Wellish

This is a topic that I believe is not talked about often enough in regards to self love. While self love is developed internally we cannot deny the ways that our external influences impact us. It is going to be a hell of a lot harder to love yourself if there are people in your ear making you feel like you aren't good enough, are putting you down, make you feeling you can't be your authentic self etc. It's also not going to be helpful if you are putting yourself in positions of discomfort, like continuously showing up for things you hate, not getting yourself in a financially stable situation, maintaining a clear house. If our enviroment is unstable it's more likely than not that we will be to. You can only build you self love so much in these circumstances and you will not be able to truly flourish to your full potential. If you feel your ability to love yourself may potentially be stunted by your surroundings, this episode is for you.

I don't want to contradict yesterday episode by empowering you to say no, but it is equally as important to push yourself out of your comfort zone and start saying yes. I am very adamant on not ever telling the Elite to do anything because they thinking they "should" or because they're "supposed to" and allow me to promise you that is not changing for this episode. I provide insight on two different areas for why you should be saying yes to more things in your life. One, to help you better align with the best version of yourself and two to live a life you authentically love. I then dive into all of the ways saying yes will enhance your life. But, don't worry I will never tell you to do something you do not want to do. If you have a hard time pushing yourself out of your comfort zone this episode is for you.

Saying no is a very common thing people struggle with and I am no exception. I still find it uncomfortable to say no when I have to because I have this underlying feeling like I am being rude and have a deep rooted old habit of people pleasing. On this episode I walk you guys through some other options to say no, but spend a majority of the time letting you guys know why it's okay to say no. I am giving you guys the prompts that I have found bring me the most success to tell myself in my head when I am feeling afraid of saying no. This episode will empower you to live more aligned with your ideal life. If you are someone who often feels afraid when they have the opportunity to say no this episode is for you.

I don't think there is enough information about there about HOW to actually build self worth. It mostly consists of letting us know that it's something we should already have. As one of the pillars of self love and on a day like Valentine's Day that we get so worked up over our worthiness, I thought it would be beneficial to provide you guys with tangible steps you can complete in order to begin building on your self worth. I start by explaining what self worth it, because it's easier to incorporate it into your life when you truly understand what it is, and then dive into several different ways that you can improve upon it. If you often feel like you aren't good enough this episode is for you.

I think confidence has a lot of misconceptions surrounding it creating almost a god like, perfect, intimidating persona around it making it seem really unachievable. On this episode, I wanted to break down what confidence is NOT in order to create a better understanding of what confidence is. I end the episode with the truth behind what confidence really is and a relatively easy way to begin to attain confidence in a way you never have before. If you have always wanted to be confident, but feel you're never totally there, this episode is for you.

For this Monday's episode I wanted to discuss the difference between loving yourself when you're single and loving yourself in a relationship because there is a difference. I sat down with relationship expert Bethany Nicole Barton and we discussed the importance of self-love in singlehood, the societal pressure to be in a relationship, our personal experiences and beliefs about relationships, understanding and communicating personal boundaries, and the importance of happiness and compatibility in relationships. Bethany emphasized the necessity of taking time to understand oneself, finding a compatible partner who supports growth and transformation, and maintaining personal happiness and individuality within a relationship. If you feel you often sacrifice yourself in relationships, want to prevent yourself from settling, or want to feel empowered as a single person or a relationship person, this episode is for you.

Whether you're too afraid to speak up or you often contribute to conversation, but say nothing of value or don't ever share your authentic thoughts and feelings this episode is for you. I start the episode explaining the fear, why we have it, and what needs to happen in order to overcome it. I then walk you through 5 tactics that will help you begin utilizing your voice in everyday conversation in an effort to cultivate more self love. The episode ends with motivation and reasons that you are perfectly capable of accomplishing this.

Standing up for yourself is one of the most important skills you can learn to improve yourself love. If you often find yourself being afraid standing up for yourself will cause aggression or drama or you're afraid of confrontation I walk you all the through overcoming that fear so you can feel capable of advocating for yourself. I provide tips on how to execute this in a very doable way as well as motivation to get this done. If you feel you do not advocate yourself as much as you should this episode is for you.

For a very saturated topic I didn't want to just talk to you guys about the importance and how different your life would be if you just talked nicely to yourself. Even though that's true, we've all heard that advice and it still doesn't make you talk any nice to yourself when bad shit inevitably pops up in your life. Today, I wanted to talk to you about how I do not believe in positive self talk. I believe in something different, more realistic, easier to actually do, easier to believe in and overall will cause you to begin speaking in a way to yourself that makes you feel confident and like you love yourself. If your mind is tuned into the negative radio frequency most of the time and you would like to change to the self love radio frequency this episode is for you.

I believe that the opinions of other people play a really big role in our ability to love ourselves. A big reason for that being that we are constantly given these ideas of what's right and wrong like we discussed in episode 6 and that is how we determine whether or not we're worthy of our own self love. On this episode I discuss the three areas we typically internalize people's opinions (family, friends, and significant others), why that is and how to begin to put their opinions lower on the totem pole than our own opinion. If you are constantly basing your self worth on the opinions of other people and haven't found a way to "just not care" like everyone tells you to, this episode is for you.