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We've all experienced manipulation to one extent or another, today we share with you how you can protect yourself from ever being manipulated again.

In today's episode we cover:

• Why we had a little break
• How manipulation can be intentional and unintentional, conscious and unconscious
• How this shows up in every area of life - work, family relationships, friendships, partners, children...the list goes on
• How toxic the pick up artist industry is and why it's the very definition of manipulation
• How ALL manipulation works
• What creates unconscious manipulations that negatively impact all relationships
• How manipulation is like walking in the desert with a cup of water
• Why the lower on the tree the unmet need is, the more vulnerable you are to manipulation
• How you can neutralize manipulative behaviour
• Some examples from our own life of how learning to meet our own needs stopped someone else from being able to manipulate us.

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In this week's episode we explore how screw ups can make our relationships closer, and how screw ups have made OUR relationship closer...

In this episode we cover:

• Serena's cute Valentine's tradition with her husband
• How this applies to all relationships
• Why most people are afraid of screwing up with someone
• What happens when we screw up with someone
• How screwing up provides an opportunity
• How, if we know how to deal with it screw ups can benefit our relationships, rather than cost them
• Why, if we are willing to screw up (because we know how to deal with it if we do), we are likely to try things that will also bring us closer
• And how we've screwed up with each other and how that brought us closer together!
• And our apology series begins in 2 episodes time (not the next episode like we mention in this one - we had a human moment!)...so stay tuned for those!

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In this mini-episode we explain why we disappeared, and when we'll be back!

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In this week's episode you get to experience a day in the life of Claire & Serena, and see how The Universal Needs makes all the difference when the 'Well Sh*t' hits the fan...

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In this episode we cover:

• How to start your day in a way that meets your needs
• How the needs practice triggers other behaviours that meet your needs too
• What happens when you experience an intense trauma with your needs
• How we dealt with a serious traffic accident when it happened in front of us
• How we process when the 'Well Sh*t' hits the fan
• How to find your flow when your day has been derailed
• What happens when even MORE goes wrong...
• How to navigate it when things REALLY aren't going your way
• How to create unlimited refills to your Universal Needs cup
• How to continually check in with your needs when things get tough
• The importance of re-nourishing the newts!
• Why your Universal Needs are not a one and done

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In this week's episode you get to learn a little bit more about Claire & Serena's story, and how it sometimes meets your needs to be a hot mess!

In this episode we cover:

• How we didn't know how to do friendship at this level before we learned about The Universal Needs
• Why it's helpful in a friendship not to be able to bullshit each other!
• Why transparency is essential...even when it's not easy
• Why our friendship isn't always sunshine and rainbows
• Why most people don't REALLY want honesty in their relationships
• How tears on sidewalk brought us closer together
• How screw ups are an opportunity to get closer and create a better relationship
• How business and friendship do NOT usually mix
• How transparency and boundaries saved our business relationship
• How knowing our own needs AND the needs of the business has transformed our business partnership
• How we run our business...and yes, it's VERY different!
• How intuition plays a part in our business relationship...and how Serena learned to follow hers
• We didn't believe it was possible for creating a business partnership to bring our friendship closer together
• If we weren't living this we wouldn't believe it
• So what comes next...?
• People are going to think this is bullshit...or fantasyfal?!

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In this week's episode you get to learn a little bit more about Serena's story, how she got here, and her journey with her Universal Needs.

In this episode we cover:

• How Serena's journey was a little more indirect when it came to needs
• Serena's journey began with Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs...and what she thinks about that!
• How every conversation suddenly became about needs, and how that made sense
• How Serena was disempowering and harming herself when it came to her needs
• The moment Serena realised that everyone needs to understand The Universal Needs...especially her!
• How Serena went from 'getting it' intellectually to actually embodying it
• What Serena found the most challenging with needs
• Why it's not the same for everyone
• How The Universal Needs has helped Serena most
• How The Universal Needs has transformed Serena's relationships
• How to neutralise the bait and switch in your relationships
• The biggest impact The Universal Needs has had on Serena
• The difference between confidence and self-worth
• Why having a nap isn't a waste of time
• The one thing that Serena would want everyone to know about needs

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In this week's episode you get to learn a little bit more about Claire's story, how she got here, how The Universal Needs was developed and how she learned to fill a bucket with a hole in the bottom.

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In this episode we cover:

• How working a job that most people would have given anything to do was sucking the life out of Claire
• What it was like to completely quit my life
• The tale of two six months
• How Claire was so exhausted she started to worry for her health
• The thunderclap of clarity that helped Claire understood how she had got to rock bottom and how to ensure she never got there again
• The things that Claire has found the most challenging when it comes to needs
• How The Universal Needs helped Claire survive a category 5 hurricane, being run over by a truck and a global pandemic.
• The key to empowerment and liberation
• How to feel wanted, desired and chosen in your relationships
• What is the one thing that Claire would want everyone to know about needs
• How Serena thought she understood what needs meant...and then realised she was wrong!

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In this episode Serena tells a story about her husband's frustration about not sharing the detail of The Universal Needs with him.

In this episode we cover:

• Why Serena wouldn't show her husband her needs practice
• Why that created a 'What the duck' moment
• Why she wouldn't tell him what his Universal Needs are
• Why doing so was her caring FOR him, not being mean to him
• Why Claire wouldn't share The Universal Needs with Serena even when she first started working for The Universal Needs
• Why the way we're conditioned to meet our needs means that learning what they are can sometimes work AGAINST us, and leave us more drained
• Why when it comes to needs, a little information can be more problematic than no information at all
• What you need to know for The Universal Needs to really serve you
• How to short cut your understanding of The Universal Needs
• Why The Universal Needs is kind of like a chain saw

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In this episode we cover:

• Why boundaries are so difficult
• How people pleasers struggle more than most with boundaries...and how we are recovering people pleasers
• How we've struggled with boundaries in the past
• Why we resist saying 'no'
• What boundaries are (and are not!)
• Why boundaries are essential to not just getting our needs met, but keeping them met
• How boundaries bring us closer together
• What are the different kids of boundaries we have
• How we set and manage our boundaries
• Why if you don't respect the door, you get the gate...or the street!
• The key things that will help you to set healthy boundaries

"Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” – Prentis Hemphil

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In this episode we cover:

• How Serena has struggled with her Universal Needs...
• What is rollercoaster self-care?
• Why do we need consistency?
• How vacations from work can sometimes drain our needs more than meet them
• How consistently meeting your needs has a ripple effect on everyone and everything around you
• How to create consistency?
• What are the 4 things you need to build a habit of meeting your needs
• How the Universal Needs practice is vital even to the person who even developed it!!
• How running late can sometimes meet your needs...

"Practice makes permanent, not perfect. If you practice the wrong thing, you make the wrong act permanent." - Hamza Yusuf

BJ Fogg's TED Talk "Forget big change, start with a tiny habit": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AdKUJxjn-R8

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