Welcome to the Other Side

Time to change jobs or find a new career?

Divorce often brings with it a need to change jobs, and careers, or return to work after being the primary at-home parent.

Today's guest, certified coach and professional life designer, Lara Buelow is a catalyst for transformation. She specializes in guiding women through powerful career transitions, empowering them to become their most effective, fulfilled selves.

If this feels like where you are, get ready for lots of good info!

She's on to share tools and resources for helping you navigate a work transition and to find a career that fits well with your income goals, schedules, passions, skill sets, and natural affinities.

HIGHLIGHTS:

- How many at-home parents feel “unemployable” and how low self-confidence & unhelpful societal programming affect our ability to find a new career.

- Action Breeds Confidence- how taking action leads to clarity, and clarity leads to confidence. PLUS examples of specific, concrete actions you can take to move you closer to your ideal next job/career.

- Informational Interviews as a tool when you’re in the dreaming/brainstorming phase.

- Career Transition Support: How coaches can assist during career transitions by shifting negative narratives, offering guidance on practical steps, and providing the accountability needed for successful career changes.

Specific Tools Lara mentioned in the episode:

- Bento Box: https://bentoism.org/2-the-bento-method

- Four Thousand  Weeks  by  Oliver  Berkman  

- Designing Your Life by Burnett & Evans

- Sparked by Jonathan  Fields

Happy listening!

// CONNECT WITH LARA

www.larabuelow.com

@larabuelow on IG

//CONNECT WITH MEG

Individual coaching for parents during and after divorce with a specialty in helping co-parent relationships be less stressful, more efficient, effective, and easy. https://meggluckman.com/

If you find yourself anxiously waiting for a response from your co-parent on a request you’ve made or to see what they propose as a solution to an issue, this episode is for you!

Instead of waiting & worrying, try using the scenario & decision tool I suggest.

You may not know what your co-parent is going to say or do, but you can be prepared and keep moving toward the life you want!

// CONNECT WITH MEG

https://meggluckman.com/

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What can we do when something our co-parent (or their new partner) does regularly ANNOYS the beegeezums out of us??? 

I share a specific example and the Reflective Practice I recommend, which includes:

1. Check-in with Yourself: Take a moment to assess your emotions using the Anger Scale [introduced by Maggie Reyes in Episode 98] and whether how you are feeling warrants action.

2. Embrace Curiosity: Ask yourself if your emotional response is proportionate and appropriate. 

3. Clarify Your Desires: Identify what you REALLY WANT in the given situation. Whether it's seeking more connection with your child or feeling appreciated, clarity helps us focus on the goal and not get distracted.

4. Uncover Root Causes: Delve into what’s underneath your emotional reactions. I share the power of asking “why.”

5. Connect with Your Body: Pay attention to how these feelings show up physically. 

Tune in to discover a holistic approach to co-parenting, where emotional intelligence takes center stage, allowing for smoother interactions. 🌟

// CONNECT WITH MEG

Check out Meg's free resources for divorced parents navigating co-parenting here: https://meggluckman.com/

Welcome to a Mindset Mini!

This is where I share with you a mindset concept or a tool that you can apply to your co-parenting relationship right away. I keep these short and sweet so that you can grab them and go.

In this episode, I share:

If you find this episode helpful, I'd love it if you'd leave a review on Apple Podcasts! This helps other parents navigating divorce & co-parenting find the podcast as well.

To learn about Meg's coaching practice, visit https://meggluckman.com/

Are you having trouble sleeping?

Whether you find it hard to fall asleep, with your mind spinning about co-parenting decisions, or wake up at 3 am and can’t fall back asleep– This episode is for you! 

Martha Lewis is a sleep consultant for people who have tried EVERYTHING and still can't sleep.

As a certified sleep expert and Functional Diagnostic Nutrition practitioner, she addresses both body and mind with stress resilience techniques and testing for hidden health issues to get to the root cause of her clients’ insomnia.

She goes beyond the basic sleep advice you read about everywhere else and addresses what’s happening in the body that causes insomnia

Martha shares why sleeping can be hard during divorce or tough co-parenting times and what you can do about it. 

We cover:

Listen in and then get some good rest!

//CONNECT WITH MARTHA

Take the QUIZ: What's Causing Your Insomnia?

www.thesleepdetective.com/what-causing-your-insomnia

Visit: www.thesleepdetective.com

Follow: https://www.instagram.com/marthalewissleepdetective/

//CONNECT WITH MEG

I help parents create amazing lives after divorce. Check out my 1-1 coaching program and other resources at: https://meggluckman.com/

These days when we can reach for a therapist or a coach, how do we know which will be a better fit?

My guest Beth Hirnle, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Coach for parents navigating divorce and co-parenting, is here to to answer that exact question for us.

She and I will walk you through many examples of when to connect with a therapist, when to work with a coach, and when either one will serve you well.

We also cover the different kinds of coaches and how to find a match to your goals.

Highlights:

- Beth's Luggage Analogy which so clearly explains the difference between coaching and therapy

- Identity shifts that everyone going through divorce experiences

- Choosing a mindset that there’s always time for something new. 

- Viewing marriage as Volume 1 and co-parenting as Volume 2.

- How we are more resilient than we believe

- Embracing "good enough" parenting

If you are looking forward to getting yourself more support and new perspectives in 2024, this episode will be very helpful!

Happy Listening!

//CONNECT WITH BETH

Website: www.bethhirnlecoaching.com

//CONNECT WITH MEG

Website: www.meggluckman.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meggluckman

Celebrating a year of great conversations, new friends, lots of learning, co-parenting lightning strikes, and a bunch more self-kindness.

// Connect with Meg

Got an idea for a podcast topic? Drop it at the bottom of my website: https://meggluckman.com/

Come say Hi! on Instagram!

Ready to transform your co-parenting relationship so you feel confident and clear about your future and focus your energy on what you want to create? Reach out for some coaching support to make it happen: https://meggluckman.com/

As a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, Jesse Deason helps individuals and couples make informed financial decisions during and after divorce.

On today's episode, she walks us through:

If you are thinking about divorce or in the midst of it, you'll find so much useful information in this episode!

Jesse also hosts the monthly Washington Divorce Workshop, a virtual educational workshop about divorce in our state.

//Connect with Jesse

Serene Divorce

//Connect with Meg

For more information on Meg's private co-parenting coaching practice and free resources for improving your co-parenting relationship, visit https://meggluckman.com/

This week I've got one of my coaching & podcast heroes on the podcast: Maggie Reyes is the Queen of having a great marriage.

I start the podcast by explaining that I've listened to her podcast (The Marriage Life Coach Podcast) for the past few years-- all while I haven't been married. Why? Because everything she teaches is SO helpful in any and every relationship-- including our co-parenting relationships. Plus she is just such a fun, warm, insightful woman to listen to!

We also share a love of romance novels, so of course we have to dive into that a bit... (here's my recommendation and hers).

Then it's on to concrete, actionable concepts that will help improve your co-parenting relationship.

Some of our topics include:

I think you're going to love meeting Maggie and get some very useful take-aways that you can apply to any relationships in your life!

Enjoy!

//Connect with Maggie

https://maggiereyes.com/

Her Book: Questions for Couples Journal: 400 Questions to Enjoy, Reflect, and Connect with Your Partner

//Connect with Meg

To learn about Meg's coaching practice for parents during & after divorce, visit: https://meggluckman.com/

Could a "card game" make dividing up parenting responsibilities with your co-parent easier?

Ever since Elise Buie in Episode #75 told me about Eve Rodsky's book "Fair Play," I've wanted to dive into how we can use this system or "card game" to divide up tasks in co-parenting.

When I met Frederick Van Riper, a coach for men & dads and a Certified Fair Play facilitator, I knew he'd be a great guest to answer all my questions.

In this episode, we dive into:

Fair Play lays out all the work that goes into maintaining our household and raising kids. I'd recommend reading Fair Play to anyone who is in a partnership, hopes to be in a new relationship, or is co-parenting (no matter the temperature of your co-parenting relationship).

Even if you don't imagine sitting down with your co-parent to work through the "card game," getting clear for yourself on what is in your hand versus what is in your co-parent's can reduce stress and confusion.

Check it out!

//Connect with Frederick

www.linkedin.com/in/frederickvanriper

https://m.facebook.com/groups/thechartermen/

//More About Fair Play

https://www.fairplaylife.com/

//Connect with Meg

Meg offer's private co-parent coaching and a drop-in co-parenting support group. Learn more here: https://meggluckman.com/