What Are You Noticing?

“ I feel Relatefulness is a practice which really refines your perception and reality and expands [it] over time. [It] expands your perception and you notice more. And that to me is one of the most significant things with it  because it seems to me that you can  live your whole life and not notice a lot of…your reality and what's going on with other people and yourself. And to actually do this practice and be able to expand your perception of reality and notice more... has been extremely valuable to me.” —Dagny Hov

In today’s episode, we get to know Dagny Hov, a fellow Relateful facilitator. She shares the story of her first Circling immersion 11 years ago, which she did while pregnant with her 3rd child. We talk about Dagny’s non-ordinary experiences and her process of reconciling spirituality with her scientific background (she has a PhD in philosophical ethics!). To read more of Dagny’s thoughts, check out her blog at https://guidedbyaliveness.blogspot.com/

Book a 1:1 Relateful Focusing session with Dagny here: https://www.relateful.com/dagny-hov-bio

For more about your hosts, check out https://www.peterxpark.com/ and https://kishcoaching.com/.

In today's episode, Mitra and Kish interview Miriam Kislak, a craniosacral therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, and fellow Relateful facilitator. Miriam embodies a grounded, embodied presence. Mitra and Kish ask her questions about how she came to be that way, the practices she does, and how she navigates challenges in her life. Through the episode, Miriam offers an transmission of her trust in life. To learn more about Miriam and to find opportunties to work with her online or in-person in Basel, check out her websites:

• https://www.miriam-kislak.com/ for one-on-one work,
• and https://heartofpresence.org/ for group work with her partner Adam Sippola.

For more about your hosts, check out https://www.peterxpark.com/ and https://kishcoaching.com/.

This episode kicks off the new season with a deep and personal conversation with an old friend. Kedar is a Relateful facilitator, coach, and medicine guide. We trace Kedar’s evolution from his first circling retreat with us at the monastery to his current work bridging spiritual, relational, and plant medicine practice. Together they explore:

• How authentic relational feedback reshaped Kedar’s life
• The challenges of stepping into facilitation before feeling “ready”
• Truth-telling and responsibility in positions of power
• Social media as both spiritual practice and business necessity

The conversation closes with his upcoming 30-day ayahuasca retreat in Peru.

To learn more about Kedar and to find opportunities to work with him, visit his website https://www.kedar-shashidhar.com/.

For more about your hosts, check out https://www.peterxpark.com/ and https://kishcoaching.com/.

Welcome to Season Two of "What Are You Noticing?"

We hope you enjoy the episodes this season. For more information about your hosts, check out https://www.peterxpark.com/ and https://kishcoaching.com/.

In this episode, Mitra and Kish dive into the world of modalities - the various practices, techniques, and approaches for personal growth, healing, and self-discovery. From EMDR and IFS therapy to meditation and relational practices, they share their experiences and insights on what different modalities are good for and when to apply them. The conversation touches on the importance of developing a healthy relationship with all parts of ourselves, the role of attunement and presence in healing, and the challenges of navigating a world with increasingly diverse and sometimes conflicting views on what constitutes growth and development. Mitra and Kish also explore the need for richer vocabulary to describe the wide range of practices available.


For more information, check out their websites at peterxpark.com and kishinyu.com.

Kish and Mitra dive into the fear, paranoia, and cultural edges they've been exploring. Mitra shares about missing other Asian people in Asheville and his reluctance to bring up being one of the only Asians in certain circles. Kish reflects on her internalized sexism and her desire for more female role models after a powerful session at Relateful Camp. They discuss the differences in how therapists and coaches hold space, with coaches often taking more relational risks. Kish opens up about sharing her fear and paranoia with her partner Harris, while Mitra contemplates ending his relationship with his male therapist to find more feminine-based support. Personal anecdotes about translating between cultures, dealing with blunt Asian parents, and struggling to find the right words for grief illustrate the nuances of showing up with love and authenticity.

For more information, check out their websites at peterxpark.com and kishinyu.com.

Kish and Mitra explores the multifaceted relationship between technology, personal connections, and self-care. Kish and Mitra delve into the paradox of technology's role in both connecting us with a global community and potentially isolating us from local, physical interactions. They reflect on their personal experiences with technology, from nostalgic online communities of their youth to the modern struggle of balancing digital engagement with the need for in-person relationships.

For more information, check out their websites at peterxpark.com and kishinyu.com.

Join Mitra and Kish as they explore the profound concept of viewing other people as mirrors of ourselves, alongside insightful discussions on money and health.

Mitra and Kish first dive into the world of finances, discussing the importance of investing in passions and aligning spending with personal values. Then, transitioning to health, they explore the idea of embracing uncertainty and adaptability as key components of holistic well-being. As the conversation unfolds, they touch on the perspective of seeing others as mirrors of ourselves, revealing the interconnected nature of human relationships and personal growth.

For more information, check out their websites at peterxpark.com and kishinyu.com.

In this episode, Mitra takes on the role of coach as he guides Kish through a journey of self-exploration and emotional understanding. Kish shares her experiences of feeling overwhelmed and anxious due to her busy schedule. Together, they navigate Kish's feelings of dread and the protective mechanisms she employs to cope with them. Through gentle inquiry and reflection, they uncover deeper insights into Kish's patterns of scheduling and her relationship with overwhelm. The conversation touches on the importance of self-compassion, setting boundaries, and seeking support for dealing with past traumas. 

For more information—or to receive coaching yourself—check out their websites at peterxpark.com and kishinyu.com.

In this episode, Kish and Mitra explore Mitra's inner landscape, delving into his desires for professional fulfillment, autonomy, and meaningful collaboration, as well as his fears of disappointment and rejection. With Kish's coaching, Mitra unravels layers of emotion and uncovers insights that lead to newfound clarity, empowerment, and an embodied sense of his desires. Tune in for a warm, insightful discussion that inspires self-discovery.

For more information—or to receive coaching yourself—check out their websites at peterxpark.com and kishinyu.com.