but how does the couple create its own unit within the family system? I will share an alternative, re-negotiation, of cultural norms so that your marriage can thrive (or at least be safe) whilst living with in-laws.

You’ll understand the shift you need as a couple to prioritise your relationship and some of the common issues that arise from NOT creating this shift.

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Today’s episode is a confession episode, it's a very common experience that daughters-in-law go through: a loss of self. Someone sent this in sharing that since she's been married, she doesn't know who she is anymore, if you can relate to this woman then this episode is for you too!

I share some reasons why daughters-in-law might be experiencing a loss of identity: childhood upbringing, fitting-in, role-overload and being other-facing. I also share ways to re-connect and re-discover yourself.

If you’d like to send in a confession to discuss in a future episode you can DM me @spiritual.psychologist or e-mail me: [email protected]

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Today’s episode is about the virtue of patience and how it has been inaccurately adopted to spiritually bypass the real issues. Recognise whether you are harming yourself (or someone else) by giving them this advice. And learn what true patience is from a spiritual perspective.

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Today’s episode explores the ways a DIL feels invisible in the family and her marriage. From sheer ignorance of her experiences due to tradition, to invalidation and dehumanisation.

I'll share some pointers on how to overcome this and improve the dynamics for a husband, the wife and the in-laws.

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This week’s episode comes with a warning because it is about abuse. Take it slow, especially if it’s close to home, seek support if you need it.

I share information about this insidious type of abuse that can go undetected for a long time. You’ll learn about the key indicators of Coercive Control and how it might show up for a daughter-in-law.

If you, or someone you know, is going through this below are some organisations you can reach out to and the Domestic Abuse Hotline (all UK based)

Women’s Aid: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/coercive-control/

Refuge: https://refuge.org.uk/i-need-help-now/coercive-control/

https://mensadviceline.org.uk/male-victims/what-is-domestic-abuse/coercive-control/

National Domestic Abuse Helpine: 0808 2000 247

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Today's episode explores a confession sent in by a daughter-in-law. Most people won't have to think twice about when they do their laundry. But for DIL's it's an invisible weight, something they may create new, and seemingly unusual, routines for.

I touch on multiple factors that are at play here: Hypervigilance, Avoidance Coping and Boundary Ambiguity.

If you have a confession you want to share you can e-mail me: [email protected] or send me a DM on IG: @spiritual.psychologist

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This week’s episode is inspired by a client session. I present the well-known metaphor of taking your seat at the table, or leaving a table that doesn’t respect you, in relation to in-laws. The people seated around your table, the way meals are served and shared, the conversations that happen at your table, will be unique to you and the family you’ve gone into. But if things are less than satisfactory, what do you do?

I explore some considerations using the metaphor of the table. Thinking about proximity of people, your authenticity, boundaries and self-worth. Thinking about what the process of change looks like at your table. And when you might want to leave your seat altogether.

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In part 2 of Privacy Issues with in-laws I cover the emotional dimension. This is all about your personal boundaries, how much do you share of yourself with your in-laws? How do you and your husband manage conflict whilst living with his family? And what do you do when a family member, or your partner, has betrayed your trust by sharing your feelings with others?

I address these questions and give you insight into the psychology of openness and vulnerability, and the psychological impact of prying in-laws! As well as sharing some tips on how to navigate all of this to have better relations.

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This weeks episode is Part 1 of a 2 part series on Privacy Issues when living with in-laws. I cover the major issues that arise around physical space including intimacy issues, shared space and boundaries. And I share some things that you and your partner need to do in order to maintain your privacy and build a close connection as husband and wife, even whilst living with the family.